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  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited December 2007

    Anne,

    I could have written what you wrote word for word. I do feel a bit guilty going to the local support group and seeing the women with hats on because they have lost their hair. I actually started going to the support group with my mom (6 yr survivor) after my first abnormal mammo, stero biopsy, lumpectomy for ADH (which is definately pre-cancer) 2 yrs ago. The ladies were all welcoming me even at that point and ready to support me even more after my dx of DCIS this past April, several even showed me their scars and recon experiences prior to my surgery. Because of the involvment with the ladies, I started crocheting wiggies and making fleece hats for the wig bank to help others who don't have the option of not taking chemo.

    Sheila

  • kajo119
    kajo119 Member Posts: 6
    edited December 2007

    Hi,

    I'm new to this site. I have a question. Have any of you had the Oncotype DX test.  I am trying to educate myself on what I have and need to do. I understand what you are saying about people not understanding that cancer is cancer. My family is not educated in breast cancer, none of us were, it doesn't run in the family. I was depressed before I found the lump, my family doesn't understand depression either. No one can understand completely until they walk in your shoes. My boob hurts too, I had a lumpectomy on Dec. 7. They got it all and my husband, mother and I celebrated, everyone else just kind of fell away after the good news. I can understand the radiation they 1st said they wanted to do, but then the doctor wants to do this test, and I'm scared again and my children do not understand. My husband says You don't have cancer anymore, they got it all.  I'll never believe that.

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited December 2007

    kajo119,

    Did you have IDC - invasive ductal carcinoma - or DCIS?  For DCIS, the oncotype isn't required simply because chemo isn't necessary for anyone who's been diagnosed with DCIS only.  Chemo is only required for invasive cancer and DCIS is non-invasive.  The oncotype is used for women who have a smallish (about 0.5cm to maybe 2cm) tumor of IDC, with no node involvement.  These cases are borderline for chemo, so the oncotype is useful in helping with this decision. 

    Hope that helps.

  • sherry7
    sherry7 Member Posts: 200
    edited December 2007

    There's a part of me that thinks they don't want to get it or they might realize thay we are all vulnerable and good doesn't always mean easy.  I have been treated with great respect, kindly and also treated like my bc was going to jump on them or something.  It's so insulting, I wish you all the best of care and fortune on your journeys'.  United we stand, divided we fall...

  • mperry0004
    mperry0004 Member Posts: 14
    edited December 2007

    AMEN!!! I am tired of defending my diagnosis.  It didnt make it any easier because I had DCIS.  I still cried just as hard, its the not knowing of how things will turn out.  No one knows for sure, only one person knows and thats GOD.  He makes the decisions, not the surgeons and especially not the people in my life who look at me when I am talking to them in confidence about my BC experience and they look at me and say " Are you really still worried about that, I mean you had surgery and they removed it"  I felt like slapping this so called friend.

  • sherry7
    sherry7 Member Posts: 200
    edited December 2007

    mperry all I can say about those friends is "ignorance is not bliss", its just ignorance...

  • jade56068
    jade56068 Member Posts: 584
    edited December 2007

    AMEN to that:<}

    j

  • karluway
    karluway Member Posts: 22
    edited December 2007
    Hello Barbie7,  I agree with you and I wish I have read your comment 5 years ago.  2003 I have lumpectomy for dcis on my right breast, the doctor told me I was very lucky because  the cancer was at a very  early stage.  I have a lumpectomy and 33 radiation treatments and I was told I was cancer free.   I was so ignorant and careless,  and for the last three years I did not bother with having any mamo, after all it was only DCIS.  Now my last mamo showed calcifications and the biopsy shows more DCIS only it is a "little" invasive this time.  The doctors suggested another lumpectomy and a procedure called mamosite. Have anybody hear of this treatment? I choose to go for a mastectomy which will be done January 2nd
  • Jordymom
    Jordymom Member Posts: 114
    edited December 2007

    Karluway,

    Wow, I am really sorry to hear your story. 

    Did you have clear margins at the initial lumpectomy?  What was the grade of your DCIS?  It looks like you did everything right and now this!

