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tammy1964
tammy1964 Member Posts: 10
edited June 2014 in Male Breast Cancer
Donald and I just came back from the Oncologist and he has a .05cm lump under his nipple and a lump in his lymph node. He goes to the surgen next month for the core biopsy. Then we see from there, I hope they do another mastectomy and get it over with. Bad day.

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  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited March 2008
    I just don't want another moment to go by without acknowledging your husband's and your disappointing news today. I tried to go back to your original post to more fully understand Donald's situation, but couldn't work the system. In any regards, courage to you both.

    One thought would be to ask whether your Oncologist thinks an MRI may be helpful of this new (?opposite) breast mass to allow good picturing, including the axilla, and whether your Surgeon might move the surgical date up depending on it's results. How we empathize with you both for not already having gone through this once, but now again so soon on the past's heels!

    Perhaps there is a clinical trial available for your husband which allows one to obtain state of the art surgical/medical care and the potential of a successful fork in the road from evolving treatment (many are listed at ClinicalTrials.gov). With appropriate medical and public community interest in male breast cancer, it's possible such trials exist or will be forthcoming and your husband may feel less isolated "talking with the men".

    A wonderful book to read is titled "The Anatomy of Hope: How People Prevail in the Face of Illness" by Jerome Groopman, M.D., should either of you need a lift. You both show fortitude to share your plight with all of us who have (had) breast cancer themselves or in their family as well as with the wonderful researchers, staff, nurses and physicians who diagnose and treat our disease, even perhaps more so as men's breast cancer statistics and research findings are just now accumulating.

    Thank you for making the effort to touch base for your husband. I hope even in small ways we might make your plight more bearable in our response.

    Tender
  • lucyemmons
    lucyemmons Member Posts: 43
    edited July 2007
    Hi Tammy Sorry to hear Donald and you have had a set back. Hope everything goes well for you this time. Another wonderful book to read is "Stronger Than Cancer" I can't remember the author but it has very inspiring stories in it. Good luck to you and Donald. God Bless.

    Lucy
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    Life is a highway I want to ride it all night long
  • tammy1964
    tammy1964 Member Posts: 10
    edited July 2007

    Thank you for your thoughts and suport, Donald always asks what you ladies have to say about his BC, he's a little computer shy, but he likes me going to you all and asking your opinion. When they did his first mammogram in the spring for his left side, they did both sides and his right was clear. It's hard to believe it can spread so fast, we are in such shock right now. On his left side they gave him a sentinel node injection and took out one node during the mastectomy and it came back clear, so when his Oncologist found a lump in his right lymph node that was a big shock too. We will take every day as a blessing and fight all the way. His tamoxifen effects are calming down, this isn't helping but his depression seems to be gone. We are starting to think we PMS together. LOL Thank god we are best friends, I am so afraid to loose him. I will keep everyone posted.

  • betsy43
    betsy43 Member Posts: 78
    edited July 2007
    Tammy,

    Geez, I am so sorry about Donald's report. Having the will to fight this dreadful beast is difficult, but it means so much. The treatments get better all the time. Glad to hear his SE of tamoxifen are easing. I know this feeling well, I've been taking it for only 3 weeks and so far can feel the effects but bearable. Hope they don't get worse. LOL. Please tell Donald to HANG TUFF!! We're here for you both. Keep us posted. We care,

    Hugs,
    Betsy43
  • MREanes
    MREanes Member Posts: 98
    edited July 2007
    Tammy,

    My name is Mike. I also have breast cancer, May 05, that has metastasized to my bones, Dec 06. I am currently undergoing my third type of chemo. I started with 6 rounds of Taxotere, Adriamycin and Cytoxan followed by radiation. I was also on Tamoxifen. Bone mets were found in late Dec 06. I had leg and lower back pain. They thought that is was a disc problem because my cancer counts were OK. It was found with an MRI. I had titanium rods put into my left leg and bone cement in my bottom vertebre. I was then put on Xeloda, Zometa and my Tamoxifen was changed to Femera. More bone mets found in May. I am currently taking Abraxane, Avastin and Zometa.

    Let Donald know that he is not alone.

    This website has lots of information and support from people who understand what he is going through.

