MOJO Without Matrimony!
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No Psycho Man problems - yet! I'm sure he's lurking out there somewhere though. He's busy I guess. Thankfully.
I'm quite stressed out this week and could really use some body-to-body contact but it's just not going to happen for a while.....
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Im sorry Jay, maybe try contacting your young man?
I havent been doing very well with the body to body stuff either
Ive had some dates but I cant and wont just jump into the sack with someone I dont know very well...
Although I did get an email from my friend with benes and it is looking up for maybe this weekend, but we both have alot of plans so not sure it will work out....sure would nice though...
Jule
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Jule, I can't have anonymous sex either. I have to at least meet the guy outside of my home and like him, KWIM? The young guy is MIA (hasn't even on the dating site) and there are other's interested in me but my main babysitter (mom) is out of town and I can't afford a real babysitter so I can't go out and I'm stuck with who I already know and I don't want any of them (especially Psycho Man)!
Sorry, I'm just having a bad week.....
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Its ok Jay.....Im just sorry your having such a bad week right off the get go.....I sure hope it gets better!!!!
Ive had several guys contact me over the weekend wanting to get together for coffee or dinner but didnt have time so maybe this week will be better...
I know what you mean about stuck with the ones you already know and dont want....I live in podunk nowhere, the nearest larger town is 20 miles away....I grew up in this town and really love it here but there isnt a single man in this town I would date let alone sleep with....Jay-if you need someone to talk things over with more privately pm me if it would help...
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Thanks for the sympathy! I'm just upset over not having enough money for anything, let alone enough extra to get a sitter so I can go out and have some adult fun.
My daughter is being a typical toddler and, well, somedays I just really need some adult naked time but it's hard to get that when you're a responsible parent. Sure, I could just invite strangers over as some women do but I won't do that so I stay frustrated for longer periods of time than I'd like to.
She'll be in bed soon and I can get some things done around here and then surf the net for adult stuff.
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Well, maybe I'm just a weirdo, but in my case "adult naked time" isn't always a remedy. I am 6 days out from my last chemo tx and was feeling so achy and tired and sad yesterday. My dbf came over to visit after my son was asleep, it had been a few weeks since we had any alone time, and I sort of convinced myself (and him, through my, um, actions) that "adult naked time" was what I needed. I ended up crying on and off the whole time, and falling asleep so sad after he left. It just didn't feel right -- I was/am too wrapped up in feeling sick and bald and boring. He was certainly nice to me on a physical level but he just didn't give me much verbal reassurance and it made me feel even more alone.
I guess I should wait until these nasty chemo drugs are out of my system before I try to get intimate again.
I still feel lousy today but I'm hoping the fog will lift soon so I can go back to work tomorrow. -
(((Lorena)))
I'm so sorry you're feeling so crappy! I had NO desire for sex during tx due to both the drugs and chemo-pause and then for some time after but now that I'm 3 years out and feel good again I DO want sex. The actual horniness is gone (I SO miss my estrogen!!!) but I still have the want and need to get naked thus I pursue it.
Good luck to you, you'll feel better soon I'm sure!
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Awwwww Lorena...Im sorry.....both about you feeling crappy and that he didnt give you the emotional support you needed at the time....things will get better sweetie, hang in there...
Jay-yep I understand about the money stuff and the child stuff (although mine are grown and on thier own) so I have the house to myself but I cant do the strange thing either.....
Guess we will all get our mojo going again when the time is right, but dang it.......I WANT TO BE BAD NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Oh Lauren, I too am sorry that you're feeling so crappy. It really does get better, sweetie....much better! As for not getting the real comfort you're needing right now, maybe you could suggest to your bf some of the things you think might feel supportive and maybe energizing. Would a massage or bubble bath for two help? Or maybe making ice cream sundaes and eating them in front of the TV watching an old romantic movie? It seems that communicating to him, in some way, what you need these days, might trigger a more creative era for the two of you. It can't hurt to try, right?
As I've been reading these most recent posts, I've realized that my last psycho really spoiled me when it came to sex. I swear, y'all, as crazy and tempermental as he turned out to be and as much as I'm absolutely, positively sure that I never want to see him again, the sex was totally THE BEST I've EVER had! I mean the guy had magical fingers, a truly talented tongue and let's not even talk about how he could use his "main member"! So although I've had several attempted booty calls from my 33-yr old FB lately, I just know I'll be disappointed. Ugh!
But when P. returns from vacation, I'm VERY interested in beginning to explore his hot body! Still, I'm taking that slowly because, for once, I am truly interested in a man's intellect and emotions. What a unique experience this is!
You will note, my chicas, that I'm not claiming disinterest in my B.O.B.
A girl's gotta get by, after all 
!~Marin
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I have to add that when I travel I carry condoms and lube - just in case! Like anything is ever going to happen? But once a Girl Scout, always a Girl Scout!!!
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Jay-you are toooooo funny!!!!! I was a Girl Scout and I dont remember that being in my fanny pack!!!!!
But it definately is a good idea in this day and age!!!!
This weekend is the local race horsing days for the town I live in so Im planning on having REALLY tired eyes by the end of the weekend....those cowboys butts are heavenly!!! and who knows what might happen since there are dances and parties going on all weekend
I can already hear Pepper- BE BAD, BE BAD, BE BAD
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Well GIDDY-UP Jules.....
make sure your camera is working so that we can have the pleasure of seeing those tight butts as well.
