MOJO Without Matrimony!
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Exactly...."the youtube of porn"! The friend who told me about it described in just that way. And just think, you can post your own videos on there too
! Um, I might be "open-minded," but that will never happen !!!!So ya never know about the religious types...I say keep an eye out for some hot wolves in sheep's clothing
!~Marin
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Ok girls heres goes!!!!
I met this guy on Plentyoffish and we are having dinner on Saturday......we have been talking alot and have been very open about what each of us is looking for.....
It sounds really bad but..............we are just both looking for someone to do things with and a steady piece of butt....not attatchment....
My question is....once things progress to the hands on stuff....do I tell him about my scars or wait until he asks???
Thanks
Jule
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I truly was amazed at what I saw!
Somehow I happened upon lots of guys with smaller-than-average (???) thingies! Perhaps that's why they're making movies????? Nope, no movies of me! Well, none for free anyway!
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Jule, if he's still interested once you meet face-to-face and it's a "go" then I'd tell him if it's obvious. I never tell before we get naked as in the dark my breast scar isn't all that noticable and a few have never even asked once they did see it..... HTH???
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Ya know....Im not sure about this stuff!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I went on a date last night with a guy that fits all the things I would look for in personality, heart all that stuff, but............WHY DOES THERE ALWAYS HAVE TO BE ONE OF THOSE??????????
Dont giggle to much ladies......he looks like Opie from the Andy Griffith show!!!!!!!!!!!! Other than not thinking I could sleep with Opie he is a wonderful guy........now what do I do???
Yes, I met him online and yes I saw a pic of him but I liked his personality and such so thought what the heck maybe he's better in person, I just didnt expect the Opie look........he's still the same guy I talk to online if I close my eyes!!!!!!!
HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Well, was the date fun??? Were you physically attracted to him at all??? Obviously you don't like the 'Opie type' and that's okay but perhaps you can give him one more date and then decided? I think it's easy to say "no" after the first meeting but sometimes people are different (read more relaxed!) on second, third, etc., dates and thus become more attractive. I wish you luck - keep us posted!
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Jaybird...
Nope, no attraction in the least....but yes I agree with what your saying and I do plan to see him again as he is really nice....I dont want to be one to judge the book by its cover.....the date was very enjoyable....my post earlier made it sound like Im strickly into appearance which isnt the way I meant it...I was actually trying to be more comical with some of that earlier post....but not all of it....Im really not the shallow person that post made me sound like
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NO! I didn't assume that you were shallow!
I will say that first impressions for me are usually correct (I don't like certain 'looks' either!) and if there's no initial attraction then there usually isn't a 2nd date but if you really hit it off before and during the date then it might be worth it to meet again. But sometimes it's just friendship and nothing else and that's that.
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Yes Jay,
I think the friendship only is where this is headed...he really is alot of fun and we like to do alot of the same things so I think if nothing else I have made a great partner for companionship to do things with..
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I think when we begin to date someone our eyes are trained to look at the physical beauty of the person and that is so normal. No one thinks that just because he was an {Opie} type that you are shallow ~ you might have made a good friend and we could always use those in our live.s
Our eyes are the feast of life and being attracted to someone ~ the chemistry has to flow so that mojo can flow.
I will let you in on a secret ~ I was not at all attracted physically to my now-separated-hubby but baby the MOJO was out of this world!
Hang in there Jule.....
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Thank you Pepper B........
You are very right about the friendship side of things....
To be truthful the last guy I dated a few years ago, when I met him my first thought was "NOT", but as I got to know him and as things lets say progressed........whooooooooo nelly!!!!!!! the mojo was awesome!!!!!!!!!!
So Im not giving up just yet....who knows "Opie" could be a good thing
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I was unable to log on from work all day and just saw your posts, Jule. My first, off-the-top-of-my-head response was "so close your eyes." Really....see if you can find and then focus on some aspects of his physical self that are NOT Opie-like. My very favorite body parts on a man (besides the obvious!) are his hands, his neck, his lower back as it curves down into his butt and, then, before entirely naked, that most gorgeous lower abdominal "V" that teasingly points down to the Grand Prize! Okay, I'm getting carried away (note to self: get laid asap!), but my point is try to zero in on some potential hot spots and see if that makes you want to be ravaged!
Just an idea....
~Marin
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Marin, that's all good and fine but if there is no initial attraction (physically) then there will be no attraction.
I have the opposite 'problem' with my recent friend. I like him a lot and I do have 'chemistry' with him but when we're naked it just isn't all that for me! His body is a total turn off and the sex part just isn't good (it never was), so what's a girl to do???
