Question for the Non-Recon Ladies
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Hello all,
Over the last 3 years I have had two bouts of breast cancer, surgeries, chemo, rads - the whole shebang. The worst part was a (post cancer treatment) full year of fighting a staph infection and going through wound care culminating in a mastectomy with no recon (thanks to all the prior radiation).
So, I wear a prosthesis at work. I have two amoena "boobs" - one goes in a bra pocket, the other is a "sticky" one that I can wear next to my skin. Neither of them feels comfortable when I'm working out, but I feel really self conscious if I don't look "even" in public.
I have finally returned to the gym as of last week, and I am struggling with the fake boob thing...
The only alternative I have to wearing the fake boob is to wear a really loose T-shirt with a sports bra, but wearing such a large baggy t-shirt feels like I'm wearing a blanket when I start to sweat.
So, I'm interested in hearing what others in this situation do?
Thanks in advance for any advice or suggestions!
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I have 3 cotton tank-tops that came with built-in shelf bras. Since I had a bilat, I got those puffy fiber-fill forms and sewed them in the tanks. I just throw the whole thing in the wash, boobs and all. I wear a t-shirt over the top. I figure no one is going to be looking at the 44-year-old fat chick sweating on the treadmill. I just went for comfort....could care less what I look like.
Good luck
Deb C
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Deb - you crack me up!
I generally am very much of the same mindset - I guess I am feeling overly self-conscious because I'm working out in a gym with co-workers.
With one C/D cup "real" boob on the left and nothing on the right, well, it feels like everybody will notice. I won't feel uncomfortable, but I'm afraid THEY will.
But they all know my story, so I guess I need to lighten up and realize they don't care.
Oy.
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Donna-
It is so funny. Before I had cancer I NEVER, not once noticed when a woman had one breast and didn't wear a form. Since my Dx I know no less than 8 women in my little town who have had either one or both breasts removed and don't wear forms. I never "saw" that before I was tuned in to mastectomy. That is one of the things that has made me WAY less self aware. One of the gals I have since gotten to know has one DD sized boob and doesn't bother to wear a form. I have no idea how I knew her casually for years and never noticed until I had my own Bilat mast. It gave me the sense of freedom....I doubt anyone but me notices my boobs, or lack there-of. Have fun at the gym....
Deb C
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Deb -
Thank you for level-headed advice! Going forward, I am going to focus on what's comfortable and quit worrying about what other people might notice. The important thing is to get some exercise.
You raise such a great point about not paying attention to other women's boobs. If someone IS paying attention, well, good for them.
Thanks again!
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Donna,
I had a right mastectomy and wear a form. My remaining breast is large--DD or DDD and my form is size 11 or 12---big! I also work out but i do not wear a sports bra, just a regular bra with a pocket. The bras i wear are not the typical mast. bra tho, much less material and much more sexy, but still supportive. I work out 3 times a week and have no problems. I would have problems now with the sports bras that i used to wear in my double-girl days. Have you tried using a regular bra instead of a sports bra? I am too self-conscious to go out one-boobed since there is a huge difference between flat side and my other boob.
celia
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Celia - do you wear your fake boob while working out?
The reason I was thinking of wearing a sports bra when I work out (without a form) is that it "smooshes" my real boob to be less noticeable. But I still feel like I need to wear a baggy t-shirt to hide the "asymmetry"...lol
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Donna, yes i do wear the fake boob when i work out. Once the bra and boob is on me i feel totally normal, until i touch something with my fake boob (like lean against a table) and then i feel the difference. I don't run on the treadmill but i walk quite fast on it and i lift weights and do other stuff and i don't bounce around because my bras are really good (fitted at Nordstrom's). I am not aware of my fake boob at all. I do wear baggy tshirts because tighter ones are much less comfortable when moving around.
edited to add: I would rather wear my fake with a regular bra and no sports bra then go without the fake and be conscious of it. I exercise in a situation with men and women and they are friendly and come talk while you are on the treadmill,so I feel normal with both boobs and enjoy the socializing--makes the time go by faster.
edited again---judging from what you wrote, in my opinion you would be spending your exercise time adjusting your clothes and trying to hide your real boob and checking it to see if it looked ok. That might be a big impediment to exercising..jmo
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I had bil. mastectomies (lft. lumpectomy and radiation at age 42, rt. lumpectomy and rad. at 48 with 3rd prim. at 49 with mastectomies). I am now 52 and I go to the gym 4-5 days a week with cardio. and strength training. I use a mastectomy sports bra with light-weight prostheses and have no problems at all. I also take Pilates x2 a week and even with the stretching Thelma and Louise (the little ones) stay in place. I too now notice other ladies and have discovered that most of the more fit appearing gals don't appear to have much more naturally than I do with my girls on! Keep trying for a solution that works for you.
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I bought softees, but I think the american cancer society sells something like them. They are bras with soft inserts that you can make as big or small as you want. So comfortable and so natural looking.
Kate
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Try the Amoena 126 Leisure form. You may have to try on a few of them to find the right size to match your squished boob in an exercise bra, but I have found it to be the most comfortable. They are inexpensive, and it's a good idea to have a few of them since they take a while to dry after you wash them.
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djd,
You might try posting your question on the prosthesis/no recon topic of these boards. Everybody there is dealing with the same issue--what to do with a flat side? There have recently been active threads about prostheses for heavy workouts, what to wear while swimming, stick-on vs. slip-in, mast bras vs. sports bras vs. regular bras with pockets, etc. It's a really great place to go to get advice on those sorts of things.
otter
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