Did Hair Come Back Better or Worse?

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  • shorfi
    shorfi Member Posts: 791
    edited April 2011

    My hair took no time to grow back once my last chemo treatment was done, but the texture is awful. It is mushy, and even after relaxing my hair, I find that I have to relax at least every 3 weeks. I also keep it short like I did in the past. I try not to complain about my hair because I remember when I had noneCry, but this new texture is getting on my nerves.

    How about you ladies?

  • fd411
    fd411 Member Posts: 398
    edited November 2007

    I normally have coarse hair. When it started growing back, it was like curly baby hair. There was no need to relax it or anything. It was nice and low maintenance short and curly like that. But after a few months of growing in, the normal coarse texture of my hair returned. I kept it short, because it was hard to comb when it started getting longer, and I wanted to stay away from the relaxer. Now I'm in treatment again and it's falling out so I'm curious how it will come back again.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2007

    I didn't have chemo, but I remember that my mom's hair grew back really fine and curly. She also didn't need to relax it for a while, but it also went back to its regular texture after a few months and then got even more coarse. She had to relax it more often, too.

  • shorfi
    shorfi Member Posts: 791
    edited November 2007

    Before chemo I had "nice" hair sometimes helped with a relaxer, but NOW, it is awful. When it grew back it came in fine and straight, like it was when I was a little girl, but its just that I find that I need relaxer more often now.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2007

    My hair took forever to grow back. When it did it was fine and straight  like babies hair for a few months and now it is like a jheri curl. I do not need to perm it but I am limited to how I can wear it because it is so curly and fine. I always had hair that did not really need perming but had thicker longer hair. I am not complaining I was bald for very long and am happy for what I have but (here's the but) it has been over a year and my hair is still short and not growing? Any tips? Benita p.s. I miss going to the salon  

  • shorfi
    shorfi Member Posts: 791
    edited November 2007

    I went to salon last nite. Never had a problem growing hair, but this texture sucks. My hair looks like a big old "wig". Let me stop complaining. I'm letting it grow out for a while because I am getting a "cap" called  wet and wavy. I am going on a cruise in the beginning of January and this will be a new look for me. Personally, I hate weaves, extensions, but I am gonna try this because my stylist thinks I need a change. I trust her and will let her do her thing. Kinda scared, but I will do it. Besides, no one from home will see me with this new hair, except the people who are traveling with me. Always had long hair, but it was very thin, and long hair does not look good on me. I believe I look better with shorter hair.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited November 2007

    We've always have had a "thing" about our hair, but it's funny how cancer changes even that. Sigh...

    I didn't have chemo and had been growing my hair back to one length after years of short, tapered cuts when I got my dx. I felt sooo fortunate to have dodged the chemo bullet, but when I got tired of having to do my do as it grew (especially with the athletics - what a pain! How many ponytails can you wear?!?), I was too afraid to cut it in case the cancer came back and I did have to have chemo. Being 6'2" and thin, I've gotten more than my share of "Can I help you, SIR?" when peole approach me from behind and I'm wearing a cap and sweats. I was too afraid of having to deal with that again - especially having no breasts - that I've kept the hair past its shelf life. It was like having cancer put me right back in junior high with all the body issue drama...

    But I interviewed a woman last week who had a BEAUTIFUL cut and I thought about letting the scissors fly again. I hear you about time for change!

  • CurlyKatFL
    CurlyKatFL Member Posts: 68
    edited November 2007

    My hair came back fine and a lot straighter. I used to braid my hair a lot and now it won't even stay in braids. I definitely don't need to relax it anymore. It's been this way for 18 months so I am not sure if it is going to change.

