Polygamist Sect Under Investigation
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Does anyone else think the government took the wrong individuals out of their homes? Why not the men? Seems like they are in charge. Why punish the women and children who appeared to be living as they were told to live by the men?
Did you see the Larry King interview? What were your impressions? What should happen to the children? How would you feel if this happened in your community?
What about freedom of religion? How far can religion go to protect violation of federal or state laws? -
I think a lot of the women want out which is why they want to get them away and be able to speak with them privately. This way there are no repurcussions for them leaving, especially if they have to go back if they have no where to go ...
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I didn't see the Larry King interview. However, I have seen some interviews on another station. I thought the women were so robotic.
I was listen to the news while I was getting ready to go somewhere and I heard that it's going to be very hard to figure who child belongs to whom. On little one called this woman by her first name, and the woman said, I'm Mommy (whatever the name). Obviously these children are living in multiple families, and probably call these women by their first names.
I believe I heard there were 16 yo married to older men. Polygamy is against the law. Who I feel so badly for are the children. I think I feel especially badly for the older children who have been taught not to trust the government and that they would go to hell because of certain things they did (I suppose away from the compound). They would probably be afraid to testify.
This is a hard one. However, I do feel like these "old" men are taking advantage of children. And the women...what the heck! But that's all they know. Or that's all most of them know.
Women have escaped this lifestyle. I'm sure many women would not want to leave because they may not have anywhere to go. Just like women who have not held jobs may fell in mainstream America.
Shirley
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I have been keeping up with it and think they did it the right way by removing the children and sorting that out first, although I have little faith in CPS and the children ending up in foster care. It is a bit of a catch 22.
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Those poor little kids must be so scared, they could at least let the mom's go with them. Arrest the men who abused them or for having too many wives but let the innocents keep their homes.
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The women want their children back in the home. They do not want to stay.
I heard a woman who had escaped from one of these groups. She said it they change the birth certificates yearly so the children can be identified. Sorry, can't quote her exact words. However, DNA testing was asked about. I suppose they could at least find out who the mothers are through testing. I doubt any of the men would come forward.
Something is really weird with these women. Stepford (sp) wifes?
Shirley
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The sad thing, RM, is that I don't think a lot of the women want out, because they're so brainwashed by the cult. If the the brainwashing was less pervasive and didn't start from infancy, the probably would be happier to leave the ranch.
I agree with Paulette that is was right to remove the children, if they remained in the envirnment of the abuse with all the physical reminders, it would be even harder for them to talk about the abuse since the abuse effected every area of their lives. Under normal circumstances I would agree with not removing the kids, but there was no area of that ranch where the victims were not indoctrinated, not their dorms, school, church, cafeteria or play area.
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If the Larry King interview is repeated, and the other interviews done by CNN journalists, it is definitely worth watching. Larry interviewed one of the women who left a few years ago, with her children. She said her former husband has about 20 wives. He took the babies and spanked them until they cried and cried, and then turned on the kitchen tap and put the babies under the tap face up. When they stopped crying he repeated this "water torture," until they were exhausted. His reasoning was he wanted the children to always fear him, but not remember the water torture incidents. There was also beating of some of the wives, and they were kept in line by threatening to punish the children. When she was a child, she came to school and saw a friend whose arm had been burned by a lightbulb.
Also, when the boys reach a certain age, they are thrown out of the ranch and forced to survive on their own. They are often distraught because the ranch is all they know. They don't know how to live in the outside world, and often turn to drugs and alcohol to survive. There was some indication that some boys may commit suicide because they are forced to leave.
How can these women break away from this world they live in? How can they watch the boys that are their children be thrown out of the ranch? I hope they can get to the bottom of how these women have been abused psychologically and emotionally by watching their children being treated so horribly, or threatened with punishment of the children.
I am also saddened that these children will have so many adjustments to make in this outside world--where all of us are known as the devil's spawn--we are considered the damned.
There was quite a discussion on the View yesterday, and again, the comments cropped up as to why the men aren't being interviewed and held accountable for what they have done. And where were the men? Why aren't they fighting to get the children back? Why are they using the women to fight their battle? It seems that they should be able to use the testimony of this former wife to help put these men in jail.