I guess I'm still searching for that all-elusive total package!
I do have a date with a nice young man tomorrow night though.....
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Marin
It not a question on whether I want to be ravished!!!!!!! Im just dont think Opie is the one to do it....there is just nothing there, zip, nada
Ive thought about the zoom in on other parts but I just dont know...I am going to see him again as he is a really nice guy, but not thinking it will end up in the sack....
On the other hand Ive been chatting with this other guy too and he's a total different story!!! He isnt at all hard on the eyes and he has a really nice body...Im seeing him later in the week...
I was always the "good girl", I live in a small rural town so everyone knows everyone, the guys that keep asking me out from here want the "good girl", Little House on the Prarie is what comes to mind!!!!!!......
I dont want to be the "good girl" I want to be with someone openly and freely without worry that what I like or dont like will be the topic of conversation....the "whoa Nelly" guy I spoke of in an earlier post is what I want again...he was very open and willing and I found it extremely attractive and yes, a huge turn on...
Jaybird--Do tell.......nice young man???
Marin-Ive lost track of where you are at in this dating stuff...Last I had time to read was "Another one bites the dust" but I havent read it for awhile....How are things going for you now???
Jule
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Yep, I'm meeting a young man tonight. I hope he's not too nice, if you know what I mean! Nothing will happen as it's the first look-see, but if I like what I see then I'll definitely want to look at him without clothes!
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Jules -
BE BAD BABY!!!! You only live once - be that woman that wants to experiment, feel, touch, breath and do it with a HOT guy!!!
The thought that women can't or shouldn't enjoy ourselves with a variety of men is just Bull-shit ~ let's face it our stamina is way off the charts and not to mention those multiple orgasms....
Come on when it comes down to having fab sex - I say "YOU ARE WOMAN I HEAR YOU ROAR"
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Well, the young man was VERY polite and VERY nice and VERY do-able!!! He even offered to help me cut down one of my trees!
No kissing because I think we were both a little nervous but I do expect to see him again, probably early next week. Until then I have to go to work so no dates for a few days..... -
awwwww Jay......its sucks that real life has to come first before play, but hey, its not all bad either....just think of the suspense of waiting for what maybe a really really fun thing
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Pepper.........Im thinking, heck, Im chanting!!!!
BE BAD, BE BAD!!!!!!!
Since my date with Opie over the weekend I have two more guys wanting to go out this weekend!!!!! One is really really hot!!!!!! and about 10 yrs younger
Ive agreed to see one on Friday and am saving the hottie for Saturday
....also have an email today from another wanting to go out on the 25th as he is from out of town....
Hmmmmmm-I think I might be on a roll here
and yes, Im seeing Opie in between too....
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Now THIS is what I'm talkin' about, y'all! We're really getting out there and finding some of what we want and deserve! Very sweet!
I don't have any real life meetups lined up yet because chemistry.com makes you communicate in several stages. It's fun and gives you time to really dissect what you want and whether its likely you'll get it with each of the guys. On the other hand, I need a warm body! My 33-yr old FB text'd me Sunday and wanted a booty call. I said "some other time,' but now I'm sort of regretting it. Ugh.
But, Jaybird and Jule, I've got one thing to say to you rockin' chicas...........YOU GO, GIRRRRRRLS!!!!!
~Marin
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Jules loving the chant......
I am living vicariously through you women. I recently separated after 20 years of marriage but not at the dating stage at all.
I did get asked out by the most beautiful strawberry blonde who is 30 year old. She is HOT!!!! Why does she want to date a 46 year old like me????
Anyway Marin my buddy...I heard that Match.com is pretty good.
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Oh, I am SO loving this thread! Women SHOULD feel empowered, and feel as though thay can take charge of their sexuality! (I always have - kind of, sort of...)
I swear, I was smiling the entire drive home last night after spending only about 90 minutes with this young man (I won't say how young but I'm old enough to be his older sister...) and I felt like I was in control of my life - and I'm happy about that! I can date anyone I want to - or not!
No, my life isn't perfect (my house needs a lot of repair) and I have to leave my daughter for 3 days each week but I feel like my life is finally my own. So what if I'm single (this used to bother me immensely!) at least I don't have a fat, farting, snoring, boring man to deal with every day of the week! I am free to find whatever young flesh I want to and enjoy him when I want to!
I really would go out on more dates if my job didn't interfere!
