Why do you treasure your best friend?
She is ALWAYS supportive in anything to do with life. When I was dx'd with bc she was the first one there.
When I had my complete hysterectomy due to bc being highly er/pr+, she brought me flowers......and THIS is why I treasure her.
The card read:
ITS A GIRL!!!!!! and in black marker she wrote at the bottom "NOT" Love ya 
When the next nurse came on shift it was hilarious.....she walked into the room with a strange look on her face looking down at my chart.....I had NO idea the same said best friend from above had bought a banner that also said "Its a Girl" and had taped it to my door like they do in maternatiy wards....it just literally confused the CRAP out of that nurse....Once she finally got it, she laughed so hard she had to sit on the edge of my bed because she was crying so hard....
Hope you all have stories to tell about your friends......PLEASE, PLEASE dont let me be the only one with friends like THIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Hugs to all
Jule
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I meet my best friend on her 8th birthday. She calls me "Pres" short for "Present" because she thought that God had given her a wonderful present on her birthday. Here we are 40 years later and she has stuff to me like glue.
She has been the strength, when I am weak
She has provided the laughter, when I can't laugh
She is the smile, when I can only frown
She is the hug, When I feel un-huggable
She is amazing and makes me feel amazing
HERE IS A TOAST TO THOSE WOMEN WHO GIVE US UNCONDITIONAL LOVE!
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My sister is actually my best friend. She has always been by my side and when I needed someone's shoulder to cry on when I was dx last year she was there. She took my dirty dishes to her house and put them in her dishwasher while I was in the hospital, brought me meals after my surgery, came over and helped me wash my hair in the kitchen sink when I couldn't take a shower yet and when I say I need a road trip, she is ready to go. We laugh and cry with each other without feeling embarrased.
Sheila
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I have AMAZING best friends. I don't have just one, and maybe that's unfair. But they are all unique.
My best friend since birth (our mom's were best friends since they were 17, and apparently my mom was prego with me at their 10 year reunion, and my friends mom touched my mom's belly and she got prego 7 weeks later with my best friend) since we grew up far away- I was in Long Island and she was in Westchester, when we had sleepovers, we would take five index cards, and write each other one note for every day of the week until the weekend came and we could see each other again.
When I got cancer, and had my masts and reconstruction, she came to the hospital with a bag, with 3 weeks, yes twenty one notes for every day of my recovery.
My other best friend Sara who I credit as the person that changed my life-- there isn't enough space to express how grateful I am for her. The story of us meeting is so great-- but way too long to type. But when I was young and dumb I lived with a boy that I thought really loved me. Sara had an amazing apartment that she built with love. And boy, did she love living there. Well, the boy cheated on me, and left to run away to the west coast with another girl, and I knew I couldn't afford my apartment on my own. She moved out of her amazing apartment that she loved so much, so we could get a place together.
Then, there's Randi. Another amazing woman that I love to pieces. I called her up at 11:30 at night b/c there was a HUGE bug on my wall, and it was the third one that I killed that night, and I was seriously having a panick attack, and she drove 30 minutes to my house to kill it for me.
My friends blow me away- one tattooed a pink ribbon on her neck when I got cancer, four of them (including one guy) chopped off their hair for locks of love, they ran marathons, raised money, and threw me a bye bye boobie party with a cake that said, Beth, you're the BREAST.
They say, to have good friends, you ,must first be one.
I am so blessed in this department. I would move mountains for my friends, although they'd stop me first, and remind me that I'd probably break a nail....
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My sister who lives two blocks from me is my best friend and we allow each other to be exactly as we are and don't judge or try to change each other and I like that! My other best friend is my two year older than me sister and we are the same as my younger sister...the only difference is my two year older sister lives in Virginia, no doubt in my mind if she lived closer we would be like twins!
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I have two. Neal is from nursing school. We were roomies. Since 1961 we have been best friends. No need to say things, we just know. If one is bad off, the other calls for isome strange reason. I've called her and cried for 20 min with her just listening. If I need anything, I know she will provide it. And it goes both ways.
Val and I met in 1975. Fast friends ever since. After diagnosis, treatment, ALL those surgeries and 2 recons, she was the ONLY person who would listen to my anger and let me vent to her on a much to regular basis for an Extended period of time and never once asked me to move on. Never! I helped her thru her surgeries and wiped her butt, she held my head when I vomited.
