Just diagnosed facing double mastectomy next week
I have just had a week to process all of this. I meet with the plastic surgeon on Monday and will have reconstruction with the mastectomy on Thursday. They took out a 7cm area including the margins, and there was lobular carcinoma in the margins. They didn't tell me what stage I am in. I am still in shock because it was a routine mammogram and I have had lumps in the past and they said they were never anything, but this time the radiologist detected something. I am glad I found this site and am looking forward to the support it offers.
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Hello Susan,
Im sorry to have to meet you this way ....you have found a wonderful site for support...
I came here, almost a year ago now, scared to death just like you are and these wonderful woman/men rallied around to help me in any way they could....The support you will find on this web site is absolutely AMAZING...
It helps tremendously to talk with someone who has already walked in the shoes you are now wearing....they will be able to guide you in most anything you might need on your journey...
Please dont be afraid to ask questions or just post here if you need someone outside of your family/friends to listen to your fears...I found it was much easier to talk to the people here than it was to my family/friends about my fears...I didnt want to scare everyone with my fears but I couldnt keep it bottled inside either...
I will watch for your post as you progress through your surgery so please continue to post and let us help you...
Hugs
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HI Sue,
I'm sorry you have to be here with us, but you found a wonderful group of women. If you read the 'What's your ILC story', you'll see that many of us have had large ILC tumors (mine was 7.5cm). ILC is very sneaky and hard to detect.
Best of luck with your surgery and let us know how you're doing!
hugs,
Lynn
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I keep having to adjust my thinking. I thought initially that after the lat mastectomy, I would be ok, but that doesn't necessarily mean that, does it? It is just so much to process. How long will I need to be off of work and plan for a sub with the lat mast and recon? I told them about a month... is that right?
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Hi Sue. Sorry you had to join us, but welcome. I had a bilateral with expander reconstruction 6/14/07, and my PS released me to go back to work (with no heavy lifting) after 4 weeks. I felt ready. I guess it would depend on what sort of job you have, too. I am a high school counselor so I'm in my office most of the day. Good luck and keep posting - I think you'll find it's really helpful.
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Hi sue -
I'm so sorry! This part is tough, but the anxiety will subside and you'll then move on to treatment, etc. Best wishes to you with your surgery...keep us posted...we'll help you through this.
(btw, I was dx'd 2 years ago with ILC and LCIS...had Masts, chemo, radiation and now Tamoxifen. So far...so good!)
Laura
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Sue you have come to the right place. So many ladies here have been in your position and will be happy to share tips, insights and listen to whatever is on your mind. I know things must be hitting you hard right now and things seem to be moving fast.
Discussions with your surgeon and oncologist will answer questions about your actual staging and any additional treatments planned. It often helps to have a friend or family member with you at your doctor appointments so they can help you to remember what is said.
You may not have had time to even think about it yet, but try to have some comfortable roomy tops that button or zip in the front, so you can easily get them on and off after surgery. Many women have used soft cotton camisoles made specifically for mastectomy surgery that have pockets for soft forms and also places to pin your drains. I like the large cotton smock tops like nurses wear that have pockets and snaps down the front. Also plan on comfortable knit pull-on slacks that make getting dressed easier for the first week or so.
Just feel free to ask questions or express concerns here. It is so difficult right after a new diagnosis to absorb it all in a brief amount of time. It will get better. We are here when you need us.
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I am learning more everyday. My daughter and I will go looking for loose, comfortable tops and pull-on slacks for after the surgery. My husband wasn't with me when my dr told me the dx, but will be for everything after this. I've had lumps before and we just did not expect this. My daughter is a med student, too busy, but very supportive when she can be. I am almost afraid to read on this site, because I find out more every time, but then after it sinks in, I'm grateful for the info. It is comforting to know you are all out there and understand how this is.