    Please tell Donald to keep a positive attitute and to never give up the fight.

    Best wishes,
    Mike
  • TenderIsOurMight
    TenderIsOurMight Member Posts: 4,493
    edited March 2008
    Hi Mike,

    So sorry for all you have gone through, and so admiring of your determination.

    I have a close male friend in Virginia with our history, and would be happy to call him should you wish a male to directly talk with. He's easy to talk with. If so, please don't hesitate to send me a PM.

    Tender

    IBC, Stage 2, s/p mastectomy, rads, chemo, on Arimidex.
  • MREanes
    MREanes Member Posts: 98
    edited July 2007
    Tender,

    Thank you for your message. Actually the cancer has been the easier part of the last couple of years. My wife, of almost 20 years, left me for an ex-friend one week after I completed my original radiation. I was completely unaware and total devastated. By far, the worst experience of my life.

    However, on the positive side, the support that I have received from family, friends, co-workers and people in general has been unbelievable!

    The incredible support and the new appreciation for each and every new day have been the good things that cancer has given to me.

    It seems that every few days something will happen to re-energize me; a smile, a kind act, an e-mail.

    Thanks again for your support!

    Have a wonderful day,
    Mike
  • tammy1964
    tammy1964 Member Posts: 10
    edited July 2007

    Hi Mike, you sure have been given a hand full. Staying strong mentally gives us the power to get through the beast. Donald and I were wondering why they took you off the Tamoxifen and put you on Femera? Donald has been having numbness in his leg, he is going to the doctors next week. He too has had years of back problems. Thank you for your suport ans shareing your story. Donald had asked if there are any men out there that there breast cancer hasn't spread??? Thanks everyone.

  • MREanes
    MREanes Member Posts: 98
    edited July 2007
    Tammy,

    Thanks for your support and please tell Donald hello.

    I was on Tamoxifen when I finished my first chemo, 6 rounds of TAC, and radiation. When the cancer metatasized to my bones, I guess my onc decided that the Tamoxifen wasn't doing its job. When the mets were discovered, I had a couple of surgeries and radiation. I then went on Xeloda, Zometa and the Tamoxifen was replaced with Femera. Since more spots showed up, I am on Abraxane, Avastin and Zometa. I stopped taking the Femera. I don't know if my onc will put me on something else.

    I don't know any other men with bc so I can't help you there.

    I wouldn't expect men to be any more likely than women to develop mets. Sometimes, men are diagnosed at a later stage than women because they don't get tested. They also aren't thinking about bc because it is relatively rare in men.

    In my case, I had a very stressful situation after my initial bc. I don't know that it led to my mets, but it certainly didn't help.

    Please tell Donald to keep a positive attitude. I really think that it helps physically and I know that it helps mentally. You don't want to spend your life waiting for the other shoe to drop.

    However, he should get checked any time he is having lots of physical problems. I developed muscle pain and then pain that felt like it was in my bones. It wasn't the stinging, burning sensation of nerve pain. X-rays didn't show my bone mets. An MRI one week after extensive x-rays indicated that my left femur was ready to shatter and that the bottom vertebre in my spine was 2/3 to 3/4 tumor. I was told after my x-rays that it was minor arthritus. Since I went from no pain to barely being able to walk in 3 months, I didn't believe that the diagnosis was correct. Don't settle for an answer that doesn't make sense. Bone scans, MRIs and CAT scans can all pick up bone mets.

    Let us know how Donald's test come out.

    Best wishes,
    Mike
  • Larry44
    Larry44 Member Posts: 53
    edited July 2007
    Hi Mike,

    I have been fortunate so far in not having a recurrence or mets. I just wanted to extend my best wishes to you for successful treatment.

    There was one study I read where they found that the average time that a man took between finding a lump in his breast and going to the doctor was 18 months. That delay surely did not help the patient's getting successful treatment.
  • MREanes
    MREanes Member Posts: 98
    edited July 2007
    Hi Gary,

    I'm glad to hear that you are doing well!

