I am also now officially "Palliative"

Hope you are doing well Joanne.

Joanne, You are incredible.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Kerry 

Joanne.. Sending you many many prayers and love from the UK ...please know that I have been holding you close in my heart every day xxx  You are so very special xxx

Me too Joy....>>>>BUMP<<<<<

((((((Joanne)))))))

We are thinking of you.

Traci

Joanne,

Like many of the other posters, I think about you as well and hope hospice is a comfort to you like it sounds (i.e. they promise you no pain and that you will not suffocate).

Did hospice come to your house for the interview/assessment? My MIL's daughter is handling those arrangements and is making several calls.  Reason I'm asking is it's getting to the point where my MIL doesn't even enjoy going out anymore cause of how she feels. She goes through the motions as far as she'll ask about going out and make plans but she always cancels. Even when we go visit her, our visits are very brief (she'll be looking forward to our visits and then ask us to leave after about 10-15 mins). She also used to love chatting on the telephone but now when we talk to her, it seems like sometimes she can't get off the phone with us fast enough. 

She has two grown children and 5 grandchildren (3 adult grandchildren from her daughter and 2 young grandchildren - 8 and 2 from her son and I). It's sad watching her slowly slip away and kind of withdraw into her own little cocoon but we all continue to reach out to her and let her know we are there for her. She's been divorced for over 20 years so she has been independent and living on her own for a long time so this is extremely hard for her being dependent on others to help her with things.

I just wish we could do more for her (even though I know in our heart) we are doing the best we can and will continue to do. I don't think she has changed her mind about the radiation (she is 69 years old and already pretty frail and fatigued), I can't imagine it getting worse with the fatigue but with everything I have heard and read about radiation it's supposed to be like fatigue you never experienced before.

Joanne, I am so sorry for loading my story off on you because you already have so much on your plate but I find it comforting posting because it is very difficult getting my MIL to open up (even though she is my MIL not my mom, we have a very close relationship) and she doesn't open up with her son or daughter very well either.

Thanks again for your messages.  I am thinking of you and your family, especially your children. Yes, it will be hard leaving them but you can take comfort in that they have each other and will look out for one another even after you are gone.

I will pray for you. Take Care

Maddie

Hi J...haven't stopped thinking about you and praying since I first read your post. Just dropping by to say "peace"...love, Mena...xo

Me too, Joanne 

I think of you often, my amazing and courageous friend.

Lisa

Joanne , I'm thinking of you daily.xxxx

Joanne....just wanted to tell you that I think about you every time I come online here, wondering how you are.....hoping that things are going okay.  Hugs, honey.  I so admire your strength.

Ter,

I am so sorry you are going thru this alone right now.  I can't even imagine how you're doing it.  I really don't know what to say, I do want you to know that we are all thinking of you too!!  Is there anyone you can call that can be with you?  Are you able to go visit your husband while he's in the hospital?  I'm thinking its not the grand plan to have you die alone.  And I'm holding onto positive thoughts for you!!!!!

g

... her blog is so beautiful and I hold on to her posts .... Joanne we miss you terribly xxx

Hi,

I'm new here. Joanne and I were friends for about 6 years. We met on another bc site and I saw all y'all mentioned on her blog.

Jes wanted to say thank you to everyone for all your support of her during her time here with you. She was a wonderful woman and a blessing as a friend. We shared a lot together and I'm going to miss her. I appreciate what all y'all did for her.

P.S. Elsewhere, I'm known as Hope but I see you have one here already so 'squids' is who I am here.

Dear Joanne,

I have not been on the boards for a while...last time was a post for my friend who is also dealing with a new diagnosis of brain mets..she is triple negative too. I am praying for my friend as I do for all of us here and those that are unknown. You sound like a wise and precious woman....your family and friends are blessed to know you. We all live our lives now.....one day at a time. I send you many beautiful days with your loved one.

Love Always,

Terry Rumore, Sister 

Terry joanne's brother has a post in recurrence and met disease.  Joanne has earned her wings also.  sad news