Anyone starting Chemo in August 07?
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I wondered also if it would be appropriate to PM Jeremy and let him know that we're here for ongoing support down the road. After the flurry of activity that surrounds a death dies down, he's going to be faced with the grim reality of this all. I don't want to be instrusive, but I also don't want to leave him hanging, you know? What do you guys think?
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I was thinking about this, as well. It's just so sad. Maybe we can find out if a fund will be set up for his boys, and we can make donations. Or, maybe he'd like donations made to some bc organization. Just a thought.
TX #3 and then one to go! Hope you're all doing well.
Eve
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I did see on the funeral site that they were asking for donations to Susan G. Komen. But I'd just as soon give money to a fund for the boys. She worked full-time from home, so there's going to be the loss of her income, plus the financial strain of full-time day care for the kids. I suppose I could just PM him and ask if he's given a fund any thought yet.
On a "lighter" note, if you can call chemo light....good luck with your next round, Eve. I got through #3 OK--found lots and lots of fluids really helped the barfiness/stoned thing. Who knew.
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Hi Girls,
Hey Eve - thinking about you today, and i hope all goes well. 3 down 1 to go....yeeeehaaaa!
I, too, like the idea of a fund for Stacey's boys, if he'd be open to that. But if he'd prefer the donation to the Susan B Komen Foundation, that would be fine, too. Whatever he'd prefer. (Is he even checking the board anymore to get a pm to him?)
It would be nice when the kids get to college age for him to be able to say something to them like: You're mom was so special, that these people really cared about her, so they care about you, too.
I'm open for anything...just let me know.
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I wondered if he'd get a PM, too. He did log on Oct. 5 and 6, so it appears he's checking in. If you guys want, I'll shoot a message on over to him, just saying that we'd like to do something for him and the boys, and that we're here for emotional support as well. Let me know.
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Eve- good luck with tx # 3....you're almost there. Wonderful.
Harley--i believe tomm is your last tx...fantastic!!!
My thoughts and prayers are with you both and to anyone else who is having anything done.
Hugs, Jackie
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Jackie,
Thanks so much for cheering me on! Some friends of ours are going out with us tomorrow night, to dinner, to celebrate my last tx! My dh and I are going to order a bottle of champagne, so we can toast them, and thank them for all their support.In November, we are going to take a group of friends out to dinner, to thank them for all they have done for me while I have been here and my dh has been in D.C... Now that he's here now, they won't have to help as much.
I'll be thinking of you on Wednesday, when I go see the lymphedema specialist about my swollen hand. After that, I go for my LAST Neulasta shot!I hope your first Taxol tx goes well!
God Bless,
Harley
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Hi girls,
Sounds good, Nash.
Have fun, Harley...a little celebration sounds great! Life is a series of small celebrations. And this definately is a qualifying event! I'm reserving mine for the 26th - 28th when dh and I go down to San Diego. I wanted to wait until the stoned/barfey/couch sitting/drooley/mouth sewer/headache/bloated/constipation thing was over. THEN it's a party. Anything prior to that just sounded like ...um. I don't know. I can't remember. This chemo-week has to be under my belt before I can really celebrate. (I'm post final tx, Day 5 - the worst is over - and I'm counting!)
Hope everybody is feeling ok.
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Harley,
Have a beautiful evening. That is so great. I'm sure your friends will be thrilled. And..I hope you get to enjoy a little champagne! I'm so happy for you and your husband too...
Good luck with the shot and the lymphedema specialist.
Love and hugs, Jackie
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OK, I've sent Jeremy a PM. Hopefully he will get it.
I'm glad you're going to make the San Diego lunch, Kaye. I wish I could go, but there's just no way. I feel like crap. My liver enzymes doubled again, this time over three days. The AST/ALT are now borderline Grade 3 toxicity, and this was before my third round last week. I feel like the onc is being a bit casual about it all. I see her again next week, and I hope she'll order another extra liver panel before tx #4. I have 6 treatments planned, and I'd prefer that my liver not fail before I'm done, thank you very much.
I'd like to ask for prayers for my mom, please. She's Stage IV bc, and has been on every chemo imaginable for the past five years. We're starting to run out of options, and she's been having a lot of shortness of breath issues that the docs are having trouble resolving. She's going for some more scans next week--some sort of special CT/angiogram that will show pulmonary emboli and lung mets smaller that what the PET can pick up. Hopefully at least we can get a clearer picture of what's causing her symptoms. She also has mets to the pericardium, and I'm so afraid her heart will just give out.
Sorry to be a downer when others are going out to celebrate, but some days I get a little sick of the cancer thing at our house. I'm tired of going to the cancer center every day, either for me or my mom, sometims twice a day, and often with my children. I know the situation could be worse, but frankly it could also be a hell of a lot better.
OK, pity party over. Thanks for listening.
