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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2008

    OMG, y'all, P. finally really kissed me last night when he was leaving after our super-incredibly-fun-awesome-chock-full-o-oh-so-interesting-conversation-night out! And he's amazing!!!!!!!!!!!!! You may recall how I "nexted" some of the guys in the past for their lack of kissing talent? Well, I had only a teeny-tiny preview of P's abilities in this most crucial, dealmaking/dealbreaking area from our second date when he just quickly kissed me before I left his house. So I was a little nervous about how he would "perform" and would have been so, so confused if it wasn't good. But WOW, was he just perfect! No slobber, but definite slight moisture with slooooooowly exploring moves and a teensy bit of tongue. It was so hot!!!

    YAY!

    Now I really feel like I'm in high school Embarassed ! How does that "Shoop, Shoop" song go..?

    ~Marin

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2008

    Marin,

    Told you the wait was worth it.....

  • Yogi70
    Yogi70 Member Posts: 654
    edited May 2008

    Marin, are you talking about the song on the Waiting to Exhale Soundtrack sung by Whitney Houston?

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2008

    Nope....the one that Cher sings (and some Motown group, I think):

    Shoop, Shoop


    Does he love me I wanna know
    How can I tell if he loves me so
    Is it in his eyes?
    Oh no you'll be deceived
    Is it in his sighs?
    Oh no he'll make believe
    If you wanna know if he loves you so
    It's in his kiss
    That's where it is

    Or is it in his face?
    Oh no it's just his charms
    In his warm embrace?
    Oh no that's just his arms
    If you wanna know if he loves you so
    It's in his kiss
    That's where it is
    Woah It's in his kiss
    That's where it is

    Woah hug him and squeeze him tight
    Find out what you want to know
    If it's love if it really is
    It's there in his kiss
    How 'bout the way he acts?
    Oh no that's not the way
    and your not listen to all Isaid

    If you wanna know if he loves you so
    It's in his kiss
    That's where it is
    Woah It's in his kiss
    That's where it is
    REPEAT

    Oh yeah it's in his kiss
    That's where it is
    Oh it's in his kiss
    That's where it is
    Oh it's in his kiss
    That's where it is
    Oh oh it's in his kiss
    That's where it is
    Oh ohh it's in his... kiss
    That's where it is....

    Yeah Kiss

    ~Marin

  • oldcat46
    oldcat46 Member Posts: 53
    edited May 2008

    I guess my age will show here by saying I remember the Shoop Shoop Song (It's in His Kiss) from the early 60's.  It was a hit by Betty Everett though I don't think she had the first version, and there were a lot of others who recorded it including Cher.  Takes me back....

  • LisaSDCA
    LisaSDCA Member Posts: 2,230
    edited May 2008

    Glad he didn't disappoint! Great Smooching can go a long ways toward an auspicious beginning to a Fabulous Relationship.Cool

    Lisa

  • Miss_Lolli
    Miss_Lolli Member Posts: 560
    edited May 2008

    Oh yeah...Cher revived that fun song in the movie Mermaids. There's nothing better than a good kisser. Yay! So glad he didn't disappoint...it's very important.

    First song I thought of is Salt N Peppa...you make me wanna SHOOP! lol  What can I say? I love the other version, but I'm an 80's girl.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2008

    Ya gotta love the "wisdom" of the pop songs, huh? Here's yet another lesson I'm trying to learn....

    You Can't Hurry Love

    I need love, love
    To ease my mind
    I need to find, find someone to call mine
    But mama said

    You can't hurry love
    No, you just have to wait
    She said love don't come easy
    It's a game of give and take

    You can't hurry love
    No, you just have to wait
    You got to trust, give it time
    No matter how long it takes

    But how many heartaches
    Must I stand before I find a love
    To let me live again
    Right now the only thing
    That keeps me hangin' on
    When I feel my strength, yeah
    It's almost gone
    I remember mama said:

    You can't hurry love
    No, you just have to wait
    She said love don't come easy
    It's a game of give and take

    How long must I wait
    How much more can I take
    Before loneliness will cause my heart
    Heart to break?

    No I can't bear to live my life alone
    I grow impatient for a love to call my own
    But when I feel that I, I can't go on
    These precious words keeps me hangin' on
    I remember mama said:

    You can't hurry love
    No, you just have to wait
    She said love don't come easy
    It's a game of give and take

    You can't hurry love
    No, you just have to wait
    She said trust, give it time
    No matter how long it takes

    Gotta wait!

    No, love, love, don't come easy
    But I keep on waiting
    Anticipating for that soft voice
    To talk to me at night
    For some tender arms
    To hold me tight
    I keep waiting
    I keep on waiting
    But it ain't easy
    It ain't easy
    But mama said:

    You can't hurry love
    No, you just have to wait
    She said to trust, give it time
    No matter how long it takes

    You can't hurry love
    No, you just have to wait
    She said love don't come easy
    It's a game of give and take

    I'm listenin', Miz Ross!

    ~Marin

  • Yogi70
    Yogi70 Member Posts: 654
    edited May 2008

    Marin, okay, I feel ya.  I know both those songs and like em too I was born in 1970 but I love all music.

  • Jaybird627
    Jaybird627 Member Posts: 2,144
    edited May 2008

    Marin, you GO grrrrrlllll!!!!!

    Yes, I agree - a good kisser is a MUST!!!

