Movie warnings...post the movies that blindsided you.
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Since I have chemo brain, I can't think of the title of the movie that made me crazy a few weeks ago. It was supposed to be a comedy, but the whole thing revolved around a family where the mom had recently died....kind of a touchy subject in our house right now!
Someone else was talking on another thread about renting something that was billed as a comedy, but someone died of cancer in the movie.
Anyway, I thought it might be nice to list the movies that were NOT what we thought they would be....
I don't want to watch movies where:
The mom dies
The pet dies
Anyone has cancer
That are DEPRESSING!
Action adventures where there are lots of people getting blown up, oddly, don't bother me. It is the sad ones with the sappy violin soundtracks that do me in.
SO....what movies should I keep OFF my netflicks list?
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Deb,
I would keep "WIT" off your list if you don't want to see a movie about someone who dies from cancer.
This is a very raw, wrenching and emotional movie about a woman dying from cervical cancer.
The movie, if nothing else should be viewed by every Oncologist, every person who works in the cancer field to teach them how not to treat a cancer patient!
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Deb, was that movie called something like "Ordinary People." Surely someone will come along that remembers.
I haven't seen "In Pursuit of Happiness." I think that's what it's called. My dd just gave me a six month membership to Netflex. I need to check it out to see if this is the one I wanted to rent.
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Deb, that was me. The movie we rented (which I compared to "Ordinary People" because the family was so dysfunctional) was "The Family Stone":
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0356680/
Diane Keaton is the matriarch of the family. She's a real bitch (can I say that if I'm not posting in Traci's thread?), but the real surprise was when it turned out she'd had a mastectomy and was dying of BC. I think I gasped when the camera showed her husband slipping his hand under her nightshirt, and there was that red scar running across the right side of her chest. I'm sure my dh was thinking, "Oh, shit," when that scene came on. The movie had been his idea--he thought it would be a comedy.
Another one that surprised me was "Lucky 7":
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0370904/
It sounded cute and funny. Then, they showed the mom sitting in a lounge chair in her robe, looking sick. She gives her young daughter some worldly advice, and then ... is gone. The father raises his daughter alone, and that's very sad. The daughter spends her whole young life trying to live up to what her mother thought she should do--and that turns out to be the funny part.
OTOH, I am really super-sensitive right now, and I really don't like watching movies in which somebody dies of anything and leaves family members behind. I hope I eventually get over this. In the meantime, thanks for starting this thread so I can pre-screen my dh's selections.
otter
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My daughter bought 'The Family Stone' for me to watch, saying it was her new favorite movie and I would love it but be sure to get out the tissues.
The mom...Diane Keaton, dies of breast cancer in the end.
WTH was she thinking? I hated it.
~Pam
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The Pursuit of Happyness is a movie with Will Smith and his son, about a father and son who are homeless while the father tries to make it and get a good job. I cried the entire time, but it was more about being a single parent of a son the same age as the boy in the movie. No one has cancer or dies.
The movie "Muriel's Wedding" was supposed to be funny but I just thought it was sad. Her friend gets really sick. Also, there is some movie I saw years ago with Drew Barrymore and the woman who played Diane in Cheers. It started out as this fun, empowering women roadtrip movie, and someone ends up wasting away with AIDS.
I've always found funny-sad movies to be just sad, but like Otter, I'm especially sensitive now.
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Family Stone was one of the most traumatic experiences for me in the breast cancer saga. I feel like I'm going to traumatize you by telling you how traumatic it was for me. I saw it opening weekend and had no idea. There is a scene where Diane Keaton is telling her grown son her cancer is back that is making me tear up as I think of it now. The raw pain of having to tell your children your cancer is back was excruciating.
Donna
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I just watched "Two Weeks" on on demand on Sunday. It stars Sally Field. Cried my eyes out. It is the last 2 weeks of her life, dying from cancer.
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I'm sorry, but who the HELL would make a movie about dieing of cancer!!! How is that something people would want to watch?
Yes, I'd like the extra large buttered popcorn with a side order of carcinoma and sadness???
Don't get it....
Deb C
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The day after surgery #1, I had people over to watch movies. Here's how I described it at the time.