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Thanks for reaching out to Jeremy, Nash. I hope he checks in, and it encourages him even a little bit.
Sheesh, I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. It boggles my mind. There is a verse in the Bible that says God won't give us any more than we can handle...but i have to admit, sometimes it's really, really hard to trust Him. Especially in situations the sort of which I see you. As we're growing up, it never occurs to us what our lives might actually be like...stuff just never seems to turn out the way we think it's going to. Maybe that's just the way it is. I can see a glimmer of light, though. Because of everything you've had to go through the last 5 years, you are an INCREDIBLE RESOURCE for people like us. You are such an encouragement, and you're so informed, and I can imagine what a huge help you are to your mom.
Of course I'll pray. My husband and I both will.
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Hey Everyone,
I think the last time I posted was the day after my 1st. Taxol. So....I'm reporting in ladies! Don't know if I mentioned it but while seeing the NP at the cancer center I asked her to look at my mouth (had been very sore for several days). She did and said she didn't really see anything to be concerned about, just some mild irritation. Well, by late Saturday my throat, ears, and mouth were so sore I was in agony...couldn't swallow. Thinking that I had picked up a nasty bug (please God, not strep) I phoned the NP on call and she called in some Levaquin for me. Took it immediately and went to bed. Woke Sunday to a mouth and throat that can only be described as 'gruesome'. Here's me....back on the phone telling the weekend NP that I've got full blown thrush and I know it's already started down the esophagus because of all the burning I'm having. She was really very nice but talked about I probably should wait until Monday and be seen. We had a very short discussion regarding the fact that I was in agony and d.......well wasn't going to wait until "sometime" Monday when "someone" would see me....thank you so kindly for understanding Sweet Pea!!!! Well, I got the anti-fungal drugs and started them stat, mouth is still not pretty but at least if I spray my throat with enough Chloraseptic I can swallow....so I am grateful. As for the rest I've felt much better on the Taxol than the A/C except I did start with the bone pain really badly on Sunday. It seems to jump around to different bony areas and hurt intensely for a few minutes and then stop or go to a different area. Have any of you had this with the Taxol? I have been coping with the pain and working but at night it hurts too much to sleep and I'm having to take something. My real fear is, will this bone pain be cummulative like with a lot of the other se's.....more you have, worse it gets?
To everyone who is planning their celebration parties: you go ladies and I wish each of us could be there physically to give you your medals.....including the most important one: The Badge of Courage. For you have truly paid dearly for it and have been a beacon on dark sick nights for ALL of us that came behind. There is no way to properly thank any of you all except to say that we will do our best to keep our beacons lit for our sisters behind us.....just as you've taught us. Thank you all and don't you dare think you're getting away from us though!!!
To everyone starting new txs. or just getting a routine this week, may all the good forces in the universe be with you all.
Nash, I'm praying honey.
June
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Nash,
I'll be praying for you and your Mom.
Sorry to be celebrating, when others are not doing so well...Hugs,
Harley
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Nash,
I am truly sorry for all you have to go through. I'll pray for your Mom, I hope she doesn't have to go through any more pain. I'll pray for you and your family. It must be horrible to have two family members going through the same thing. And to be a caretaker of someone who is so sick while you are going through your own ordeal is very unfair. I'm glad you have a place to vent and you are definitely not a downer...just a person who is going through more than you deserve. Hang in there. Be strong.
Lots of hugs, Jackie
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June,
Sorry to hear about your ordeal with your throat. That's terrible. I am starting my first Taxol tx tomm after 4 a/c txs. I am supposed to get neulasta the next day. Did you get it? Sorry if I asked this already, but my mind is sleeping. I get the bone pain from neulasta, I was wondering if that's what could be happening to you. I hope you feel better soon.
Hugs, Jackie
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June - I'm so sorry you had such terrible mouth troubles. I had my first Taxol on Friday too, but oddly enough, the mouth soreness I was having actually went away the next day! So, one major odd side-effect taken care of. Now I just have to fix that pesky fissure of mine, and I'll be feeling almost normal! I did have a bit of pain in the lower back after treatment, though, and noticed that my fingertips were a bit more sensitive, but the back pain was more muscular, not bone pain. I'm not getting Nuelasta since I'm doing weekly, so maybe that's why no bone pain. I hope it improves for you along with the thrush. Yeesh. Sounds like no fun at all. Just from the few days of my mouth being so sore I could hardly eat, I feel for you!
Nash- I know how tired I get of thinking about cancer, and I only have myself to worry about. You are one strong lady as is your mom, and you'll be getting a boatload of prayers coming from Minnesota!
Harley - congrats to you on being done. You've earned your celebration!
Peace and love to all of you tonight!
DeAnn
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Hi Ladies,
June, I gotta tell ya, you are a force to be reaconed with! And apparently you need to be a Force, dealing with the people you have to deal with - holy cow! I can not believe it! What is WRONG with them? (Ok, How do you spell "reaconed"? Wait...is it a word, or did i just make it up?)
