MOJO Without Matrimony!
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Okay, so even though it sounds like most of us are in dry spells, it might behoove us to use this idle time productively, right? Check out this article on keeping it strong and healthy: http://living.health.com/2008/02/07/12-secrets-to-better-orgasms/
Now, as for Kegels, it is so important that we do them regularly...as in daily! Here's one good article about the "why and how":
http://www.nowloss.com/better-sex-workout-tips-for-women-to-have-more-pleasurable-orgasms.htm
Now let's get to it, y'all! What the hell else do you have to do?
Oh, and once we get men:
http://www.askmen.com/love/love_tip_60/67_love_tip.html
Exercises for one and all....what could be better?
~Marin
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Marin you are tooooo funny!!!!!!!! but yes I agree we all seem to be lacking right now so with nothing better to do staying in shape in more ways that just the tummy and hinney is a great idea!!!
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Well, my dry spell ended on Saturday.
OK, it wasn't that long of a dry spell, maybe 3 weeks, but it was all good, none of that weepiness-about-having-no-hair or anxiety-about-where-relationship-is-going stuff, either during or after. We just had a nice time! I still don't know where the relationship is going, LOL, but I've decided that at this moment, it really doesn't matter -- my dbf is sticking with me through bc treatments, and when I am done with it we will figure out the next chapter, if there is one.My problem is that once I get some, I want more. Hmm, why wasn't I like this when I was married and had a DH sleeping next to me every night? Seems like back then, I was tired and grouchy a lot of the time, and only in the mood once or twice a week. Nowadays, dbf and I only spend 1 or 2 nights together per month, at most, plus an occasional get-lucky night when he comes to see me after my son is asleep (usually we just chat and kiss goodbye). And it's never enough for me....
Wow, at least I'm recovered enough from chemo to be feeling like this -- I guess it's progress!
Lauren
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Thats wonderful Lauren!!!
I was just wondering how your weekend went......guess now we know....
It is great to hear that you are feeling so much better and yes I think it is great progress!!!!!
Hugs
Jule
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Marin, I posted on the other thread before I read this one.
The saying goes, "time waits for no man." Well, Janis doesn't wait either!!! And, neither should you Marin.
Like, WTF is up (or not!) with this guy? I've had gentlemen but unless he wants to bestow lavish gifts upon you and whisk you away to Tahiti (or some other exotic location) then he needs to put out and show you his sexual self, not just his romantic "I respect you too much to just use you" self. I bet this other woman in Russia is part of the problem. I say, move on. There are plenty of other men who have liberators or who would at least be happy to buy one for you!
As always, JMO.......
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Marin, I posted on the other thread before I read this one.
The saying goes, "time waits for no man." Well, Janis doesn't wait either!!! And, neither should you Marin.
Like, WTF is up (or not!) with this guy? I've had gentlemen but unless he wants to bestow lavish gifts upon you and whisk you away to Tahiti (or some other exotic location) then he needs to put out and show you his sexual self, not just his romantic "I respect you too much to just use you" self. I bet this other woman in Russia is part of the problem. I say, move on. There are plenty of other men who have liberators or who would at least be happy to buy one for you!
As always, JMO.......
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Marin, I posted on the other thread before I read this one.
The saying goes, "time waits for no man." Well, Janis doesn't wait either!!! And, neither should you Marin.
Like, WTF is up (or not!) with this guy? I've had gentlemen but unless he wants to bestow lavish gifts upon you and whisk you away to Tahiti (or some other exotic location) then he needs to put out and show you his sexual self, not just his romantic "I respect you too much to just use you" self. I bet this other woman in Russia is part of the problem. I say, move on. There are plenty of other men who have liberators or who would at least be happy to buy one for you!
As always, JMO.......
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Yay Lauren! Good for you!
My spell isn't totally dry lol...but I still have the adult son living with me and the bf who doesn't live alone, so it's never too spontaneous....OR nearly often enough.
