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hoosier
hoosier Member Posts: 2
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer
My husband has PC
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  • hoosier
    hoosier Member Posts: 2
    edited June 2008

    I haven't been on the boards in four years. Last week was my five year anniversary and we spent the morning at a surgical consultation for my husband's prostate cancer. I'm having a hard time with both of us being the one in the 1 in 6 and 1 in 8. He's so fit and always concerned about the heart issues that run in his family. He has a good prognosis but the decisions about treatment are more difficult than my BC was. And long-term side effects of treatment with all. Any of you go through this with spouses?

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  • collector
    collector Member Posts: 193
    edited June 2008

    My husband is 3 years out from Prostate cancer.  He had the prostate removed at Mayo with no other treatment and has had clear tests since his surgery.  He had a tough 6 months with fatigue but that has gone away.  He is 62, diagnosed at 59.  Our fear is for our son who has seen both his parents diagnosed with cancer at age 59.  It's a burden! 

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  • meliaanne
    meliaanne Member Posts: 682
    edited June 2008

    My husband just had his prostate removed in April. This was about 10 months after I finished chemo for my bc. The double punch was, and is, terrible.

    He is a marathoner but very stubborn about seeing doctors. He actually went in for achilles tendonitis, and they ran a blood panel. His psa was 16. Biopsy showed cancer. He did a lot of investigation on various methods, chose prostatectomy, and has done very well. He has only had one psa run since surgery, and the psa was undectable. He has to have it done every three months this first year.

    pm me if you want more information. I am just now fighting my way back to feeling a bit more normal emotionally. I honestly feel his diagnosis was more difficult for me to handle than my own. He is 62 and we have been married 40 years.

    Melia

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  • ICanDoThis
    ICanDoThis Member Posts: 1,473
    edited June 2008

    My baby (well, younger than me) brother was diagnosed with prostate cancer a month after my surgery.

    He's having brachytherapy next month.

    Hate cancer, hate it, hate it, hate it

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  • Desny
    Desny Member Posts: 371
    edited June 2008

    My husband just had his 5 year anniversary at Sloan on Wednesday for prostate cancer.  He tx at 56 year old - he had it removed.  He is healthy today but with the 2 of us having cancers in one household it is spooky.  I finished chemo in Nov. for IDC, no nodes, thank god.

    Good luck to you both, it is a trial.

    Shirley

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  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited June 2008

    I'm so sorry to hear about your husband.  Prostate cancer runs in my family so I know how difficult the decisions about treatment can be, especially when considering side effects. It's good to hear though that your husband's prognosis is good.

    As for having a hard time dealing with the fact that you were the 1 in 8 to get BC and your husband is the 1 in 6 to get PC, it does seem like things have conspired against you.  But another way to look at it is to consider that in North America today, it's estimated that 1 out of every 2 men will get cancer during his lifetime and 1 out of every 3 women will get cancer during her lifetime.  I remind myself of that whenever I look at all the cancer in my family.  While BC and PC are horrible, treatments have advanced a lot over the years and most of us who get these cancers will survive.  That's small comfort when you or a loved one have been been diagnosed and are going through treatment, but it might help you feel less 'special' (in that not very good way).

    Congratulations to you on making it to the 5 year mark.  Hopefully 5 years from now you will be celebrating your 10 year anniversary and your husband will be celebrating his 5 year anniversary.

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  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited June 2008

    My dh had a prostectomy almost 2 years ago, followed 6 mos later with ca of the larynx.  Bad year.  His PSA has increased over the past year and he's in a quandry about what he wants to do.  Also, he has reddening of his larynx, but not in the same place as the cancer was.  He's being followed every 3 months for each. 

    He has the same fears of recurrance that we face and it's not a pretty thing.  He is now 67 and I'll be 65 in Aug.

    I'm 5 1/2 years out, and it's been a bear! 

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