    My sister-in-law just underwent an lumpectomy and mammosite balloon placement.  Pretty straightforward process.  I thought mammosite was another method to deliver radiation, and since you had radiation 3+ years ago is the radiation oncologist recommending this? 

    Take care.

  • karluway
    karluway Member Posts: 22
    edited January 2008

    Hello Jordimom

    I am not sure what clear margin is, the report says margins are widely negative for DCIS ,  Nuclear Grade 3 of 3  on my first lumpectomy the pathology report for the needle biopsy done this  year only states 2-3 microscopic fociof high grade ductal carcinoma in situ. The radiation doctor explained to me that if the tumor was not too close to the skin she could try mammosite but she also told me that my skin might not tolerate the additional radiation and I could have a very serious reaction  that is why I decided against it and go with the mastectomy.  Today I consulted with a very good plastic surgeon who will prep my belly for tramp reconstruction  in the future.  Thanks for caring 

  • Barbie7
    Barbie7 Member Posts: 386
    edited January 2008

    Karluway,

    I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis.  Do they call this a recurrance or a new primary?  Take care.

    Barbie

  • ioujesus4real
    ioujesus4real Member Posts: 1
    edited January 2008

    I am almost four years out from a DCIS dx, and I am such an emotional mess.  When will the thoughts go away?  Still have a left breast, right one gone, just starting taking tamox again. Reconsidering reconstruction, and having the left removed.  Just don't know what to do?  Help. 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2008

    Well happy I found this thread too. I agree with all of you. If it really isn't a cancer why not leave the C out of DCIS. If I had the guts I would get the biggest bare chested rally going in history to show how not really having cancer affected us! Now wouldn't that get everyone's attention!!Maybe that would speed up the research for everyone!!Cute pink shirts cover the ugliness of what it is.

  • geebung
    geebung Member Posts: 1,851
    edited January 2008

    Well said Viv! I like your style!

    Hugs,

    gb 

  • homeagain
    homeagain Member Posts: 78
    edited January 2008

    OH my! Cancer LITE? Excuse me, since WHEN has any cancer been declared lite?  Umm, is that akin to be medically deemed to have low cholesterol...Do not think so.  Or, should it be put into the 'medically categorised' BOX of having a 'mild' heart attack. 

    Cancer IS cancer. No two ways about it - wherever whatever.

    Cancer and all the glorious stages? well, some of us just plain luck out and GET the stuff early..in whatever ways we happen to. 

    We get cut, just like most others, but to a lesser degree, that doesnt mean that that 'C' demon isn't around, nor that it won't be hiding in the 'closet' for ages to come...IT IS THERE....lurking, and we know it.

    A recent discussion raised the issue of 'cancer SURVIVOR'- I do hate the 's' word, as it seems to me negative. An option was 'prevailer'... that is much more positive to me somehow. 

    I am not thinking all good 'thoughts' and 'happy' healing here, just simple straightforward and realistic outlooks on where we are with what all we have and are dealing with and HOW we face this all - ALL the time. 

    Simply put, we have had/have cancer as much as others, it's not a second class status, and if any medical person treats you as such, either change docs or report them as best you can!  It's bad enough to have this stuff. Worse yet to be discounted for having the 'inconvenient type'? 

    WHERE IS MY TRANSMORGIFIER?  I think that says it all... 

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited January 2008

    AMEN to that Homeagain. And thanks Geebung. Here's an interesting thing they did in my hometown this winter. They had a breast cancer awareness day and had local artists design funky bras for BC women, had BC women modeling them then auctioned off the bras to raise money.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2008

    I really do think DCIS is understated. If you go thru this site carefully it is amazing how many women had DCIS or what they thought was only DCIS until they had surgeries ect. Then for many of them their status changed. I believe that since they are finding DCIS earlier and earlier it is bringing women with this to these sites and having to deal with all the fears and treatments that go along with being diagnosed and yet their doctors continue to floss over the good breast cancer. Well, it starts somewhere doesn't it? The C is still a C no matter which way you turn it around. If it wasn't, why is it often treated more aggresivley than once it becomes invasive? Or maybe they should just leave it be until it really is a cancer instead of a pre-curoser to cancer??? It would sure save alot of us the agony of all this turmoil, but then again, who wants to be the winner of this lottery? Hopefully in the future with better diagnostics they will be able to determine the winners and save alot of women from all this barbaric treatment. For our daughters sakes I hope soon!!

