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  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited February 2008

    As most of you know, my stepfather passed away last April at home.  We have been experiencing some weird phenomena lately and keep looking for rational explanations, but don't have any.  We really are trying to be rational and not jump to the conclusion that we are being visited by him just because it's something we would love to have happen...but honestly some of the things are hard to explain.

    Here's the occurrences.  The first one could be explained by maybe mom was just grieving and was so overcome, she thought she saw something.

    1.  Within a couple weeks after his death my mother was in bed crying.  She saw a dark cloudy mist descend over her.  She said she felt his presence completely envelope her from head to toe.  She suddenly felt comforted and stopped crying.  Once she settled down, she felt his presence leave. 

    2.  My brother is staying at my mom's right now.  He works on the highway and is a real down-to-earth, no nonsense kind of guy...hunter, sports type.  Two weeks ago, he made himself a cup of tea to drink while he was in bed watching TV before he went to sleep.  He gingerly carried the tea up the steps to his room (the room my stepfather died in).  He was mad at himself for overfilling the cup, but when he made it to the room, he was all proud that he hadn't spilled a drop.  And said something like...Yessss...not a drop spilled.  He set it down on the nightstand to let it steep, while he went into the bathroom to wash up to get ready for bed.  When he returned to the room, the tea was half gone....not down just a little...the cup was now half full.  He went out and looked into my mom's room and she was sound asleep.  He woke her up.  She said she didn't drink it.  She was definitely asleep the whole time.

    3. That same night before my mom went to bed she made coleslaw (which my stepdad loved) and put it in the fridge to chill overnight.  In the morning, the coleslaw container was half empty.  My mom thought my brother had gotten up in the middle of the night and eaten it.  He said he hadn't gotten up at all.

    4.  I spent the last two days at mom's.  Saturday morning, at 6 a.m., what woke me up was the bedside lamp next to my  bed turned on by itself.  I can't say I felt any presence or anything, but the lamp just turned on by itself and woke me out of a sound sleep.  Later Saturday, I told my mom and brother about it and my brother said "Whoaaa."  About 9 a.m. the lamp beside his bed turned on by itself.  The house is 12 years old...so far no electrical problems that we know of.

    5.  My mom called me about 30 minutes ago and asked if I had left the lamp on in the room I was sleeping in.  I was the last one to leave the house today and I know for a fact it was off because I went through the whole house before I left and made sure every light was off and all the doors were locked.  She said she and my brother had just gotten home and the lamp in that room was on.

    What do you think? 

  • Fitztwins
    Fitztwins Member Posts: 7,969
    edited February 2008

     I believe. Pick up the book by Allison DuBois, Don't kiss them goodbye.

  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited February 2008

    I believe, too.  I have been reading life after life books since the first one came out by dr. raymond moody in the late '70s, which is why i want to be careful that we're not reading too much into what's happening at her house.  I'd love for it to be him...we all would.  

    that is a book i haven't read, but i will now.  Thanks, Fitztwins! 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2008

    I thought ghosts only hung around if they were not at peace about the way they died. Like an unsolved murder etc. Your stepfather sounds like he was well loved and should therefore be resting in peace. I'm certainly no expert and I'm not sure I believe in them but I'm not real sure I don't. You should get some interesting feedback.

  • junie
    junie Member Posts: 1,216
    edited February 2008

    ohhhh, I belive!   sending you big hugggssss and hoping more chime in on this thread!

    sending you a PM.

  • Blundin2005
    Blundin2005 Member Posts: 1,167
    edited February 2008

    gsg,

    I believe too--also followed the readings since the 70's--Kubler Ross, Moody, Tibetan Book of the Dead, etc.  

    What a gift to receive their presence.  He seems intended to calm and console and say "I'm OK" is my sense of it.

    Last week a friend's mother died.  She called to tell us and reminded us that she died on the same day as her son who died of leukemia a couple of years ago.  I thought immediately that there was a message in this for her.  "They are OK"....she took it as such.

    My mother receives visits...has for years.  She is a joyful and loving person...open to everyone.  Her visits are people she knows and others that she doesn't.  She always says a prayer for them after she chats.  Lately, she's been seeing gardens in her room.

    I've never seen a presence ... only in my dreams.  My father, always.

