How has the Pandemic affected you as a cancer patient/survivor

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  • wrenn
    wrenn Member Posts: 2,707
    edited February 2022

    Alice, Since health care here is free I basically had a very large file and am surprised at how patient my GP was. I have a nurse practitioner at the cancer centre now (doc retired) and there they follow up on every little thing so I was seeing her a lot too. We actually laughed about how i thought everything was cancer and she would double check before ordering anything. So really it is a good thing that the pandemic kept me away but for some reason very recently I have worried. Probably cabin fever.

  • wrenn
    wrenn Member Posts: 2,707
    edited February 2022

    Alice, I get that about being stoic. I am with my family. Coming here with it was easier. In my family if you mention a medical condition you are attention seeking. I trust the people here and maybe you can try it here. :-) Or PM?

  • Sadiesservant
    Sadiesservant Member Posts: 1,995
    edited February 2022

    Wrenn, I don’t think. Richard looks like a leg eater. 😁 He was gorgeous and, a pussy cat I’m sure. I’m glad you are feeling a bit better and hope you will reach out if stress starts to get on top of you. I can’t pop over easily but am a good listener. 😊

    Alice, totally hear you on the issue of seeming like a hypochondriac. It’s a HUGE issue for me despite or because of my MBC diagnosis. Prior to MBC I rarely went to a doctor but now? OMG! I feel like I am there all the time as it is but then, when I report a new symptom I end up in the fast lane. Don’t get me wrong, I really appreciate the responsiveness but when tests come back normal I have a huge amount of guilt (wasting precious health care resources) and, quite frankly, feel like I am neurotic. The reality is, I am probably right thinking something is going on more often than I am wrong but still… for those of us raised to stay calm and carry on, this disease and the resulting angst is crazy making!

    Serenity, soooo irritated with the Ottawa occupation and the fact that the official opposition seems to be supporting them. It needs to be recognized that this is a very vocal minority. Thankfully the Go Fund Me gravy train has been cut off so hopefully they will go home..

  • wrenn
    wrenn Member Posts: 2,707
    edited February 2022

    Thanks Sadieservant. I haven't been to the island since my daughter was in UBC. Costs a fortune to get back and forth. I often wonder how people there who have to come here for treatment deal with the nightmare of cost and time it takes and way worse with Covid.

    I get hesitating to talk about fears. You never know what reaction you will get.

  • Rah2464
    Rah2464 Member Posts: 1,647
    edited February 2022

    Wren thank you for giving voice to those anxieties and fears we all can have. I truly hope you find some relief from the worry. Handsome Richard certainly looks large enough to nosh on a leg, but I agree with Sadiesservant, I think he is more of a sweetie. I am sorry you are unable to have the furry companionship. I will offer a spare bedroom as I have plenty of furry ones down here. However, I won't guarantee that mine are as well behaved as Richard

  • wrenn
    wrenn Member Posts: 2,707
    edited February 2022

    Well Ativan for the win. I had a great sleep and today is much better. I really think it was ranting and being heard here that did the trick. I hold off telling family on anxious days in case they vote me off the island but here I didn't feel like an attention seeker or crazy. :-)

    What a blessing (non god kind).

  • AliceBastable
    AliceBastable Member Posts: 3,461
    edited February 2022

    Wrenn, So glad you're feeling better!

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited February 2022

    wrenn - Yay! I need to dig out my Ativan.

    Sadiesservant - The terrorists in Ottawa need to go. Hoping they lose their insurance and licenses at the minimum.Arson and assault are not part of a peaceful protest.

  • wrenn
    wrenn Member Posts: 2,707
    edited February 2022

    Thanks. With my high BP yesterday and headache I was thinking the worst. Here is BP yesterday (top row) and today (bottom row) after an Ativan sleep. All about the chill.

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  • Rah2464
    Rah2464 Member Posts: 1,647
    edited February 2022

    Wow Wrenn glad you are feeling better.

  • wrenn
    wrenn Member Posts: 2,707
    edited February 2022

    Thanks so much Rah,

    Something worrying about this pandemic is the provinces lifting restrictions. I think in Alberta it is because of the truck convoys putting pressure on them (which means more convoys...what's with the confederate flags????).

    I think BC will take a little longer to open up which feels safer but also is a reminder that this thing isn't going away and we have to adapt.

    Hope everyone is having a manageable day. Not one of those "have a great day" moments in history.


