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Mary1968
Mary1968 Member Posts: 58
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

For those that do not know my story my 60 year old mother have breast cancer stage IV.  It has spread to her bones.  

My mother never been a happy person but being diagnose with bcmets she have become the most miserable person in this planet. 

She always looking for stuff to fight about.  She bad mouth my sisters and I.  All we have done is tried to help her as mush as possible but she always looking for faults.

I just hate that my mom is spending, what can be her last days being so hard to deal with.  I have not called her in four days.  I was calling her everyday.  I do not visit more because I live 80 miles away from her and money is tight.  I want to visit her next Sat however I do not know if I am. 

  

Mary

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  • Eula
    Eula Member Posts: 8
    edited September 2007

    Mary,

    I have just been diagnosed with bc, having surgery next week so I can't yet speak from experience what your mom is going through emotionally.  I hear in your comment that you are a caring daughter and probably would do anything you can for your mom.  Give yourself credit and realize that you can only control your actions and reactions.  I know it requires a lot of patience on your part (my mom was difficult also).  I pray that I remain as pleasant as I possibly can throughout this ordeal and I will pray that your mother somehow manages to restore good relationships with you and your sisters while she is living.  God bless you.

    Eula 

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  • tawyna1
    tawyna1 Member Posts: 273
    edited September 2007

    hi,

    my mom was diagnosed with breast cancer three years ago. she was stage 2 . she had and still has bad mood swings. i am the one that helps her.  it is hard at times when she is feeling angry. i understand some of what you are going through.  my mom has been unhappy for a long time. sometimes the ones that help the most are the ones that get hurt.  god bless you. 

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  • cowgirl
    cowgirl Member Posts: 777
    edited September 2007

    Anger is part of BC, and anyone in a patient's path can bear the bront of it. What you need to remember is no matter what she says she is angry at her BC, not you. Cancer just like grieving has phases, and knowing that is half the battle.

    I am praying for you and your family.

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