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  • AliceBastable
    AliceBastable Member Posts: 3,461
    edited October 2021

    MountainMia, Sending you all the support and positive energy I can!

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  • exbrnxgrl
    exbrnxgrl Member Posts: 12,424
    edited October 2021

    emily,

    I am sorry that things didn’t go the way you had hoped. Stage II, in all its iterations, is indeed considered early stage and ones Oncotype score is not a factor in staging. It is sometimes difficult to figure out where work fits into your life after a bc diagnosis as everyone is different. I recently retired and am still trying to find my new rhythm in life. Take care.

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  • MountainMia
    MountainMia Member Posts: 1,307
    edited October 2021

    Thanks, all, for the good wishes and support. It helps so much! Still no word today. grrrr. Maybe tomorrow... I sure don't want to wait through the weekend.

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  • Sadiesservant
    Sadiesservant Member Posts: 1,995
    edited October 2021

    The whole work thing is so complicated. I have done well for quite awhile, working in a high stress role but after almost five years of dealing with stage IV I’m getting tired. The tricky thing is, I don’t think it would be wise to try to retire as, not only would my income drop significantly but the extended health sucks. But LTD requires a doctor’s sign off…. difficult as some days I’m great, other days, not so much…

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  • Harley07
    Harley07 Member Posts: 164
    edited October 2021

    @MountainMia - keeping you in my thoughts and hoping for good news.

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  • ctmbsikia
    ctmbsikia Member Posts: 1,095
    edited October 2021

    Waiting is the pits!

    Still coming down from yesterday, doing much better today. Question is if this scar/dead tissue in there gets achy and hurts from doing the exercise class, do I just not go? I really don't want to quit. It's only 1x per week. Also, should I push back on the 6 mo follow up MRI? I feel like I really don't need it now (also don't want the expense either). After my esophagus incident I quit taking supplements-the multi-vit, C & D, and glucosamine. Most all of them are too big for me to swallow comfortably. So of course my knees, hips, and back hurt now. I just ordered a liquid form of glucosamine. I hope it works fast. Breast is also feeling better today. What we don't do to remain pain free. Still in a learning curve with different things to try.

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  • bcincolorado
    bcincolorado Member Posts: 5,758
    edited October 2021

    Emily I worked for many years in a very high stress job in an office. I made the decision to leave the job and it was the best thing I could do. I had developed other health issues as well besides the cancer and it is so much better for me and I am thankful to be out of that. I was not 60 yet but with the help of an attorney who helped me with my SSDI claim I was approved. Money went down to less than half than what I had been making since I made good money but we have our house paid for and we are frugal anyway so are making due. Best wishes to you.

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  • Emily21
    Emily21 Member Posts: 80
    edited October 2021

    Thanks bcincolarado. I'm hoping that a letter of support from my gp will be enough to convince occupational health in my hospital to let me go, but I need to change my oncologist. I need someone who is always on my side. Best wishes. ANNE.

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  • MountainMia
    MountainMia Member Posts: 1,307
    edited October 2021

    (also posted in TNs thread)

    I JUST got it back. Benign! Weird, but benign. It says

    "Benign breast tissue with fibrosis and foreign body giant cell reaction."

    Fibrosis is scar tissue, which makes sense because it was in my lumpectomy scar. Foreign body giant cell reaction might have to do with the surgical clip, which got sucked out with the biopsy. I dunno. Will wait for a phone call from the radiologist to explain this.

    Anyway, benign. Very good news and happy way to end the week. Thanks to all for sticking with me this week.

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  • Beesie
    Beesie Member Posts: 12,240
    edited October 2021

    YAY! to benign! That's great news.

    Enjoy the weekend!

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  • ctmbsikia
    ctmbsikia Member Posts: 1,095
    edited October 2021

    Yea!!! So glad it’s begnign. Post surgery biopsy are scary as ish! In 2020 I also got the giant cell reaction with focal fat necrosis. Do you have any pain from time to time? Or pulling sensation? How long ago was you surgery? So glad for you!

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  • Sadiesservant
    Sadiesservant Member Posts: 1,995
    edited October 2021

    yeah for benign and so happy you got the news before the weekend.

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  • MountainMia
    MountainMia Member Posts: 1,307
    edited October 2021

    My surgery was in April 2019, so 2.5 years ago. What I see is that it's typical to have a reaction in the first weeks after surgery, so I might be an outlier (story of my life!) As to pain or pulling, yes, but twinges and occasional pain seem to just be part of the whole joy of having breast cancer, so I've never thought much of it.

    So my questions, when I get to speak with someone about it, include

    1) will this mass continue to grow?

    2) what are the chances that it will happen with my other clips in the vicinity?

    3) does it create any extra risk for the future?

    4) does anything need to be done about it?

    In the meantime, I'm just trying to get my stress response to settle down. I usually have a drink on Friday evenings, so that sounds like a good idea for tonight, especially.

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  • bmpntherd
    bmpntherd Member Posts: 31
    edited October 2021

    my rant!

