Who flashes their boobs to the curious?

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  • twink
    twink Member Posts: 1,574
    edited January 2008
    I want Alaska Deb to PM me the Uncle Truck Driver cuss.... I'm so curious now.  Pretty Please Deb....Kiss
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  • AnneW
    AnneW Member Posts: 4,050
    edited January 2008

    What a cool thread.

    I've struggled to accept my expanders. I have to grit my teeth to get naked in the gym locker room, where people can see my chest. I used to be a champion boob flasher when I had them, scars and all. Now, it's all so foreign.

    But I am getting better at it, feeling a little more comfortable in my own skin with these things. I certainly talk about them openly to anyone who asks, anywhere.

    I had a bunch of girlfriends over the other night for drinks and dinner, and I did show them, and encouraged them to feel how hard they are. They really appreciated knowing what I was dealing with.

    Back to my gym issue, I keep wondering what I'll say when some nosey 5 year old sees them and asks what happened.

    Anne

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2008

    Ha!  My dh just peered over my shoulder and said, "You know, if you flashed a child in public, that would be public indecency......"  Foot in mouth


    OMG!  Totally NOT my point, DH!  

    Hubbies and mates have such a good heart, and God bless them for what they go through alongside us, but sometimes, they just don't get it, do they?  Tongue outSmile

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  • SheriH
    SheriH Member Posts: 785
    edited January 2008

    I agree with what some of you have said about it taking away some of the fear and uncertainty of what a mastectomy looks like.  I had no idea before mine what it would look like.  My grandmother had one, but I never saw her scar, just her stuffed bra.  As an 11 year old I was very curious, but not enough to ask grandma to see.  My mother, who had seen grandma's chest, was with me when I had my surgery and was quite impressed with how much better it looked than her mother's some 30 years ago.  I have also shown it to other women who have had fears of possibly losing a breast and it always seems to reassure them that it isn't that bad.  I even have a little cleavage, so I can wear semi low cut shirts without much trouble.  I didn't have recon.  I also have funny stories of whipping out my prosthesis in some interesting situations.  But over all, I think other women like to know that I am still a woman! 

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  • AnnNYC
    AnnNYC Member Posts: 4,484
    edited January 2008

    SheriH,

    talking about your grandmother made me remember my Dad's mother -- who died of a stroke when I was 5 -- who'd had a mastectomy in her 30s (in the 1920s) and wore some kind of fabric puff to fill out her bra on the mastectomy side.

    She was a fantastic seamstress (a college professor teaching future teachers of "Home Economics") -- I still have some beautiful clothes she made for my dad, mom, me and my dolls  -- and my mother has told me that, in front of adults (but not the kids), Grandma used her "falsie" as a pincushion!

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2008

    AnnNYC,

    I love it!  Grandma using her falsie as a pincushion! 

    Way to really make constructive use out of what you are dealt!  

    These are great-I love reading these stories.  It's another way of empowerment over the cancer.   We will conquer!   

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  • katherine_jacque
    katherine_jacque Member Posts: 1
    edited January 2008

    I readily show anyone my operative side!  When I had the lump, I encouraged the women around me to touch it.  After all, aren't we taught to do SBE's--and who knows what we're feeling for??  When the dx was BC, I shared it all, creating a blog at www.kathyjean.blogspot.com  , so I wouldn't have to repeat my cancer story to everyone I met.  I have shown dressings, drain, and wounds, and give them permission to touch, as my breast tissue is different where the tumor was removed.  What a teaching opportunity we have.  I thank God for the gifts I've been given.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2008

    I lost all my modesty several months ago.  Anyone who asks to see I'll show, even though it's a lumpectomy.  Most are curious now as to how my skin looks with the radiation.  As far as the hair loss, when I went bald and if I was wearing a hat, I would take it off when I got to work or whever.  If I was in a scarf and someone wanted to see I had no problems taking it off.  I operate (and still do) that I am in a unique place where I can be a source of education or I can contribute to fear.

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  • Diana63
    Diana63 Member Posts: 773
    edited January 2008

    kagaines, what a great way to look at BC, I don't hide the fact that I have BC, but it makes some people so uncomfortable that I just don't bring it up.

    My niece is the only one that has asked to see my new unboob (not filled up yet), and I haven't had a chance to show her yet. I also think that the more open we are about it, the more we can do to prevent it from happening to other women out their.

