Tenderly Leaving This Mighty Group

Tender -

Like so many women here, you came to my rescue once when I was in a very dark place, and I will never forget it.

I wish you all the best, and deleted posts or not, your legacy will remain here at bco - you will always be remembered for your kindness, knowledge, strength and compassion.

Anne, I don't think the administrators/bc.org personnel removed her posts because the message left where Tender had posts is that she deleted them.  I thought there were only four possibilities - a community deletion, a bco-admin deletion, a technical support deletion that completely eliminates all trace of a post, or a message left by the person who wrote the post saying the message was deleted by them.

I would bet my savings this organization did not remove Tender's wonderful posts.  I think perhaps she just wanted to leave without a footprint in the sand of the time she shared here. We were lucky she bestowed us with herself for the time she was here.  We happened to be here while she was too - and I feel fortunate for that much.  I know you feel the loss too.  A great loss. Although I don't know anything for certain, I believe Tender just gathered her words together - maybe not realizing how very much they would be missed - and cleared them away probably feeling she was just leaving room for someone new.    But no one can take her place.  Maybe she'll come back someday to visit. I hope so.  

Wow, I didn't even get a chance to read the post explaining her departure.  Is there trouble in her family?  Does she just need to separate herself from bc?  I'll miss you so much, Tender!  You were such an important part of these boards.  I don't know if you realize how many people you've helped with your infinite knowledge.  Thank you for everything!!!  I hope you come back occasionally to let us know how you're doing.  We love you!

Hugs,

Karen

TENDERRRR !!!!

I do not know what you said but you surely must have some time for your bc sisters.

COME BACK !!!

Aylin 

Yes, this is much worse than I first thought.

Since joining this group in January, I've learned to look forward to Tender's posts on difficult or awkward subjects.  Tender has always spoken with a calm voice and sensible words.  She has been a teacher to those of us who needed lightning-fast education about handling a BC diagnosis.

I figured at least we would have an archive of her posts, to help the newcomers through this maze and to remind the rest of us how we should behave here--with grace and maturity and patience.

But apparently Tender has decided she must take away her words--so she's leaving only empty footprints.

So sad....and such a personal, irrevocable decision.  I know all of us who knew Tender through this board wish her the best and hope she finds the peace-of-mind she has always offered to us.

otter 

Hi Tender,

I read every one of your posts.  I will miss you greatly.

Sue 

Tender,

I did not get to see your farewell post so I have no idea what is going on or why your posts have been deleted.  Good luck to you in the future.  I always thought your posts were very informative and thoughtful.  You will be missed.

We will miss you Tender.  I hope all is well and that there is no crisis.  My prayers are with you.

I always appreciated your wealth of knowledge and gentle spirit.  You will be sorely missed on the boards.

Oh, we love you so very much, dearest Tender! 

We are so glad to have you back. 

So, when do you reveal your true identity? 

Love and prayers, Deb

Tender,

We're grateful to have your posts reinstated and even more grateful to have you back.  Your light shines as brightly as the August sunshine.  Do hope all is well in your life.

Jelly

Yo! Tender!!!  So happy to see you back here and can't tell you how much you were missed!!!

I thank all the universe that rotated and brought you here to us!

I love you, Shirley and Dotti. 

I bet you both are hilarious to hang out with!