    God damn it! diagnosed with early stage breast cancer in 2014. Do you want a lumpectomy- hell no! take it off!!! NO regional spread! Reconstruction- HELL NO !!! You can do chemo if you want- HELL YES- bring it on! Tamoxifen- hate this shit, severe joint pain- but they tell me it prevents recurrence so 5 years - YES, onward never miss a dose. Oncology appointments yearly, labs, mammograms- I did it all. January 2021 mammo negative, onco appointment normal, labs normal.

    March 2021 on my F^<~|%* birthday develop a visual change. Retinal doc flatly states “it’s a met” From where the idiot me says, we’ll you had breast CA. GUT PUNCH. Now mets to eye, lung, bone and liver. GOD F%~^}DAMMIT!! I did EVERYTHING! what do you mean 20-30% will go on to stage 4. I WAS CURED!!!! and now it’s freaking PUKETOBER!! I HATE F%^}}#% PINK!! and now I get mad at my own Breast Cancer sisters who are getting through early stages!! I HAVE MBC! I will NEVER get better until I die. NO ONE DESERVES this SHIT! SCREENING SUCKS! TREATMENT SUCKS! CANCER SUCKS!!! Kiss my career and life as I know it goodbye.🤬🤬

    Now back to my normal, happy, demeanor😌


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  • KIDI919
    KIDI919 Member Posts: 425
    edited October 2021

    Bmpntherd: DAMN IT.

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  • Sunshine99
    Sunshine99 Member Posts: 1,680
    edited October 2021

    Bmpntherd, as I read in a book when I was a kid:

    DAMN, DAMN, DOUBLE-DAMN, TRIPLE-DAMN, HELL!!!

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  • Rah2464
    Rah2464 Member Posts: 1,647
    edited October 2021

    Mountain Mia - so very glad to hear of your benign result.

    Bmpntherd - HELLFIRE AND DAMNATION (its a family quote)

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  • Spookiesmom
    Spookiesmom Member Posts: 9,568
    edited October 2021

    🤣why don’t you tell us how you really feel ❤️👍

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  • cm2020
    cm2020 Member Posts: 615
    edited October 2021

    Bmpntherd........SHIT!

    mountainmia.....yay for benign!

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  • GoldensRBest
    GoldensRBest Member Posts: 447
    edited October 2021

    Bmpntherd - F—-ing shit cancer. You have many friends on the MBC forums. We are here for you whether you want to bitch up a storm or just sigh. HUGS

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  • bcincolorado
    bcincolorado Member Posts: 5,758
    edited October 2021

    Yea for benign!



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  • BlueGirlRedState
    BlueGirlRedState Member Posts: 1,031
    edited October 2021

    Bmpntherd - cancer is a big F#*%$@$# monster, and ther doesn't seem to be a "why" treatments work for some, but not others , and why it metastasizes MBC, an even bigger F#*%$@$# monster. My 3rd BC, twice left, now right, the one one the right metastasized last winter. F%$# ! F&*#* ! I thought the Ibrance was shrinking it. A couple on these threads have posted that they've been MBC 10+ years, but it really sucks to have a giant anvil dangling above your head. I hope yours stabiizes.

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  • MKestrel
    MKestrel Member Posts: 64
    edited October 2021

    The next person who tells me to just think positive is going to get a bucket of fresh Verzenio side effect in their favorite chair.

    JUST STINK POSITIVE!!!!!!


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  • nopink2019
    nopink2019 Member Posts: 329
    edited October 2021

    MKestrel, 💩👍

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  • sbelizabeth
    sbelizabeth Member Posts: 2,889
    edited October 2021

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  • Cowgirl13
    Cowgirl13 Member Posts: 1,936
    edited October 2021

    I can't remember where I saw this but I sure liked it since I hate all that positive bullsh t. "Positivity can be toxic when it comes at the cost of what is true."

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  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited October 2021

    OH YES Cowgirl. Thanks for posting!!!

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  • Sunshine99
    Sunshine99 Member Posts: 1,680
    edited October 2021

    Oh yeah, I HATE the "just think positive" thing. While it just MIGHT make me a little happier, it DOESN'T cure cancer. Do we tell that to people with COVID? Diabetes? Heart attacks? Sheesh!

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  • Sunshine99
    Sunshine99 Member Posts: 1,680
    edited October 2021

    I just read that Casey DeSantis, wife of Florida Gov. has been diagnosed with breast cancer. I wish her every success with her treatment, but I truly hate the comment from her husband that "she will never, never give up." I understand the intent, but sometimes cancer kills us. That will NOT be her fault if that happens.

    Cross posted in My Husband, My Life, My Love, My Family, My Cancer.

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  • sbelizabeth
    sbelizabeth Member Posts: 2,889
    edited October 2021

    Sunshine99, YEAH. The whole "you can fight this!" thing, like when breast cancer kills someone, they didn't fight hard enough.

    Obits sometimes state "she lost her battle," when they should say "treatment failed her."

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