HELP!!! Laundry issue,,,,

I'm LOL!!  I've had this issue going on in my house for years.  I'd be even more PO'd if my DH rolled his two together.  Mine leaves his hard, crusty, stinky socks inside out in individual balls.  I find it very irritating and humiliating to have to unroll these crusty, stinky balls of sweat.  I've tried not washing them or throwing them in the washer and dryer as is.  Naturally they don't dry thoroughly and then they really smell.  After 20+ years of marriage, you'd think this would've been a non-issue by now.  I even had the kids trained early.  Do you think it's a passive-aggressive control thing??

You know Dr. Phil said these little issues are not the ISSUE.  If you figure it out let me know. 

i near about died laughing as i read this!!!!!!!

not laughing at YOU, but laughing at the similarities ............ i just about lose my flipping mind with every load of laundry ........... not balled up socks, but inside out everything ............ one leg in, one leg out, one sleeve in, one sleeve out, one sock right, one sock wrong ............. chocolate bar wrappers in the pockets, tissue in the pockets blah, blah, blah lol!

and that's just my daughters laundry ............. thank the good lord that my ex "dh" has vacated my house for the winter again ............ i won't even get started on his annoying crap!

jaybird ........... i think i'm finally joining the "thankfully not married" realm after a "courageous and lengthy battle with pure selfishness" LOLOLOL! 

I guess you're right. I'm astounded that your guy rolls them when HE puts them in the drawer. Actually he sounds like a pretty good guy.

Dirty socks at my house get thrown in a pile in the bathroom, and eventually into a laundry basket. By the time I do any laundry anything that was sweaty is dried out, so pulling them apart wouldn't be torture.

I used to put them away but I quit so much lifting after bc so now I put them in a basket and announce these are "clean." So the owner has to put his own socks away which means that some weeks they just sit there in the "clean" basket.

Nobody ever rolls them up. Usually I try to buy my sons and my husband different style socks so I can tell them apart.

I think give him a big hug and a kiss and look the other way about the socks. Whatever it was that was bothering him isn't worth getting into a dust-up about.

Is he fussy about taking the trash out? 

Well, junie, you're just gonna have to kill him....no no....scrap that.  I never said it, officer!

Actually, he sounds kinda OC to me.  It's his little thing.  These things are never rational, so it'll be hard to combat this one.  Might as well give up now and live with it.

To make you feel better, I will tell you a story about my dh.  He is so tidy about some things.  For instance, if we have a can of peanuts, it drives him wild if I just poke my dirty old hand in the can and take some peanuts and eat them, then put my dirty old hand in the can for more.  He says I'm supposed to pour some out into a small bowl and eat from there.  Much more sanitary.

OTOH, he undresses and somehow his socks become embedded, inside out, in his boxers.  I, who do all the laundry around here, am supposed to pick his crummy socks out of his shorts and turn them right side out?????  I don't think so.  He was totally surprised when I pointed this out to him as being extremely gross for me to deal with.  Mr. Clean.  LOL  I've compromised.  I will pull the socks out of his shorts but won't turn them right side out for washing.  I figure the insides and the outsides are equally cleaned in the wash and if there is dog hair/cat hair on the socks that doesn't wash out because they are inside out, he can just stew on it.  That's my revenge.

BTW, we've been married for 36 blissful years.

And, don't forget.  WE'RE ALL MARRIED TO THE SAME MAN!

Tina

This is so adorable. I had 3 sons plus my husband for, it seemed like, 100 years. Of course they NEVER, EVER turned their T-shirts or undershirts right side out before plunking them in the laundry.



So I begged, threatened, argued, pleaded, all to no avail.



I finally wised up stopped turning them right side out. I figured, they could do that. It was very hard for me, I hate things turned wrong side out. But I stuck to my guns and stopped turning them and no one said a word.



SO, I would just throw the folded, dirty socks in the washer, put the mess in the dryer, put them back in his drawer and see what happens. Don't say a word, when he explodes about dirty, half-wet socks, tell him if he wants them washed separately and folded, they have to go in the dirty clothes in two pieces or he gets them back the way you found them.



HEEEEheeee, gotta work!



Hugs, Shirlann

My DH just drives me crazy with his inside out washing.

