Trying hard to lose the pounds!!!!!!!!!

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  • stronglady
    stronglady Member Posts: 130
    edited April 2007

    I know this is the losing weight thread - I've actually been trying to lose the last 6-8 pounds that chemo left me, with very little success. The fact that my internist told me last week to 'enjoy life a little' didn't help!

  • stronglady
    stronglady Member Posts: 130
    edited April 2007

    Actually, when I commented on the thread, I was contrasting this one w/ the Lymphedema Concerns one.

  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    It's always hard to lose the last pounds.

    Although I"ve never had to lose 30-40 pounds, it seems like when you have that much to lose then any reduction in intake/increase in outgo will drop some off. When you're down lower then I think it takes more effort to lose them.

    But, with a MIL who is helpless from vascular damage I'm really convinced that dropping those pounds and getting your cardio system within bounds is worth it.
  • stronglady
    stronglady Member Posts: 130
    edited April 2007

    I just got the results back about the blood work from my physical last week. My LDL is up a bit from last year, taking it to borderline bad, at least according to reasonable standards (although, fortunately, my HDL is high - even higher than last year). So I think it's really time to buckle down and lose my last 8 pounds. The doctor tells me not to starve myself, but I should be able to manage weight loss without starvation. Although I've visited this thread a lot of times, I haven't posted much. But I think I could use some social support as I buckle down - including a 2 1/2 week vacation (gulp!). Current weight: 136. Goal (my weight before BC): 128.

  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    How tall are you?

    My big culprits are snack foods. Those nibbles of cookies (including ones at the mall) and spoonfuls of ice cream mess me up.
  • lzcait
    lzcait Member Posts: 70
    edited April 2007
    Hi Stronglady...yeah, I know what you mean about not wanting to let the db team work while you slack off...are you on a bc team?

    The doctor that is doing the lymphedema/exercise study is Dr. Kathryn Schmitz
    http://www.publichealth.med.upenn.edu/KathrynSchmitz.shtml

    This is another good article that I saw on it also:
    http://www.lymphnotes.com/article.php/id/30/

    There is also the book and video The Breast Cancer Survivor's Guide to Exercise that is wonderful. I agree with Rose, losing the pounds has to include exercise...I cannot starve myself enough to lose the weight and keep it off...and the exercise certainly helps mentally to stay with the diet at least for me.

    BUT, exercise for bc survivors is different no question.

    I just completed the longest kayak race since my diagnosis and I have to say I had all those little doubts in the back of my mind yesterday...was I really going to screw my arm up by going against what has been taught for so many years???? Was my energy level really back up or was I going to crater half way through the race???? I'm happy to say that I was fine, finished and along with the rest of the racers, we broke all previous time records...and the river was raging and we faced 30 knot headwinds so it was a very good test of the arm.

    And you'd think I would have lost more than a measily 2 pounds!

    Big food culprit for me: cheese

    And Rose, what do you do when the food munchies hit? How do you handle it?

    Cait
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    Well, she says as she puts down the plate with the carrot cake, I get a lot of activity! I did only buy one piece of carrot cake, so I guess I try to control portions and temptation.

    Cheese just doesn't do anything for me. I've got 2-3 different kinds in my fridge right now. My husband will snarf it down, but I can get it out and grate a little on and not think about it again.

    Great job on the race! Geeze, two more pounds? That's three in one week. Are you feeling tight and trim in the middle? I felt like it was a great core/ab workout as well as giving me wonderful shoulders.
  • stronglady
    stronglady Member Posts: 130
    edited April 2007
    Cait-
    Sounds like a great kayak race! Congratulations! I really think that breast cancer survivors experience a special sense of satisfaction and empowerment at times like that.

    Yes, my dragon boat team is a BCS team. We're just starting up practices for the season. I'm really looking forward to them, even though I have to practice with my lymphedema arm all bandaged up. And we've chosen three races (at least) for the upcoming season.

    And I, too, am a strong believer in exercise. Even when my weight was a bit lower, the only way I could keep it down was by moving. I refuse to starve. And I get REALLY CRANKY when my activities are restricted.

