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ADK
ADK Member Posts: 2,259
edited June 2014 in Life After Breast Cancer
Need a little support
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  • ADK
    ADK Member Posts: 2,259
    edited February 2008

    Hi ladies,

    You are all wonderfully supportive people and I am turning to you now for some.  My Dad passed away last night.  It wasn't unexpected, but it still kicks you a little when it happens.  My Mom passed away 17 years ago, so my sister and I were all he had.  He was a very quiet man and spent the last seven years in a nursing home.  I didn't get over to see him as much as I should have and I am feeling a tad guilty about that.  I never told him I was dxed with BC.  I didn't feel he needed to know that.  I was lucky in that I had no outward signs that so many of you suffer through, so he couldn't tell.  I am just feeling down and I know you all understand that.

    Thanks for listening.

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  • AnnNYC
    AnnNYC Member Posts: 4,484
    edited February 2008

    Anne, I'm so sorry.  I hope you and your sister can support each other through this loss, and hang on to happy memories.

    best,

    Ann

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  • Fitztwins
    Fitztwins Member Posts: 7,969
    edited February 2008

    Anne, we are here for you. Losing a parent is hard. I remember when my mom lost my grandma, she said "I am all alone now" At first I thought, What the heck are we? (4 children) shredded wheat??  she just felt isolated for a while.

    My mom is a huge part of my life. She is my boys caregiver 5 days a week.

    Anyhow, it is not about me..you will be okay. Your dad is pain free now.

    Take care.

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  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited March 2008





    So sorry to hear of you dad's passing, Anne. Yes, it's a deep,soul shaking kick that one feels with a parent's loss.



    My dad is in a nursing home about 500 some miles away, near his sister and my sister. So I appreciate how one feels when you don't pop over every week or so, yet do visit off and on over the year.



    I did share my cancer diagnosis with him, and regret doing so. He's suffered enough with just age and the move to the nursing home, and while I try to support him and keep him going, it's a hard time in his life.



    I'll think of you tonight and tomorrow Anne, sharing your heartache some.

    Tender





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  • ADK
    ADK Member Posts: 2,259
    edited February 2008

    Thank you all.  I knew you would understand.

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  • Sierra
    Sierra Member Posts: 1,638
    edited February 2008



    Hello Anne:



    I just saw your post here tonight

    and send my condolences to you.



    It is very difficult to lose a parent,

    and my parents have both just gone into

    a nursing home.



    Feel free to drop me a note any time



    I am not on forum as much any more



    Sending out a gentle hug to you

    and hope days to come

    THAT: you can get through somehow

    Grieving is so important in your own time





    ((((Anne)))))









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  • MargaretB
    MargaretB Member Posts: 1,305
    edited February 2008

    Anne, I'm sorry about the loss of your dad.  It's always a jolt to the system even when it is not unexpected.  My mother is in an assisted living facility and I don't see her as often as I should but I see her as often as I can.  You and your sister will get each other through this difficult time.

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  • Emelee26
    Emelee26 Member Posts: 569
    edited February 2008

    I'm so sorry Anne (())

    Love Marisa

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  • badboob67
    badboob67 Member Posts: 2,780
    edited February 2008

    Anne,

    I somehow missed your post and am just finding it now. I am so very sorry! Expected or not, the passing of someone we love is never easy.  Please know I am sending warm and loving thoughts and prayers your way!

    (((HUGS)))
    Diane

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  • snowyday
    snowyday Member Posts: 1,478
    edited February 2008

    Anne I thought I had answered your post earlier but somehow didn't. I'm sorry for your loss and wish you all the peace and good memories of your dad. Big hug, Pearl

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2008

    Anne--I'm so sorry to hear of your father's death. I pray that GOD will surround you and your family during this difficult time and give you loving memories to always hang onto.

    Anne 

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  • JoyRebecca
    JoyRebecca Member Posts: 787
    edited February 2008

    I'm so sorry to hear of your Father's death. I'm sure you saw him as much as you could. I pray for good memories for you and your sister.

    XX

    Joy

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  • fire
    fire Member Posts: 153
    edited February 2008

    Anne, I'm very sorry for your loss...

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  • evilelf
    evilelf Member Posts: 1,066
    edited February 2008

    I'm so sorry for the lost of your pop, sometimes sitting with family members and talking about the good ol' days will hopefully make you feel better and maybe laugh a little 

    Be strong

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  • Blundin2005
    Blundin2005 Member Posts: 1,167
    edited February 2008

    Ann,

    I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your dad.  Even when we are prepared it is a very difficult time.  

    abbracci

        

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  • Mary-Lou
    Mary-Lou Member Posts: 2,230
    edited February 2008

    I'm so very sorry....I lost my dad  March first of 2005, 6 months before I found out about the BC. I was a daddys girl all the way, and I still miss him so.

    It is almost that time of year once again...I always dred it.

    I wish you peace....HUGS

    memory of dad

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  • ADK
    ADK Member Posts: 2,259
    edited February 2008

    Thank you all.  You are such kind people.

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