"So while I'm showering, Jarrett and Eileen are moving furniture around, getting the TV and DVD out of the bedroom and generally preparing for us to hunker down and watch "Man Push Cart." The DVD box featured glowing reviews, "Best NYC independent film ever!" and "Powerful!" and described it as being about a Pakistani rock star who found himself selling coffee from a cart in NYC who is given the "shadow of a glimmer of the possibility of hope" or some such. The latter should have tipped us off that this movie was a capital D Downer. How big of a Downer? (Spoiler alert)
His wife dies.
He doesn't get his kid back.
He likes a girl and she moves away.
His friend screws him over.
He falls down in the middle of traffic.
His cart is stolen.
His kitten dies, ferheavenssake.After we finished watching this relentlessly depressing movie, we watched the trailer. The trailer reminded us of what we realized were the movie's high points, e.g., remember when he sold a cup of coffee to a woman who smiled at him? Remember when he kissed a girl in a bathroom (before she left him)? Remember the good old days when he was pulling his cart and he didn't fall down in traffic? Sheesh. Breast cancer seems like a laff-fest after this movie.
We flipped over to Channel 13 in hopes of finding something to lift our spirits. Charlie Rose was interviewing some unbelievable bore intoning such banalities as "You see . . . history . . . is . . . in . . . the . . . past. . ." But the kicker? Charlie Rose was sporting a shiner and a cut over his eye! It was the funniest-looking thing! Apparently, he tripped in a pothole and in saving his MacBook, fell flat on his face. Crazy night.
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This isn't about a movie, but last night I was looking forward to the season finale to two shows I really like=House and Bones. Both were so depressing and sad! On Bones, a regular character turns out to be a "serial killer in training" and on House a regular dies a very sad death. I was already emotional, but this really was awful! I felt terribly let down.
On a better note, I absolutely loved Prince Caspian and just saw National Treasure 2 on dvd tonight. I really enjoyed it, too.
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My sweet husband and I watched Shadow Land. It's about how CS Lewis met his wife - their love story. Well I didn't know she died. It got to that part and I bawled. I mean sobbed and sobbed. It was sooooooo sad. Then he goes to talk to her son and I started up again! I yelled at my husband that it wasn't fair to make me watch that without telling me. Thankfully this was LONG before my BC.
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My reaction to movies is very "situational"
I watched Step Mom while on chemo and it made me bawl my eyes out, even though I don't have kids.
I recently watched the "Bucket List" while I was in the midst of a scare over bone scans, and I simply could not find the humor and turned it off half way through.
I watched "8 Below" (about the dogs being abandoned in Antarctica, I think) and I was so angry by the end that I wanted to punch a wall, waiting for the dogs to be rescued for Pete's sake!
I highly recommend seeing "Iron Man", in the theatres if possible - it was an awesome flick, with nothing sad. The good guys win and the ride is fun!
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Oh, yeah--Deb, don't rent "Eight Below" if you don't want to be sad about animals dying. It's not syrupy or PETA-ish. It's just very matter-of-fact. Storm coming--gotta leave the dogs; they probably won't make it. It goes downhill from there. The end is uplifting but not enough to help much.
Edited to add: OMG, I forgot all about Stepmom:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0120686/
You know things are going to be bad when this is what they give as the plot: "A terminally-ill mother has to settle on the new woman in her ex-husband's life, who will be their new stepmother." Julia Roberts, Susan Sarandon, Ed Harris.
Ironically, as sad as it is, it really is a good flick with a "happy" ending. (I say that with the subject of this thread in mind. There is nothing "happy" about a mom dying and leaving her kids behind, but in this flick, the two women finally understand each other and what's important in life. yada yada yada.)
Don't get me started on the movies about old people with Alzheimer's, or elderly parents who can no longer care for themselves. My dh lost his father to Alzheimer's a few years ago, and my dad was dx'd with it last year. We have 3 movies in our Netflix queue that I refuse to watch because of that.
otter
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Can you rent stuff that's stand up comics? Geez, I'm scared to watch anything. Usually my kids can tell me what to watch. I'll make sure it's not sad.
Good luck, Deb, in find a good movie. I like comedy.
Shirley
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and.....8 below was based on a true story!! So sad.
Let's not forget the classics....Terms of Endearment and Beaches.
Dying Young was a tear jerker.