Right now we're on a one-week break because I'm ticked off enough about some things to need a break. Hopefully resolvable things....Marin, I'm so happy you're having a good time with P, but also that you're exploring other options. You go girl! I was worried you might feel as if you're in competition with Marina...I'm glad that's just my own problem with being so competitive. lol
Hugs ladies!
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Ooops...looks like Jay and I were posting at the same exact time, so sorry, it appeared like I just ignored your post hon, when in fact I hadn't seen it.
I have to very respectfully disagree with you though. I think it's greqat that he's not pressuring her. (Unless I'm misunderstanding the situation). I didn't think she was implying that he was shooting down her advances?
I think it's very nice when a guy waits for a cue that I'm ready to take that step. I dunno, maybe I am a bit old-fashioned. On the other hand, I'm sure Marin has no problem letting him know if she's tired of waiting and is very cabable of making some moves of her own. lol I see it as a sign of maturity if a guy can have patience and also lack of ego to leave the whole "timing" thing up to the woman.
Also JMHO and honestly, I maybe didn't get the jist of the story.
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Ya know, I DO think that he's holding back because I actually told him (on the 4th or 5th date...can't recall) that I didn't feel ready or comfortable getting physical with him before knowing him more. I don't usually feel that way this far into a relationship, but he's, as I said, sort of reserved and its a bit harder getting to know him. Also, frankly, I think that we want different things even though I'm not sure what his "thing" exactly is. I'm looking for ONE GUY who is CRAZY-WILD OVER ME and he seems to be looking for an intimate friend, one among...um, more-than-one. Or maybe I'm wrong...dunno. I also think that I feel a little insulted that he's not so attracted to me that he wants to tear my clothes off everytime we're together, but I know that's just my own insecurity.
In any event, we're still talking and emailing lots and clearly interested in pursuing the relationship. But I am planning to get together with these other guys I'm talking to (2 from chemistry and one from match). I'm not putting all of my eggs in one basket this time!
~Marin
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Okay, things are heating up, but this weekend won't provide any opportunity to explore. He's pre-scheduled for a fishing trip with the guys (house rented awhile ago) and I have the Komen Race and associated activities. We emailed yesterday and he had the sexiest things to say about how he perceived me on the boat on Saturday. Really melt-me stuff! We flirted naughtily back and forth about feasting and appetites and such. So okay....I'm waiting!
Oh, but here's just the sweetest thang....I received a notice from Komen about "another contribution" being made in my name (for the Race for the Cure) and went to my Personal Page to see that HE had donated $100! Niiiiice, huh?
~Marin
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Well Marin, you seem to know him better than we do so if you say he's a good guy then he is. I'm just skeptical is all, and jaded, so maybe my views are skewed. Happy dating!!!
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Well ladies it looks like 3 of us are on the right track with Mojo-ing
I spent a very nice evening/night with my guy.....I hadnt intended on staying with him but ya know how that goes!!!!!!!! We were driving down the road back to his hotel from dinner and he just finally asked "are you going to stay with me tonight?"....I thought he was going to jump out of the truck when I said "Yep, I think I will.".....It was a wonderful night to say the least and even better yet you ask????? It felt right!!!!!
We talk every night on the phone (which has been going on for about 2 weeks but now our conversations are more intent on where this might or might not be leading....I was getting a little gun shy but we had a 3 hr talk last night about keeping things to a slower pace and he is very comfortable with that idea so looks like we will ride this one out and see where it goes....
kind of spooky feeling for me since two months ago I had NO intentions of committing to anyone. Then David showed up, now Im not sure what I really want but Im willing to put the time and effort into seeing what turns out of this...
So looks like Jule is back to getting regular mojo whenever my little heart desires
He will be coming in tonight so Im heading for the shower...will keep you girls posted....
Pepper-where are ya girl!!!!!! Hope your doing something FUN!!!!!
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wooo-eee Jule! Anticipation in the shower right now, huh? Good on ya for making the right move at the right time - ENJOY!
Lisa
who has been getting a little herself, now and then
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Hi Lisa
Yep, this has definately put a smile on my face
....Oh so do tell girlfriend??? do we need to add you to the list of getting regular mojo going???
