Complete state of terror
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Since we all have cancer in this forum it is probably not the best place and you might be better served in an anxiety forum. We are struggling here with having been diagnosed so it is triggering for me personally to have to relive that initial anxiety.
Wishing you peace.
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I’m going to second wrenn. You need to get some help with the anxiety as it seems like a bigger problem than the issues in the breast. I think 3 months is more than reasonable to get a re check but you can’t spend that time in fear. Worrying about it won’t change the outcome. All of us herr have experienced the anxiety you feel and we’ve all been diagnosed. We are getting through it because there’s no other choice. You can’t lay down in fear. Please get some help. You can’t live this way. I mean this in the best way possible.
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It's kind of terrifying that you're a nurse. If you get a paper cut, do you freak out about it around patients who have had major surgery? I wish you the best, but I'm out of here.
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Me three. You really need to get on medication NOW as everyone has recommended.
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I find it helpful to get out of myself and focus on others. Looking around you takes the focus off you. This is a forum where people are struggling with cancer and treatments at all stages and you are asking them to put their energy on your anxiety. Thinking about them will automatically decrease your worry over what is happening to you.
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When I chose this forum, I did so with care, ensuring that I fit into the category, "For members not diagnosed with breast cancer, but waiting for test results."
On reading the responses from my first post, I felt immediately as though I was not alone. I felt reassured and among warm and welcoming individuals. I still feel that way, but I see that I have offended some individuals in expressing my anxiety and for that I am deeply sorry.
I will no longer post in this community, I would never intentionally harm anyone and if I continue to post, I see that I may. I am going to leave this post up for 24 hours so I may thank the individuals who lent an ear and offered support through kind words. I will also include a short personal insight into my frame of mind.
There are many reasons individuals come to have health anxiety. Past medical experiences have colored my view of the medical field and to a great degree shaken my trust.
1. 18 years ago after experiencing severe neurological symptoms, I was chastised by my primary physician for being anxiety laden. I later was told I was a "histrionic female" by my neurologist. That same year I was diagnosed with MS.
2. At 82 years of age, my grandmother was treated for the entirety of a year for a UTI. Later, it was revealed that she had uterine cancer which had advanced so that the only option left was palliative care or hospice.
3. My eldest daughter had severe shortness of breath. She was treated in ER an advised that she had a rare form of pneumonia only seen in AIDS patients. She spent over a week in the ICU. On the day of discharge, we learned she had tested negative for HIV. All along I had suspected that she had a Protein S Deficiency (her father, paternal grandfather, and great grandmother have this genetic blood clotting disorder.) While she was in the hospital, I was rebuffed for suggesting this possibility. On discharge, she saw a hematologist that I had made an appointment with. We found that my daughter indeed has Protein S Deficiency, she will be on Warfarin therapy for the rest of her life. As for the diagnosis during her hospital stay, it was not pneumonia, instead it was revealed (by the hematologist who showed me her CT images) that she had suffered a Pulmonary Embolism.
Those are just a few instances in my life that have given me pause and caused me to question results/diagnoses/and the like.
With regard to my ability to nurse with extreme health anxiety, well, let's just say that's where things get interesting. Ironically, the anxiety does not translate to my patients. When caring for my patients, health anxiety, the very thing that paralyzes me, is my greatest gift. Because I suffer so, my empathy and compassion comes easily. As a nurse I am caring, patient, and kind. I know how I would like to be treated/reassured/spoken to in my difficult times. As a result, I am often requested to provide care by those who know me.
Once again, thank you to all who commented, offered kind words, and support. I wish you all the very best. To those who were hurt or offended by my posts I am really truly sorry. Positive vibes to you on your journey.
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Shamay we understand anxiety and how it arose. Everyone was very supportive and then relieved when you were found to not have cancer and then just suggested it might be time to face the medical condition you actually do have and this is not a forum dedicated to anxiety. It is a cancer forum and luckily you do not have cancer. We all wish you didn't have to suffer anxiety and hope you find answers.
You were in the right place for your concerns with your original post but then you were found to not have cancer but still wanted help.
All the best.
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Shamay, I am so concerned that you are nursing with this degree of health anxiety. I am certain you are caring and comforting, but you are also distracted by your own health and any symptoms that may mimic your patients. You may even find yourself inquiring about their early symptoms that alerted them to their condition to ensure you aren’t at risk. This degree of anxiety most definitely impacts your ability to make rationale decisions and you cannot help but be self serving in order to survive. Your reasons for your scepticism are also not rationale. As a nurse, you have also witnessed so very many examples where tests have accurately diagnosed conditions and saved lives. How can you discount these facts. I understand health anxiety and this has serious impacts on your health and your ability to care for others with health issues. We wouldn’t accept a surgeon who faints at the sight of her own blood even though she assures us that others blood doesn’t impact her. Please get treatment so that you can effectively and safely treat others.
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