  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2022

    I'm not ready. Not while public spaces aren't cleaning the air, elective surgeries are backed up, and HCWs are burned out. And we have a shortage of ambulances. I'm keeping my mask on.
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  • kathindc
    kathindc Member Posts: 2,042
    edited March 2022

    Excellent. Now for that to be made into a usable mask.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited March 2022
  • Dancemom
    Dancemom Member Posts: 369
    edited March 2022

    I think its way too early in cities. And for any transit going into cities. And for people planning to visit cities. There is just no such thing as being 6 feet away in nyc!!! It physically can't happen. Store aisles are tighter and more crowded. Buses and subway cars are back to standing room only. In my 900 unit building, I am sharing the elevator air with every previous rider of the past hour. The "highest" in area vax rate is Manhattan at 72%. What happened to herd immunity at 95%, 90%, then 85%...? And why should unvaxxed tourists eat out when I can't because of them? Relaxing everything in big open spaces with big box stores, big SUVs, and big chain restaurants might be acceptable in vaccinated areas. But NOT in densely populated areas. The same people who won't vax also wont mask.

  • Salamandra
    Salamandra Member Posts: 1,444
    edited March 2022

    I am planning to continue wearing my mask at school, to help support kids who don't feel safe taking it off. I'm honestly not sure about how to make the decision beyond school. I am intellectually leaning towards masking until all ages are eligible for vaccines.

  • Dancemom
    Dancemom Member Posts: 369
    edited March 2022

    I am currently not so worried about being sick as I am about more delays in treatment. Until the medical establishment says I don't need to show keep negative covid tests to have Mri, a CT scans, bone scans, biopsies, surgery, have my radiation mapping.. . It is still a pandemic. Anyone who thinks it is over should have to get a negative test to use their GD toilet.

    Its not over. 72% vaxxed NYC is not herd immunity. Allowing tourists to eat inside with no vax proof is prolonging this spread.

    Ok, maybe we won't get AS sick now (I know of dozens of break through, mostly pretty mild, but 2 friends were hospitalized). But I (and MANY others) can be DENIED TREATMENT because somebody didn't feel like getting vaxxed or wearing a mask, and then we test positive.

    It is TOO early to abandon both vax restrictions AND mask mandates at the same time. My child cannot go to school next week until I see how things play out.

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,710
    edited March 2022

    Well, todays stats put Houston at a 3.8 positivity rate, which is great, and I’m happy that I’ve managed to avoid the beast for over two years now but I will absolutely continue masking indoors and around crowds in the city. Without a vaccine for those of us with severe allergies, I must remain on guard. But that’s ok, I’m happy progress is being made for the majority of others out there. Stay safe 🙂

  • Dancemom
    Dancemom Member Posts: 369
    edited March 2022

    illimae i love how you are always so calm and positive. I hope people continue to respect that some people really need community protection.

  • edge_of_no_return
    edge_of_no_return Member Posts: 44
    edited April 2022

    trishyla, great topic. so now just about everything, include air transport, is dropping mask requirements. as stage IV with bone mets, i'm not too thrilled about it even though i've done very well with isolating as i'm already a quasi-hermit LOL. i'm interested in hearing from anyone in the bc.org community who has survived covid. oh did i also mention i had sepsis last summer? good times! PS - PCC area Pasadena here in the house!

  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,710
    edited April 2022

    edgeofnoreturn, my husband and I have stayed safe from Covid, colds, flu, etc. by employing faiy strict precautions and common sense. We still mask indoors in public, although we’ve been busy and just don’t go out much. I will relax some and try going maskless in the nearby very small town when the situation allows (not when tourists are around). I’m stage IV too and my husband is diabetic, so neither of us are taking risks.

    I hope everyone else is doing well 🙂

  • gladis
    gladis Member Posts: 36
    edited April 2022

    I'm sad. Yet, I read these and try desperately to suck it up.

    I followed my husband to CA for a great job-----Left ALL my friends, my child, my Littles, and sold all our belongings, our home across from a cow mooing meadow.

    we said goodbye to our life- and Jumped!

    THEN, nine days after we arrived here in British Columbia, we were in lockdown for the next 18 mos(No travel in or out of BC)

    This past Feb 17th I found a 1.5cm lump in the shower (IDC) HR + Her (-) for the moment, right?

    I'd been feeling really off, and I'd been feeling 'odd' for a long while and started Googling 'heavy boob feel'

    The covid vaccine caused a serious health flare. UGH but I did it

    .Against medical advice, trying to get to our son's Bosotn wedding after 2 yrs without friend or family ...I risked it.

    Please, don't judge, after over 700 days with only us 2...24/7...

    and now IDC-

    The biopsy one month ago and excision surgery April 11th-I know I'm lucky to even have surgery with the pandemic's surgery wait list and bumping !

    The Pandemic brought an already burdened medical system to it's knees here in British Columbia.

    A GIANT wait list , my retired neighbor is on a 3 yr ankle surgery wait list.