  • shorfi
    shorfi Member Posts: 791
    edited November 2007

    Good for you Curly...no more relaxers. Relaxing my hair was something I did as a young woman, it wasn't necessary, but everyone else was doing it. I really do try not to complain about HAIR, and I remember promising to myself that I would never complain about having a bad hair day. How quickly I forgot :)

  • sparker38
    sparker38 Member Posts: 140
    edited November 2007

    Hi,  I haven't started chemo yet but as far as hair.  Dealing with polycystic ovarian disorder I am hopeing that the hair does go and never come back.  Not on my head though.  I am and always have been very hairy all over.  I even hate to say it but I have facial hair.  It is very embarrasing but theres nothing I can do about it.  My dr. wouldn't take my ovaries when I had a partial hysterectomy because I was too young.  My hair grows very fast.  So I am hoping that if it does come out of my head it will grow back fast.  The rest can stay away.  I am tired of having to mow every few days...lol...The sad part is that my daugher bless her heart has inherited her mothers genes and is already dealing with facial hair at 15yrs old.  She is so self conscience about her self but she is strong and smart...(she gets it from her moma)...She is hangin in there with me.

    Well be blessed

    sabrina

  • pnut2
    pnut2 Member Posts: 86
    edited November 2007

    when i was diaganosed with ca i had 12 weeks of chemo. my hair grew back wild. the back was straight, left side was coarse, the right side was curly, and front was a mixture. after my bilateral, i had to go back for four treatments of chemo,my hair fell out again. i am now bald. i am wearliy waiting to see what texure my hair will be!!! strangiest thing; my eybrows didnt fall out this time around. has anyone seen robin roberts bald? i saw a clip of her when her hair was being shaved off.

  • neva4
    neva4 Member Posts: 16
    edited December 2007

    My hair came back soft very thick and curly also white.

    I had it cut after a month because it was so thick and curly,people were saying I looked like a black version fo Little orphen Annie.

    It's been almost 6weeks and my hair has grown back already with all the curl's and thickness.I' not complaining and won't cut it this time because I have to go back on Chemo.

    I'm stage IV with mets to the bone and they just found a mass in my lower left lobe.I was on Femra for the last 9 months.

    Glad to have found this site like all the resy will be visting often. 

     I also get a lot of good comments about the whitness of my hair with my skin color/

  • Lcharmie
    Lcharmie Member Posts: 430
    edited December 2007

    MY HAIR CAME OUT THE 1ST TIME WITH THE ADRAMYCIN AND ALL IN 1999.  THIS MARCH OF 2007 I HAD TAXOTERE AND MY HAIR CAME OUT AND GREW BACK IN SOFT SILVER GRAY, AND I ALWAYS TINT MY HAIR DARK, AS IT LOOKS SO THIN, IN OCT. AFTER STARTING NAVELBINE  AND TYKERB(AND MY HAIR HAD JUST GROWN IN FROM MARCH) AND A BAD DIP IN WHITE BLOOD COUNTS TO 1.O, MY HAIR CAME OUT AGAIN---WELL, IT IS GROWING IN, BLACK--HAS ANYONE HEARD OF SUCH--I AM NOT MAD AT IT--JUST DID NOT EXPECT THIS, AND NEITHER HAS MY BEAUTICIAN--WE THINK DUE TO THE CHEMO, ANY ANSWERS OR THE LIKES??!!  I AM 60 YEARS OLD, SO THE GRAY GROWING IN WAS APPROPIATE.

    LINDA C

  • MRSSALLY54
    MRSSALLY54 Member Posts: 3
    edited December 2007

    MY HAIR CAME BACK LIKE IT WAS WHENE I WAS A CHILD ITS IS SO SOFT NOW AFTER A WHILE IT STARTED COMING OUT ON THE SIDES AND IN THE TOP OF MY HEAD ANY BODY HAVE ANY IDEAL WHAT TO DO

  • Lee27
    Lee27 Member Posts: 69
    edited December 2007

    Sparker...your name sounds real familiar to me.  I've only found this site recently.  I THINK you are from the Chicago area. Correct me if I have the wrong person.  I am really glad to find this site...I know it is important to find other sisters out here going down the same journey.   My hair is starting to come in.  It is really short, but soft as as a babies.  I thought this day would never come for me.