    I know that my cancer was over 18 months old when I had my diagnosis. When I had my initial surgery, May 05, my surgeon recommended that I try to find some pictures from the previous year to see if the tumor was visible. I found a picture from Easter of 04 when my family and I went to the Keyes on a camping trip. When I looked closely, I could see a difference in my breast size. I had even noticed it in the Fall of 04, but didn't think much about it. Sometimes one leg or arm is a little larger than the other. I just thought that it was a result of my bad golf swing. I hope that more publicity will make men more aware that they can get bc also.

    I appreciate your support and hope that you continue to do well.

    Mike
  • tammy1964
    tammy1964 Member Posts: 10
    edited July 2007

    Hi Guys, Just to let you know Donalds tumor was there for 8 years his Surgeon said.

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    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited August 2007

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  • denise1962
    denise1962 Member Posts: 193
    edited August 2007

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    Rosemary44 Member Posts: 2,660
    edited August 2007

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  • Fllorik
    Fllorik Member Posts: 1,351
    edited August 2007

    A new member of our support group is joining us this week. I will tell him about this thread on this website. I know he will be glad to know that he is not alone. Please keep fighting! Mets/Cancer sucks!

  • DragonGirl
    DragonGirl Member Posts: 269
    edited August 2007
    Dear Mike:

    I was reading your post and I just thought you might like to know that you are not alone in having been abandonned during such a difficult time in your life. Not long after I was diagnosed, my best friend decided to cut off our relationship. I'm not sure what was worse, the fact that she called my sister to explain this and expected my sister to tell me, or that I also lost my relationship with her 12 year old son who I had helped my friend raise since he was five. We were not partners or lovers like you and your wife, but we had established a somewhat unconventional family of sorts over the years. It was simply devastating to lose it when I felt like I was losing everything else in my life.

    I have come to learn that people with cancer say that you learn very quickly who your real friends are when you get sick. It's so much more distressing to find out that your family are not who you thought they were. You sound like such a courageous person. I am so sorry that you too had to go through all of the loss associated with your diagnosis and lose your family as well. You sound so matter of fact about it, but I know the pain that you must have gone, and still are going through.

    Stay strong. I was unfortunate enough to have lost many friends to AIDS during the 80's before the cocktail existed. I have always found that when I have lost a friend, god usually provides me with a new one. My old friends could never be "replaced" but there have always been new ones out there waiting for me. I know you will find someone to share your life with again, someone who respects you, loves you and belongs with you. Perhaps, in the end, your loss will turn out to be a blessing in disguise. I hope so.

    Be well.

    Snooch
  • MREanes
    MREanes Member Posts: 98
    edited August 2007
    Hi Snooch!

    I appreciate your support. Life can certainly be tough sometimes, but you have to believe that there are better days ahead.

    You are absolutely correct about really finding out who your friends are. I was completely devastated by my wife leaving without a thought of trying to work things out. I was also hurt by my ex-friend that she ran away with. I had him over for Thanksgiving with my family for 3 or 4 years after his divorce because he had nowhere else to go.

    However, the support that I received from other friends and co-workers was tremendous. Many people that I used see from time to time and just say hello in passing seemed very concerned and offered to help in any way possible. I believe that most of those offers were genuine.

    I do believe that someone else will come along to fill that void in my life. I also believe that I am going to survive this current challenge. I certainly know that I will fight this beast as long as there ways to fight it.

    Thanks again for your support,
    Mike
  • mkurtzman
    mkurtzman Member Posts: 33
    edited August 2007
    I am a two year survivor. I just had my annual mammogram last week and it cam out ok. I had a left mastectomy, 12 weeks of taxol, 12 weeks of FAC (every third week) and 6 weeks of radiation.
    If any of you men want to chat with another man that has had BC please contact me. Gary is also great for chatting.
    Mike
  • Shirlann
    Shirlann Member Posts: 3,302
    edited December 2007

    Well my dear guy buddies, I have been on these boards for 5 years and the worst thing I heard was a woman who went home from the doctor's to tell her husband she had breast cancer.

    They have 3 year old triplets, that, by the way, he wanted the in vitro.

    When she got home, she told him, and without a word, he went upstairs, packed, and left her.  Never to be seen again.  (Except in court)

    She was devastated.

    This is so awful, no one should ever have the one person they need the most, pull this s**t at a time like this.

    But what can you do?  Just go on, one step at a time.