Everything is one arm in one arm out, one leg in one leg out, and try as I might I just cannot not make him turn things the right way out before putting in the laundry basket....he says 'what does it matter!!

So, I thought about it, and decided it DID matter to me, I had to deal with it.

My way to deal with it ? Much as it pains me I just stick it in the washer as is, then out it comes any which way. I just fold, (well I try, best I can) and put it back in his drawers.....the complaints I get, you should hear him yell !!! I then proceeded to buy him 2 decent sets of everything, which I WILL turn the right way out, and wash, iron, and put away these separately, all neatly pressed and ready to go. He always has decent clothes when I go out with him , but when he goes out with the boys he looks a tramp!!! And I DO NOT care !!! 

He complains when he gets to the gym he is the only man there who has to fight with his kit before he can get it on! his shirts and pants look terrible when he has a boys night out, I watch him just smooth things out with his hand, then put them on, and I cringe!

I also have given him his own iron, for the very rare occasions he does iron, I was fed up of reaching for the iron only to find something horrible glued to the bottom of it, and to have to set too and clean it before I could use it.

He is just the same with shoes, again I have 2 pairs I keep clean and polished ( and well hidden !!) for when we go out together. He just doesn't know what polish  and smart shoes are!!

I just hope he never meets anyone I know when he's out with the boys, as he looks such a mess !!!!!

Don't know what it is with men. My DH didn't get his scruffy ways from MIL, she keeps a very tidy house. I tell him a spell in the army would have done him good as a young 'un !!

Isabella.

ROFLMAO.  Oh, ladies, aren't they something?

Bathroom solution: his and hers.  I hardly ever venture into his and if he groused that it's crummy, I remind him where the cleaning supplies are. 

Having separate bathrooms means never having to fall into the toilet in the middle of the night because you didn't realize the seat had been left up.

Nobody ever said marriage would be easy. LOL  But, doesn't misery love company?

Tina

I'm sitting here laughing. 

Isabella, I know what you are talking about.  My dh was just recently STILL wearing an old t-shirt with is favorite basketball team on it...they won the championship in 1997 (I believe).  I FINALLY told him NOT to wear that shirt outside of this house and especially not with me!  And he doesn't anymore.  Plus we bought him a couple of decent outfits that he can now fit in (he's gained weight) and two pairs of NICE shoes (instead of the one pair he's had for I don't know HOW many years) to wear ESPECIALLY when we're together.

About toilet seats....When I was due to have my second child and had quite a big belly I needed to go to the bathroom.  I didn't turn on the light and PLOPPED down on the toilet bowl (seat was up) and DARN I had a big pain go right up my vajayjay!  My water broke.  I had the baby that night!   Another time a toilet seat was up was when I was shopping with a friend out of town.  I didn't pay any attention to the toilet behind me, and low and behold as I was squatting over the toilet my pants got wet!  Yes, my OUTSIDE pants!  My friend laughter her butt off when I came out and told her about my wet pants and told her to walk closely behind me so no one would see.  Awwww....the good ole days!

Shirley

Dotti - Speaking about aim, and I can't remember the name of the movie. But, do any of you remember the scene where Jack Nicholson is peeing, spraying and hosing down the entire toilet area??  He's so sick and tired of his controlling wife telling him to sit down when he pees and after she's gone he has a pee party. 

I really don't care how or when they take of business, just clean up after.  I find it degrading and humiliating to have to clean up messes that someone else as made.  Probably why I haven't been able to hire a housekeeper.  It's my mess so it's my job to clean up after myself. 

Oh,  I remember that movie!!!  My dh asked if I was going to make him do that and I said I'd never ask him to if he'd just FOCUS!  Of course he hasn't.  I just lay TP down, but he doesn't take the hint.

Gonna have to have another talk with him.

my goodness...I just started reading this thread and I am laughing like crazy. 

Speaking of laundry and boys ..I am a single mom to a 9 yo boy.  Do the skid marks improve at all? lol

Bugs

Skid marks---try for LIFE

Janet - I claim all money too!  Is one of my primary sources of income!  My DH is doing good to get clothes IN the washbasket - for some reason they usually end up a foot away on the floor.  *sigh*

Oh well, with the back pain, I've given up laundry - maybe he can tain himself??