The other shoe?
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Marin.......I'm a little late in giving you the encouragement you needed.....but I see that all is fine with you. I go in to my oncologist tomorrow for my 3 month checkup.....had blood work done on Monday so I just wanted to say I could relate to your anxiety
. Also....good vibes with your new man...
Love,
Terry -
Congratulations Marin!..It has been awhile since I posted to you. Hope your daughter is doing well. I am so happy about your personal love life. You deserve so much happiness.
On another note.:I know how you and others feel about mammograms. I think at times that I am the only one who lives on this roller coaster of feeling like I am NED then feeling like I am not. If I am feeling physically good, my mental/emotional side of me questions myself. If I am emotionally feeling super, a physical ailment will come about and make me question myself again. It's kinda like being a mom....cancer and being NED to me comes with a lot of guilt. I tend to overanalyize things... I sure would appreciate any advice from anyone on how they cope 2 years out. I am almost 2 years from diagnosis and I thought I would feel more secure than I do. I try to have faith, in God and Medicine, but I don't think I trust myself to know when my body is having a reoccurrence. Sorry for the blabbering on, Perhaps I just need to suck it up and prepare for the worst and then be pleasantly surprised...I hate disappointments.
Bless you all
MarciaA.
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Marin, I am thrilled for you!!! For your NED and the new beau.
Now I know why we haven't seen you around here alot lately!!!
Now, go out and celebrate!!!
Valerie
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HEY MARIN!!!
This is wonderful news!!!I am SO GLAD you are NED!
Now for your other little announcement...
I have just been invited to a wedding- the couple met online!
SO YOU GO GIRL!!!!
love ya,
g
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Now that's what we were all waiting to hear! Margarita time! Very happy for you, sweetie -
Lisa
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Go get'em gal!
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Marin: Your newfound happiness really made me smile and say awwww. I just had to say that.
Follow-ups are a bitch. congrats on the great news!
take care-
Patrice
p.s. please don't ask me about my exercise program if you know what's good for you.
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Yipeeee Marin,
for NED and Mr. Hot
Glad you can enjoy both!!!!
God Bless
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What wonderful news!!!
Amazing how those "routine" test become so NOT routine.
One day in a moment of "woe is me", my Aunt called. Kindest person on the earth. And normally, I try to be just like her. BUT...this day just happened to be a bad one. She started telling my how "lucky" I was. I quickly let her know that people that walk in, have a mammogram, and are told to come back next year are the lucky ones, not me! haha Gosh...I was awful to her. I felt bad.
Anyway...congrats on the good news once again!
Lisa
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I have LCIS and family history, so I am considered very high risk and am monitored very closely (mammos alternating every 6 months now with MRIs, in addition to frequent breast exams and taking tamoxifen for 5 years), so I know the feeling of "wating for the other shoe to drop". I've decided rather than waiting, I should put the shoes on and dance!!!!
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i have an idea, marin. now that we know you're okay and stuff...why don't you tell us about your sex life.
i've been married 30 years so i've forgotten what new love sex is like.
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Uhhhh, Patrice, I can tell that you haven't been hanging around the 'Mojo' thread very much....that's where all the juicy dish goes!!
Related to both topics, I actually felt irritated with 'new man' last night over an email he sent me about the color pink and the Komen Foundation as a 'worthy cause' and about having gotten Garth Brooks' new CDs that benefit 'the Cure.' I don't know why it irritated me so much except it reminded me of when I was going through treatment and got angry with people who became 'chummy' with me around the topic of BC. I always wanted to tell them to 'get out of my cancer.' Does anyone relate to that emotion? I know it's weird, but it's how I felt (and apparently still do).
Again, thanks, ya'll, for your support and well wishes. They mean everything to me!
~Marin
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I agree with you Marin on the "get out of my cancer" feeling. Is it possible that "new man" was just trying to be nice and made the foolish assumption that you would like him more if he supported the cause? You two are just getting to know each other, right? Maybe you just need to let him know that so many of us feel very differently about pink etc. that what is expected.
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Oh, Anne, I'm absolutely sure that he was trying to be nice. He even told me that he and his son have walked yearly in the Race for the Cure for the past 10 years! And when I told him about the BC, he had the perfect response and talked about his best friend whose wife was diagnosed last year. He concluded by saying that he thought the comments some people made to his friend about his wife's mastectomy were insensitive and way off the mark, adding that it was "about his love for her and not her breasts." So clearly this guy is a keeper when it comes to partnering one of us. Somehow, though, I felt like he was just getting a little too close to 'my territory' or something. I dunno, maybe I'm just afraid of closeness altogether and this is just an excuse..?
~Marin
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I'm glad that being nice was his intention.
I would be the last person to advise you about your own fears, so I won't try. Just know that I hope all works out well for you.
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marin,
i am so glad everything went great.. YEAH.
dear i am so glad you are smitten.
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