    Gentle hugs, Shirlann 

  • donnatom
    donnatom Member Posts: 12
    edited October 2008

    I have one for the books. I was diagnosed with breast cancer last year. I'm through with treatment and on Tamoxifen. Feeling great--- and then three weeks ago my husand was also diagnosed with breast cancer. Needless to say, it was quite a shock. He had surgery and the drs. aren't recommending rads or chemo as he is 76 and has very severe lung problems. Either treatment would be too hard on him. He will just be on Tamoxifen. His sense of humor is great. When he was in the hospital he told everyone that he had breast cancer "I caught it from my wife." Humor has helped us along this 47 year journey of ours. We are both optimistic that things will go well. I'm just wondering now when Oprah will call to have us on her show.  Hee..hee.. Prayers for all you men with breast cancer.

    Donna 

  • counselor1
    counselor1 Member Posts: 7
    edited January 2009

    My husband was diagnosed with breast cancer in July of 2002.  He had a radical masectomy.  Ten nodes were removed and the sentinal node and one other node were positive, the rest were negative.  In September of 2003, small calcifications were found in the right breast and it was removed.  He took Tamoxifin for 4 years and developed a blood clot in his leg.  The oncologist took him off the Tamoxifin because blood clots can be one of he side affects.  The breast cancer metasticized to the right lung in November of 2008.  He is currently taking Taxol and Advastin for nine treatments.  He has a great attitude and is an inspiration to me and our three children.  Prayers to all of you males who have this dreaded disease. We are in Springfield, IL and know of only a couple of other guys who have breast cancer.  Little support for a male. 

  • MREanes
    MREanes Member Posts: 98
    edited April 2009

    Dear Councelor1,

    I am a male and was diagnosed with ER+ breast cancer in May of 2005 and was treated with TAC and radiation.  I then went on Tamoxifen until bone mets were discovered in December of 2006.  After surgery and radiation, I began Xeloda and Femera which had little benefit.  I was on Abraxane and Avastin from June 2007 until March 2008.  It worked for a while, but scans in March 08 showed a fair amount of progression.

    We then found some information about hormone therapy treatment in men.  If I remember correctly, a single hormone therapy, like Femera, will suppress estrogen.  In men, the Femera does suppress the estrogen, but causes an increase in the production of testosterone.  When men produce testosterone, they also produce about 20% estrogen which creates a viscious circle.  The theory is that by adding a second hormone therapy to suppress both testosterone and estrogen, men show better results.  One thing to note is that the therapy takes 12-16 weeks to start working.

    I began Lupron and Aromasin in April of 08.  I had significant progression when we did a bone scan around mid-June.  I was also going through radiation in May.  However, another bone scan in mid August showed just a little progression.  My 12-16 weeks was up in July, which seemed to match my results.  A bone scan in October showed no progression.  In December, there was a little progression, so we added a third therapy, Faslodex.  My scan in mid-March 09 showed no progression. 

    I do have some other problems with bones in my neck that are in danger of breaking.  I just finished radiation and we are hoping that the bone that is left will not break and will hold together until bone can regrow.  It will probably late summer before I am out of significant danger.

    The dual hormone therapy does have some substantial side effects, but it has been beneficial in controlling my progression.  Single hormone therapy had no benefit for me.

    If progression remains a problem, you may want to discuss this with your oncologist.

    Best of luck,

    Mike

  • shakira
    shakira Member Posts: 5
    edited April 2009

    I am so sorry about Donalds report, Having the will to fight this dreadful beast is difficult,but it means so much. The treatment get better all the time,,,

    Get well soon!

  • HollyHopes
    HollyHopes Member Posts: 497
    edited May 2009

    I really admire your good spirit and share in the pain of the desertion from your wife.  My boyfriend of 13 years left me during my tx...he saidhe couldn't deal with it...and he is a physician!  Sending you love and gentle hugs....

  • MREanes
    MREanes Member Posts: 98
    edited May 2009

    Hi Holly!

    I am so sorry to hear that you had an experience similar to mine.

    Having cancer is bad enough.  Together, it is more than a person should have to deal with.  The additional stress certainly doesn't improve your chances for recovery either.

    I hope that you are doing well!

    Take care,

    Mike 

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