This Day Has Been To Long!
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I'm not sure where to put this post, so I just picked here. We seem to have so many women that are not doing well. And the news of Erin has just made me really sad. On top of that, my x was dx with liver cancer today. He's a really good friend, and father to our children. And then a client called me today to say that when she saw me the other day she wondered if my cancer was back because I was "so skinny". After I hung up...I just lost it. I guess I'm just feeling at a loss today. I feel very "puny" in this great big wacky world. Everyone reading this....be here on Monday OK! Stay well!!
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Editing because I can't even keep names straight...so sorry!!
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Oh, g, I'm so sorry you've had such a crappy day/week! It sounds like to need to step back a bit and indulge in some self-care. It does seem bizarre and jarring when things are just popping up all over. I'd say a visit to the spa is in order, ya know? Or, if that's not possible, how about renting a movie or a book that will take you right out of this world and curling up in your comfiest clothes with some champagne and a box of chocolate truffles? Beer & wings? Whatever....you get my drift!
~Marin
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Marin...I like the way you think!! Thanks for the words...I will do that. I'm going to check off the boards for the w/e with some truffles and wine! I hope you have a good w/e!
g
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Hi G -
I've been away from the boards for awhile...moving beyond and with purpose, but I too still relate to days such as this and I feel for YOU today. There are never proper words or enough hugs to compensate for loss so great. It hurts so very much. I cringe at the age old saying, "when it rains, it pours", but it seems to rear its ugly head from time to time.
I think Fitchik has offered up the greatest of advise...make it a day of self-care. Reflect, indulge, remember. Today stinks, however tomorrow is a whole new day to embrace and conquer. The Sun will come up...tomorrow".
Sending heartfelt warmth and wishes for...A bright new day.
Affectionately,
Michelle
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I'm sorry, g, that you are having such a crappy time. I'm really sorry to hear about your x. And losing another young women to this disease is so sad beyond words. And knowing others are going through such difficult times with this disease is horrible.
Take care of YOU.
Shirley
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I agree with the others. I'm so sorry to hear about your x. And the women who are taken down in their prime due to this hideous disease is just horrifying!
Try to do something just for you! I like the champagne idea!
Hugs,
Harley
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Little-G, your post kind of hit home with me.
Last year my ex was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis (usually fatal within 2-3 years) and it threw me for such a loop. I don't love him anymore, not in *that* way, but what got me was that I had always assumed that if my BC returned and I died young, my kids would always have their dad at least. This diagnosis threw all that down the crapper. Well his disease is in an early stage so he's likely to live much longer than 2-3 years. But I know what you mean; it's such a shock to learn this kind of news.
Best of luck to you.
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Thank you all ladies, for all the kind words. They really mean alot to me!! It helps to hear them when you're down. Well, I did get out of town for the w/e. We went to my son's state gymnastics meet and stayed over night. Then the next day we (hubby and son) went hiking at Smith Rock. It was a BEAUTIFUL day!! And just what I needed to snap me back to what we have now. It's so important to make the time we DO have worthwhile. We all need to step back once in a while and do that. The sky was SO blue yesterday. I just kept saying how awesome it was, after a while DH and son just looked at me like I was a little crazy :-) Oh well!
Carol...that is alot of what I was thinking too. I did think if something happened to me, that they would at least have their dad. I'm not sure how that's going to go yet. Not that anybody is given a guarantee of how long you'll hang around, but, well, you all know what I mean. I am so glad I have my husband. Sometimes I wonder if my x and I splitting up was a grand plan. At least I do have someone that will take care of them and who loves them as much as me and their dad. Oh OK..enough of that for today.
I hope its not a long week. I did read about Shepgirl. :-(
Thank you ladies!!!!!!! I really can't tell you how comforting it is to have all of you "here." It means alot to me!!
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