Keeping strong for Mum

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boppa
boppa Member Posts: 1
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer

Hi, im new to this - unfortunately my Mum was diagnosed with breast cancer recently and had her breast removed. At the time of Mum being diagnosed my baby was only two weeks old. I have tried to be my Mums rock and have attended all appointments etc. We are a very close family but i am finding the whole experience very difficult to deal with when i am away from my Mum.

 Does this sound familiar to anyone ?? She is currently on her 4th chemo and has just been admitted to hospital with chronic pain.

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  • Shannon410
    Shannon410 Member Posts: 5
    edited September 2007

    Hi boppa.

    I'm new, too. MIL just diagnosed. Saw onc today - first visit. This is hard. Hard to see a woman we love be in pain, hard to know what to do, hard to stay strong.

    My mom told me tonight "don't forget to take care of you."

    I hope your mum's pain is gone. You sound strong and in a good spiritual place.

    (((boppa)))

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  • kjm119
    kjm119 Member Posts: 4
    edited September 2007

    Hi. I am so sorry to hear about your mum. I hope that her pain is eased soon. It is important to remember that we are all human and need to lean on someone. My mom was just diagnosed as well and I am trying to be her rock. I found it helpful to talk to a close friend who will just listen. Maybe this will help. We are all here for you. Be strong.

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  • cneal318
    cneal318 Member Posts: 212
    edited September 2007

    Hi Everyone, I am sorry to hear about all of your moms. I am also in the same boat, my mother is 54 and was diagnosed in December 2005 with Stage 4 bc with mets to liver, and in April of this year mets to the bone also. It is very hard to see my mother dealing with this. I am my mothers biggest advocate. I am at every appointment she has and I make it a point to know everything that is going on with her. Its nice to know that this site is here so that I can talk to others who can understand what I am feeling. Please keep my mother in your prayers, she goes Monday for her scans to see if this new chemo is working.

    Crystal

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  • ella15
    ella15 Member Posts: 2
    edited November 2007

    Hi everyone,

    Like a few people here, i am new, just signed up.  My mother has just been diagnosed with breast cancer last week.  She's just had surgery and needs to undergo radiotherapy treatments, starting soon.

    Seems its ok since it was found early, though i am still worried about the treatments etc for her.   And the fact that often these things come back or spread elsewhere. 

    I'm trying my absolute hardest to try and keep calm and positive for the family because thats what they need me to be and also what they expect of me I guess.  My dad is obviously pretty concerned and I am worried about him too. 

    I am struggling a little too, just bursting into tears on odd occasions.  Never in front of my family but tears nonetheless.  I have a very supportive partner but how do all the other daughters out there get through this? 

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  • Shirlann
    Shirlann Member Posts: 3,302
    edited November 2007

    Most likely, all of you will have your moms back, in good health.  It is a long, hard journey, but bless you all for being there.

    I am 72, and I strongly advise you to take this opportunity to tell your moms how much you love them.  I did not do this with my mom after her stroke, I was afraid she would think I thought she was dying, which she was, so I stayed "cheery".

    I would give anything to have her here for a few minutes, to take her hand, kiss her hand and hold it,  tell her how much she means to me, how the birthdays, Christmases, holidays, meant so much because of her.  I would cry a little, so she could feel my tears, and just let her know what a presence she was in my life.  Loving my babies, always there for me.  I would give anything for a second chance.  Don't let this one go by without something like this from you.

    Just my thoughts, and regrets, Shirlann

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