    I keep saying get your mammos & if you feel something is wrong make the doctor check you out ASAP. Never, ever wait 1 month or 6 months to see if it goes away, check it right now. What you don't know can kill you, so get to know your breasts.

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  • Fitztwins
    Fitztwins Member Posts: 7,969
    edited January 2008

    Alaska Deb- WTG!!!

    I showed a few. But prefer not to. I am very modest. I don't like my DH even touching it. (I had one done).

    I guess is someone asked who was going through it I would.

    Just some thoughts.

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  • OneBadBoob
    OneBadBoob Member Posts: 1,386
    edited January 2008

    My first "public unveiling" was at Lord & Taylor while I was shopping for new non-underwire bras--I was about five or six weeks post-TRAM.

    The lady helping me was asking why I did not want an underwire, and I explained I just had breast and reconstructive surgery and my PS said they were a no-no (I then noticed she was wearing a wig and had black spots on her fingernails)--she asked who was my PS, and lo and behold, she had her TRAM scheduled for the next month with the same surgeon--she said she was finished with chemo and would have her mast and TRAM at the same time and was so so frightened--I asked her if she wanted to take a peek at my new boob, even though it was still black and blue and not ready for public inspection .  .  .

    It really helped her a lot to meet someone personally who went through what she just beginning and to know there is light at the end of the tunnel--and a not bad looking new boob if I might say so myself!

    So, anyone newly diagnosed or considering reconstuction, my boob is open for inspection!

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  • Biker54
    Biker54 Member Posts: 1,310
    edited January 2008

    I flashed mine at the Sturgis motorcycle rally, LOL!  I got a lot of high fives!!!  I didn't do nipple recon, so they are interesting to say the least.

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  • Jorf
    Jorf Member Posts: 498
    edited January 2008

    I'll show it to anyone. When I had my physical last year my doc had a med student with her who didn't have me change. When the doc came in and wanted me to change I just whipped my dress off and they were frieking out! (They were both women!) Like holding up the gown in front of me and offering to leave the room (the appointment had already taken way too long).

    I walk around the locker room at the gym naked and sorta hold the towel in front of me when I'm walking to the shower but I'm certainly not super careful to not let anyone see my chest.

    Today was probably the first time I ever did anything self-conscious about it but it mostly had to do with me. I was doing my weights and some really engage the pec and I really don't like how it mushes the implant and looks really funny. So I put my other hand over it (I had on a spaghetti strap cami type top so I could really see it. 

    It did almost stop me from doing a sauna with 4 gorgeous men half my age but after a little while I did join in. (We do saunas a lot and often with some of the younger black belts from our Tae Kwon Do school - they're good friends and know what I've been through and I trust them. I just felt a little wierd at the concept. But it was fine.) 

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  • NarberthMom
    NarberthMom Member Posts: 615
    edited January 2008



    A funny story ...



    We were celebrating with two couples at the end of my treatment (lumpectomy, chemo, rads). My ds had insisted that he didn't want any of his friends to know I was sick, so I had to wait till the kids were all away watching TV somewhere else in the house. Then, I said to my friends, all four of whom are doctors: do you want to see something? My dh turned pale ... he thought I was going to show them my rads burns, but all I wanted to show them was my hair growing back!





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  • AnnNYC
    AnnNYC Member Posts: 4,484
    edited January 2008

    Biker54:

    I flashed mine at the Sturgis motorcycle rally, LOL! 

    Dudette!!!  You rock!!!

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  • BethNY
    BethNY Member Posts: 2,710
    edited March 2008

    band teacher if you PM me your email addy I will send you the allure article-- it's long (4 pages) and full of curse words- so I wouldn't read it at work-- there are definitely some writer's liberties taken, and some things that aren't exactly all "fact" but you get the jist of it all.

    The self article was small, but the other photos and stories from it are awesome... this is so cheesy but if you google Beth Silverman breast cancer (the breast cancer part is important, cause there are a ton of beth silverman's in the world), one of the choices should say, 'The story behind the scar', Self Magazine... if you click that it should take you to not only my story, but the other photos and stories of women that were featured in that article in 06.

    The allure article isn't on the web-- and I'm happy about that, cause it's "edgy" to say the least.

    My breast flashing all started when I posed for the i of the beholder project, by Christine Benjamin... I think you can see her work at christinebenjaminphotos.com

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2008

    I LOVE IT!  

    I honor those of us who have and who have not flashed their breasts to the world.  The reasons behind both are striking. 

    I'm pm'ing you Beth! 

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