STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

I have met surgeons with that attitude. When DH had his transplant there were 3 in the department. Each had different personality. One was arrogant and bad bedside manner in my opinion and head of the department. We had the easy going one fortunately when his came and he had a nice reassuring manner that he was going take care of him and it was something he did all al all the time and he would not do it if he could not survive the surgery. The other did not really communicate much with their patients and went to work and and we were glad we did not have that one either.

Alice, do you still see an Ob/Gyn? I haven't been and was wondering if I still have to? Never had any issues there.

I don't really have a rant for today, yet. Spent the weekend at home by myself. It's still an adjustment for me as I think to myself, how long has it been since I spoke out loud? I have one friend that calls every weekend, and shared some text messages with a few others, but that was it. The weather cooperated enough with just slight drizzle so I went ahead and washed curtains and 2 windows in the bedroom. I finally slept in bed last night. I've been on the couch for months it seems. I'm ruining the furniture so I'm slowly transitioning back to the bed. Woke up pain free too so more incentive to just do it. Got a flu shot last week on what would have been our 37th anniversary. That was the one and only medical thing I had this month. Taking a vacation day on Friday, hope to finish windows and fall cleaning then. Weather does not look like it will cooperate to do a yard sale on Saturday, but there's always another weekend for that. I really need to get rid of some stuff and making a few bucks off of it makes sense, but having to go through it all, I'd sooner put it in a pile and light it on fire!

CM I hear ya. I have my critters to talk to. , some days I don’t even get out of my jammies. I get a spurt, go in his room, fill a few trash bags. Either for trash can, or thrift store. I’d love to wave a magic wand and it’s all gone.

My husband (we are in theory separated but have to live in the same house due to finances and health insurance) informed me that the company he works for is laying 35 people off. He finds out Wednesday if he is one of them. He claims he won't be.....but if he is talking, he is lying, so I don't believe him. They are also only giving people a 3 week notice before they are let go. I want to vomit. We are NOT financially stable and this would sink us. Please please pray he isn't laid off.

ctmbsikia, I haven't been to a GYN in years. My old PCP was nagging me about it after my breast and kidney surgeries in 2018. I told her it's the last thing on my mind since there's nothing there, and I get scanned anyway so any abnormality would show up. Then she started going on and on about how cute the current onco GYN guy is, so I went home and sent her a scathing email firing her for her unprofessionalism.

cm2020, sending you positive vibes.

Thank you for the good thoughts and wishes for my husband's job. I so appreciate it.

Jumpship......I have a horrible time sleeping and have since menopause started. I take Melatonin every night and it works very well. I take OTC as well (like bcincolorado). One thing I have found is that a lower dose does seem to work better. I take 10mg a night. It takes about 30-45 min to really kick in. If I wake during the night I will take another 5mg if it is early and I don't think I will be able to go back to sleep. But that is rare. The 10mg will typically easily get me through the night (except of course when I have to get up to use the bathroom).

Thanks, Alice.

Hoping for the best outcome for you, cm2020.

Jumpship, I would definitely try the melatonin first and if that doesn't help I would ask (or demand) a script. My mother in-law suffered from delusions. She thought her husband was cheating when he left the house 3x's a week for dialysis. Her doctor is now my primary doctor. He and his wife (an NP) have a local practice and they really worked with us in trying to find a good med that would help. We had her on busparin (a mild anti-depressant as needed) and Abilify. The family didn't really like that this did sort of zone her out, but my feeling was we don't want her harming herself, and her poor husband needs his rest, so I went down every night and gave her the meds. Her daughter was really against this after a couple of months, so she weaned her off and it was only a matter time before the delusions began to come back. Sister in-law was better prepared to handle and distract her, so I don't think she ever went back on Abilify. This was all done under the docs guidance. I've read where they use some of these medications "off label" It takes some trial and error. It is my feeling to help the symptom (like constant crying) since there is no cure. Best wishes to you.