  • Jordymom
    Jordymom Member Posts: 114
    edited February 2008

    When my surgeon met with me to give my initial biopsy results he told me I had breast cancer (DCIS) but it was cancer with a 'little c'.  Well this 'little c' cancer has led to 3 core biopsies, one lumpectomy and two excisional biopsies.  With more surgery to follow next week.  Guess you can never trust a 'little c' cancer!!  Especially a bilateral one.

  • karol61
    karol61 Member Posts: 128
    edited February 2008

    Dear Jordymom,

    Good luck next week,I'll keep you in my prayers.

    My breast onc at the NCI Cancer Center at Dartmouth Hitchcock Med Ctr, told me clearly that DCIS IS cancer. It's in the earliest stage and has not spread. I had a lumpectomy,radiation and now am on Tamoxifen.

    My other DHMC oncs also made it clear that it was cancer.   

  • femme
    femme Member Posts: 262
    edited February 2008

    Dear lovely, gentle, strong, intelligent and also sometimes frightened people,

    DCIS is non-invasive cancer. It just hasn't spread. Now if I was tring to be compettive about whose cancer

    is "the most "cancer-lite", try this. I have LCIS...lobular carcinoma in situ. There is even more controversy about, treatment, the "c" in its" name, etc. Once I got over these semantics and I actually never felt a competative edge re: good vs bad cancer, I madethe best informed decision I could make regarding my treatment.



    I am having a prophylactic bilateral mastectomy this Tues, Feb 12th.at a great womens' cancer center in NYC. Wish me well girls (and any boy who is involved) and let's keep our eye on the ball(s)., that is, removing the bad, or potentially bad stuff. I wish us all only good outcomes with whatever we decide to do, and hope that cancer will be wiped out by a vaccine in the years to come.



    Be well and try to be kind to each other.

    Warmly,

    femme

  • alison1
    alison1 Member Posts: 1
    edited February 2008

    I was dx with dcis February 2007.  It has been such a comfort to me to read about the other womens (and mens) experiences here.  I have had so many medical practitioners congratulate me on my dx!  What has been most difficult is the isolation.  I worry often about reoccurance, not just of the dcis but of course a more dire dx.  Although I have gotten on with living my life, there is not a day that goes by that I do not contemplate the time bomb that I feel is in my body.  There really is no one to talk to about this.  I just saw my surgeon and got a clean bill of health.  When I asked him about counselors that might deal with the emotional piece of this he looked at me like I had two heads. 

    My oncologist told me I did not have cancer.  My surgeon told me I have cancer.  I am confused and angry about the whole thing.   The worst was when I had the core biopsy - I thought it was so uncomfortable, and I was so frightened in general with the possible dx.  While I was going through it the nurse and radiologist were discussing a sports event and the betting that had gone on around it.  Honestly...I was so disgusted.

    I know that I am fortunate that my prognosis is so good.  But that does not take away the seriousness of my diagnosis and the fact that I am scared.

    Alison

  • markd
    markd Member Posts: 31
    edited February 2008

    alison..well said i agree with u 100%. we get on with our lives but the fear is still there and some days worse than others. we are told we are lucky and compared to some we sure are..equally compared to some we sure are not.. these are the cards we were dealt so it would be nice to hear the surgeons not dismiss it. my surgeon is great, said it was early cancer but still sometimes slips in the pre-cancer statement. i guess that they are in same boat as us and that they just dont know if it will turn or not.

     hang in there

    luv mark

  • Sociologist
    Sociologist Member Posts: 237
    edited February 2008

    Bessie,

    You rock! As with some of the other posters, I bypassed the bc "bible" (Dr. Love's book) because of the language  she used. Fortunately my docs were very reassuring and didn't downplay the diagnosis of "just DCIS". If it's pre-cancer, why did I loose my boob and have to get an implant? Why do others have chemo and rads for a "precancer"? Cancer is cancer no matter how you cut it. It is an earthshaking diagnosis that changes your life forever whether you have DCIS or any other type.

