Life 3 years later still the same....

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pieand1
pieand1 Member Posts: 2
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer

It has been 3 years since my diagnosis and I am living like it just happen yesterday.  I am miserable.  I have seen therapist after therapist and psychologist with no luck.  I am now bearly under 40 and seeing behavior problems with my kids.   (which I of course blame myself)   I do no know what to do?  I have a friend that is a social worker who states that I am denial, but I do not know how to get out of it.  Any suggestions?  I was diagnosotic  with dcis and should be fine - but I don 't beleive them......

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  • Jen44
    Jen44 Member Posts: 631
    edited July 2008

    Hi pieand1,

    I am so sorry that you are feeling this way.  I know that you say you have been to therapist, but have you ever been put on any anti depression meds?  I ask this because sometimes what we are feeling can be an imbalance in our bodies that can only be helped by meds.  I think it is normal to be scared of this off and on and I think we all struggle with that, but when it starts to consume your life then there maybe something else going on.  I wish there was a clear cut answer, but I don't know that there is.  I do know that the ladies on this board have helped me through many sad and low days.  Maybe just coming here and talking to people could be one way of helping.  I will keep you in my prayers and know that I am sending you a hug in hopes that you feel the warmth of a sister who wants to help.

    Keep laughing,

    Jenny

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  • easyquilts
    easyquilts Member Posts: 876
    edited July 2008

    Hi...I am so sorry you are having such a hard time of it.....You have come to the right place for help, though...The ladies here are wonderful....I feel so blessed to know them, and you will too....

    I think we all worry about our cancer coming back....I have DCIS, too,and have had a lumpectomy, and will start rads this week...I know I will be OK, but I also know that I will...at some level...always worry.  That's normal....Come here as often as you like and "talk" with us....You will find lots of support and comassion here....It's a great place to "let it all hang out", so to speak!

     God Bless,

    Sandy

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  • pieand1
    pieand1 Member Posts: 2
    edited July 2008

     I have been on many antidepressant that many seem to work then stop or not work at all...  I am getting frustrate with the whole situation.  I am trying to get rid of the my current therapist as we do not seem to  click.  I am constantly anxious- so bad that I am shaken all of the time.  

    Also, I forgot to mention that I had a bilateral mastectomy. My siental nodes were fine. I did not need the chemo or radiation.  The oncologist has told me several times that my other women are more likely to get breast cancer than I am.  I do not know if I believe him then I got a second and third opinion and all the Dr say the same thing.  I just do not know if I can believe them.....    What is the secret to convince myself that I am ok.  How do others get past this point?   

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  • Jen44
    Jen44 Member Posts: 631
    edited July 2008

    Hi pieand1,

    I don't think there is real answer to your question on how to get past this.  I can't speak for everyone else, but I have to tell myself that every day that I am going to live today.  There are some days that I wake up and I truly do not want to get out of bed.  When that happens I actually talk to myself out loud and remind myself how lucky I am.  I say out loud how things could have been and remind myself that I am alive and that at least for today I will continue to be and I don't want to waist it.  I truly believe that your oncologist is correct, but even if she weren't do you really want to spend your days on what could be.  I think we all have to choose to live our life's for today and not concentrate on what tomorrow could bring.  I mean we could have a tornado tomorrow that could destroy our house but I don't think about that either.  I hate that you are feeling so frustrated and anxious.  I wish there was some magic words I could say to take it away but sadly there aren't.  Not to make light of how you are feeling, but you may need to try and just look at today instead of tomorrow.  Today has a lot to offer.  May be try enjoying the life that you have right now instead of worrying about how long that life might be.  Tomorrow is uncertain for everyone, with or without cancer.   Here is wishing you a WONDERFUL TODAY.  BIG HUGS!!!

    Keep laughing,

    Jenny

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  • Jen44
    Jen44 Member Posts: 631
    edited July 2008

    Hey pieand1,

    Just checking in to see how you are doing.  I hope you are having a great day.

    Keep laughing,

    Jenny

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