Positive Girls Club

Yes, welcome to you, Lilangel. Hope you visit with us from time to time to share your positives.

My positive today was that I found some great glasses at Tuesday Morning. They are having their extra 25% off on Clearance merchandise before they close for restocking the next few weeks. This box of four 14.5 oz tumblers had my name on it. They're made in Italy. Isn't Italian glass supposed to be really good? There was also a pink "Support a Cure" ribbon logo on each glass. I'm already using one of them for my afternoon beverage.

Next Monday will be my last chemo. The ladies I talked to yesterday after my aqua class gave me a little ovation when I told them. One said that I've been so strong and made it through chemo so well that she knows I make it through the rest of the treatment, too. Friends are great, but sometimes it's a little embarrassing being a role model like this.

Hi Everyone - I can't believe its Friday all ready - and July is right around the corner, unbelieveable.

Hi to the newbies, would love to hear more about you.

Congrats to all the ladies finishing up chemo and moving on to rad's. Rad's are very doable except for the fatigue towards the end.

Don't have many postives for the week because good friends of my moved out of state this week and I miss them all ready and we had such a bad storm here the other night a tree next to my house lost 2 big branches and now I won't have much shade on that side!!

But...................

I got out of work at 11:30 this morning!! I'm starting my weekend early.

One of my dogs in very apprehensive around people & dogs but this week he actually made friends with a girl down the street. I was very proud of him.

Take care everyone.
Valerie

Hi Valerie! We were posting at the same time! I keep meaning to ask you something. There used to be a country club in Central Jersey called the Centerville, I think? It had a great Sunday Brunch. If it is still there I want to take dh for his birthday this year. Let me know by email or pm if you get a chance.

Well, Donna, as I was writing that post I thought about eye glasses. I decided to include a description just in case people were thinking of different types of glasses. Isn't English wonderful? One word can bring to mind so many things. Who knows; Tuesday Morning may even have those decorative reading glasses. I have never looked for them since I wear my bifocals all the time except when I'm sleeping.

Your Buffalo weather doesn't sound too bad in the summer. Even Texas hasn't had much hot weather yet. Of course there's the flooding in some areas, but my house is nowhere near a creek or river so I'm doing fine.

Have fun with your relatives and friends over the next few days.

I'm always helping my hubby find things that are right in front of him. OK, so they are under one or two other small things, but they are right there.

Well here it is another Friday!!

Hi to all the newcomers, sorry you have to become a bc sister but happy you chose this site for help and support.

Miss S - hope that arm is feeling better by the day.

Beth - Congrats on Ringo's departure. Did you ever make it to that country club?

Mikeysmom - sorry to hear you are feeling the effects. It DOES get better. Hang in there!!

Kelly - when does the hot tub party begin??

Jule - hope you enjoy your weekend in Spokane. Fill us in when you get back.

My positive is:

Got thru another grueling week at work, I'm getting more comfortable with the new job but I'm glad my supervisor will be back next week.

I have my 6 month followup with the ocn next Wed. - wish me luck!!

Take care,
Valerie

It took me a while to think of them, but my positives for this week are:

1. I had my last Taxol chemo on Monday. No more Chemo for this girl. Eight chemos down and none to go.

2. I found a flaggy bandanna at Walgreen's on Tuesday. The code didn't ring up so the girl charged me only 50 cents for it.

3. The rain held off on Wednesday morning and the neighborhood folks with kids and dogs had a parade. I dressed up in my new flaggy bandanna and stars & stripes shirt and went out to watch them go by the end of my driveway. Someone has to watch, right?

4. I watched/taped 5 different fireworks shows on Wednesday night. Our station here didn't show the one from Boston until 1:35 am. I was able to zip through all the performers on the Macy's show from NYC and some of the music from the Boston Pops and get right to the fireworks. Those 2 had the best ones.

5. I had a wonderful 2 hour nap this afternoon.

6. My old friend constipation didn't visit this week. I've been so diligent taking my mineral oil every night. I'm so glad it actually worked.

Well, I am trying for a positive but am not sure if this is one. This is the first weekend since my stitches and last drain came out that we are going to be totally alone. I am scared and nervous all at the same time. This is the first time Larry will be touching the "girls" other than to be caregiver. Is this ok to be feeling so depressed? I am not the same on the outside and I think I need to go visit the Recon Forum and see if there is a thread that relates. Let me know if any of you have gone through this too. It will certainly help.

Hi ladies. I didn't post last week because I've had computer issues that caused my scroller to flip all over the place and it was like playing "Whack a Mole" to try to make a post! But strangely, it went away all of a sudden, so here I am. Last week was not one of my better weeks anyway. I was feeling sorry for myself because I felt like I was turning into a giant slug from lack of activity.

Positives for this week:

1. Yesterday was our 4th anniversary. My daughter (age 20) gave us a card addressed to "The Glamorous Parents". the story behind that is that one of her friends once told her that we don't seem like ordinary parents - we are somehow more glamorous! I told my best friend that, and her response (after she stopped laughing) was "If I had to come up with 50 words to describe John, glamorous wouldn't be in there!" And since I think every time this kid comes over I'm in sweat pants, I have no idea why she finds us glamorous. So now it's our family joke.

2. My husband is adopting my daughter. Yes, she's 20, but her father was never around, and my husband John has definitely earned the title of "dad". So he asked her if he could adopt her and she said yes. People think it is odd to adopt an adult child, but for us it is symbolic of how far that relationship has come. It was DEFINITELY not easy - he came into our lives when my daughter was 13. It was just her and me for a long time. We were kind of like the Gilmore Girls.

3. I got my mastectomy stitches out and got an expander fill today. It is so exciting to be filling out my shirts!!

4. One of my dearest friends is in town this week. We are going shopping and to dinner tonight. On Tuesday she insisted on going with me for my bone and CT scans. It was a long day, but having her there to visit with made the time fly. The tech let her in to watch my bone scan, which she found to be very fascinating. Then she insisted on buying me lunch. She said it would help her feel like she's been able to do something for me. She's a great friend.

5. Here is the best positive of the week: The doctor cleared me to start running again!!! I can't believe how much I've missed it!! Chemo starts Monday so I plan to get out every day this weekend while I'm still feeling 100%.

And about the body image stuff. We try so hard to tell ourselves it doesn't matter, but for many of us (me included) unfortunately it does! I'm thrilled with my reconstruction so far, but between the recovery from surgery and the impending chemo and baldness- I'm very scared about the baldness- I sometimes feel like I'll never have sex again! I have a fear that my husband will not find me attractive and that our sex life is ruined forever. Which he reassures me is not the case. The scars are not nearly as bad as I thought, though, and I know they'll fade some more. This disease is hard - it messes with your mind as well as your body.
Beth, good luck. I hope you become more comfortable with things. Time heals, as they say, but it sure can be tough while you wait.

Happy weekend ladies.

Donna

Hi Ladies,

Sorry I totally forgot to post my positve for the week and its a big one!! Could it still be chemo brain???

Had my second ocn followup visit this week and was told not to come back for 4 months, not 3!! YIPPEE!!

I'm glad to see everyone is moving right along with treatment, it certainly is a process that takes time, patience and alot of strength. Stay strong ladies!!!

Valerie

My positive is that I am on VACATION!! We rented a beach house in NC with my husband's 2 brothers and sister and their families. It's beautiful here and I'm enjoying the ocean. I felt pretty bad (okay REALLY bad) for the first two days but I'm much better now.
There have been some great positives this week! I would like to acknowledge them all individually but I'm finding it hard to focus--chemo brain or ADD?? So just know I'm happy for everyone and I hope we all have more positives next week!
Cyndi