Jule
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Oh Jule......YAAAAAY!!!! Sounds like the right time, the right place, and the right guy! Enjoy every second and do lots of that riding that we've been hankering after!
Boo-yaah!
~Marin
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Thanks Marin...
Yes it does seem that all the "rights" are here.......so YEP, enjoying it I am!!!!!!
He got held up for a bit so is late getting here but should be comin in the door anytime
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Yay Jule! So glad it felt right. That makes it so much more enjoyable.
Marin, sounds like it won't be long (hmmm that doesn't sound quite right lol).....seems like the time has about come...uhh....well ...you know what I mean.
I think that was super sweet of P to donate for your race. Our instincts aren't always right, but I hope yours are. And if not, well just enjoy your time with this interesting man, and since you're not "putting all your eggs into one basket" you'll have nothing to feel sorry about. You deserve a good guy who's crazy about you...but I really do think that sometimes that takes time....I know I really have to know and trust someone to fall for them. So, I think you're smart to give it time and see what happens. If he doesn't turn into a quivering puddle at your feet soon, you can always next him. LOLMe? I have out-of-state family here this week and next. I'm getting a little "tense".
Yeah, I'm also supposed to be on a solo break until after this weekend, but I'm really missing him today more than I was irritated with him. *sigh* I keep thinking about how good guitar players are with their hands. LOL And then he called me tonight to tell me that the highlight of any day is when he sees me and that he wants to hug me every day when he gets home from work. Wow....I'm not ready for THAT! I'm sorry to babble girls. I guess I'm just feeling really torn this week. He makes things seem so simple when we talk, and I wonder if I make things too complicated. I'll probably check back in, but if not, you all have a lovely weekend!
Hugs!
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Hello ladies,
First of all, I'm okay - got injured on the job arresting a perp and have been out of commission.
Jules....NOT ONLY WERE YOU BAD - BUT YOU WERE VERY VERY BAD!!! I can actually hear your excitement all the way over here. MOJO is alive and kicking at Jules.
Marin - how the heck are you? Glad to hear that you are seeking out other options
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Oh you have NO idea just how BAD Ive been Pepper
...I spent a wonderful weekend out of town with David on the spur of the moment type thing
I know your job can be dangerous and I know you take all the precautions needed but BE CAREFUL girl!!!!!!! Im glad you werent seriously hurt!
Hope you all were mojo-ing this weekend since I see no posts!!!!
Jule
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Um, Jule?????????????
Do spill about your "wonderful weekend!" (Puhleeeeeze?)
Some of us are living vicariously, you know.....
I haven't been mojo-ing, I've been working around the house and visiting with family. (both very enjoyable but nothing post-worthy!)
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OOOHHHHH Jules - so I see you took the cowboy out for a ride - did you teah him to GIDDY-UP???
No mojoing for me honey - I'm still sore but mending.
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Oh, Jule, it sounds heavenly (or the opposite?
)! Without spoiling the intimacy, can you give us a few morsels to chew on (pun intended)?I absolutely plan on mojo-ing next weekend, come hell or high water! Our verbal exchanges have become more-than-suggestive and I'm totally ready, so I'll spend the week planning my "look" and staying away from Mr. Hitachi (love the build-up, if you know what I mean
).And for back-up (as I said, I'm not putting all of my eggs in one basket since he shares that basket), I have a date with another guy I met on match.com. He's tall, lean-ly muscular, very smart and bald (yes, I'm recovering from my queasiness over bald...as long as its the guy who is!). Anyway, we'll see how that goes, but I'm really pretty crazy about P. and if the mojo is right & good, I might not want to distract myself with other guys
! Still, it scares me to think about getting into yet another relationship that could blow up in my face. How do you get over that fear...any thoughts?~Marin
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Hmmmm, you ladies want details huh!!!
David is an Agriculturist and the company he works for started their green pea harvest last week so due to him being the "boss" he wasnt able to come to my area this weekend so in turn I decided I would go to him since he was less than a 100 miles away.