    Happy kissing..................

  • LorenaB
    LorenaB Member Posts: 937
    edited May 2008

    Lori, my first thought was the "you make me wanna Shoop!" song too!  But I love that song "It's in his kiss."  And it's so true.  Marin, that is so so wonderful that he is a great kisser.  (I've been with my dbf for over a year but his kisses still make my toes tingle!)  Enjoy!  And chances are, that is a good indication that whatever is to follow will be great as well. 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited June 2008

    OK, y'all, at the risk of becoming seriously annoying, I'm offering yet another song's lyrics in order to illustrate my new dilemna:

    Did You Ever Have to Make Up Your Mind
    ~ Lovin' Spoonful
    {Refrain 1}
    Did you ever have to make up your mind
    Pick up on one and leave the other behind
    It's not often easy and not often kind
    Did you ever have to make up your mind
    {Refrain 2}
    Did you ever have to finally decide
    Say yes to one and let the other one ride
    There's so many changes and tears you must hide
    Did you ever have to finally decide
    Sometimes there's one with big blue eyes, cute as a bunny
    With hair down to here, and plenty of money
    And just when you think she's that one in the world
    You heart gets stolen by some mousey little girl
    And then you know you'd better make up your mind...
    {Refrain 1}
    Sometimes you really dig a girl the moment you kiss her
    And then you get distracted by her older sister
    When in walks her father and takes you a line
    And says, "You better go home,
    son, and make up your mind"
    And then you bet you'd better finally decide...

    Yeah, so I made dinner for P. last night and we had a totally fabulous time. I got to know so much more about him and enjoyed a much longer session of awesome kissing. HOWEVER, over the course of the evening, it became apparent that he was in a romantic and sexual relationship with this Russian babe he visited. Crap. Since I was experiencing some conflicting emotions during the kissing thing, I sorta broke it up and explained that I have alot of difficulty knowing how and when to draw the line with sexual activity, but that I do not want a sexual relationship with someone until I'm sure that we are entering into a committed, exclusive one. That's what triggered the full story and it seems that this chick doesn't like the idea that he is seeing me (he says he's told her all about me), but is open to including another woman in their relationship (as in a threesome, y'all Surprised Surprised Surprised)!!!! WTF????!! OK, so that is NOT gonna happen, of course, and not just because she lives 6,000 miles away. Geez. Fortunately, P. is not looking for a threesome, necessarily, but also doesn't seem inclined to break off his relationship with this babushka. He seems to be operating along the lines of "let's wait and see how this progresses" and has invited me to now met his crew, his gang, his homies ( agroup of 3 men and 1 woman with whom he frequently socializes and bikes with), presumably to see how I fit in and what they think of me.

    So I've thought all morning about this, girls, and tried to get at my true values on the issue of exclusivity and my gut feelings about what I want in a relationship and, specifically, what I will want in a relationship with P. I tried to push out the societal influences that I'm trying to shed and get right down to what I want for me in order to be able to grow....no- flourish....in this relationship. And I keep coming back to this: we will need to both commit to being as fully "in" a relationship with one another and, for me, that means that it must be exclusive. Splitting one's loyalties, in my opinion, detracts from the effort to growing our relationship and I can't and won't deal with that. Of course, we have only been dating for a month here, so I can't ask P. to drop his Moscow mistress....but my chastity belt will remain locked until he does.

    What do you all think about this? If you're being as open-minded as possible and trying to be fair and avoid game-playing and manipulation, how would sharing your man with a woman he will not likely see again for a long time (but with whom he speaks on webcam almost daily) sit with you, at least in the beginning of your relationship? Undecided

    ~Marin

  • Jaybird627
    Jaybird627 Member Posts: 2,144
    edited June 2008

    Oh Marin! Yell

    Okay, my $0.02:

    If you want exclusivity then you should have exclusivity. If you compromise on that now, how will you feel about it later? Which 'situation' (staying or going) can you live with most easily?

    He's being honest (for whatever that's worth) but it sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it, too.

    I say, stick to your decision as to what you really want - an exclusive relationship, no threesomes, groups, or long distance Russians - and tell him to keep playing around as you're going to look for someone who wants what you want. If he comes back to you later willing to compromise for you then go for it if you're still available but you really should be happy and I don't think your being one of a possible many will make you happy, only unhappy. JMO.....

  • WildRose
    WildRose Member Posts: 244
    edited June 2008

    Marin, is he "fooling around" on the babushka by dating you? He said she doesn't like it that he's also seeing you, so it seems she thought she had exclusivity with him. If he breaks it off with her to get you in bed with him (promising the same exclusivity with you), how long would it be before he started seeing someone on the side again?

    My momma used to say, once a cheater, always a cheater. 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited June 2008

    No, Rose, it really does sound like he is being completely upfront about both of us, but is hoping that we'll both be okay with his continuing to see the both of us. Even though he won't see the Russian (and get this...her name is "Marina"...how coincidental is that?) for a looooooong time again, they're "dating" online with the webcam thing several times a week. I really think that he wants to have his (bundt) cake and eat it too.

    I've thought about this since yesterday and still feel the same way....I'm not sharing. Though I consider myself a generous person, there are just some things I don't believe in sharing and a lover is one of them. I'll be telling him that on our next date.

    As Gilda used to say....it's always something....sigh.

    ~Marin

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