    For example, after my friend died a couple of years ago I dreamed that his wife and I were on a ferry (they live in Cape May).  My car was falling into the ocean and I was trying to stop it (but that's another message).  She was sitting inside on the benches and Doug came walking toward me on the deck dressed in trench coat and with red curly hair (his was straight brown in life).  I asked him if he was ok and did he know that he was dead.  He said yes to both questions.  He was the jolly person he was in life but concerned for his wife.  The next day I called her to tell her about the dream....to tell her that he was OK and wanted her to know that.  When I told her about the red curly hair she was shocked and quickly added that Doug told her that he wanted red curly hair when he was a boy. I guess he added the hair as a reference to validate because I had no idea about it. He was the consumate joker...everyone enjoyed his unending humor.  Then his wife and I remembered and talked about his jokes and laughed together.....with him.  She was comforted.

    gsg--enjoy the gifts with your family and embrace the message.  Whether you believe it is their creation or our own, it is a message of peace wouldn't you say?

  • ravdeb
    ravdeb Member Posts: 3,116
    edited February 2008

    Yes..I believe. When I was a little girl, and had never read any books about life after death, I saw my grandfather clear as day after he had died. I would see him when I was walking on the street, wide awake. These were not dreams. I was always thinking that my mom would think I was nuts and then wondered if she saw him as well. I never asked. It was a bit spooky. I was a kid.

    Since then, and again..I've still not read any books, I've had signs from a close friend's mother who, without ever meeting her, has helped me.

    My girlfriend saw her father after he passed away, and he helped her make a decision about her project she needed help on.

    I believe that those who have died are watching us and help us when we need them. I don't see them as ghosts, though this could just be a matter of semantics. But I do see them as angels.

  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 2,570
    edited February 2008

    I guess i don't think of these events in "believe or not believe" terms or as "ghosts" either, but i have experienced visits in my dreams.  I think it might have to do with energy or energies.

    When I lived in California i took care of a colony of feral cats in my back yard.  I caught them in humane traps, had them all neutered and fixed, vaccinated, and returned them to the backyard. I continued to feed them, and worked with them all to try to tame them enough to be able to be handled.  I eventually found homes for all of them (several came with me) before we moved to Washington, except for the mamacat who was too wild to be handled.  She and i were bonded tho, and eventually she would sit very near me and relax outside as long as i didn't try to touch her. She ran from most everyone else.  My neighbor in the building who really liked the cats was happy to take over her feeding and care when we moved.  About a half year after i moved, i had this weird dream that she walked up to me on a street--she was upright, walking on her back legs-- and she took and held my hand and we walked together.  She told me, "Don't worry, i am ok."  It really bothered me and i decided to call my old neighbor.  He told me that about one week before my call she disappeared--she didn't show up for food.  He looked around everywhere but didn't find her.

    That is just one example and i have had other experiences with dreams. I try not to analyze this stuff and just accept it as part of my life.

  • SISKimberly
    SISKimberly Member Posts: 762
    edited February 2008

    I totally believe...and my older sister has had many encounters.



    My grandfather died in our home of cancer...I was with him...and I know he was present in our home for a while. It was just a comforting feeling...no weird occurances. He was at his funeral, too. Saw his spirit above the casket...leaned over and asked my twin if she saw it, too. She did.



    I've been reading life and life books since I was a teen. Dick Sutphen(sp) was my first read in the 70's.



    We find dimes in places they shouldn't be and weren't at first. Not other coins, which we find in the usual spots, but dimes. We think that's my older sister's husband. She travels a lot...and she packed her suitcase, which was totally empty, then she unpacked and found a dime. She also found one on his gravestone on a visit, which is when she finally told us all this had been occuring.



    I love the John Edwards Cross Country show...so wonderful and touching how he brings those who need comfort together with the messages they need to hear from those who have crossed over.



    SIS KImberly

  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 1,638
    edited February 2008
  • barbara913
    barbara913 Member Posts: 133
    edited February 2008

    i believe...

    barbara

  • abbadoodles
    abbadoodles Member Posts: 2,618
    edited February 2008

    I don't know if it's ghosts I believe in, but my mother did call my name (loudly, in my head, I guess), that's all, several years after she had died and a couple of months after my father had died.  I won't go into the story here, but I am sure it was to alert me to something big that was happening, which I learned about via a phone call a couple of hours later.  I am sure I didn't imagine it because it stopped me in my tracks at the time and when I got the phone call it all made perfect sense.

    I am not ordinarily prone to hearing things.  LOL

    There's something going on which we don't understand.

    Tina

  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited February 2008

    i love reading these encounters...thanks to all who posted.

