Just Found out my mom has breast cancer! Yikes.

Hi Abby,

Me too, found last week.  And i was in a daze for a few days too.  I'm struggling to be honest, but found i was better when i was spending time with my mum.  I guess because she doesn't really have that many symptoms at the moment, she doesnt SEEM sick, even though she has been.  She's just had surgery, and radiotherapy will start soon.  

Keep me posted on your ma, and I hope you are ok too.  Just thought i'd post a comment so you know you're not the only one feeling this way at the moment.   I'm kinda feeling useless at the moment wishing i could do something/everything to fix it.

we just found out yesterday that my 48 yr old mom has BC. I'm 29 and I am just numb. we told our kids (10, 9 and 2) last night and I was barely able to talk.

I know that I have to be strong for my mom, that's always been who I am. But I just want to sit and cry.

We just found out November 6, 2007 that my mom has breast cancer too. She's 65 years young. Her surgury is scheduled for Nov. 28th. The internet was the first place I went for info. I just feel like I can't get enough information. Her surgeon said it is invasive. Do you know how many sites discuss invasive breast cancer? Tons. But I still feel so uninformed. The surgeon says he can't stage the cancer or tell us if it spread to any other parts of the body until after the surgery. Is this true? Sound familiar?

A friend suggested today that I go online and look for support groups or something for family members with cancer. I didn't really think I would find one. Thanks for being here. I have soooooo many questions. I have been with her at all the doctors appointment so far and I ask questions. I am trying so hard to be strong for mom. I just want her to stay positive and let us help her through this.

With my family - we've been through SO many scary things - biliary atresia, bc, colon cancer, viral encephalitis, pericardial effusion, bc again, bc again, emphysema, multiple sclerosis, bc, possible uterine cancer, that...well, it's all turned out ok - so far, so good.  And I know that being really scared and really really upset it part of the process, and it may be that freaking out and taking action in super proactive mode (a equal and opposite reaction to the freaking out), well, it all works, but in the end - I wish that I had just a little more faith that things would work out.  Just a little more grace, a little more wait and see, a little more ability to glide through it all and not get so stressed myself.  Notice that I'm giving myself a pep talk now more than anything, as my mom goes in for surgery tomorrow and I'm a little freaked out.  And trying not to be, but there's something about it being my MOM, her very body being the one that nurtured me.  It's just upsetting in one of those very deep ways.

Abby27, btw - I grew up in seattle too.  QA. King County has one of, if not the highest, breast cancer rate in the country.  So, know that you are, most unfortunately not alone.  I hear good things about the Seattle Cancer Care Alliance btw, and of course, Fred Hutch.  You're really lucky to have world class cancer centers there.  Makes life much better to have really good medical teams.

All I can say for your mom is - make sure she has a team she likes and trusts.  When my mom was treated for cancer in Seattle she was with Group Health and she HATED her radiation oncologist, with a passion.  And she never switched, which I don't understand.  We're all more proactive now.  No point in sticking with docs you don't trust or like.  Find ones that you do.  Ok, getting off my soap box now.

Pls let us know how it goes. 

Hello I'm new to this, my mom had breast cancer 2 years ago, we just found out tht she has 2 forms of cancer, and it may not b operable. I am scared as hell tht I'm goin to lose her to this disease. I am the youngest of 6, and of course mom relies on me to take her to the dr's and everything else.(which I dont mind)... I have one sister and a brother who dont seem to care tht we might lose mom and it make me sick to my stomach. what can I do ? I dont even show my emotions bc I need to b strong for mom. I need mom to understand tht I love her and want her around to see mykids have kids of their own, but it might not happen..

What can I do?? there is no support in the family??

Hello,



My mom just found out that she has breast cancer last week. It's very scary, but the docs think that she will be able to have a lumpectomy instead of a mastectomy- which is good. We find out this week the results of her MRI and then on to learning the treatment plan. I guess I am writing here because it warms my heart to read everyone's posts and know that there are others out there going through the same thing.



Trying to learn a lot, and not completely lose it. Prayers and good thoughts to you all!

i hope i dont babble to much but i also should tell u that i am a recovering addict. i have not really been in the family because i stayed away for twenty years using, but i have been regaining my relationships since i got clean on nov. 10 2004, the last year me and my mom have become like best friends, and once again i am scared to death, ij am still trying to maintain a postive attitude, and i feel selfish because i just cant loose her right now. i am 45 years old she is 74. my mom has been really stressed all week cuz she is so afraid of th e chemo, how bad is the chemo and such. all i know is 2 yrs ago my moms best friend of 43 yrs went in one day to the dr. and a week later they did surgery. 3 mos. later she died. i almost feel like this is punishment for my addiction. but on the other hand i know God is powerful because thanks to Him i am clean. the thought of my mother feeling pain hurts me, and with the chemo knowing how it scares her scares me. she was healthy, goes for daily walks works in her yard and eats right, also she is afraid to loose her hair. she gets up every morning and fixes herself up and goes about her day. what will happen now?      cory

Im seventeen and my mom just found out she has breast cancer today. It's so hard knowing that she's so scared of the outcome or all the stuff that will happen, all I can do is cry and cry I don't know what I can do to help her I feel so useless and she's so worried and scared to leave us and leave my little sisters.