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hi ! i'm a ILC gal too ... way over 7 cm ...stage 3A and 3 years and counting
i recommend starting a 3-ring binder of all your reports, tests, meds, questions, etc and take it with you to all appts ... you'll probably have a number of docs before too long and this will help them get accurate info and you won't have to worry about remembering it accurately
hugs and hang with us
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Hi Sue - I'm an ILC gal also. I did the bilateral mastectomy with expander reconstruction two years ago on 9/1. Everyone has given you great advice. Only thing I might add is I used a piece of ribbon to pin my drains on when I showered.
Any questions you have just ask. We're happy to help. It's all going to be a blur right now. Hang in there - I know it's hard, scary and confusing.
Hugs
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I too am having a double mastectomy Tuesday. It has all hit me within a week and having trouble taking it all in. I had a mammogram in January and was told it was ok. My left nipple started inverting around that time also. I went to the doctor last Wednesday simply because it was time to renew my high blood pressure prescription. I casually asked her about the left nipple. She scheduled another mammogram for 8 am Friday and an appointment with a surgeon at 3 pm Friday. They did a double biopsy Monday at 8 am. Found out Wednesday that I have cancer in both breasts and have a double mastectomy scheduled for Tuesday.
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Diane -- Sorry to hear of your diagnosis. It is a lot to try to take in all the information and adjust. I was diagnosed in February this year and it helped me to just keep remembering how glad I was that they found it, so we could do something about it. Still helps to remind myself of that some days. Hang in there, you will make it through. There is a ton of good information and wonderful people ready to help on this site.
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I've switched to a different surgeon because of the plastice surgeon situation. I will be having bilat with TRAM recon on Oct. 5 now. I feel more confident in the new doctors and like this is a better situation. I had to tell my students this week because they were wondering why I was missing work due to drs appts. They were great; hopefully they will behave for my sub and I can get back by Thanksgiving. Does that sound reasonable to those of you who have had this done? I do have level 1, but the original tumor was 3cm and they took 6x7x2cm without clear margins. Not sure what I'm looking at after surgery???
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Sue...sorry you haven't received any responses...
I just now noticed this thread. I think your timeframe is realistic. I was an exception to the rule - but many girls have gone back to work after 3-4 weeks. Thanksgiving would be almost 2 full months...you should be good to go! Best wishes to you...keep us posted.
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Good luck, Sue!
My doctor had told me that I would be off 4-6 weeks and I thought he was nuts. But he was right. You'll be feeling pretty good at 7 weeks but the stamina needs building. You'll feel more like yourself at 8 weeks.
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Well, I made it through. I am 11 days past double mast with tram recon. I got all of the chest tubes out yesterday. The SNB was positivie so I have to go back on the 23rd and have lymph nodes out. Then we'll meet for the chemo and rads discussion. The first week was rough, but now better everyday. Is it OK to have a lot of swelling around the recon area, under the arm? The PS didn't say anything yesterday, but that happened so fast. Thanks for everyone's support and this website. What a godsend! Sue
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Hi Sue -
I am just now seeing your post! I'm glad you made it through fairly well! How are you doing at this point? Hope you're feeling okay. Once treatment is over, you will moving on to the next chapter. Be well.
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March of this year I was diagnosed with DCIS I had a lumpectomy followed by six weeks of radiation I had such terrible burns from the radiation I pick up a bacterial infection somehow I ended up with a abscess near the site of the cancer surgery The abscess ruptured out on July 7 from that date on I was put on seven course of antibiotic and had to have it cleaned and packed every three's day I was finally sent to a surgeon on Oct 10 and he took the abscess out I have an open wound about seven inches long by four inches deep If that wasn't bad enough I got a call last Friday that the tissue they took out and sent away showed more DCIS needless to say I was shocked We talked to my oncologist and surgeon and both agreed I should have a double mastectomy which I am having in two days I have had a very long and hard eight months I hope I have made the right decision but I will do anything I can to get healthy I guess in some strange way I should be thankful for the abscess because if it wasn't for this last surgery I wouldn't have known there was more in there Thanks for listening
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brahman -
Yikes...sorry you have had so much trouble! And, I'm sorry you have yet more DCIS show up! You may want to also post in the DCIS forum. Best wishes to you...hang in there!
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