I helped her in her hospice care of her husband till he died. If one of us were to become incompacitated, we have an agreement. I'll care for her and she for me.
Life is good.
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I love the friends stories you all have written here
....I cherish my friends and family very much....They are the people that make my world go round!!!!!!!!!!
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What a great thread!
My two best friends, sister and I spent the morning before my first appointment with my PS deciding what we would write in red magic marker on my boobs and what I would wear:
Marking one "still kinda cute" and the other "bummer!"
On bad boob: "Used, sell cheap - as is" On good boob "Priceless"
What to wear?
1. Was thinking of wearing a Bustier, black of course, tight pants, heavy makeup, four inch high heels and say hey doc--I am a working girl--gotta fix that tit up to something good looking or I am out of business.
2. Dressing as a polite Victorian type lady and marking them "One lump or two?"
3. Wear very conservative clothing and say "I have a 'website' and don't want to disappoint".. with no other explanation, leave it to his imagination.
4. Playboy bunny outfit and say "Don't touch the rear, dearie--might mess up my bunny tail."
Ended up wearing regular clothes, but did write the On bad boob: "Used, sell cheap - as is" On good boob "Priceless"
Should have seen the PS"s face--then he said okay, you got me--nobody ever did that before!
Then we went and had a bon voyage boob party the day before surgery when I had my markings--(my sister took pictures on my cell phone) we all went for manicures and pedicures, and it was hotter than he**, so I wore a low cut caftan so I was cool and markings would not sweat off--one of the oriental ladies at the manicure place asked if I was okay--my sister told her it was my birthday and I was getting a "tit" lift so we were celebrating--
So now, everytime I go there for a manicure, she asks me how I like my new boobs!
Honestly, I don't know how I would have made it through it all without my wonderful friends, sister and a sense of humor.
Fast forward almost a year later--I traded cell phones with DH--he is at the Yankee game with the eleven year old grandson who is playing with Grandpa's cell phone and he says "Grandpa! Why do you have pictures of naked ladies with markings on their boobies and bellys in your cell phone?"
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She is a true treasure to me. Susan has
been in my life for over 44 years.
She also was the first on the scene. And
has never left my side all through these years.
I love her , and I would never be the same
without her.
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I have four best friends.
M-was my first friend I met in High School. We were the first ones to marching band rehearsal, and sat on the stairs making awkward nice-nice with each other. Since then (20 years this month!), we've watched each other graduate High School, graduate College, get married, have kids, and I have the honor of being Godmother to her daughter. She's been there for all the craziness of my life, with the early delivery of my son, to the removal of my breasts. She is my most grounded friend, and she was the first person I told about my breast cancer. I told her, and she paused a moment and said, "I don't know what to say, because I am scared for you, too." We both sobbed into the phone together for who knows how long.S-has also been my dear friend for 20 years. We used to knock each other out of our desks (the old-fashioned kind that were only one piece) in HS, and since then, she was the one who did not treat me with sadness and pity when my Mom died, I was dx'd with MS, I was dx'd with bc, and my Dad died. She is so easy to be honest with.
D-was my closest friend in college. We lived together in the dorms, then when I moved back to IL from WY, she let me live with her in her house till I found a teaching job. She was the one who stayed on the phone with me for the horrible hour I drove to the hospital when I was told my Dad stopped breathing. It was at 3 am. She called me after I had arrived there, too, just to see how I was.
H-My roomie my freshman year of college. She and I will be forever friends, although we don't get to see each other or talk regularly. I think those are the best friends to have. She came to town the night before my Dad's funeral to help me put together picture boards, read Bible verses with me, and cry with me. Then, when I offered to go to the front desk to get something so she wouldn't have to put on a bra, she asked me about my foobs and I showed them to her! Who else would ask so openly?
Oh, these stories give me a warm fuzzy feeling! Great thread!
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I met my first best friend when we both were 6. Although she is no longer here on earth, her life was taken in a hit-and-run accident when she was only 17, I have been carrying a picture of us two in my wallet since then and still cherish our friendships. I don't know when I can see her again but truly believe I will someday.
My other best friend Kelli whom I met over the internet 10 years ago lives in Australia so we don't get to see each other as often as we want. But it has never affected the strong bond between us. Although I don't have any remarkable stories about her to share with you, she is a true gift to me and I know I can't ask for a better friend. We are like twins separated at birth and no matter how long we have to wait before we get to talk to each other, we can just know how each other is feeling once we catch up. Somehow she always knows how she can cheer me up no matter how deeply sad or devastated I am. I really can't imagine my life without her.
xo
Fumi
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Thank you all for putting your friends here to share!!!!!