This must be Sore Tongue Week. Tami, didn't you have it too? Dh just came back from the pharmacy with some Nystatin my onc called in for me. Is that the "Magic Mouthwash" you guys have spoken of? This oral thing has never been this much of a problem before, but this is so revolting...even my son (who loves revolting) says he wants to peel it. Charming. And I thought the taste BEFORE was bad. Sheesh. I hope this Nystatin stuff works. 4 x a day, swish then swallow. I looked it up on line and it said they've found it doesn't work as well as the newer ones. (Now, why wouldn't they give you the newer one? Whatever.) And that's just the Northern part of me. My Lower Hemisphere is on FIRE. Sitz baths, the nurse said. ooooookaaaay.
Sorry about the bone pain you're having. It's hard to determine cause when the se's are the same for different meds. I've had bone pain in my feet and hips after this last tx, odd, because i'd not had any before at all. Cumulative?
So you see, I'm not really ready to "celebrate" just yet. I am ready to take this day, and be so grateful that I don't have to do day 6 post tx anymore. That's ok with me.
Because at least I don't have a fissure.
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Thank you so much for the support, ladies. It means a lot to me.
Harley, please don't apologize for celebrating--you and every one else deserve every minute of it. I am so happy for everyone who is doing well--it's a mood lifter for me when things seem bleak.
June--that is some gnarly thrush you have going there. Yikes. Down the esophogus is some serious crap. Hope that resolves soon.
Kaye--hope your mouth is better soon, too. Blech. And your poor toushey.
I'm currently in the "tastes like an old sock" phase of mouth existence, which is nothing compared to what you gals have.
As far as the Taxol goes, my mom's main problem with it was neuropathy. She did have some bone pain, but she said it's so hard to sort out what's what, like Kaye said.
Have a good night, everyone!
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Jackie,
I had one of those days when things just go wrong... the phlebotomist, ShaNa took TWO trys to get the blood this time, and OUCH! It hurt!
The nurse who wimped out at my VERY FIRST TX, decided she wanted to try again today... after ONE disastrous try, and me being VERY FRIGHTENED!, she got Crystal, who is very good, but it still took her THREE TRIES to get the IV going.... I guess since I didn't get a port, my veins are pretty shot!! I hope that just giving them a break will be all that is needed!
I definitely needed that CHAMPAGNE tonight! We got a bottle, and shared with all our friends. We toasted each other, and it was fun! I guess we really needed that! They gave me a card, with a gift card inside for our favorite restaurant, so we'll be going there later...
I'll think of you tomorrow, as I get my LAST NeuLASTa shot, and get my hand examined for the LE...
Hugs,
Harley
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Kaye,
Congratulations to BOTH of us, being finished with our chemo txs!Sorry about your mouth troubles...
I had some of that ... whatever it is, when your skin falls off the bottom of your feet... I thought they were blisters, but then I pulled the skin off, and it seemed better, but there still seems to be something going on there... and of course, the LE issue with my swollen hand... but, I try not to think of these things, and just be glad that the txs are OVER!!!
Hugs,Harley
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Nash,
I can't help feeling less happy when others who have helped me through are suffering...June,
Sorry about the thrush! It sounds so horrible! Hope you can get it fixed.... maybe that Magic Mouthwash will help!! I'll be thinking about you, and praying that it gets better!
Hugs
Harley
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Harley--do they think the lymphadema in your hand is from getting that neulasta shot in that arm that one time? Also, I couldn't remember how many nodes you'd had out. I was thinking about you b/c my mom's lymphadema is really bad, and I was glad you were getting help from the LE clinic. Glad you had a good time last night! That's so cool that your friends are so supportive.
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nash,
Yes, I really DO think that the Neulasta shot in that arm is what set off the Lymphedema, because I saw the LE specialist today, and she measured and felt both arms, and she sees that there is also a little bit of swelling in the arm... but, she gave me some massage exercise to do, and I think I'll try it later... but I am MUCH too tired now!! I had TWO very early mornings, and a very long day yesterday, with my last chemo...
I hope your Mom can get to a LE clinic, too, because they can help her. I will be going back to have some of the fluid pumped out of my arm, into... where ever it is that stuff goes!!! Then, after a few treatments from the le clinic, I will go to be measured for a sleeve and a glove... I sure hope my insurance will pay for all this!I had SIXTEEN lymph nodes removed and they were ALL CLEAR!
Yes it was fun! We got a bottle of champagne and they toasted us, and we toasted them, too.
I hope you and your Mom are doing better.
Best wishes,
Harley
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Thanks, Harley. That stinks about the shot setting the LE off--I remember you were worried about that. So unnecessary on the part of the nurse.