    Rose-
    I'm 5'2", usually (although it was somewhat worrisome to be closer to 5'1" at the checkup). So my BMI is borderline overweight. I'm borderline all over the place.
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    I read somewhere that weights below 130 were more prone to bone loss. But I think the BMI is also valid. It doesn't sound to me like your goal is too extreme.

    Somebody here was moaning and groaning about Arimidex and her tummy, and she turned out to weigh something like 118. Women have different body images so I think it's always good to tune in for a reality check.

    If you get to that weight and your blood lipids don't improve over the months, then you can reconsider!
  • stronglady
    stronglady Member Posts: 130
    edited April 2007
    If my lipids don't improve, it's probably the @#$! Arimidex. They've never been problematic before.

    Also, I have a new favorite food product. WishBone makes a "salad spritzer': salad dressing that you squirt/spray from a pump bottle. 10 calories & 1 gram of fat for 10 spritzes (I usually use around 5). The only problem for those of us who tend to prepare food while otherwise distracted: make sure the nozzle is pointed the right way! I accidentally sprayed my face and white sweater with balsamic vinegar dressing; fortunately, my glasses protected my eyes. A lesson to pay attention to what I'm doing!
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    I've seen that. I'll have to get it next time. I've been onto the low-fat balsamic vinegar stuff.

    It's got some kind of gum in it, probably to give it the thickness oil would, so it gets lumpy in the fridge and you have to be sure it's all shook up. I wondered if that spray formulation stayed smoother.
  • lzcait
    lzcait Member Posts: 70
    edited April 2007
    Good lesson Stronglady. Also glad to hear that you are on a bc dragon boat team...you know they will understand when you have to "back off" a bit during the paddles...I know you won't want to...but we all have to!

    I'm hooked on Maple Grove Farms Cranberry Balsamic Vinaigrette...and they have a plain Balsamic one too...2 T is only 5 cal...does have xanthan gum in it, but must be very little because you don't get that "gummy" funny after taste that so many have and it stays liquid in the refrig. Got to try to the spritzers though...I've looked at them...glad to hear that they are good!

    Have to do monthly "measurement" tomorrow with my trainer...dread it...I always wish it was more inches off than it will be! Why did I have that extra yogurt today!?!?!

    Cait
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    I think I've seen Maple Grove. Whole Foods is our "Texas" store, do you think they carry it? My lumpy brand is WishBone. If I dump that all on chicken for a marinade then I can try the spray and the other!

    I've been on a monthly "measure" thing. I'm a sucker for anything where you write numbers down. I have one pair of underpants that I put on. I've got ink marks on all the measure spots and I put the tape around those so I get the same place every time.

    I made an on-purpose decision that I would not measure the tops of my thighs! Some areas are just too depressing.
  • ginger2345
    ginger2345 Member Posts: 517
    edited April 2007
    Rose and Cait,

    Measurements! Too depressing for me. I just watch for looser fitting clothes--right now, I'm still waiting.

    Can't wait for fresh tomatoes and cucumbers and we haven't even planted them around here yet!

    I sat next to a real skinny person at a dinner the other night and listened to her order. She used vinegar and oil. Hey, I can do that. No mashed potatoes, extra fresh vegetables. I can do that too! She had her ahi tuna nearly sushi style, but I couldn't go that route--my well done tuna was wonderful. She skipped dessert--I had the creme' brule. Guess I know why she's skinny and I'm not!!
  • stronglady
    stronglady Member Posts: 130
    edited April 2007
    Two quick comments about salad dressing. 1. My spritzer stuff has gum in it, too, although I can't taste it at all. 2. My local Giant supermarket carries Maple Grove salad dressing. I like the balsamic and will have to try the cranberry balsamic.

    By the way, I lost 1 1/2 pounds this week. So I guess I'm off to a reasonable start. I'll try to be good at the Baltimore/Washington get-together lunch tomorrow. Heaven forbid I should misbehave in front of Rose!
  • lzcait
    lzcait Member Posts: 70
    edited April 2007
    Rose, I'm almost sure that Whole Foods carries Maple Grove...if not you can order from them online. I LOVE the measuring underpants!!!! I actually lucked out this morning...trainer "forgot" and by the time he got there I had already started warming up!!!

    Congrats Stay Strong...yup, you're off to a great start!!! I'm up 1/2 pound...probably all the sodium in the Chinese food last night. Hope you and Rose have a great time tomorrow.

