My Mum's cancer is spreading

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Jodster
Jodster Member Posts: 5
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer
My Mum's cancer is spreading
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  • Jodster
    Jodster Member Posts: 5
    edited February 2008

    My mum has been fighting cancer for about 5yrs now. She has had breast cancer twice then it went to one of her lungs. Just before christmas last year they found a tumour on her hip and have removed most of it as well as doing a hip replacement which just before that operation they found the cancer was back in herlungs as one of her lungs collapsed. She is at the point that she has had enough and she will not be receiving anymore treatment for her cancer. After talking to her today and asking her questions, the cancer is very aggressive and spreading fast. Her other lung can give way at anytime. i am finding it very hard to deal with as I have only 5 weeks to go before I have my 3rd baby. I am getting councelling. It scares me to know that I could lose her tonight or next week. i keep asking myself how long has she really got left.

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  • JoyRebecca
    JoyRebecca Member Posts: 787
    edited February 2008

    Jodster, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum. It sounds like she's made her peace. She is very lucky to have a supportive daughter. I'm glad to hear you're getting some help dealing with this very difficult time.

    You'll be in my thoughts.

    XX

    Joy

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2008

    Jodster, I am so very sorry about your situation with you dear Mother. I agree with Joy that it's good that you're getting help in dealing with this. You're in my prayers and so is your sweet Mum. Good luck with the new baby.

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  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited February 2008

    If your mom is choosing no further treatment, has she considered Hospice?  They help provided to the whole family by a good hospice group is astounding.  The counseling is usually excellent as well.

    I'm so sorry your mom is having such a rough time and that you are as well.

    Take care of you and the wee one.

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  • Jodster
    Jodster Member Posts: 5
    edited February 2008

    Yeah they have looked at sticking her in a hospice but they are full where we are and when a bed comes available they will put her in there, but the maximum time they can stay there is 6 weeks.

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  • mrs_X_Sunneedazee
    mrs_X_Sunneedazee Member Posts: 541
    edited February 2008

    I am so sorry you are going through this.  Take care of yourself and that little baby.

    I know they do home hospice care.  Is that a possibility? 

    If you  have questions, or need support, this is the best place.

    I will pray for you, your mom and your family. 

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  • liz35
    liz35 Member Posts: 76
    edited February 2008

    Jodster~

    I know how you feel.   My mom's mets are in her liver.  She is triple neg so she has fewer treatment options then those who are not.  I get so scarded whan I start to think about her not being here.  So I try to be thankful she is here today and for the time I have right now.  

    Take care of yourself and that little baby.  I know that is what your mom wants.

    Liz

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  • Jodster
    Jodster Member Posts: 5
    edited February 2008

    Update so far.

    They have now started to give her morphine a little at a time to help with her breathing as she is starting to have trouble breathing a bit more. The doctors are giving her a month or two.

    I have told her to be strong as she is a very strong willed women. I only have 5 weeks o go till the baby is due and I am praying she will be here to see her grandchild.

    The hardest part at the moment is hearing her talk about her funeral which she is in the process of sorting out. I am spending as much time with her and just being ther for support.

    I have 2 other children which are very close to my mum and i am slowly breaking the news to them that she will not be with us much longer, they know she is getting sicker and i feel they do know that she will die.

    Will keep you posted with how she is going. 

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  • iodine
    iodine Member Posts: 4,289
    edited February 2008

    thanks for the update, Jodster, you are all in my thoughts.

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  • liz35
    liz35 Member Posts: 76
    edited February 2008

    Jodster~

    There is not much to say - just be strong and hang in there the best you can.  It sucks .... it just sucks.  I'll will pray for you, your mom and your family.  I am so sorry you have to go trough this, that your mom has to go through this.  It's just not fair!

    Liz 

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  • Jodster
    Jodster Member Posts: 5
    edited March 2008

    Thanks to everyone who replied to my post, but sadley on Tuesday 4th March at 1:22pm my mum past away.

    The sadest part is she didn't make it to see her 3rd grandchild which is due in 3 weeks, but I do know in a way that she will still be looking down on me and my family and she will see the baby then. I know she we will be with me when I have the baby.

    Thanks again 

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  • bellavida
    bellavida Member Posts: 41
    edited March 2008

    I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.



    Christina

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