    Mark, you're in a very select group that a dx of bc is rare and I think not explored enough. Between 5-10% of bc cases occur in men and there's very little discussion on how it impacts them. Glad you found this site! It's been a godsend to me dealing with all this stuff. I know women are the majority of the cases and we get bad info, I can't begin to imagine the info you get!

    We're all on this journey together and have to work in our own way to educate the docs about talking to us and not minimizing our diagnosis of DCIS!

    Hugs to all,

    Margaret

  • Blinx
    Blinx Member Posts: 280
    edited February 2008

    Somehow I feel "legitimzed" when I see BC written next to a diagnosis on any form -- like at my gyno's or on an order for an MRI or mammo. They never write DCIS -- maybe it makes people sit up and take notice. They do write numbers under "reason for test - 174.9" but I don't know what that means.

  • otter
    otter Member Posts: 6,099
    edited February 2008

    Blinx--

    I googled "code" and "174.9".  The number is a diagnosis code for breast cancer.  Doctors' offices have to assign a standardized numerical code for each medical diagnosis.  When insurance companies are considering paying a claim, they check their list of allowable diagnosis codes.  For example, they wouldn't reimburse for a breast MRI if the diagnosis code was "717.83" (torn cruciate ligament).

    Is that what you meant? 

    otter 

  • Blinx
    Blinx Member Posts: 280
    edited February 2008

    Thanks Otter - that's it. I guess that means that DCIS falls under the big BC umbrella.

  • otter
    otter Member Posts: 6,099
    edited February 2008

    I would certainly say so.  I've been following this thread, even though I'm stuck with IDC.  The path report on my tumor (after mastectomy) said it was 1.8 cm IDC with associated DCIS.  No surprise, I guess.

    I need to do some reviewing of my pathology notes, but if I had DCIS and people made it sound insignificant (like it's not "real" cancer), I would be ticked off, too.  That's especially true when someone with extensive DCIS has to endure the same treatments as someone with the more invasive variety.

    For one thing, calling DCIS "non-invasive" may be technically (semantically) correct but the term makes it sound like the cancer cells are not capable of invading--and that's obviously not a safe assumption.  In DCIS, the cells have not invaded yet, but they may well be "invasive" at some time in the future.  Isn't it assumed that virtually all invasive/infiltrative ductal carcinomas started out as DCIS?

    I realize that some DCIS may not become invasive even if left alone. Why, nobody knows for sure. Apparently, the cells never figure out how to break out and grow beyond the ductal epithelial layer.  That's also similar to what happens with some locally invasive cancers--they never figure out how to get into the blood or lymphatics and establish themselves elsewhere as mets.

    But, until somebody comes up with the holy grail that can accurately predict which DCIS will or will not become invasive, I think we're all in this battle together.

    otter 

  • michmom
    michmom Member Posts: 113
    edited February 2008

    From the moment I received the call with my dx of DCIS I felt like I was hit with a ton of bricks and now a year later I still feel like I'm crawling out.  The dx was never minimized by my doctors and was always received by me as the big"c".  My life (like everyone else's) changed instantly and I long to have the old life back.  Having an insignificant past medical history I now have a dx that follows me everywhere and will never go away, filling out forms at a doctor's office, insurance issues, whatever, the big "c" will always be there and I hate it.

    I know I am luckier than some yet unluckier than others but nobody should ever minimize what we have all had to go through living and surviving with this disease.

    Thanks for letting me vent!

    Michele

  • lvtwoqlt
    lvtwoqlt Member Posts: 6,162
    edited February 2008

    I was just at my optometrist office over the weekend and mentioned that I went through BC surgery last summer and she said that we need to put in your records. I did not even think about it getting my eyes checked.  She did not ask what type but that it is important to be in the records.

    Sheila

  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited February 2008

    Yup, I got the same thing at both the dentist and the eye doctor.  I don't mind - if it means that there are things that they watch out for, I'm good with that.

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