I just hope they can get the children to really talk about what goes on. -
I heard on the news today that some of the children had broken bones.
With all the children I wonder if some of these mothers just do not bond.
The men are creeps. They probably aren't coming forward because they're afraid they'd be thrown in jail.
I also heard they did swabs on each child when thet "rescued" them. They're going to try to find out their family tree. That should be fun!
Shirley
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i find the entire thing so sickening, i just don't understand why these women would get involved with this and why these men are not arrested and thrown in jail as soon as the police find out that they are polygamists. i feel so sorry for the innocent children and i think that once they find out who the mother is, each child should be given back to her, providing that the mother is fit and leaves the compound, what a mess!!
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Blue, I don't think they can arrest them for polygamy since the men are probably not legally married to more than one woman. One woman is usually the legal wife and the others might be "consecrated" in a church ceremony but not recognized by law. That's why they have to go after them for marrying underage girls.
I can't imagine being a mom and having to kick my son off the property! Did anyone watch Big Love these past years? Bill, the patriarch of the family, was kicked off the ranch since all the 50 yo men wanted the young girls, they don't want the young bucks attracting the young does!
Oprah had a show about polygamy and there are some polygamous marriages that aren't isolated like this community ... the wives and their hubby were on the show and they looked so normal.
Here's what I read now about the men (but who would believe them?):
A church lawyer, Rod Parker, said the 60 or so men remaining on the 1,700-acre ranch have offered to leave the compound if the state would allow the women and children to return to the place with child welfare monitors. But the state Children's Protective Services agency said it had not yet seen the offer and had no comment on it.
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I lived in southern Utah for a number of years. I've also been to the FLDS compound in Colorado City, located outside of St. George, where Jeffs was prosecuted recently. Their followers believe themselves to be the true Mormon church. I shopped with them at Cosco, Walmart, etc. St. George was the nearest town for them to buy their supplies. They were easy to distinguish by their dress. The children have been raised from birth in that culture. The first time I went through their town was about 30 years ago. At that time, the polygamists were self-supporting through farming and ranching. Since that time, the "sister-wives" and their children are all on welfare and the communities are very poor. They live just across the State line in a very remote region of Arizona. I lived in So. Utah a few years ago. A lot had changed. The children and families of the polygamists are now shopping and getting what they need from St. George and they can now see how the rest of the world lives.
The young girls are now coming forward and talking about what is happening in their town. But, getting to them and getting them out is very difficult. They are tightly guarded. Outsiders are noticed immediately. They have their own police department, schools, etc., and in the case of Colorado City, everything was owned by Jeffs.
The same thing with the compound in Texas. A young girl made a call for help. Polygamy is illegal. She was not legally married to the man. They only have one legal wife. She was underage. The govt. stepped in and removed her.
The other issue with polygamy in Colorado City and the other compounds in Utah and Texas is incest. Because of the tight knit community, the families are all intertwined.
Big Love on HBO doesn't show the true story of polygamy. There are some polygamists in No. Utah who live somewhat like that show, but the vast majority are not. The women are oppressed and abused. One man controls all the land, money, and decides who gets to live where and who gets to marry which young girl.
I'm not Mormon BTW .. I just loved living in my little cabin in the mountains of southern Utah.
Edited to add - FLDS is Fundamentalist Latter Day Saints, Mormons who practice polygamy.
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Shirley you make an excellent point about bonding.
Unfortunately, the men in the cult found another way to proverbally screw the women and children. Since they can only have one legal wife, many their other wives have stolen from the welfare system by claiming to be single women with children, which is a federal offense. I have a feeling the prosecuters might drop those charges or not file in exchange for the women's testimony against the men for any abuse, but the women are so brainwashed to believe they will be sinning if they do, who knows.
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In the local news...for now the children will remain in custody of the state and the judge did order genetic testing to begin.