What's that ole' saying:
"FORGET THE BULL - RIDE THE COWBOY"
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Hi Pepper
I KNEW I could count on your support
I like that saying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hmmmmm....brings up the question: how many have tried the "reverse cowgirl"? It's one of my favorites, especially if the guy is sitting in a chair
!How my mind does wander....and I'm at work, y'all!
Jules...It sounds like you have a helluva weekend coming up! We hope to hear all of the details, including your own "rides" and, as Pepper says, let's see some butt pics!
~Marin
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Ok Marin-whats the "reverse cowgirl" that your refering to?
Yes it will be a great weekend although Im not expecting any actual mojo to be going on but its gonna be fun anyway..
Jule
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The reverse cowboy, if I'm thinking of the same one is when YOU are on a chair and HE is straddling you!
Is that the one you are thinking of Marin???
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No! Reverse cowgirl is W.O.T. (woman on top) but facing away from your guy. I guess it's like doggie style in how it feels and how he has access to stimulating you with his hands, but he's sitting and you're doing all of the thrusting....backwards. It is quite a workout (great for the quads!), but oh-so-worth it!
Wearing (only) a cowboy hat makes it really special
!~Marin
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Huh. I did that once with a guy but I was leaning forward??? He was not big so it was okay, not my favorite though. I'm a missionary girl as I can be lazy if I want to be, plus I feel I have the most control in that position. I hate being on top - too much work!!! From behind is good, too.
LOVE the cowboy saying - can I get that in a bumpersticker???
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Jay...I don't get it (the "bumpersticker" saying)? I never get jokes...it irritates me!
I like missionary too....hell, I like every position! And, btw, there's also what Cosmo calls "celestial cowgirl" with the guy lying down, you on top facing away from him, but you're lying sort of back with your hands down on the bed and your back arched over him. I've done that too and loved the angle you can get with him inside!
Ahh, the variations are endless, aren't they?
~Marin
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Marin, I can't possibly explain that saying as to me it needs no explanation!
The young guy is MIA. I refuse to chase after him so I'm moving on.
There is a guy I've seen in the past who I stay in very casual contact with that wants to see me today - but I'm in NY!!! He won't ever make plans in advance but I offered to come over this Sunday. He's a FINE specimen of the male body so I'm really hoping to see him then. If I do I promise to report back.....
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You ladies make me smile!!! You are inspiring me to encourage my guy to try some new techniques when I'm feeling better. For now, though, I think I'm just going to show up at his place on Saturday after his kids are asleep, with a romantic movie and a couple of candles, and probably just stick to snuggling until I am feeling better. My son is supposed to stay with his father then next two weekends, so maybe by Memorial Day I'll start getting my mojo back....
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Its so funny how we all seem to take turns at mojoing!!!!...
One weekend its Marin, the next its Me, then its Pepper, this weekend its Jay, and now Lorena has booked Memorial weekend for her
The descriptions that you ladies give for the cowgirl sounds interesting!!! Im generally a missionary or a top girl myself...depends on my mood
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No guarantee for me but I'm HOPING to get some this weekend!!!
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Hey possibilities are endless for you this weekend....I just have a feeling
.....and if you get too bored head on over here...I'll share the cowboys and cute butts with you -
I'm tell you
FORGET THE BULL - RIDE THE COWBOY
GIDDY-UP LADIES!!!!
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Hey Pepper,
You arent that far away....wanna come for the weekend???? I wish I had thought of it earlier so you could have planned to come.....
It would be so fun to check out the cute butts with you ladies here....heck all of you come on over!!!!!!!!
The little podunk town I live in might never be the same if we all got together here!!!!!!!!
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I volunteer to make us matching t-shirts!!!!
The front could say: "BE BAD! BE BAD! BE BAD!!!!"
The back would say: "FORGET THE BULL - RIDE THE COWBOY"
Can you girls imagine the picture on a shirt like that
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Jules and Marin and everyone -- I got a letter today from the Unemployment Office. Apparenlty i can make more money each week on unemployment than I did teaching a class. Not a big surprise. (It's based on work I did when I was earning more than this past semester, thank goodness.)
Yes, Marin, you hit the nail on the head: I am very much looking forward to getting laid!! My SO has expressed a similar sentiment, bless his handsome, hunky heart. Good grief, I can't wait to get my hands on him (I think I already said that, but it bears repeating!)
I forget now who asked, but I'm in SE Washington, too, so if we have a meetup sometime before I leave for Ohio, don't forget to invite me!
Oh, I also forget who mentioned it, but no temp agencies in this particular area. They can get cheap student labor so no real market for it. But it would have been a good idea: I temped for many years in Charlotte and St Louis. I told SO that's what I'll do while I'm staying with him. There are at least three different agencies in his town (south of Cleveland but not close enough to Cleveland to work there with gas at $4 a gallon in Ohio). I have Tons of office experience and even with numb fingertips my typing's at least 45 wpm.
Well, in addition to my other symptoms, I now have a rash on my lower arms. I mentioned it to the SO and he thought it was hilarious. "What next?" he said. "Lice?"
ROFL
My Corn and Durt* man keeps me sane. Even at 1800 miles away.
(*He's in Crop and Soil Science)
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Jules,
I would love to come and spend the weekend with you. I'm still working on that case so I'm still very busy - which includes the weekends.
I realy need a life - can someone please send "One life to Pepper" oh yah and overnight that UPS!
PS: Jules, pm me your email address and I will send you pictures of the 60 mile walk along with the letter that we wrote about it. Would like to have you do the Susan G. Komen walk with me in Portland
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pepper good luck on your case i hope you are successful soon so you can relax a little for yourself
you deserve it!i hope you find the work you do rewarding ! thank you
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