My other best friend is an AMAZING woman!!!!! She is almost 10 yrs old and I met her via my ex husbands family...when he and I split she choose to keep me as a friend even though his family has been in her life for 30+ yrs.....
We do all kinds of things together from having dinner once a week to having family holidays together.....
As a matter of fact, she, I and my daughter are having a girls morning tomorrow...we are going to breakfast, then a morning of yard sales
...Diane(OBB)-how funny!!!! that is exactly like something I would do with my best friend!!!! I never had a sis growing up as I am the only girl out of 5 and the girl that was my best friend growing up passed away when we were 22. I think that adds to my closeness with the two or three ladies that I call "MY BEST FRIENDS"....I have tons of friends but its that "BEST" part that is real to me.
Whoopsie(love the name btw)-One of my friends I have know for many years like your school/college friends....unfortunately we only live 20 miles apart but have let the friendship fade. When I was dx'd my daughter called her thinking I might need her....she did all the normal "Oh NO!!!!" stuff but I didnt hear from her again until a year or so after I finished treatment.....that situation is EXACTLY why I only have a handful of what I call CLOSE/BEST friends and those are the ones that I cherish beyond belief!!!!
Fumi-as with you, I lost my best friend when we were young but I too know I will see her again one day!!!!! The lady that Im going to have a girls day with tomorrow is like your friend....we are so close that alot of the time when we are out doing things together people often ask if we are sisters , we always look at each other, shake our heads and say: YEP, we sure are!!!!!
Hugs to all and hugs to all our BEST FRIENDS!!!
Jule
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Jule...thanks for starting this...our BEST FRIENDS need that recognition!
I have allot of amazing wonderful friends...but I do have a very best friend...and she has been that for me for 48 years!! We started out in the playpen together...and in 48 years..never even had a fight!
She is wonderful for many reasons...she is caring, selfless and so very loving!
When I was first dx...she said...I am on my way! Drove over and was there in minutes. She went to all 8 of my chemo appointments...took off work to do it. She took me out after my last chemo to celebrate! During my tx's she and my sister redecorated my bedroom!! They worked long day's to make it a total room make-over!! It was just like the show!
Then when I had my reconstruction...she took me to the hospital at midnight, slept in a recliner chair next to my hospital bed and was there before they wheeled me off...and was there when I woke up! When I was released, her and her hubby picked me up from the hospital and she moved in my house and stayed with me for 3 nights! Her hubby is very understanding and loving also.
She will never know how much all of her love, support and being by my side through all of this meant to me. I have told her, written her cards...but she is one of a kind...and I fell so very BLESSED FOR GOD TO HAVE GIVEN HER TO ME 48 YRS AGO!
MARY....I LOVE YOU!!
xoxo
Lisa
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I forgot one important thing...when it was time to shave my head..she came over with her clippers..and offered to shave her head first (she has beautiful long blonde hair) if it would help me to get through this! Of course we both cried...and I said..thanks..but I can do this one alone...and she shaved my head...and I didn't shed a tear!
what a friend!!!
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These stories are really precious. Thank you for starting this thread!
I think I'll go call my friends......
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I spent the morning going to yard sales with my BEST FRIEND yesterday...she is such a treasure to me...
She is such a blessing for me!!!!
Hope you all are having a wonderful Sunday!!!
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My best friend is in the end stages of pancreatic cancer. It's hard for me to imagine what my life is going to be shortly without her. We were in the same kindergarten class and at age 52 we're still together. She told me she saves my voicemails so she can hear my voice whenever she wants to. I do the same thing with hers. It's calming for both of us. We know each other's secrets...we were part of each other's childhood....teenage years...young adulthood...babies...graduations.....divorces. We can tell each other everything and not be judged. We share the same irreverent sense of humor.
She has promised me when she gets to the other side, she will signal me if she can. and that I should be open to it. I told her if she visits me and I freak out at first, just tell me to settle down, that it's just her. We both had a good laugh picturing my reaction if she's able to show up.
God, I'm going to miss her whispery voice.
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gsg- your post has me in tears...my heart goes out to you.