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Bottom line the men must be held accountable for what they've done it's an absolute must. I saw on the news that the mothers had the choice to stay with their children, but didn't, they seemed smart enought not to answer certain questions. And how sad to have a son and worry and wonder what and when they will have to leave. And where are these young men now, so much curiousity about this. When when I watched them on GMA repeating over and over this is about the children, I had to wonder if it's really about the children why didn't the mothers stay with them, I know they are brainwashed and raised in that culture so they went back to their compound without their children. I would love to see an interview of the women who chose to stay with there children, and not go back to the compound. I really felt sorry for the women at first, I have to two sons and nothing could have stopped me from being with them. So I wonder what the courts will think of that. I also wonder what kind of health care these women have received, and where. It is all so sad. I'm so glad the 16 year old girl made the call, and hope she is getting really good counselling now, I can't imagine the what she herself is going through. I'm going to see if I can find the Larry King show on the net and watch it.
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I think the mother's are in a precarious situation when it comes to staying or leaving and since they were in constant communication with the ranch they might have been told to leave. Also, since they are really not sure which mothers belong to which children it is hard to say why some stayed and others left. According to the local news the mother's gave evasive answers as to which children actually belonged to the. When it is all sorted out the mother's may be liable for those ubtruths as well. I believe the mothers will need deprogramming as well as the children and that is if they choose to do so. I also read that the mothers as well as the children are not as mature as outsiders of the same age range and this could affect their decisions to leave or stay.
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In the best interest of the children, I think removing them was the right thing to do. I feel for the children, and the mothers. The men definately need to be held accountable. But the government and law officials could not stand by and allow abuse, sexual or otherwise happen without preventing and protecting those children. It's a very sad, sad situation.
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It's hard to imagine any teenage or pre-teen, for that matter, wanting to marry a 50yo man ... and to top it off, these old men don't even look attractive to me .... I know for them, it's not about looks, it's about their religion and brainwashing but if they can get the girls out, hopefully this cultish behaviour can get behind them.
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It has also been reported that young women are moved from one compound or ranch to another--so they are separated from their "family;" the purpose being to provide the older men with more young women to become their "wives." These men are abusing the womens' rights! IMHO
And because they are not legally married, the 2nd wife and on up (to as many as 20) can declare themselves a single parent and obtain welfare benefits. I don't know how the government will prove that and prosecute.
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Unfortunately, it is never behind them (the children and teens). When they leave or are removed from their community they are excommunicated and are never allowed contact with their families or extended families. They are virtually alone without family and the only life they have every known in the world. This is particularly traumatizing for the younger children. The compound in Texas was established in 2004 by Jeffs. He sent members from the two polygamist towns of Hilldale and Colorado City in So. Utah to start that compound. Colorado City is actually in Arizona, but it is run completely by the FLDS. And yes, the sister-wives and children are on the Ariz. welfare system. Typically what happens is the men apply for credit cards to purchase big ticket items, such as trucks, washer/dryers, etc. When their credit runs out, they have their sons or other men in the compound apply for more credit cards. They are in extreme debt. There are very few jobs in those two towns and all businesses are owned by Jeffs. This is how they survive financially, bad credit and sister wives welfare. The women born and raised in these two towns rarely have an education beyond 8th grade. Can you imagine their fear of having to live in an open society and raise their children, most have between 4 to 11 children, with no family and no education. I read today that 4 of the women were willing to claim their children and try to get jobs and leave the compound.
I personally knew a woman polygamist in Utah with nine children. She struggled to support them on her own, return to school and get a job.
The "Lost Boys" are removed from their communities because they want to take jobs outside the community, go to college, have only one wife, etc. These young men have seen the outside world because they have to travel outside the communities now for basic needs. They can now see television at Walmart and read the paper when they are in town. They are thrown out on the streets in St. George with no family, no job, no home and no education. They are shunned by the mainstream Mormon church.
They will move their children from place to place to keep them hidden. The men depend on the women to protect them. Jeffs finally was prosecuted because one young woman was strong enough to suffer the loss of her family and all she knew to see it through to the end.
It will be a very sad day for those 416 children when the DNA tests are analyzed and they come under great scrutiny. Hopefully, their identities will be kept secret. The inbreeding in those communities will have a profound emotional effect on those children if the DNA results and family trees are made public information.