    I'll have to behave this weekend...going kayaking with trainer, his wife, and my spouse...hard to reach for brownies when you're getting that "look" from your trainer. Hey, maybe I can loan him to Celia...then you wouldn't dare eat the creme brulee...but oh, I LOVE creme brulee!!! And I bet it was worth every calorie!

    Cait
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    I'm sure the Macaroni Grill is a blow-out place. Nobody said you weren't supposed to enjoy yourself! It's the enjoying yourself 24/7 for days on end that does us in on the scale.

    I'll be sure to look at Giant. Every time I go to Whole Foods I buy a bunch of stuff I hadn't planned on.
  • stronglady
    stronglady Member Posts: 130
    edited April 2007

    The same thing happens to me at Whole Foods - but I figure it's healthier than most temptation-ridden places! I expect to enjoy the lunch.

  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 2,570
    edited April 2007
    Cait---

    (sigh....) It wasn't me that ate the creme brulee, it was Ginger. The only thing i did was drool when i read Ginger's post.

    I have really been good since last June when i started my diet. In 10 months i have lost 65 lbs. I had to break my addiction to chocolate, which took 2 months, before i could start the diet. I have not had anything like cheesecake or a chocolate candy bar, or pie or ice cream or ANYTHING like that.

    (sigh......)

    celia
  • mcgaffey
    mcgaffey Member Posts: 241
    edited April 2007
    The best thing my dietician said to me is that food is not a treat. It shouldn't be used as a treat. Massages, vacations, trips to the theater are treats. I remember that day and I looked at her and said, "touche" (French).

    I have been retraining my thinking for 5 months now, have lost 28 pounds: I am 5'8" and weigh 154 and am within the BMI finally. I walk daily and that is so good as well. But losing pounds only happens when fewer calories go in. Since I am sick and undergoing treatment, then those calories need to be good for me.

    I didn't start losing weight when I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My dad died in November, and that started me off. I am post menopausal and I had gained 25 pounds in the past 5 years going through the hot flashes and gaining what I call my menopot. I thought the weight gain was part of the natural process. The extra fat was storing estrogen that my body needed to help me go through the change. Little did I think of breast cancer and estrogen. But as I got closer to 60, I figured it was time to get rid of the fat that I thought had helped me. Well, I am not so sure now.
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    I'm pretty much on-board with the "food is not a reward" idea.
    You certainly want to get rid of emotional eating because that can be boundless.

    I do sometimes like to have an ice cream or something I love that I shouldn't be eating regularly. I guess the key is thinking of it as something I can have now and then, but not too often, rather than a reward for something I've done or have to do.
  • lzcait
    lzcait Member Posts: 70
    edited April 2007
    Oh Celia...sorry...I didn't look back at the post closer!!!! And yes, I was jealous also! Do you find that once you have gotten away from the chocolate, etc. that you don't crave it as much anymore? It's really hard for me with kayak races...I have to "carb" up before a race, eating lots of whole grains, pasta, bagels...then after the race I really really want those carbs again. This has been a bad week for that...I haven't gained, but I haven't lost because my body just flat needed more fuel I guess to repair. Your weight loss is amazing!!!! I've lost 50 and am within 9 pounds of goal!

    Cait
  • mcgaffey
    mcgaffey Member Posts: 241
    edited April 2007
    Rose, I can sure understand that. I have a chocolate bar always in my kitchen and I have taught myself to pick at it. Now, will I be doing that in 2 years time? I sure hope so! I know, chocolate is good for you. They say you can't teach old dogs new tricks. I want to prove 'em wrong.

    Yes, 65 pounds is amazing and so is 50. I have 9 to go. Problem is all my clothes fit now and some are too big....I guess it will be out with the old and in with the new in more ways than one, I am hoping. Here's to it for everyone.
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    Don't you think that learning to manage the transitions between eating things you should only eat a bit of and eating in a normal "healthful" way is part of learning to manage your weight?

    If you had an alcohol problem you could just quit 100%, so that would almost be easier. But you can't quit eating.

    You'll always have things that come up -holidays, celebrations, times when you get little choice about what to eat. So they'll always be the requirement that you be able to regain your healthy pattern again.

    It's important to have clothes that fit!

