Ter. .
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Hi Ter, so good to read your post.
I'm so sorry about the sleep problem. It's not uncommon, and yet it takes its toll fast when you don't sleep. Sorry to for your recent bout of problems, and understand about the computer. Hope they help you get that fixed, as it's a life line for we women to talk with others who understand.
Did your urologist mention vitamin C like a 500 mg tab to help keep the ureter from forming stones? Or any other medication or advise. I do hope he gave you some tips, and will keep an eye on you for new formation with a sonogram.
There's a real active political thread going on here, if you're into politics and/or just wish to stay off the breast cancer topic. I think a lot of us are lurking on it, and enjoying its discussion. I'm sure you and Frank are wondering what to make of this all; our next President is worth a lot of consideration.
Thank you for staying in touch with us, Ter. It's always great to see you through your avatar and to hear your words.
Hope you're getting a touch of warm sun, and say hello to your DH.
Thinking of you,
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(((((((((((((HI TER! I wish I could help. I wanted to say HI and sleep may be what you need. That kidney thing really sucks..It drains you also. I wish I could give you some of my energy. Take care and rest.
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IGNORE THE ABOVE COMMENT BY "RACHEL4623......
THIS IS A SPAMMER SO PLEASE REPORT IT.
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I hate it, I keep missing Your call's!! will call soon sweety...
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DO NOT CLICK ON THE LINK IN THE POST ABOVE FROM RACHEL5236.
THIS IS SPAM! He (yes, Rachel is a he) is a known spammer who's only objective is to make money off cancer patients by having them visit his website. DON'T GO THERE, EVEN OUT OF CURIOSITY, since it will just encourage this scumbag to continue to spam the BC.org website.
And please click on REPORT THIS COMMENT in Rachel's post if the comment has not yet been deleted by the Community.
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Ter still here thinking and praying for you. There are us out here who really do care.
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thank you manos, and i hope this is finding you a bit or a whole lot better.
hugs
Ter
ps, this is wierd but what the modarators deleted from rachel, they said it was a he, but look at how many post this person has made, kind of wierd to me...
nite
Ter
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Hi Ter,
Wondering how you are doing of late? I keep you and others in my thoughts, praying and hoping for better days.
Just wished to let you know you're not far.
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thanks,
i know im not on here very much, as there are so many things going on here at home with both of us. Frank has been falling, and the fall before this last one which was still in the same week, really did him in, left hematomas "bad bruises" from one love handle to the other, and in the "middle crack" part as its the low back, its as hard as a rock. All last week he was and had appts at the doc's, well i went w/him and needless to say, he kind of got ignored, not what they wanted but they told me i looked like Hell...how lovely, as i was dehydrated to the max, and the PA she put an IV in my hand, lower part of thumb to get blood, then she put up a saline bag. After that the dr wanted me to go across hall, as their office is in a big building, anyway, i signed in and told the girl if she saw me on the floor to please pick me up.
Well they were so kind as i went to sit and wait and one of the office gals came and sat next to me and wrote out all the forms, you know on contrast etc..
well i was called back quickly, as my blood pressure was a big part of all this as then it was running 81 over 51, i know not good, and no energy.
they got me back there for a CT on my heart and told me as ive had many of these and contrast doesnt bother me, but said if i had ANY pain to yell out...well being i still had the IV from the dr's office they used that, in the bony area of my thumb....and when she said "were pushing the contrast now", within a second I was screaming and crying, as i never in my life had so much pain, burning, and hurting all at once...she and other tech came running and pulled the iv out and had this plastic thing that when they opened it they put on my hand and arm, it was heat, as instantly my whole hand/forearm swelled up so big, just my hand was almost 2" bigger all around, and my forearm was contorted to the max. it looked like i had a bone or two coming out on each side, and they were 2-3" swollen, i never cried so hard...
what had happened, as i have no veins left and when they hooked up the contrast to go in, you bet it went in, but not into the vein, it went directly into just under my skin..oy vey I shook so hard, and cried...and they got frank in their and he instantly said "take your ring off", my wedding ring, thank G*d for him saying that as i didnt think how swollen i was and was going to be, and took a bit but i got it off.....that was the end and i went back to the docs office and finished up...
one good thing was that i gained 3 pounds, never thought id be happy about that, but with me not being able to keep any kind of food in me, or liquid, as I also have IBS....took me about almost a week to rest and recoop from that.