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I too am in tears, GSG--
and my dear BC sister I lost two years ago--believe me, she has contacted me!! Several days after her passing, the doorbell rang at about 3:00 am--usually my dog goes crazy any time the doorbell rings--but this time, she ran to the door, wagging her butt off--I was shocked, and I told DH is must be Lib letting us know all is well--he thought i was crazy, but I swear, I could feel Libn's presence, my dog felt her presence--
And as much as I miss her everyday, I know she is well and we will meet again. . .
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Ditto, your post is so very touching.
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I value my best friend because she took me into her home when I had no place else to go. She gave me a place of peace & quiet to allow me to recover. She was up with me in the middle of the night when I was having my moments of instability. She has been there through countless doctor apts, breakdowns, and has never once complained. She has opened her home to me & my family and taken us into her heart. I have been my weakest in front of her and shared in my victories with her. I can never begin to tell her 'thank you' enough. And I know I would not have gotten this far without her. (Or you ladies on this board, for that matter.)
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GSG-Im so sorry to hear this news about your friend.....I truely believe she will give you the comfort you seek once she is gone...she will find a way and you will know it is her. I was in my early 20's when I lost my best friend from childhood and for months later I had strange dreams about her...one night I had a dream about her (or I should say WITH her) that put me at peace with her being gone, the strange dreams have never come back. I miss her to this day and (I know this sounds weird) but still talk to her....my dad is buried next to her and sometimes when things get really rough for me I go there and when I leave Im at peace inside myself again. Many, many hugs to you GSG!!!!!!!
kagaines-that is what a true friend is made of!!!!! they are always there when we need them...
I am very thankful for my friends and family and once I found this board Im thankful for all of you too!!!!
Some of you I dont know as well as others but we are all in this together!!!!!!!!!
Hugs
Jule
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Oh gsg-I'm so sorry, too. We are all sending you love and hugs.
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I treasure my best friend because she came with me to the surgeon's office the day I was diagnosed because she didn't want me to be alone, even though I already KNEW it was Breast cancer, and didn't feel I needed anyone with me. And because she made me promise to go to the Dr. in the first place, when I found the lump under my arm, and was going to wait until after the holidays. Because she went with me to EVERY chemo appt., and made a point of letting me know that she hated my onc and I should switch (I did) and am much happier now. Because when I was too weak or tired or in pain from chemo, she took my 9 year old daughter quite often, and provided her with as much "normalcy" as possible and treated her like her own. And because she's who I'd want to raise my daughter should anything ever happen to me. She was also with me during my surgery, and kept my daughter until I felt better, as I had gotten shingles right after. I have tons of other friends, but Penny was the one I KNEW I could always count on.
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My best friend is such a blessing. We've been friends since she was pregnant with her first child (who is going off to college in August). Now she is the Mom of four and the wife of a pastor, but still finds time for me.
She and her husband helped me move when I had to relocate to take care of my mom a few years ago. After spending the weekend helping me set up house, she bawled like a baby when it was time to go back home.
She left her family and responsibilities to come 250 miles to take care of me when I had my mastectomy last Feb. In fact, she was stuck with me on Valentine's Day. When I apologized to her for taking her away from her hubby, she told me I was her valentine. :-) She was with me right after I found out I had Stage 3A IDC instead of DCIS. I was on a crazy, emotional roller coaster and not much fun to be around. She bought little gifts and hid them all around my house, so she could tell me where to look later to find them.
She told me that taking care of me was like a vacation compared to her normallly chaotic lifestyle and that she thoroughly enjoyed it. She convinced me that was true. :-)
She had a crazy year last year, too, and called me often just to talk or vent. She also lost a baby last year. :-( In January she sent me a card that said, "2007 was a very hard year, but I made it through with your help." That card makes me smile every time I read it. Even though I was going through four surgeries, endless tests, chemo, and rads; she was still able to come to me for help.
She is always sweet and loving and never says anything mean to me. I can't explain how much I love her, but I do from the tip of my toes to the top of my chemo brain. I wish everyone could have a friend like her.
Miss S
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Giving you a place of peace and quite to recover is nothing compared to the strength you have mustard to fight this non-discriminating disease. You have shown me true friendship over the years that doesn't compare to what I have given you. You are my best friend and will be around to encourage others for years to come. You are the most giving person I know.
Now my best friend is about to fight again, this time in the other breast.
Be with you every step of the way. Hugs and Kisses, Love, Jules
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