STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend, Lizabeth. No matter if it was the path she chose, I think most of us would naturally think "what if?" You can add her name to the Breastcancer.org "In memorium" list. If you search it under all topics, you post her name (or nickname) and they will add it to the list.

Thank you for the info, Elderberry. I'll have to check them out.

Yay, ctmbsikia on christening the new toilet. May it forever remain unclogged.

Trish

Sorry about your friend LizabethM. Thank you for being such a good friend to her and sharing such a thoughtful, endearing post about her.

LizabethM, so sad I'm sorry. It makes me angry that some drs told me I had the good cancer and I didn't need chemo or radiation with less than 4 nodes impacted. Your story Makes me feel better I kept pursuing more opinions and had them both.

Ctmbsikia, I’ve been in sports bras (when I was huge)and bralettes (now after diep for years. I’ll never go back to hooks in the back.

I am angry on behalf of someone I never knew. It's about how a ridiculously punitive sick leave policy affected the life of a breast cancer patient. This story reminds me of the sign I gave my husband for his office: The Beatings Will Continue Until Morale Improves.

https://www.inquirer.com/news/temple-university-librarian-sick-leave-policy-cancer-20210804.html?outputType=amp

"Treatment decisions are difficult, " says BlueGirl. Not that difficult, really, if you want a chance to live. I get angry when some poor woman with breast cancer is pressured by her husband who is willing to risk her life on some wacko stuff he read on the internet. From Lizabeth's post: "One of my dear friends...discovered she had Lobular Cancer.... her and her husband wanted to think and research....It was many months before my friend did a mastectomy. Cancer was found in her auxiliary nodes. But, she and her husband decided to try a naturopath instead of using the oncologist. Fast forward to yesterday, my sweet friend passed away with mets in her bones and liver. My heart is so sad. I know it was their decision to make, but I miss my friend." I hope it was actually her decision and not his. I did not know these people but I have seen it happen where a woman is bullied or frightened by a controlling man into forgoing the recommended treatment.

Oh, KID1919, it sounds like you're having what is known in my house as a total shit day. I hate those days. They're so draining. They just suck every bit of energy out of you.

The good news is the day is almost over. Hopefully tomorrow will be better. Sending hugs. And chocolate. Everything's better with chocolate.

Trish

PS or a good fuck

KIDI919 - " I am sick of fing cancer, covid and all the political BS" <----This sums up my feelings of the last few days - wait...strike that...MONTHS - perfectly!

Good luck, Harley07. Fingers crossed that it's just incidental swelling, not anything more serious. I have truncal lymphedema and it's more of a pain in the butt than anything. Massage or dry brushing usually gets the swelling down

Trish

Those of you in bad moods, having a hard time, and overall just grumpy....well please feel free to come sit by me. It has already been a very long morning and I am in such a pissy irritated mood. I share all of your irritations and things that are setting you off and agree with you completely. I won't name them all because just naming them again will further set me off!

Harley, I am thinking of you and hope the u/s goes well.

As for chocolate, I do believe it would soothe the savage beast in me and I think I will take my daughter (once she finishes school for the day--she is homeschooled) and go in search of some.

I'm in a slight state of turmoil trying to decide if I should continue taking my AI for another 3 years. Two years ago at my checkup just 6 months away from my 5 year cancerversary, my MO told me about a study that showed that if you stay on the AI for 10 years instead of 5, your survival rate goes up 4%+. I kind of balked at it, and then she said that there is another study that suggests 7 years is as good as 10. So we agreed to go 2 years and see if anything changed as far as studies go.

Fast forward 2 years exactly which was 10 days ago, and she just states that she wanted to do a bone scan to check how my bones were doing on the AI, that that would determine if she thought we should continue at all with it. Well, surprise surprise, my bones show Osteopenia now. She wants me to continue with the AI for three more years! Doesn't make sense to me.

I had her PA send me the study that is convincing my MO to keep me on the meds. She says it's because I had node involvement, but the study included women with node involvement. She sends me the study from NEJM that shows it is better to go 10 years than 5, I replied with the NEJM study that showed 7 was as good as 10 - as a matter of fact, the only difference was that if you stayed on the meds for 3 more years the only difference was more broken bones for those who went 10 years.

Now, it they most likely didn't get a Prolia shot every 6 months like I will, but I have yet to see evidence that if there is node involvement, you should go the extra 3 years.

On top of that, a property we sold that was supposed close at the end of June is still being delayed, and my mtg payment went up because I live in Fl and we have an insurance mess going on right now and the escrow numbers aren't adding up, so I have to call them too!

Thank you for the kind thoughts. My day just got better. Radiologist said there is nothing concerning on the US. He thinks it's odd that the swelling and orange peel skin is on the opposite side of the breast from the incision side, so he suggested getting a skin punch biopsy, but didn't seem to think there is anything to be worried about. I'll call my surgeon next week to see if that can wait until my September follow up for the breast and to discuss the gallbladder. The US tech said she knows my surgeon does the punch biopsies in her office because she had one there. I do have lymphedema in my breast and massage does help (as does laying down). But for some reason my employer prefers that I sit up at my.desk and not massage my boobs while in the office. LOL

Happy weekend to everyone!

What great news, Harley07!! Wonderful! " />

Pretty good day today. H bday coming up and I said I was going to get him TV headphones for his bday. He said "that's kind of a present for you". Yep. We keep closed captioning on all the time. I saw my 2 new great nieces today. Not quite 3 wks old. Twin girls. You forget how little babies are. And they are good size...one was 5lbs 10oz and the other 7lbs 3oz. Glad I didn't have to carry them for 9 months!

@bcincolorado - that sounds awful! My brother waited too longto have his gallbladder removed. Ended up with pancreatitis and in the hospital for a month followed by 3 more hospitalizations totaling 17 days. Yeah, I think it's better to do it sooner rather than later.