That is really good you're getting such good manangement of the situation, though. It seems like every time my mom decides to go to a LE person, something else comes up that needs attention, like her pleural effusion. It's so frustrating. Plus, she's been really bad over the years about doing the excercises and being careful not to overuse the arm, etc. So a lot of it is her ignoring the arm and having it get bad. She's had several bouts of cellulitis as a result of the LE. One thing, though, is that her LE also gets worse when she's on a lot of IV chemo. She was on all oral chemo for a couple of months recently, and the swelling in the arm really went down. So I'm wondering if the combination of them pumping fluid out of your arm and you being done with chemo will really help things. Plus the exercises and sleeve.
Yay on the clean nodes, all 16 of them!
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Nash,
Yes, it is very important to take care of that arm!
When I got my last TX yesterday, the nurse told me that she MIGHT have to use the left arm for my TX, and I just LOOKED AT HER, thinking DON'T YOU TOUCH THAT ARM! ! I even said, "I have lymphedema in that hand, and it wouldn't be a very good idea". I was so glad when Crystal came over and got the IV started, even though it took her THREE tries!They haven't started pumping out the fluid yet... I have an appt. twice a week at the LE center to get the massage exercises, and the fluid pumped out... We are hoping it will only take maybe 2 weeks to get this done, so I can get measured for the sleeve and glove. She thinks I won't need the sleeve, but it will be nice to have, just in case I have to fly somewhere, I will use it... just in case....
I'll be praying that your Mom can get to a center, and have the LE treated.
Hugs
Harley
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Harley, that is totally nuts that the nurses would even consider putting an IV in your left arm!!! Good grief! Even w/o the LE, with an axillary dissection on that side, they shouldn't even be sneezing in the vicinity of your arm. Sheesh!
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girls i thought you might enjoy this saying.
God never gives you more than you can handle - I just wish he didn't trust me so much.
A friend gave me an angel with this on it when I was in the hospital.
I just thought I would share it with you.
Hugs and Prayers
Lori
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Nash,
Yep, that is what I was thinking... the 1st nurse asked me how long ago I had my mast? I just stammered and said ... Oh, I think THREE months.... but it was 5 months... but I STILL don't want anyone touching that arm!! I think that the medical industry REALLY needs to be informed about LE and it's consequences, if not treated properly...Those exercises are really too easy! You massage the arm, and you are supposed to use a 'light' touch... very light! In fact, the therapist chided me for touching it too hard! It will be hard to get used to those exercise...massages! I am way too tired today to even try them, but I should get started tomorrow maybe.
Harley
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Hey Everyone,
A quick note this afternoon (yea yea, I can hear you all giggling)!
Day 5 after 1st Taxol. Mouth is VERY slowly getting better but I do think there is progress there. Haven't had as much bone pain today as before but did get really really dizzy a couple of times at work. All in all (at least so far......do I DARE say it) the Taxol hasn't been as bad as that b....... A/C.
I'm praying it holds as my son is coming in this weekend from Chicago and I haven't seen him in 9 months....so want to be able to just spend some time with him.
Jackie: I know your 1st. Taxol was today, let us know how it went when you can. You asked me if I was going to continue the Neulasta. They told me that the Taxol was easier on your immune system and recommended that I at least try it without and see where my counts go. I go back Friday for my first counts...so we'll see.
DeAnn: How are you feeling since your Taxol last Friday? Sure hope all is well.
Kay: Hope the MM is helping you, it didn't do a thing for me. And dare I even ask about your bottom side? All kidding aside, some days you just don't know what to hold first.....yeeezzzz.
Harley: So glad you had such a great evening with hubby and dear friends....you deserve it....'bottoms up', girl! Also so glad you got to the LE Clinic, sounds like you've got some people who know what they're doing and will be able to help.
I know how you feel about incompetent? health care. I won't allow myself to even catnap on chemo days unless my husband is sitting right there. For the most part they're a good group of nurses but I have both seen and stopped mistakes on myself. It's such a shame that we have to be such fierce warriors for ourselves when we're already under seige from this disease. But anyway, you keep on advocating and guarding for Harley.
My best to each of you and hope your week is going reasonably well for all.
June
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June,
Thanks! It was really nice to celebrate with friends, and just think... This part is OVER!! That was my LAST TX!!My dh was not allowed to go into the treatment room with me and stay with me... I wish he could have, but they made him leave.
He didn't go with me when I got the Neulasta shot today, either... he sat in the front waiting room, but I doubt it really mattered all that much. I noticed that they changed the place where you get the Neulasta shot... it's in one of the exam rooms... probably because I insisted the last 2 times to have the Neulasta shot in my stomach, and I guess they saw me there, with my pants halfway down, getting my shot, and thought... maybe we should have a private area for getting the shots?? DUH!!
Yes, we must be our own advocates...
Best wishes,
Harley
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