Difficult daughters

I’m sorry you and your daughters are having a tough time with this. TBH, I want to manage my mother, daughter, and even my cousin’s care because I feel this loving desperation to keep them here with me. But I def didn’t want my mom managing my treatment so I understand both sides. What works for my mom and me is that we kind of called a truce. We agreed to be 100% honest with each other about all the details of our conditions, and that we were allowed to ask questions so we could be informed, not armed for badgering. Then we stand behind each other’s decisions. There’s a lot of trust involved, but it feels good.

You are dealing with your own fears right now, and they have theirs. It is your own cancer journey (I hate that word), but in a way, they will have one, too. You may have to be she-wolf a time or two for them to respect boundaries. Maybe even ask them to add you to their list of people who can receive their medical information to get the point across. I’m glad they are at least trying to show you how much they care

suzz,

You explained your feelings well in your op. All your words tell exactly how you plan to proceed. Throw in a lot of I love you’s and appreciation for their love and support. In the kindest way, let them know that you are far from feeble minded! I am 65 with two daughters, 37, 32, so we’re similar in that respect. My older daughter has occasionally started to treat me feebly but I always shut that down very quickly! I didn’t shout or scream. I calmly explainwhy she should not treat me feebly. TBH, although I wouldn’t want to alienate my daughters, my mbc and care is ultimately about me and my well being. I love them beyond words and their support has been invaluable but I am the team leader! Take care