I didn't like American Pie. (I'm pretty sure that's the name.) It could have been a funny movie but...a 15 yr old seduces ..crap....oh yea Kevin Spacey. RUINED the movie for me. That's all my teen nieces need to be watching. And, Love Actually. That all could have been a movie for all to see but no....................they had to throw in two actors doing it doggie style. Naked. What a bunch of crap. Can't they make a movie anymore without boobs being in it???
Great thread Deb cuz I don't want to be watching these either!
Hugs, Traci
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My dh and I got into the 8-part miniseries John Adams on HBO. Really enjoyed it -Laura Linney as Abigail and Paul Giamati as John. Anway - towards the ends of the series, their grown daugheter is diagnosed with"cancer of the breast" and the doctor says he has to immediately remove it. I was surprised - didn't know they did that in the 1700's. So they show what they did to her - tied her down on the bed, fully conscious, put a stick between her teeth so she could bite on it and CUT OFF HER BOOB! The shot was of her wide-open eyes with blood suddenly squirting on her face. I seriously had that image in my head all night and it returned for many nights after (I had a
mast. 3/19). Then her "cancer of the breast" returned and she died of it anyway.
Do NOT watch this portion of this miniseries unless you're a whole lot stronger than I am!
Sue
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Lordy girls....thanks for all the warnings!! I now have MANY things to leave off my netflicks list!!!
I need straight comedy or action adventure these days. At least when a movie is billed as a tear-jerker I know to avoid it....it is the sneaky ones that get me
Deb C
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Osama is the bleakest movie in all creation. About a little girl in Taliban ruled Afghanistan whose mother dresses her like a boy so she can go out and run the errands. My hopeful thought at the end? Maybe one of the US missiles will destroy the bad men after 9-11. Really. That's how bleak.
On the other hand, my eldest daughter has introduced me to The Office (which everyone else probably already knows about but I've been out the pop culture loop). We watch episodes during chemo and it can be sort of embarrassing to be in this 12 person infusion room with ear plugs in laughing like an idiot. A great distraction.
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AlaskaDeb: Perhaps "Blades of Glory" is in order?
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Oh, The Bucket List was not a comedy at all. I don't know why it is kind of billed as such. Far too real for chemo girls but a good movie all the same.
My votes for all-time downers: Bambi and Ole Yeller. Anything by Thomas Hardy, too.
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"Stepmom" and "The Family Stone" did me in, too. But so did "Pay it Forward" (had no idea the kid dies in the end) "Feast of Love" (another young person gets struck down in their prime) and "Away From Her" (altzheimer flick that was totally, totally depressing). I still can't watch "Bambi" or "Terms of Endearment."
Edited to add: OMG, Rock the Bald! That pic of Charlie Rosse had me spitting orange juice at the computer screen! As I love my MacBook, too and have almost fallen down stairs to save it, it's nice to know I'm not the only one, lol
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I don't think you guys have mentioned one that hit me below the belt. It stars Abigail Breslin, the cute little actress from Little Miss Sunshine. Anyway, the movie is The Ultimate Gift. Yep, she has cancer and dies. Watching it with my kids, it was not the comedy we wanted.
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Revkat,
Other funny, funny TV series (we own the disc sets) are Arrested Development and Malcolm in the Middle.
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I remember when TV movies were all the rage in the 1970s. For a while, they went on this kick of making movies where someone in the family dies of cancer. The one that sticks in my mind the most was this young woman was dying of cancer so she recorded a "diary" with information and advice for her baby daughter to watch when she grew up. That way, the girl would "know" her mother. Talk about depressing! I was years away from my own diagnosis, but it totally freaked me out. It was NOT entertainment.
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PS I love you? I hear the DH had a brain tumor and died.
October Sky (teacher has C)
I don't mind watching it if I know what happens.
Sleepless in Seatle (the previous mom died of c)
safe from the big C
JUNO
Knocked up
Napoleon Dynamite
Star Dust
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Who dies in House?
Sex and the City is good, even when Sam gets BC, not too bad.
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Who dies in House?
Sex and the City is good, even when Sam gets BC, not too bad.
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Who dies in House?
Sex and the City is good, even when Sam gets BC, not too bad.
(skip season -
Who dies in House?
Sex and the City is good, even when Sam gets BC, not too bad.
(skip season 6,
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