    6 days before my stepdad died, i was at his bedside crying and he was choked up.  he said to me, dying isn't the hard part, patrice.  i was kind of surprised because his suffering was immeasurable.  i said, what's the hard part?  and he replied, saying goodbye to the ones you love.

    so maybe he's still hanging out with us.  his illness was only 7 weeks from diagnosis to his death.  he really did not feel ready to go...even though we told him it was time and all his affairs were in order. 

  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited February 2008

    here's a story of what happened to a girlfriend several years ago.  she was divorced and her ex-husband was remarried and living in another state, when he was diagnosed with terminal cancer. they got the call that it was time for her daughter to fly to new york.

    while making the 2 1/2 hour drive  to the airport, her daughter (teenager) said...mom, did you just now feel that cold chill?  it felt like it went right through me.   my girlfriend hadn't felt anything.

    when they got to the airport, they called the stepmother to let them know they were at the airport and making sure someone would be there on the other end to pick her up.  they were told he had just died...and it was at about the time her daughter felt the chill.  they really believe it was his spirit passing through her.

  • hooptiedoo
    hooptiedoo Member Posts: 100
    edited February 2008

    I'd better believe in ghosts! I do ghost tours part-time for extra money. People really do see things at times and get some very interesting photos -- faces and figures, not just orbs. The story I tell are based on actual accounts of historic events. But as interesting as my stories are, the ones my guests share with me are the best part. I'm collecting them and hope to do a book at some point. I myself have seen what I believe were ghosts, and strange as it may seem, that helped me get through my diagnosis and treatment.

  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited February 2008

    i'd love to do what you're doing, hooptie...how interesting!  look forward to your book.

    my brother just called me.  he had something else happen and he's starting to freak out.  he was in the bathroom and heard a weird noise and then heard his bedroom door shut.  he knew he had left it open when he walked into the bathroom...he only shuts the bedroom door at night when he's watching tv.  my mom is out, so he's alone there right now.

    anyway..the door was shut completely.  he opened it and tried walking out  pulling the door close behind him and the door wouldn't close completely unless he made a concerted effort to pull hard on it to shut it.   he cracked it open about 6 inches and waited for the furnace to turn on and off to see if that would do anything...nothing..the door didn't move.  no windows are open...it's winter here and cold.

    he went right downstairs to the computer and is making plane reservations to fly home as I'm typing this.  LOL. 

  • ADK
    ADK Member Posts: 2,259
    edited February 2008

    Hi Patrice,

    I am sorry your brother is so freaked out.  It sounds like your step-father is trying to comfort your Mom and whoever else is in the house.  I believe in signs.  We just buried my father this morning and I hope I get a sign from him that he is okay and with my Mom and the rest of the family.  I know when my Mom passed, I had a lot of comforting dreams about her.  This is a strange story, but I honestly believe it.  In 2004, the Sunday night the Red Sox were down 3 games to none to the Yankees for the pennant and we were all just suffering through the game, my brother in law passed suddenly.  We didn't know until the next morning that he had passed.  The Red Sox turned that game around and went on to win 7 games in a row to win the world series, the first time ever that a team had done that.  I truly believe that my brother in law had something to do with it.  After the NY Giants shocked the world by winning the superbowl this year, I learned that the Giant that caught that most improbable pass lost his Mom suddenly in December to a heart attack.  I truly believe she was there for him.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2008

    Okay, I've been sitting here with tears running down my MADE UP face!  Do you know how often I put on makeup?  LOL  Then, Patrice told us her brother was making arrangements to fly home.  Patrice, that cracked me up! 

    I know this sounds insignificant but I had a very old kitty, Tiger, who I had to put to sleep.  She stayed in our bedroom for years..wouldn't come out because of the other cats that came to live with us.  One night, here she comes down to the den.  I was so thrilled.  Then, I noticed she couldn't see, nor hear.  All of a sudden she was deaf and blind.  I was horrified.  She could find her way to her food and water bowl, but could not find her way to the litter box.  She was about 20 years old.  I finally had to make a decision.  My dh wasn't here..he was out of town.  I called the vet that makes housecalls because I didn't want to put her in the car and take her to the vet.  She would have been so scared.  It was time.  When the vet and her husband started to inject Tiger to relax her I started having tachycardia.  I had to leave the room.  I couldn't be there with her.  My heart did calm down.  The neighbor next door buried our fur baby.  The next night she came to me in a dream.  She showed me her face and I saw her eyes.  It was if she was telling me she could now see.  And now I'm crying again!  I CHOOSE to BELIEVE it was her.

