Question About Gift for Oncologist

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DivineMrsM
DivineMrsM Member Posts: 9,620
edited April 2021 in Stage IV/Metastatic Breast Cancer ONLY

My oncologist of 10 years, and her nurse, will both retire this year. I plan to get each one a small personalized gift. While I’ve always called the nurse by her first name, I’ve only ever called my onc “Dr. Jones.” Should I personalize her gift, a small keepsake she could put on a shelf or desk, “Dr. Mary Jones”? Or should it just be “Mary Jones”? I’m sort of leaning towards Dr. Mary Jones.

I get a bit emotional thinking of how they’ve really been there for me the past 10 years. In many ways, I’ve been spoiled, altho I know they do for their other patients what they do for me, so it’s not that I got special treatment. They’re just such a good team, like a well oiled machine, and I’ve been able to count on them since the beginning. It’s hard to put into words.


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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited April 2021

    Divine, I like "Dr. Mary Jones. so thoughtful of you! It's an important relationship and when we (patients ) have a great and caring team it makes such a difference !

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  • Sadiesservant
    Sadiesservant Member Posts: 1,995
    edited April 2021

    Divine, I also like Dr. Mary Jones and can understand completely why you would want to do this. It’s a funny thing, the relationship between your oncology team and oneself. I often think about gifts but have held back for the typical occasions but this one is pretty significant. I think it’s lovely and will be much appreciated.

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  • jobur
    jobur Member Posts: 726
    edited April 2021

    Mrs M, I am also in favor of Dr. Mary Jones. I am so sorry you are losing your beloved mo to retirement. I truly love my mo, she has been so good to me and I can't imagine not having her as my partner as we go through the "journey" of living with mbc. I got a little choked up just reading your post. Congrats to your mo on her retirement, and hope your new doc will treat you just as well for another 10 years.

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  • terri-c
    terri-c Member Posts: 180
    edited April 2021

    I agree with adding the Dr. My oncologist had a baby a couple of years ago. I got her a baby gift, and I addressed the card to Dr. I haven't called her by her first name ever.

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  • DivineMrsM
    DivineMrsM Member Posts: 9,620
    edited April 2021

    Sounds like a unanimous vote to use her title of Dr. for the personalization! Thanks for your opinions. I have been reflecting on this doctor-patient relationship I’ve had (nurse, too). They’re retiring at the end of summer, so I will only have one more appointment with them.


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