  • MRSSALLY54
    MRSSALLY54 Member Posts: 3
    edited December 2007

    NO I AM NOT FROM CHICAGO IM FROM ALABAMA AND I HAVE HAD BREAST CANCER I AM GLAD I FOUND THIS SITE TO BECAUSE I AM GLAD I AM NOT ALONE IN THIS

  • MRSSALLY54
    MRSSALLY54 Member Posts: 3
    edited December 2007

    im in the same boat as a lot of you i dont want to go bald again i hated it so bad i cried all the time i didnt even go back to work i was gust to depress to go back every body said they understand but how can they if they havent been through this i am glad i found this site

  • Lee27
    Lee27 Member Posts: 69
    edited December 2007

    Hi Sally. I am just growing my hair back. I continue to wear a wig.  Many think it is my real hair cut.  Fooled a lot of people I guess.  I wear scarfs at home, or my cotton pink skull cancer caps for comfort.  Hang in there.  It will be ok.

  • sparker38
    sparker38 Member Posts: 140
    edited January 2008

    Hello all.  Happy New Year.

    Hi Lee yes I am from Illinois.  About an hour in a half from Chicago.

    A week after my second chemo my hair started coming out.  I was finally at the point of sporting a mo-hawk before I got up the nerve to finally shave all of it off with the help of my 12 year old son.  He wouldn't leave my side as I sat on the side of my bed and stared at my missing breast and my missing hair.  I think he was thinking I was going to freak out.  But for some reason I felt this overwhelming peace.  My daughter was not home at the time but when she came in and saw me she got angry.  She first said that she didn't see why I had to cut the rest off I should have waited longer, she didn't like how I looked, and she just kept stareing at me.  She finally appologized and said it wasn't her but the fear of what I am going through that scares her.  She is 15 going on 35.  My best girl friend.  She is used to it now.  I have never been one to wear weave or wigs so I went out to purchase my first wig.  I think it is cute but she doesn't like it.  I feel real uncomfortable wearing it so I don't.  I like wearing my hats.  Something I never did before either.  During the holidays I had a lot of company and I would just watch the reactions of people seeing me bald and it didn't bother me.  So after wearing long thick hair for 38 years I think the short hair look is the way I am going to go when it starts to come back.  I had the Mya Angelou look with the silver patch in the front.  I hope it comes back.  The only thing I hate is that the hair on my legs and arms are not going anywhere.  Thank God its winter so I don't have to shave my legs.  Ha ha.  Question?  Has anyone ever had a problem with pulling out hairs?  I think it's a OCD- nervous problem.  I pull out my eyelashes, eyebrows and hair on my head.  Have done it for years.  If anyone knows anything about this please let me know.

    Take care all

    sabrina

  • mibriggs
    mibriggs Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2008

    Well now I have one big ole 70's fro... and loving it. LOL!

  • Lcharmie
    Lcharmie Member Posts: 430
    edited January 2008

    HELLO SABRINA,

    YOUR SITUATION CAUGHT MY EYE AND HEART.  PLEASE TALK TO YOUR DRS. SO THEY CAN SEND YOU TO THE RIGHT PERSON, AS FAR AS YOUR URGE TO PULL OUT YOUR HAIR.  THERE IS A NAME FOR THIS, IT IS AN ILLNESS AND THERE ARE MEDS OUT THERE TO HELP AGAINST THIS URGE,AS IT IS A FORM OF HARM TO ONESELF, ALSO COUNSELING TO HELP TO.  YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIVE WITH THIS--IT MAY TAKE SOME TIME, BUT YOU CAN GET THROUGH THIS--THE CANCER MAY YET BE ANOTHER STRESS AND CERTAINLY SO--TAKE CARE OF YOU--I HOPE YOU HEAR YOU POST SOON.

    LINDA C

  • Deborahann
    Deborahann Member Posts: 37
    edited January 2008
    I have a "modified version" of a 70s fro.  I simply add headbands to my hair to mix it up a bit.  I will never, never, add chemicals or dye my hair again....I love it just the way it isCool
  • eag011
    eag011 Member Posts: 10
    edited January 2008

    Before bc I wore locs and had taken them out before diagnosis.  I've gone from past the shoulders natural hair to natural hair that has a completely different texture and seems to only have grown at a snails pace since my tx ended September 06.  Still, I am so thankful because after bc I hate wigs!!  :)

  • mibriggs
    mibriggs Member Posts: 79
    edited January 2008

    Deborah... I love your pic!  I did the head band thing too and sometimes I cainrowe the front (where the band would go) just to take away some of the volume lol!