Today I had an appt at same dr and i cancelled it, as my hydration is doing better, as ive been pushing water, gatorade, even coke as my tummy has been so upset and that settles it.
Franks buddy took him to the appt that we switched for Frank today, as he has given me so many of his appts or wehn it was his appt and the dr saw me, I got the dr attention....so I didnt go, as i wanted the doc to see him.....dr is now trying to set up a full body bone scan, as the blood from these hematomas are so big and bad and are in his spine and traveling up the spine..NOT good waht so ever...
so here i am tonite as ive been feeling quite pueney, and trying to help him as he hates to ask me for anything, but finding out he has not been eating or drinking due to pain, and taking care of me as he knows what ive been thru, so i feel so bad and guilty...and a bit ago he called me and asked if id call the doctor....as he was feeling lite headed..I think its due to no food/drink in him...the only thing he drinks is Mt Due..I hate that green bottle, Ive begged for years for him to stop it, as I am one who basically only drinks water and like now I try to get a bottle of gatorade in me a day due to dehydration, and it has electrolites..Im trying but he just doesnt....yea the stress is killihg me, it will get me before this cancer will.
so thats what i have been doing the past couple to three months, and im so tired...I have this one eye that has this like blister looking thing under it..maybe its from so much crying I dont know...
tomorrow I have an appt to see my onc, a reg every 3 month appt, and bloodwork for tumor markers etc...and my aunt is taking me, as there is no way i can drive..dont know when i will be able to, but it wont be while im on this dilliaudid med, which I researched and my doc also did and its a big cause towards lots of my wobbly, liteheaded, and low BP etc..so Im trying and have cut back as I am suppose to take, my tablets are 4mg each, and I take 3 tabs every 4 hours 12 mg every 4 hrs..which is quite a lot...plus im taking my xanax which Im trying hard to cut back on, but it calms my nerves, hmmmmm me have nerves or stress? wonder why! LOL
Well that should catch cha all up on me for a while, oh plus this weekend mom came by and she is not one to worry about a cluttered house that isnt spic and span, as she always told us which I think is a good saying "my house needs to be clean enough to be healthy and dirty enough to be happy"....not bad for an almsot 83 year old gal...yes she is doing well, very worried about us, and feels bad and told me, that she wants and should be here to help us, like moms do, and i told her that "well a daughter is one also to be able to help and do for her mother as mom has always done for us.
Yes, please keep us on your list, as we could use good thoughts still.
oh good news..our son is doing very well...as a matter of fact he comes by a few times a week to check on us and came by today, and said being he is still an apprentice, that today he is the boss over 2 guys today and tomorrow over 4..so Im really proud of him, its been a long road for all of us, and he worries so much about us, and when he is here, he just doesnt want to talk about all the illness's etc, which i cant blame him as neither can I stand talking about it anymore..so he really cheers me up, and had his roomate w/him, who this guy and my son really get along well, both with their brand new Yahama 2008 crotch rockets....yea zoooom!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
hope i didnt bore you, but its been so long since i let you guys know what was going on.
love and hugs
Ter
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Ter,
glad to see you posting, but oh boy, so concerned about what you guys are going through. Wish I could be on the left coast to help you. I am keeping you in my thoughts and prayers, and hoping you guys turn a corner and have better days ahead.
Amy
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Ter...so sorry to hear that things are so difficult. Please give my best to Frank and you, Girl..take care of yourself!
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Ditto. This just sux.... You seem so strong. You are my hero. Hang in there. I care.