    All you ladies who've lost 50-65 pounds, it's a big accomplishment. Don't you feel better?
  • celia088
    celia088 Member Posts: 2,570
    edited April 2007
    Cait--

    Yes, it was the craving for the chocolate that i had to get rid of. And now that i don't eat it, i don't crave it. Sometimes i look at chocolate stuff and wish i could eat it, but this is not the same thing as "craving." The only other thing i remember having to break the craving for is cigarettes. I quit smoking nearly 13 years ago and it is the craving for cigarettes that you must endure and fight against for weeks after you stop. Kind of a feeling like you might mug someone for their cigs and run away. Glad to not have a war in my head over chocolate anymore.

    I also crave carbs too at times but i can deal with this easier than chocolate or cigarettes.

    The last few pounds to your goal are the hardest to get off. Don't torture yourself to lose them. You are doing great. I notice that as i get closer to an appropriate weight for me, i am having more trouble. I seem to have plateaus now and i don't sweat them too much because i figure that my body has become more efficient at using my fuel and it is adjusting. You are doing great!

    Rose, i do feel good! I can feel that my body is more light-weight too, so i am more animated when i move and exercise. I feel younger too.

    Congrats to everyone who is losing weight--McGaffey and Cait and all!

    peace,
    celia
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    well I tried the Maple Farms dressing. Gum is the last ingredient on the list. With the Wishbone gum was about halfway down the list.

    It's not bad, perhaps a little vinegary. No lumps - that was an improvement. We'll see by the time I finish the bottle.
  • lzcait
    lzcait Member Posts: 70
    edited April 2007
    Rose, glad you found the dressing...yup, a bit vinegary...but the cranberry one seems milder than the plain balsamic.

    Celia...cannot imagine anything harder than kicking cigarettes! I've got my carb carving back under control...only takes a couple of days of cutting them out and then I'm okay. We'll see how it goes after this weekend...I'm going away to an "outdoor woman" camp...I'm excited but the food should be "interesting!"

    Everyone have a safe and healthy weekend!

    Cait
  • KariLynn
    KariLynn Member Posts: 1,079
    edited April 2007
    Any ideas on how to "gently" get your DH to lose weight?

    Hubby is probably 50 lbs over with a history of diabetes on his side. He has atrocious eating habits. Skips breakfast, usually skips lunch or grabs fast food on the way back to the office. Supper is ok when we cook - on days I'm tired and he doesn't want to cook, we go out - bad. Drinks nothing that doesn't have calories - coffee with French Vanilla creamer in the am, Mountain Dew constantly all day. And then he finishes the day with chocolate chip cookies (he buys the refrigerated dough) and ice cream.

    Now, what can I do. I don't buy the junk, he does. I don't buy pop for the house, he does (plus he's at work 8-9 hours, can't control that.) I've tried asking nicely. Have reminded him that he's the healthy one and he needs to take care of himself for the kids (he smokes too...*sigh*)

    Sorry to hijack the thread, just wanted to see if there are any ideas out there.

    Thanks,
    Kari (165 this am)
  • roseg
    roseg Member Posts: 3,133
    edited April 2007
    I'm totally opposed to getting into "food wars" with loved ones. I think emotional issues always make it hard to control your diet so why interject them?

    Maybe an opportunity will pop up. A "teachable" moment. Like when the old pants don't fit anymore, or something about his weight frustrates him. Then you can make a small suggestion. Iced coffee instead of Pepsi or forgo the fries at the sub shop.

    Doesn't he work for a food company? Are they on the better diet bandwagon at all?

    Has he been in for a health assessment? A lot rides on your husband, he's the only one working and you haven't always been feeling so hot so the kids need him. Weight aside the effects of high bp and lipids will get you, maybe he could be persuaded to get those checked.

    Did you do the walk yet?
  • mcgaffey
    mcgaffey Member Posts: 241
    edited April 2007

    Kari, That is a difficult one. I don't think weight management is possible except by the one managing their own weight. It probably makes it worse to say or do anything....except for your own management. I have watched my sister with her husband. He goes up and down on his own steam. She buys organic, is a careful eater and carries on her exercise program. She keeps her mouth closed. I am sure her own habits are good for him to see and they can rub off. But she is never mean-spirited about it.

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