    She was a Banff forester , she can't walk farther that a few feet)

    My breast cancer surgeon in Vancouver has scheduled and rescheduled and failed to phone me back at all since my surgery on April 11.

    Even 3 msg (one a day they request)

    of me trying to self diagnose bruises from neck to crotch (lumpectomy left 1.5cm)

    (Thank you mods for reaching out, I was scared out of my mind. Thank you rah for answering, I teared up)

    The entire internet does not have any images that looked like me after my lumpectomy- I took the picture down, it was scary- wtf?

    and now a seroma??? It is the size/shape of a DOVE soap bar (Sent. Node removal.) Painful but no fever.

    Today, 8 days later the nurse phoned to say the office is overwhelmed, he's in the er, and to go to an emergency room. NO worries, while there is no answering service, the phone message says go to the er too)

    or see a family dr (he too is unable to see me or anyone on short notice, but booking out a month.)

    --I will if This is an actual emergency but it is sketchy, we've been 2x over the last 2 years....

    I'm unsure what happens IF I don't get this drained though

    (I've read the threads under the topic seroma :-()
    But, (pls don't judge, I'm wrecked and lonely)

    I'm driving 8 hrs to see my daughter in Washington right now, where she is flying in ...I have to.

    I'm also aware, I'm lucky to have what I do, a home, a paid for car, and my husband is working and while the pandemic has /is taking a toll on my mind and my poor marriage..

    This pandemic has sucked the marrow from the bones of civilization in myriad ways.

    I KNOW this moment before a DX is the best time, the medical data is in someone's lab (ty) or by now on someones desk. for now my family is ok, right now.(ty ty ty)

    (BTW: my pap smear from January is still an unknown, taking 16 weeks on average I'm told)

    The pandemic allowed me to 'entertain' 2 cancers breast being only the one.

    The poor People who perished in a car accident just now in Surry-- didn't get even this much warning

    I've been warned. Suck it up buttercup. I tell me this a lot.

    The pandemic has made life a microscope view of now, don't look back, don't dream forward without the caveats

    Cancer has made a bright yellow highlighter mark with a black thick sharpie exclamation point on life.


    I miss me, my idealistic hopeful insides and can't believe that the pandemic losses, the missed everything, the attempt by MOST of us - with a can do attitude, and a hail to science..could entertain this so Ted Lasso like -It's " The Hope that kills you"

    Sorry to be sad on this rainy cold day, but thanks for the pandemic subject to give a rant to reflect on what has been a 100 yr historic 2x4 to society.

    Best to every soul,

    glad-is

  • katg
    katg Member Posts: 108
    edited April 2022

    Hi all!

    I am new in this thread.

    I am in California being treated at COH. Today, masks are off in most places. I wear mine always. I agree about the medical offices. At COH, they took off the tape between seats in the waiting rooms that I have only known since diagnosis in July of 2021. Temperatures are not being taken either. Masks are a must. I was supposed to have my right breast removed as a precaution, but my blood clot diagnosis likely from my Feb 9th mastectomy/ovary and fallopian tube removal has postponed the surgery. Would i have needed the PCR Covid test again? Four times this last year. Once more when i was hospitalized.

    My sister, older, did not get the vaccine. She does wear masks. She also has not had the genetic test to see if she also carries BRCA2. I have the cancer; our younger sister and her daughter were tested, and they both carry the mutated gene. My older brother was just tested. His results have not come in.

    COVID. I had a student worker who used to work in my office, pass along with his father from Covid last year. Many sick. December of this 2021, i went to my older brother's daughters baby shower. I and one other were masked. It was my only holiday outing.

    2 weeks later, I was tested at COH and had Covid. Since i had been vaccinated. I mainly got a chest cold. 2 bottles and 8 days of Mucinex. I had a lot of fatigue as well, which combined with the effects of the chemo pill i had just finished in later December.

    I was hospitalized mid-January due to low blood counts. I needed a transfusion. They tested me and i was still positive. I was isolated in a "Covid Room". Released after my blood transfusion the same day. No one wants those with Covid to be staying in rooms at the COH. Nearly everyone in there is ill. I had another in a room across from me. I could only use the porta potty in my room. Everything i touched was tossed. The nurse was double masked. I did not know my door had a "Do not enter" on it. That was why my lunch was not delivered till my nurse came back from lunch. It was cold.

    As i said above, Feb 6th i was tested again and NO covid. Surgery happened.

    No trips for me except November of 2020 before diagnosis. Went to visit my younger sister in Western NY and we traveled 7 states in a Covid drive around. There was little traffic and few people. We booked our rooms on book it.com . WE had a grand time. We wore masks, sanitized and enjoyed time that would never happen like that again.