    Shirley

  • pattyc63
    pattyc63 Member Posts: 36
    edited February 2008

    Interesting thread. My foster mother passed away some 20 years ago and I was staying with my foster dad for a while to help him out. One night I was sleeping and awoke up for no reason. I swear I saw my mom looking at me as if to say not to cry for her she was OK. The next morning I told my dad that I swear I saw mommy at my bed and he said he believes that I did because it was the first night he had slept through that night after her passing.

    Another thing that happened to me was I was visiting some friends and I saw a young man about 16 standing in a doorway in the apartment. When I said something I was asked to describe  what he looked like. I told them he had on a flannel shirt etc etc. I was told that a youth had killed himself in the yard and I described him to a Tee! So do I believe OH YES!

    Patty

  • Hope_M
    Hope_M Member Posts: 261
    edited February 2008

    My grandfather died and had been slightly estranged from my dad.  My dad was working in the yard right after that and he looked up and saw his father sitting on a neighbor's outdoor bench.  My grandfather just nodded and waved goodbye and then disappeared.  Kind of like he was acknowledging my dad, and saying that it was okay that my dad had not been there at the time of his death.

    I am a Christian and believe that we live after "death".  Energy cannot be destroyed, and our souls are energy, not matter.  GSG, maybe your family needs to speak out loud to your stepdad, to tell him that they are okay, but that he is freaking them out and that it is okay for him to move on.

    Hope M. 

  • cgc
    cgc Member Posts: 2
    edited February 2008

    I had a 14 year old cat die and I knew her precense were in the house untill I got another one two years ago. I go to bed at night and could fell her gently walking on the bed. At first it was very scary and I was terrified to the point I would not move. When I got another cat she be on the bed and run when these things happen. Yes I beleive you always have that special someone with you whether it be animal or human.

  • Fitztwins
    Fitztwins Member Posts: 7,969
    edited February 2008

    Okay, I have two more...

    when my beloved Weim (dog) died I was 8 months pregnant. Heart broken. He always laid in the same spot. The day after we put him down a rainbow appeared in that spot.

    After I was dx with cancer, and almost done with treatment, my grandmother came to me in my dreams. She told me it wasn't my time I had to wait a while. I had to get in line.

  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited February 2008

    thanks to everybody who is posting.  i absolutely believe we go on and am enjoying reading everybody's stories. keep them coming.

    shirley...sorry about your face. 

  • Harley44
    Harley44 Member Posts: 5,446
    edited February 2008

    Yes, I believe also...

    When my mother died, she came to me at my house.  She was in the hospital, after having strokes.  I guess when she had several overnight, we knew she wouldn't come out of the coma.

    I went home and went to bed.  Around 3 am, I felt a shiver... then I felt someone touch my hand, and I thought I could hear my Mom say "I'm ok now."  

    So, yes & yes... I think that they are visiting us to tell us that they are ok.

    Harley

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2008

    That's okay, Patrice.

    On YouTube Jimmy Stewart was on the Johnny Carson show.  I remember Jimmy reading this poem.  However, I couldn't get the darn thing to work.  The video kept stopping and starting.  I'll post the link just in case you want to try.  But, do get out your hankies.

    It's beautiful poem and to hear Jimmy Stewart read it...well...