    Stay beautiful.

    Mel

    xox

  • Lcharmie
    Lcharmie Member Posts: 430
    edited January 2008

    HI SALLY,

    EACH TIME MY HAIR HAS COME OUT AFTER CHEMO I HAVE HAD GOOD LUCK WITH ORGANIC ROOT STMULATOR PRODUCTS--THE CARROT CREAM AND THE TEMPLE BALM FOR THE EDGES AND TEMPLES. THEY HAVE THERE OWN SHAMPOO. IT CAN BE BOUGHT AT MOST HAIR SUPPLY STORES AND WALGREEN STORES--A LIL PRICEY BUT WORTH IT.  HOPE IT HELPS WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON

    GOOD LUCK

    LINDA C

  • Lcharmie
    Lcharmie Member Posts: 430
    edited January 2008

    HI SALLY,

    EACH TIME MY HAIR HAS COME OUT AFTER CHEMO I HAVE HAD GOOD LUCK WITH ORGANIC ROOT STIMULATOR PRODUCTS--THE CARROT CREAM AND THE TEMPLE BALM FOR THE EDGES AND TEMPLES. THEY HAVE THERE OWN SHAMPOO. THERE IS HAIR MAYONNAISE--TREATMENT FOR DAMAGED HAIR--IT CAN BE BOUGHT AT MOST HAIR SUPPLY STORES AND WALGREEN STORES--A LIL PRICEY BUT WORTH IT.  HOPE IT HELPS-- WOULD LIKE TO HEAR FROM YOU SOON

    GOOD LUCK

    LINDA C

  • Lcharmie
    Lcharmie Member Posts: 430
    edited January 2008

    HELLO SHORBR

    DID YOU HAPPEN TO TAKE NAVELBINE AS A CHEMO AT ANY TIME---IT REALLY CHANGES HAIR----MY HAIR IS OF A FINE THIN GRADE--AND NOT A GOOD GRADE OF HAIR--I WEAR A CURL---THAT LOOKS LIKE A PERM TO KEEP IT HEALTHY(WHEN I HAVE SOME)BUT THE NAVELBINE HAD MY HAIR LOOKING SOFT AND ALMOST STRAIGHT AND 2 MONTHS OFF--I GET BACK "LINDA HAIR"---THAT IS THE GOOD THING ABOUT NAVELBINE--I KNEW MY HAIR WOULD BE PRETTY, I WEAR IT SHORT AND THE CUTS WERE SO CUTE--CANT WAIT TILL IT GROWS IN SOME MORE

    BEST OF LUCK TO YOU

    LINDA C

  • kmh2007
    kmh2007 Member Posts: 5
    edited January 2008

    Can anyone recommend a good shampoo? I have been using baby shampoo since it was gentle on my scalp.  My hair was orginally long and thick and now its short and curly. any suggestions

  • Deborahann
    Deborahann Member Posts: 37
    edited February 2008

    I am also using the "organic root stimulator" products.  Although I must admit, I'm a little concerned about the "petrolatum"(a gelatinous mass obtained from petroleum) in the olive oil hair dressing.  I am trying to elimate all "petroleum" (a by product of hydrocarbons) from my beauty regimen.

    I am considering using "Carol's daughter" products once I finish using what I have.  Has anyone tried her products?  If so, I would be interested in your opinion...Thank you, Deborah Ann

    p.s. Thank you Mel for your comment, you are too kindCool

  • Lee27
    Lee27 Member Posts: 69
    edited April 2008

    Hi Deberanne,

    I have a one inch soft afro right now.  Feels great not to have a bald cold head anymore.  My back of my head is about a half inch longer.  I continue to wear a wig that people think is my own hair.  It has 3 different colors of dark brown that makes it look so real.  It is so much like my original style.  I often tug on it with laughter when people that know me say they love my hair cut.

    Is there a time period that must past before one does put a perm in their hair that you know of? I want to wear a short curly style now that it is growing back, so plan to just roll it with small rollers when it gets longer. 

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