    I do pray all of you get your treatments and keep calling till they see you. COH has been fabulous. There triage team has helped me every time. I hope you have one.


  • moth
    moth Member Posts: 4,800
    edited April 2022

    gladis, we went into lockdown just after I was diagnosed with mets & started treatment for stage 4. It's been a crazy ride. I live in Greater Van too....

    your neighbour waiting for the ankle surgery might consider looking at the surgical wait list site & asking for a referral to a surgeon who has a shorter list. Many are closer to 4-5 months. https://swt.hlth.gov.bc.ca/swt/

    re your seroma - geeez, poor you. In Vancouver Coastal, the ER wait times are also public so maybe see if you can find a time it's quiet & see about popping in but also, if there's no fever or sign of infection, it should eventually reabsorb anyway....

    people act like covid is over but the health care system is straining. So many staff burnt out or left or finally on overdue vacations. Everything seems behind right now.

  • Rah2464
    Rah2464 Member Posts: 1,647
    edited April 2022

    Gladis your seroma can self absorb, and can take a while to do so. As Moth said as long as no pain, redness, warmth or other signs of infection you should be ok. But I would still push to be seen and to have it drained if necessary. If you have a workout bra or a compression bra/tank that may help. Place additional padding (I used medical grade abdominal pads) over the area with the seroma to create extra compression and that can speed absorption. I had a seroma post surgery and this is what my PS instructed me to do. It resolved after about 6 weeks.

  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited April 2022

    I've had 2 Moderna and 1 Pfizer shots (4 months ago) . Quebec is allowing 2nd booster to < 60 by walk-in only. Appointments are available for immunocompromised for 12+. I'm not severely immunocompromised, so I haven't made an appointment. That and I lost my healthcare card and just got my replacement. It seems I would benefit from another booster anyway. My husband and I plan to get another booster when my MO okays a break from Ibrance. The Pfizer shot didn't trigger a rash so I'll stick with that. The positivity rate here is in the teens, so the pandemic continues.

    Anyway, it's good to see that vaccinations and boosters do help.

    https://twitter.com/sailorrooscout/status/1518237982083399681?s=21&t=Tw3uv55ZR21ndX5fUTDvtA

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  • JRNJ
    JRNJ Member Posts: 573
    edited April 2022

    The pandemic was mostly a blessing for me. I finished chemo first week of March 2020. NJ locked down about a week later. I went to radiation every day right when the major lockdown happened. I enjoyed getting out of the house when the rest of my family was there driving me nuts. I did the shopping as my husband felt he was higher risk because he smokes and is overweight, idiot. When I went back to work in June, I was able to work from home while starting the horrible AI/lupron, ovary removal journey, which would have never happened before as a state worker. I've been struggling really bad for almost 2 years on AIs, so really need the extra sleep work from home provides. I was able to grow my hair back without seeing too many people. I was able to drive my son to soccer in August AM, because of course high school sports discriminates against working mothers. My kids liked being remote for a year and a third. But they already are socially awkward, so that was the bad part of the pandemic. But am so grateful they were 7th and 9th grade, and not in elementary or graduating in 2020. My 87 yo father and his girlfriend still socialized with us outside. We are just this year back to the office full time, but in July will implement a new partial work from home policy which would have never happened before. The other negative is haven't seen the kids' other grandfather in over 2 years. He won't leave the house or even zoom call. He lives close. Also haven't seen mother-in-law in Florida, but I don't mind that, lol.

  • Dancemom
    Dancemom Member Posts: 369
    edited April 2022

    I am having problems leaving my high-rise building, now that people are abandoning masks. Yesterday I waited for 6 elevators to pass because all of them had naked people in them. Somehow, standing in a 4×4 box with a bunch of strangers is not considered close contact by entitled people.

    I get that some people don't care. I don't go to restaurants. I minimize my time at the grocery store. I dont' go clothes shopping. Fine, go naked at your bar or at a party, but we ALL need to use the elevators, and transportation!!!!!! BE RESPECTFUL OF OTHERS.

  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited April 2022

    dancemom,

    I feel for you. Unfortunately unless there is law or mandate you can’t make people be respectful. Too many have difficulty considering others.

  • Dancemom
    Dancemom Member Posts: 369
    edited April 2022

    exbrnxgrl, it funny to see who breaks the law on public transportation. Highschool boys don't wear them, Masters of the universe type don't wear them, Tourists certainly DON'T wear them (what happened to "when in Rome..." and "follow local laws"?). Most families and regular working NYers do, especially those of us with forward facing jobs. But in the residential high rises it's weird. Many younger (20-40) people feel they are already "home" and so don't wear them in the elevators.


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