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ok, just got back from dinner with Bryan....and YEP, he STILL looks like Opie
, but he really is a sweet guy.....he called out the blue, said he didnt want to cook so would I please join him for dinner so we went to a nice chinese dinner and now I have lunch for tomorrow too ....just kidding, I really did have a nice evening, but definately cant get past the look.....but glad to have a new friend do "other" things with....wont be none of that night time play....So onward to the next one.....
Pepper-what the heck do you mean why would she be attracted to you????? shes attracted because your you and she see's that!!!! I think you should go for it!!!!!! Everyone kept telling em that putting that first foot out there is the hardest.....if there's an attraction maybe you should check it out and see what happens....
Jay-Yes this thread is great!!!!! we are all strong woman and its time we take control of our own lives and love the hell out of it!!!!!!
Although this could be trouble too as you girls and your pep talks make me big, bad and brave!!!!!!
Im still chanting.......BE BAD, BE BAD, BE BAD
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Jules,
Sounds like you found a nice friend in {Opie} enjoy it and let the chips fall where they may. You have told him that nothing romantic will occur RIGHT?
Okay I will tell my secret, When I'm working on cold cases there is a young (35) year old officer named Ryan and he has had a crush on me for the last 3 years. Well he invited me to dinner and it was nice but I was clear that we would just be friends.
Fast forward to 2 weeks later and he made me dinner at his house and it was great. He made a variety of fondues and then we had a great conversation...one thing lead to another and before I knew it BAMM we hit the sheets. This is so not like me to sleepwith someone so soon after meeting them. It was amazing. Ryan is like 6'1" and btw, bald as an eagle. (I love bald men)
As for the blonde (a juvenile officer) I have a date with her this Friday night for dinner - I'm not thinking about getting serious with either one of them but it will get me out in the field in a slow way.
This should be our new motto for this thread
BE BAD, BE BAD, BE BAD .......
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Awwww Pepper, I knew you were keeping secrets from us!!!! Way to go girl!!!!!!
Yes, Opie and I have had "the talk".....he's just fine with having a friend who he says is nice to look at, down to earth and real, so wouldnt want to ruin anything by adding sex, unless of course I want to add it too....
I have a date this weekend with my young one so we will see how that plays out
Good luck to us all!!!!!
One of the Be Bad Girls signing off for now
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I'm glad you talked to {Opie} and he is okay with having a new friend.
So how did your date go yesterday with Mr. Hot???? Was he what you thought is would be?
Details woman, details....come on gotta share with the rest of us...
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Hi Pepper......
Oh Ya.......he was more than wonderful....but it wasnt with the guy I thought Saturday, that date ended up cancelling because he got called to work.....I ended up seeing a guy I have known for quit some time, couple of years easily....he emailed me out of the blue earlier in the week so when my young guy had to worked I emailed this one back and said I was available after all, and Boy did he take me for my word!!!!!.....well, one thing lead to another and VA VA BOOM!!!!! Spent a wonderful night between the sheets with very little sleep if you know what I mean
...Like you said Pepper it was so unlike me to do something like that but you girls and your bad girl pep talks made me do and thats my story so Im stickin to it
Needless to say my spirits have definately taken a rise......amazing what a little good fun can do for a girl
.Im thinking Im learnin to like this BE BAD, BE BAD, BE BAD motto we have adopted here!!!!!
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Oh, you BAAAAAAD GIRLS.....ROCK ON, MAN!!!! This is too awesome to be hearing about you all getting out there and expressing yourselves with gusto! What did we choose life for if not to fully embrace it, right?
Keep the stories coming, my chicas! I'm hoping to just be meeting a new guy this week, one who is already making my heart thump and we've only been emailing (like non-stop though!) so far. And then, when the time is right, I too plan to......BE BAD, BAD, BAD!!!
Booyah!
~Marin
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I just wanted to pop back up and give y'all an update - you'll recall I've been involved in an LDR with a younger guy... we had been on a roller coaster that seemed to be keyed to his depression. Things leveled off once I started chemo, and he really stepped up (most of the time) and has been supportive. Now I have a job interview that, if I get the job, it will (less than) half the distance between us, and would involve a cross-country trip that takes me right through his state, so we're planning on my spending a few days with him, before driving the additional 600 miles to the new job.
We've talked about my not having reconstruction until this Fall, and the fact that I'll probably still be bald or just have peach fuzz when I come through, and he's totally OK with it.
I'm expecting a really hot, steamy weekend to add a little spice to a looooooong road trip..... can't stop grinning....
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Woooooooo Rose, you go girl!!!!!
That would be one heck of a nice break to your long road trip.....it definately changes the attitude
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