Spoke to a friend last night. She was having some health issues and her doctors were trying to figure it out. Congestive heart failure? The first ER trip they thought it was a heart attack. No, maybe lungs. During this follow up time from 1st trip to the hospital she was getting worse with coughing and wheezing. Chest and back pain. Went back to her regular doctor after feeling a lump on the side of her neck. He sent her back to the ER and she was admitted for a few days. I am assuming from scans they told her it is cancer. She did not mention a lung biopsy. They biopsied the lymph node swollen in her neck so she's waiting for the results to see what kind of cancer it is. I feel terrible She and her hubs and best friend (they are like sisters) all live together. Best friends ex is living with their son and is on hospice care. He will gone soon. That was a lot to take in. I did tell my friend that the beginning is the hardest part waiting for the diagnosis and getting set up with a team and a plan. I told her she may get a nurse navigator. She is already set up with a patient portal.

If she reaches out to me I will surely help her. I will reach out to her best friend today and offer any assistance she needs. She and her ex have been more friendly with each other over the years. I just can't imagine caring for your ex husband on hospice while your best friend is also getting ready to get a cancer diagnosis. Good grief. The Big C can go suck it!

So, there is this guy who used to attend our church - until we asked him to leave. He always sat on the second row and would comment/correct the pastor as he preached. He would take copious notes so that he could corner and correct the pastor after the sermon. He was arrogant and had all the answers. The church board asked him to stop his disruptive behavior and when he wouldn't, we had a church business meeting, after which we asked him to find another church to worship.

Apparently, he found out that I have cancer again and has left 5 messages to call him because he has a "healing ministry" and a "cure for any cancer". His messages go something like this: "Hello, are you there? Pick up. This is _____. Hello? Carol? Call me. I have cure for your cancer."

I have the ability to block his number and he'll get a disconnected number recording. It just makes me angry because he's so arrogant and when I die of this disease he's going to accuse my husband of not allowing me to be cured. He's overweight and can't drive due to a seizure disorder. Has God healed him of that??? Where is his cure for that??? (I'm not mocking him for that and don't wish a seizure disorder on anyone, just for the record.)

I'm torn between blocking him, laughing in his face, or telling him to STOP CALLING ME!!!

Signed,

Still not cured Carol (sorry, I couldn't help myself)

That's just terrible. I think he is probably mentally ill and no, that doesn't excuse him.

Great advice. I would agree. Block him. You don't need any further engagement with this person. Who gets kicked out of a church? Honestly, you know something is not right when that happens.

This guy used to give bear hugs to EVERYONE! Including frail old women. When he opened his arms to me, I'd just put my hand up. He physically hurt people with his hugs.

You'll get a laugh out of this story. A friend visited another church in the area one day. He said he met this guy and when he (our friend) held out his hand for a hand-shake, this other guy, said "Brothers hug" and gave him a big ole bear hug. When my husband and I heard this story, we started laughing, because we knew exactly who he was talking about.

I do agree that engaging him would be pointless. He did show up at our church a couple of years ago with "a message from God". Anyway, my husband and the pastor heard him out, thanked him and just let him go on his way. I'm a firm believer in Christianity and my faith is strong, but I'd rather live it than preach it, if you know what I mean. And if someone tells me that they have "a message from God", my hackles go up. Really??? Makes me want to say, "God just told me to tell you to SHUT UP!" But that would be engaging them and what would be the point?

Man, I love this thread!

Carol

Oh Sunshine you know that guy is not doing what is right no matter what. It is his own intentions only. Block him. Avoiding people who are annoying is the best way to deal with people for your own mental health.

Oh Divine, I laughed out loud at that last paragraph. May not seem to Christian, but with the way things are going in the world we are finding out how mentally challenged some of our citizens are. Is it lack of intelligence? A disability? I would never entertain a non medical persons claim to a cure.

Baking soda and cottage cheese? You just can't make this ish up!

I thought I posted this, but I don't see it. I'm pretty sure my Stage IV sin was buying a lottery ticket (I didn't win).

Now excuse me while I run to the store for some cottage cheese and baking soda. That actually sounds really nasty!

Carol