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thanks you guys, im in bed its 8pm sunday...feel just down as frank is in hospital, for his back and lower stomach etc..he said he feels better there than at home, as he is getting proper care etc.. just wanted to let you know..
me? well if food stayed in me i might have energy, just tried a baked potato, ugh, but a banana stayed in me...going to sleep now..
thanks for thinking of us.
hugs
Ter
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Hi Ter,
How are you? Any stronger, allowing you too eat a bit more? Do you like those protein drinks? I've been thinking of you, wondering too how Frank is doing and if he's out of the hospital. I'm sorry he's struggling Ter. Sorry for your and his pain.
It's real hot out East and humid. The kind of day that greets you with a gasp when you first open the door! Of course, my Jack Russell hardly notices until too much time has passed, but I swell real fast and get breathless so hoping it cools down soon.
Are you watching any of the nominee speeches, Ter? I find it fun to do, interesting, as it's a big decision coming up for all in November. I have two teens as do many, hoping their future may be as bright as my future, present and past.
Hope this finds you both well. You remain in my thoughts.
((Hugs))
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Ter,
Hope you had a happy birthday and i hope my card got there on time. Please let us know how you are doing and how Frank is doing. I have been worried about you both. Since we talked on the phone, i have had a bad headache in the back of my head for days (from changing meds), so I haven't been talking on the phone much. Let us know how you are.
hugs,
celia
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Happy Belated Birthday Ter!
Sorry I didn't know it was your special day. I hope a family member maybe brought you some cake. It's rare now isn't it that we even get to eat cakes, or make them? LOL. Those days are long gone, replaced by the statins, the veggies, etc. But always on a birthday, wedding, anniversary, Let Their Be Cake!
I'm concerned too about how you and Frank are. It's been a bit since we heard from you.
Just wish to let you know, you're on our minds and in our hearts, Ter.
Sending you a big ((hug)),
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Big cyber ((hug)) to you an Frank from the East to the West coast today, Ter. Hope you both are at home together and DH's pain has lessoned and that you're both enjoying each others company. How blessed we are to have friendship in one another, even in times of sickness, rather than health.
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Missing you Ter. Hope all is well with you and Frank.
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Ter, I have not forgotten you!
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Hello,
I have been following this thread and just in reading feel like I have known Ter and Frank forever. I havent seen any posts from her since June 1st. Anyone have any updates on how she and Frank are doing?
Prayers to you Ter and Frank
Rhonda
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hi all,
i just spoke to Ter on the phone tonite and she said is not really feeling too good. Frank is still in the hospital (for the last 4 weeks) and is also not doing well. Ter wanted me to let you all know that her computer is completely down and she can't get or send email, PMs, get on this site, or anything. She is trying to arrange to have it fixed or get another computer. She has been busy phone-calling and dealing with a lot of paperwork for Frank's hospital stay with their insurance and the whole thing is wearing her out. She gets so tired from being on the phone about the insurance, that she is almost too tired to chat on the phone. If you have any messages for her, you can PM me and i will see to it that she gets it. She says hi to all and hugs!!!
celia
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Thank you celia for the update and let Ter and Frank know I am praying for them. and that it is nice to meet them even though it isnt in person
Rhonda
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hey Celia..just tell her I'm thinking of her..
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hi kisersassy and ravdeb, i will definitely let Ter know that you are thinking of her. i really think she will be so glad to hear from you guys. thanks!
celia
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Thanks for calling Ter, and for updating us. I'm so sorry to read she and Frank continue to have a tough time of it, and that Frank remains in the hospital. Without a computer nowadays, it's amazing how more isolated we all can feel.Please tell Ter I remain concerned and wish her well. She's working hard, managing all the medical finances and I do hope some improvement in health comes soon to them both.Missing you Ter,tender
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i just spoke to Ter on the phone last nite and she is still without a computer, but is compiling a list of what needs to be done by the Geek Squad or someone else to help fix her laptop. The alternative is to possibly get a new one, but she will deal with it in good time, we hope. She is still busy with lots of paperwork for Frank's hospital care,and he is home now, but still needs more medical assistance. Ter is very tired all the time and has lost weight from not holding food down. She is also trying to get more rest. It is hard for them when both of them need some help with physical stuff.
If you have any messages for Ter, post them here, or PM me and i will read them to her till she is able to be back on-line again. Keep Ter and Frank in your good thoughts!
celia
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