I can only hope those horrible men, puppets of Warren Jeffs, end up in the same place he is now. Prison.
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Stupid men! And why should our welfare system help any of these people. They don't want to follow our laws. They impregnate girls as young as 13. To think what a young girl must go through in order to give birth to a baby. I'm sure (at least I hope) they don't do C-sections.
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Shirley,
Practically speaking, at least for the main community in Colorado City, AZ, it is so remote, just across the state line from Utah, that the AZ welfare and legal officials don't ever travel that far or investigate improprieties. They "unofficially" close their eyes to it. It's common knowledge in that area. The young women's babies are delivered by midwives or if necessary at the hospital in St. George and it's paid for by medi-cal. Again, common knowledge for all who live in that area. Most of the young wives are between the ages of 14-18 years-old.
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And religious sects (non-Mormon related) are worried that gay marriages will ruin the definition of "marriage." Seems like there are enough straight marriages to destroy the sanctity of marriage all by themselves.
Not only do straight marriages have over 50% divorce rate, but now we can add polygamy to this.
The young woman interviewed by CNN, Fox, and MSNBC was the wife of Merle Jessups, who still controls his own compound and has over 20 wives as well as (I think) more than 100 children. She provided the information on how the welfare system was used; how the wives were threatened and kept in line with the punishment of their children; the physical and psychological abuse of the wives; throwing the teenage boys out of the compound/ranch; and the lack of birth certificates or changes made yearly to the certificates.
I think that by keeping the members of the sect inside the compound, and policing the perimeters so the outside "world" doesn't see what's going on has allowed this control and abuse to continue. From what I understand it is virtually impossible for someone/anyone outside the sect to gain access/visit the compound/ranch. I thought I read somewhere that they have guns to shoot any intruders.
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I agree that our welfare system shouldn't pay for this. People shouldn't have kids if they can't afford them-- it's probably unpopular to say that-- but kids deserve better than that.
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I also read at the Arizona compound or city or whatever it is, that there are genetic defects in a lot of the people due to the inbreeding...I forget what it is called but it was very prevalent.
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The AZ and UT "compounds" are actually towns completely owned by Warren Jeffs. They're a few miles apart. I've been in both of them. The one in Texas was an enclosed compound, also owned by Jeffs, which surrounded their temple, but also had homes on the outside of the compound. I knew of one family in Utah of 8 children, where 4 of the kids had a degenerative muscular disease and would die by the age of 12.
Amy, finances has nothing to do with whether or not the FLDS or LDS have children. The Mormons believe it is pre-ordained by God how many children they will have. The FLDS religion teaches them to be fruitful and multiply. It's part of their faith and religion. It's also how they keep their communities growing.
The two towns in Utah are really poor. The houses look like big ramshackle apartment buildings. They start out as small houses. When a man adds a wife, he adds on another section to the existing house. Architecture and landscaping don't play a role in it. You never see any men outside. Only women and lots of young children.
Believe me, they are very aware when you are driving down their dusty little streets. They know every single second there is an outsider in their community.
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BinVA,
Thank you for all of the information and knowledge about these communities and their way of living that you have shared with us. I find much of it, well..actually...very creepy. Again, I feel so bad for the children. They are the innocent victims.
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You're welcome!!!
I loved Utah so much. After my divorce in San Diego, I moved to a log cabin in the moutains about 30 miles north of St. George. I explored all the time and was fearless (crazy is probably a better word for it)!
Yes, the children are innocents.
Bren
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Aw, a log cabin. I've always wanted a log cabin. They look so cozy, comfy and peaceful. Only thing is, do you have to clean a log cabin? LOL
Well, at least the FLDS in Texas is nice. Very neat and clean looking. Seems like someone had money to build all those nice cabins. Poor kids. They will now separate the mothers from the less than 4 year old children. This all must be so traumatic for them.
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Paulette, I forget the name of what it's called too-- I learned the "proper name" for inbreeding during genetic testing. That's the reasons Jews are more likely to have one of the BC genes and also illnesses like tay sachs...
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