What can I expect - As death approaches

lbmt · February 2008

i will continue to pray ,,regina,one and two,,

and i will pray there will be ones close to you that can share some of the time with you, to help you make memories for them and you.

hugs so many hugs, and prayers. laurie

lbmt · February 2008

can anyone give me an update how regina is, and regina 2 and slonedeb..thank you laurie

lbmt · March 2008

just me again, i see there has been no more updates,

if anyone has one that would be wonderful

thank you,,,,

you are both in my prayers this day,

Bren-2007 · March 2008

I don't know Regina, but Slonedeb has been posting on the "I dream" thread in the Wagon Circle of Moving Beyond, and also in the Wagon Circle thread. She is starting a new chemo and has asked for our prayers.

Hope to see you posting there.

B.

dreamwriter · March 2008

Regina II is doing fine for now. May be facing progression - will not know for sure until tests are done. So cross fingers everyone.

AnnNYC · March 2008

Dreamwriter/"Regina II",

My fingers are crossed for best test results for you.

Hugs,

Ann

gsg · March 2008

I just checked under ReginaOH's name and it shows last activity March 17th of this year. So, Regina, if you are logging in and checking this thread, please know that I think about you a lot and have wondered how you were doing and hope you are comfortable and surrounded by the ones you love.

my fingers are also crossed for Regina II and Slonedeb for good news in the days ahead.

Ter · June 2008

Regina,

I dont have any specific answers, as i do know that when one is born G*d also has a day when they will leave this earth, during this time between is the "DASH" the dates between being born and the date of dying, THOSE are the days that are SOOOO important and how you handle them. There is a poem about the "dash" and if I can find it I will send it to you, as that dash is what is important and it seems you know that, by caring so much for your family. Do what you can, and keep those good thoughts.

Lots of love and prayers going out to you.

Ter

spar2 · June 2008

I have a friend that died from breast cancer and she knew she only had a few days left and she would wait until she could see all her grandkids one more time.
They all came from different states and spent the evening with her and she died during the night. I don't know how she knew but she did. It still gives me goosebumps when I think of it. She also had a wonderful relationship with God.

slonedeb · June 2008

girls i am still here and facing a new tx as they found cancer in the spinal fluid that is around my brain it isnt in the brain she said a tiny cancer cell was floating around in the fluid i dont know if this us bwtter ot worst than being in the brain does any one know i had a seizer three weeks ago while i was deiving and wrecked my car thats when they found the cancer in my fluid thank you ladies for asking about me please continue to pray for me god bless al of you debsoone from ky

wishiwere · June 2008

Of course prayers are continuing for you deb, now and always. I'm so sorry to hear about your accident. Hope everyone was okay. Obviously you are, but dang it's not what you needed huh? Please know you are always in our prayers as you continue this strong fight!

Regina too if you are reading post, you ladies are always in the forefront of our prayers.

LEMartin · June 2008

Regina's I will keep you both in my prayers. Please share special moments with your family as it is a journey for all of you. My mom peacefully went home on Easter 2008. She too, as spar2 shared, hung in until her sisters, grandchildren and children arrived from different states. One of the most poignant moments was her grandchildren surrounding her bed when she opened her eyes, looked at each one, told them how much she loved them and that she was sorry for leaving them. That was the last true communication we received from her. She passed away peacefully the next day surrounded by her family.

north · June 2008

No worries, you will be fine. My wife passed 5 weeks ago, 41, mother of 2 great boys and wife of 21 years. She said "We will be fine, all of us". She's right... Thanks

dreamwriter · September 2008

I believe I have become Regina II. I had a bit of a scare last month with a collapsed lung and had to get a chest tube (not one of my favourite procedures). However, I believe it did some good overall. I must the the most important part of the wind-down is the consistency of friends. You cannot call yourself a friend then not call when she is sick. It is not fair to either of you. My friend Jacqueline is trying xeloda in a last ditch effort to fending off this cancer. I wish I could hug her everyday. But someone from these boards saw my complaint and offered to come and get me and bring me to Jacqueline. And she did. It made a world of difference for Jacqueline and for me. I am so thankful. The memory of that day will always be a sweet one.

Roya · September 2008

Regina, I will write to you about 3 experiences, one of which is my own. I hope that these experiences will help you with your question about what to expect as death approaches. I will have to write each one separately since they can be rather lengthy if written all at once.

The first story is of a friend of my mine who had HIV aids. Even before he began to grow weak physically, he would tell me what it was like to know that one is going to die. One of the things that he told me is that a certain peace came with the knowledge that he was dying. Old values and concerns began to change and many things became less significant than before especially issues that dealt with the material aspects of life. He also said that as he grew closer to death he became more aware and feeling of life and spirit, almost to a degree of increased psychic awareness. There was a certain knowing that we do not end as beings after our physical bodies cease to serve our earthly needs. He said that certain things tend to happen to let one know of these things and to give assurance. The night he died, he was in hopice. I was not there but I remember the most peaceful feeling of love that one could ever imagine coming over me when he died . It was a feeling that was overwhelmingly unbelievably filled with an indescribable sensation of peace and love. It was a feeling that existed both in body and spirit at the same time. Later, I found out that my friend had died during the time that I had experienced those feelings...........and thats how I sensed his death before I heard about it. Later, several of his other friends told me that they had experienced the same feelings at the time of his death. We believe that was his way of letting us know that he had left us physically. At the same time he let us know that his energy was somehow with us. I wish I could explain this better. Over the years this experience has been a great comfort to me along with the others that I will share with you later.

I hope that this helps.

Love and blessings,

Roya

sbmolee · October 2008

Several years ago when my father passed away from colon/liver cancer after only 18 short days from dx, Hospice gave me a book on the stages of dying. It gave a description of the physical changes as well as the mental changes for the stages. If I recall correctly, the stages were 6-12 months, 3-6 months, weeks and days. It was very much like Roya describes in that the closer the time came the less connected to the physical and more connected to spiritual and internal a person goes. My father lost interest in his favorite tv shows, foods and pasttimes. As things progressed he lost all interest in food, events in the world, the weather, etc. In the end, he would be awake but with his eyes closed - going somewere internal. He would occassionally talk but kept withdrawing. It was so fast but the book was so right on and even months after his passing - I read the book and could see him going thru the stages - just more rapidly.

You are in my prayers.

Love and Blessing, sbmolee

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