Less chance of reoccurance after time for triple negs????

I have also read this.  It will be 3 years for me on 9-15 so I hope this is true.

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Teresa44

I'm hoping that's true about mets. I just finished my chemo yesterday. Yeeeehaaaa! I'll have a chest x-ray, ct and bone scan in 3 weeks and if that's clear I'll have scans every 3 months for 3 years. I asked him what after 3 years and he said he plans on practicing for the next 40 years and he plans on us be good friends till he's done practicing. I figure I'm 44 now, if I make it that long great! Of course, that means I'll still be seeing an onocologist in some form or another, but I'd still be here!

Sharon

Dear Bimmer,



I remember your post well weeks ago, when you updated us on Diane's condition. I've not forgotten your wife and you in my mental list of special people I give moments to in quiet times during my day.



How extra difficult it must be for you both to have gotten as far out with ER negative disease, the joy and hope that goes along with such, and then to suffer such a tragic re-involvement with the disease as you both have. How I wish I could carry some of your load, one person for another. How fruitless are these words, other than to let you and Diane know that I suffer, in my own way, because of your suffering.



Life is not fair, and what has happened to you and Diane with this disease is tragic. We learn to value the small moments together with such intensity when such occurs, and look back forlornly on eons of wasted, non-consequential, unconnected times spent, which then, in our naivety, appeared purposeful. The focus which comes from breast cancer's reach is perhaps one of the few positive and most cherished lessons I have learned from the disease, enabling simpler, more relevant acts of kindness and action. Surprisingly, or human nature being what it is, non surprisingly, this de-cluttering, more diamond -sharpened focus on life's true meaning and on fellow (wo)man has come in spurts of insight allowing careful forging of a close relationship, not just sudden awakenings.



William Shakespeare, F.Scott Fitzgerald, Earnest Hemingway, Phillip Roth, come to mind as great writers on the human state. But you, Bimmer, come equally to my mind as a wonderful, loving husband who now is traversing a so painful, focused path. I just hope you know, truly feel, we are there in mind and spirit as you and Diane traverse your difficult journey together.



"Love sought is good, but giv'n unsought is better"

Shakespeare, Twelfth Night



Tender

I have read the same stuff about being 2 years out and 'home free'.  Diane and Bimmer give me pause.  I am hoping and praying for all of us that we stay disease free.  This is so hard.

my onc said that if it doesn't come back within 5 years, it probably won't.

Hi Cathey, yes I have read about the 5 yrs.

I made it 4 1/2 yrs before being diagnosed again this year.

I'm wondering, for those who have had bc come back does your "5 year" time period start over again?  Anybody know?  I know the 5 year thought isn't set in stone but the docs seem to use this frame of time alot.  Thanks

Galnok..I think that if you get a recurrence you do not start counting again. Recurrence/mets don't have time frames IMHO. I do think that if you get a new primary that you can begin counting separately for that one. It shouldn't be counted with your first primary, I would think. They would be separate entities even though your onc may treat it differently depending on the type of new primary (receptors) and what kinds of chemo you were on before.

Any thoughts?

Hi ladies...

I just wanted to say that my onc. told me the same thing....5 years w/o recurrence and I'm considered cured. I did do a prophylactic mastectomy 2 years after the first, and they found some precancerous cells in the other breast, and they were completely different than the kind they initially found. I plan on living well beyond 5 years, and this just proved that getting rid of both breasts is a way to hopefully make that happen. (My surgeon and onc. said that if I hadn't gotten rid of my other breast, I was sure to have BC again in a year or two! 

cheekymonkey...that is why I'm pushing for a breast mri. They won't cover it. I've got my onc on their back now. We'll see what will be but my biggest thing is that if they could just find the stuff early then maybe I wouldn't have to go through chemo again. I almost died from the chemo.

 I feel I need the MRI because I have dense breasts. They won't cover it because...I have no family history of bc. HUH? And who am I???