STEAM ROOM FOR ANGER

Absolutely tell manager, but don't be surprised if you get a shrug of the shoulders in response. Then be sure to specify why you will not return and that you will advise your friends who frequent the place why. Both health reasons and respect issues apply.

I need to get eye exam & asked if optometrist had been vaxxed. One office "refused to comment due to HIPPA", which is ignorant as HIPPA apples to patient info, not provider qualifications. 2nd office said "huh, no." Made appt at 3rd choice with vaxxed Dr. I told 1&2 "no thanks, I prefer Drs who believe in science." Seems I'm ranting all over these days.

Trishyla, as SerenityStat says in dx, "Do not overlook the little joys!" 😀

To All: I moved from "Ma'am" to "dearie, sweetie" --- Yikes am I getting that old? Depends on the country where those words are being said. In England both sexes get called "Pet" then there's "Luv"; --- so does is it belittling you or maybe it is just a cultural thing? At a market I go to - almost daily - many of the staff greet me or send me off with "Ciao Bella" But maybe they say that because I have been going there for decades and they see me in a more informal light.

Yes yes, hair pulled back. I hope she was wearing a mask, the absence of one would freak me out.

This conversation brings back some nice memories. I was an AA in an academic office. Since the students were older, I told them to call me Kathy. Two of the young men, one a graduate student and the other an undergraduate, couldn't bring themselves to do that. They were from the south and asked if Miss Kathy would be ok. Of course it was! It really does boil down to where you grew up, whether in our own country or another. I will say, the first time I was ever called ma'am I remember thinking I've turned into my mother.

Edited to add: The so called terms of “endearment” when used like the waitress did are downright insulting whether by a female or male

I was in the Air Force in the early 70s. Only some of the old lifer officers wanted to be called sir. The younger ones didn't want anything to do with it and didn't like people saluting them, either. Enlisted people, even of higher rank, weren't supposed to be called sir or ma'am in the first place, per the rules of address. I was at Offutt AFB, Strategic Air Command Headquarters, and the big cheese general of SAC would drive around early every morning to eyeball the place. If he saw someone walking to or from work, he'd give them a ride no matter what low rank they were. It was the most egalitarian place I've ever worked. Off duty, officers and enlisted people hung out together and didn't think anything about it. My enlisted boyfriend shared an apartment with a lieutenant and nobody cared.

I wasn't raised to call anyone sir or ma'am so I was glad that it wasn't a big deal when I was in the military. A person can be respectful to others without using outdated, medieval servile terms.

KID1919, I keep reading that quote. I think it's hilarious! Thanks for sharing it.

Carol

Or these: “Adult green June beetles, Cotinus nitida, are metallic green and nearly 1 inch long.The body margins are bronze to yellow and wing covers are sometimes reddish brown. Pupae are brown and 1 / 2 inch long, and larvae ("grubs") are cream-colored and can be from 1 / 4 inch to 2 inches long“ (wiki)

Not cicadas, Jelson. We don't have those in California. They're definitely the large green beetles that Shetland mentioned.

Initially I thought it was hilarious how they kept following me around the yard. I kept telling them I wasn't their mother.

But now I'm not so sure their behavior was entirely benign. I remembered that I used to have a pin (brooch) made out of an iridescent green beetle back in the eighties. Used to creep people out seeing me in a full business suit and high heels with a large bug perched on my shoulder.

I'm starting to wonder if they're finally taking their revenge on me for wearing their distant relative. Hmmm. Maybe I'll get my husband to water the garden. Just in case.

Pretty funny.

The steam is out of me today.
We have lost Jaycee49. She was my friend. I am without words.

So sad to hear, runor. Thank you for letting us know.

If you pm the moderators they will add her name to the " In Memorium" list.

I hate this awful disease.

Trish

Hi Steam Room Friends: let me first apologize for going back to some older posts. I thought about it for days before posting. I am sorry but politics does belong here. It is politics that the USA does not have universal health like the rest of the developed world. That has left people like you fighting with insurers, waiting for approval from insurers, finding out that the specialist that could help you is "out of the network"....potentially breaking you financially. One woman posted that her insurer would not cover another PET scan since her last one was clear so she shouldn't need another one. That makes me SO ANGRY.

Okay. On to vaccines. We are living on borrowed time, some with less time than others. The pandemic stopped us from seeing those we loved, travelling to places we wanted to see (tick in the bucket list?) Those eligible people (over 12 etc) who refuse the jab are keeping this pandemic going, getting worse in some places. They endanger those who cannot have the vaccine (under 12, doing chemo etc) Their liberty to refuse does not give them the liberty to infect and kill other people. Like Macron did in France, it is not the vaccinated who should shoulder this -- it should be the unvaccinated who have to stay home, not go to restaurants, gyms, concerts, games. Bars can ask for ID for age, why not proof of vaccination? We have to look at our society, our communities as a whole -- "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" does not mean zero responsibilities for others. The willful ignorance, the willful disregard for others makes me SO ANGRY

Okay. I've vented. I'll go back to long waits, rude medical staff, being pissed off about being a resident of Cancerlandia in general.

Trishyla: You brooch story made me laugh. I inherited a Scottish grouse foot that has a sterling silver ring with a precious stone on one of is talons. It gives me the creeps. What do I do with a creepy family antique? I have a necklace with a crowskull. The skull is resin, made with a mold from a real skull. I did the beading and considering that corvids are my all time favourite bird it is weird that I would make it. I have a crow that comes to the kitchen window and taps on the glass so I will come out and give him/her a treat. Which I do.

Cyber hugs to all

I love ravens and crows, Elderberry. When I'm out walking I sometimes stop and just watch them. I have often wished I could communicate with them.

There's so much we don't know about them. For instance, how does their generational memory work? (Which is partly what I was jokingly referring to with the beatles. If they have the same kind of generational transfer of knowledge, then I'm in deep trouble 😬 Same with seahorses. I had a gold plated one of those in the eighties as well.)

I don't know what you should do with your creepy heirloom. I have one of those myself. I have the handmade cotton dress my grandmother's newborn brother was wearing when he died. I've always hoped the stains on it were rust from being improperly stored. Otherwise I'd have been too creeped out to keep it.

Trish

Kid, in the box where you post, in the upper right corner there is an icon looks like mountain. Click on that, follow the prompts.

I am so, so sorry to hear about Jaycee49. This hits hard.