We called for take out and decided that since he will be in that area until about Thursday or Friday this week and might not get over here until then that we were going to be selfish and just stay in.....
Wow, was that a GOOD choice!!!!!!! spent most all of our time in bed talking, cuddling......Oh and the MOJO!!!!!!!! and yes I must say the Cowgirl was definately an interesting addition to positions and as everyone talked about DEFINATELY puts and new light on the Giddy UP!!!!!
Marin-thats too funny about the bald guy....Ive never been attracted to bold either but David is going bald and I find it kind of attractive...or I should say I find it appealing?
As far as the fear of getting in too deep??? Im with ya sister....David actually lives over 200 miles away but works in this area about 6 months of the year so is here weekly....one of our talks this weekend was circled around what each of us want or dont want concerning this or any relationship.....the top of his of DONT wants is a LDR so in a few months he wants to look around this area....for now when he is in town obviously he will stay with me so we have agreed that this is a good trial run....
We have a couple of things to work out but the talks are great and we communicate well so I think things will progress ok.
One of the things I had on the top of my list of DONT likes is jealousy or being joined at the hip...he said he can be the jealous sort so I stopped the conversation and told him that I need a VERY defined explanation of what "jealousy" means to him and how he reacts to his type of it.....we are going to re-address that later this week.....I just DONT deal with certain types of jealousy well at all!!!!! The joined at the hip thing he is ok with as we both believe that everyone needs their own space....
Well, thats it for now-things are looking good!!!!!!
The now happily mojo-ing Jule/aka (one of the BE BAD GIRLS)
Oh and PS-he asked what my intentions are about seeing other people.....he's wanting to be exclusive...which isnt hard since Ive been dating but no mojo-ing...he just doesnt know that
....I told him that I need a bit to think on that because I dont want to jump into anything.....but I had already decided and will tell him later when he asks again......now is that mean of me or what!!!!!!! Im kind of interested in seeing how long it takes him to ask again and his attitude if he thinks Im still seeing others..its kind of a test on the jealousy side of things for me I think...if he's the kind of man I think he is, he isnt really the fly off the handle jealous type...I think his definition of the word is going to be more along the lines of that he's jealous of the time I spend with others without him, but only because he misses me and wants to be involved with my life....we will see!!!!
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Im sorry Marin, part of that was to address your fear of getting into a relationship only to get hurt by it later down the road........
I dont think there is a way to get over that fear.....Ive thought alot about it lately because I had a feeling David was going to start down that path.
I think that if its right, we will know it, we will feel it (ya, I know, Ive trusted my feelings before and got BURNED!!!) but I dont know how else to not end up alone in life...
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Sounds like you had a great time Jules.
Marin, there is an old saying: "Sometimes love means taking the risk of being hurt, but if you close yourself off to the possibilities of love, your heart will never grow."
Marin, I say take a chance and see where this relationship goes - life is too short not to enjoy the pleasures that we experience with another human being.
After all, isn't that what life is all about, connecting with others and stepping outside our boundaries and finding what we are capable of achieving. Yes you run the risk of getting hurt but you also run the risk of great experiences.
Not everyone that comes into our lives are meant to be there forever, but for that short time, we learn great lessons from them and are all the better for it.
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Pepper, what wonderful words!!!!
Your one smart lady!!!!
Hope your feeling better
Jule
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Marin - Got the wig tape and it came in Very Handy during my interview last week - It was pretty windy but my hair stayed on! LOL
AND - I got the job! it is six hours from my SO, so I think I will take him for a test drive before I move on to the new location. I get to test the tape once again, although he has said that my lack of hair is no big deal to him. (We'll see!)
Oh, test drives. Now I'm thinking about being really, really BAD. And it will be at least a month before I can actually BE REALLY REALLY BAD.
I have my last chemo next week, but I'll need at least a week to recover from that. My onc will probably need to release me before I can make that 2,000 mile drive.
*sigh*
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WR, you got the job???!!!! Woohoooo!!!!!
Congratulations! That's fantastic!
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Rose,
Congrads on the job!!!!
Jule
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