Is there life after breastcancer?

Hi Kaloni

I think this is something which will come in its own time.  Each of us has had an extreme experience and the most fundamental of it is dealing with our own mortality. 

Perhaps help from a psychologist might be what's needed here?  It sounds like you have depression.  This is what I am finding is hitting all of us who are making our way after all the treatments.  I was dx in August last year and the anniversary has been very difficult - almost like everyone is saying "Well you are through with it now" and even I expect to be able to pick up the pieces and get on.  It doesn't appear to be that easy.

I'm sending you a big hug.  I can't help in any other way than to send you good vibes for making that small step forward, even if it is three steps forward and two back!

((((Kaloni))))

Valerie S

Hi Kaloni:



There surely is



You are having a bad patch now


I had to seek counselling

and anti deps after TX..

Also, I did get another kitty
which was missing muchly in
my life, after TX




Now at near 8 yrs out

some days are bad

some are good, by that
I mean more challenges than others

but .. just being here

is wonderful and
I thank my HIGHER POWER each day



Put one foot in front

of the other

take one day at a time




Counselling helps

Be in nature

and not too hard on self

It takes time



Lots of hugs out to you tonight







Life is ups and downs at

the best of times



)))

Been there. This to shall pass. I remember being scared to work and live after my chemo ended. It has been 10 months since my last treatment and I am really feeling much better. I still have some more revisions on my recon in December but I am really moving on as best I can. You will too. Just give it some more time.

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I agree with all of the previous posters....it takes time and you haven't even finished up with all of your surgeries yet, so perhaps it's just not the moment to expect to be able to re-invent yourself? In my experience (and I'm not even 2 full years out, so...), the re-invention begins and progresses oh-so-gradually and one day you see that you're doing some new things, reacting differently to old things and even growing a new world view.

Time, Kaloni, time.....and maybe anti-depressants & supportive therapy. It WILL happen for you....I believe that it's a natural out come of this journey for each of us.

~Marin

Sierra put it so well: take things one day at a time and you'll make it through.  Everything is so overwhelming at first and there are so many tests, doctor appointments, procedures.  Time helps a lot.  It's been four years since my diagnosis and now I rarely even think about cancer, except right before getting the mammograms.

Hang in there!

Catherine

Wendy, you have come a long way.  I remember you having problems restarting your PhD.  Congratulations on being almost finished.

What job will you start?  I'm very excited for you.

Shirley

Kaloni: Things will improve
and sending all good wishes to you for
your upcoming surgeries..



Cheryl:



Thank you for acknowledging

part of the joy of being

a thriver.. is being able to

help



I hope your labs are good

and

..

in fact, I have to go soon for blood

and guess what, put it off (just a little)
as

I just love my coffee..



Anyway, best to all

here..

(((((Catherine))))) Congrats on that 4 years
all of a sudden time starts going too fast
doesn't it )



Not an easy road at times

but there is Life



Much love





Sierra

There is life after this life altering event. Diagnosed nov 26th with DCIS on right side stage 0. Had bilateral mastectomy on march 5th @ a wonderful hopsital after agonizing over the right decision for me. Have 2 & 4 year old boys and a mother with a multitude of health (cancer issues) none of which are BC, I am just 40, no family history and a clean mammo 1 year ago. Funny how things change. Great OB/GYN who was thorough enough to think he felt something on the left side sent me for a "precautionary" mammo/sono and behold a mocroscopic finding on the right side. After 5 months of struggling with my Veterinarian husband we decided on bi-lateral mastectomy. Feel like a new person, blessed, grateful for the experience. Hard to beleive for some but I have a spring in my step and complete faith that I did the right thing. Next Surgery is 6/16/08 aprehensive but again grateful I have options and an amazing health care team. All the best to all of you....we are survivors and we are inspirational to others. Every moment is a gift we just have to choose to recognize it. Be well!