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qUNJjIwlHk8

    My dog, named Bo
    He came to me when I would call,
    unless I had a tennis ball
    -or he felt like it.
    But mostly--he didn't come at all.
    When he was young,
    he never learned,
    to heel, or sit or stay,
    he did things his way.
    Discipline was not his bag,
    but when you were with him,
    things sure didn't drag.
    He'd dig up a rose bush just to spite me,
    and when I'd grab 'im he'd turn and bite me.
    He bit lots of folks from day to day,
    the deliv'ry boy was his favorite prey.
    The gas man wouldn't read our meter,
    he said we owned a real man-eater.
    He sat the house on fire,
    but the story's long to tell.
    Suffice to say that he survived,
    and, the house survived as well.
    And on evening walks
    (and Gloria took him),
    he was always first out the door.
    The old one and I,
    brought up the rear
    because our bones were sore.
    And he'd charge up the street
    with Mom hangin' on,
    what a beautiful pair they were.
    And if it was still light,
    and the tourists were out,
    they created a bit of a stir!
    But every once in awhile
    he'd stop in his tracks
    and with a frown on his face, look around.
    It was just t'make sure,
    that the old one was there,
    to follow him where he was bound.
    We're early-to-bedders in our house
    I guess I'm the first to retire,
    and as I'd leave the room, he'd look at me
    and get up from his place by the fire.
    He knew where the tennis balls were, upstairs
    and I'd give 'im one for awhile
    and he'd push it under the bed with his nose
    and I'd dig it out with a smile.
    But before very long, he'd tire of the ball
    and he'd be asleep in his corner in no time at all,
    and there where nights when I'd feel him climb up on our bed
    and lie between us, and I'd pat his head;
    and there were nights when I'd feel this stare,
    and I'd wake up and he'd be sitting there
    and I'd reach out to stroke his hair;
    and sometimes I'd feel him sigh,
    and I think I know the reason why.
    He'd wake up at night,
    and he would have this fear
    of the dark, of life, of lot's of things,
    and he'd be glad to have me near.
    And now he's dead.
    And there are nights when I think I feel him
    climb up on our bed,
    and lie between us, and I pat his head;
    and there are nights when I think I feel that stare,
    and I reach out my hand to stroke his hair,
    and he's not there.
    Oh, how I wish that wasn't so,
    I'll always love a dog named Bo.

  • gsg
    gsg Member Posts: 3,386
    edited February 2008
    i REMEMBER that!  thanks for posting it, Shirley.  It's beautiful.
  • snowyday
    snowyday Member Posts: 1,478
    edited February 2008

    I Believe. I'm glad to read that other people have the same thing happening to them. I've had lots of visits which I've posted about before.  But often I would feel a big cat jump on my bed or snuggle me and I would reach over and niether of my cats would be on my bed. I took in a stray up in Red Lake, I named him Cayotee, he was huge ginger, with black brown and white, and he was of the curl breed. I think a tourist must have lost him. It took me three months to get him to trust me but he finally became my cat.  And we really had a connection.  Well he ended up getting very sick and passed away and I believe when I feel the thump on my bed it's Cayotee. And I can't wait to see him again in heaven. I'm babbling.pearl49

  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 1,638
    edited February 2008



    Interesting topic

    and stories.. :))



    Forgot to mention we have a

    program on here, think it is

    near every night

    comes on about 11:00

    and the Ghosthunter will come on

    and tell stories



    I can not listen to it

    have to turn it off

    LOL





    O/T... Sis Kimberley: I just love the picture of the sunflowers

    sorry, they are my favorite

    flower.. the picture is lovely...



    Sierra

  • evilelf
    evilelf Member Posts: 1,066
    edited February 2008

    Yep, sure do, On my birthday (oh so many years ago)

    I spent the night at the Moundsville Penitentiary with a local ghost hunting group

    This prison was on MTV's most feared...

     We seen and heard a lot of different things, going into areas where it was so cold you could see your breath, knowing that we were infringing in their terriatory...

    The area that got me the most was called the Sugar Shack, there was so much activity zooming around and would go over to the drawing of Jesus with his hands wide open.

    It was so neat seeing these entities on the video recorder.

    Have read alot of books but really enjoyed Elizabeth Kubler Ross, that was my first.

    A couple of weeks ago I went down for my mom's ball, they're a part of the Elks club,, Pictures were taken and sure enough Pops was there, a bright,  round ORB standing by mom.

    His daughter said that when he was dying, he was talking to someone in the room and it kinda freaked her out... I told her he was talking to a close friend or family member that is preparing to take him to the other side...  When he died,  (she could not stand to physically watch him  die) she seen his spirit leave then heard me coming down the hospital hall.. She already knew

    So my answer is YES I BELIEVE 

  • caaclark
    caaclark Member Posts: 936
    edited February 2008

    I want to believe but still not sure.  Although when I look at things most of us call cooincidences and add them up it makes me think yes. 

    I have had a few spiritual type encounters.  I was pretty close to my grandfather.  After he died I was walking in my living room, past his picture, and smelled his cologne.  My husband (aka-the most skeptical person on the planet) came in and smelled it too.  Then it disipated.  My husband does not wear cologne and I do not wear perfume.

    Our third daugher was adopted from China.  She was placed in our arms on that same grandfather's birthday.  Also, when we looked at her paperwork we saw that she was found on my husband's mother's birthday.  She died when he was a kid.  Our paperwork arrived in China on the anniversary of my husband's mother's death.

    Also, my friend who recently died of bc has been in several of my dreams.  Just there, waving to me. 

    So, I guess that adds up to a hopefully, there are people watching over us. 

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