Daughter’ cancer has returned

Birchbark26
Birchbark26 Member Posts: 26
edited September 2021 in Caring for Someone with Stage IV or Mets

I haven’t been here for over a year. Today we were informed my daughter’s cancer has returned. She was diagnosed stage IV de novo almost 3 years ago

I guess I’m depressed and hoping someone can give me some good news

Thank

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  • buttonsmachine
    buttonsmachine Member Posts: 930
    edited February 2021

    Birchbark, I'm sorry to hear of your news. How old is your daughter? My parents took it very hard when my cancer returned. It's hard for the patient but also for the family members.

    Has her MO come up with a new treatment plan yet? Sending strength.

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  • illimae
    illimae Member Posts: 5,710
    edited February 2021

    I think that the best news we have in this situation is that there are several treatments for HER2+ and more on the way.

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  • Birchbark26
    Birchbark26 Member Posts: 26
    edited February 2021

    Hi Thank you for your kind words. She had a recurrence at the original location in the breast. She had a mammo, sono, and biopsy. The plan is not concrete but probably a lumpectomy and keep her on her current immunotherapy because she tolerates it well. She was also diagnosed at 32 but was stage IV from diagnosis. I try to find parents on this site but we are few Stay well!

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  • Birchbark26
    Birchbark26 Member Posts: 26
    edited February 2021

    Hi Thank you for your kind words. She had a recurrence at the original location in the breast. She had a mammo, sono, and biopsy. The plan is not concrete but probably a lumpectomy and keep her on her current immunotherapy because she tolerates it well. She was also diagnosed at 32 but was stage IV from diagnosis. I try to find parents on this site but we are few Stay well!


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  • Moderators
    Moderators Member Posts: 25,912
    edited February 2021

    Birchbark - We're so sorry your daughter is dealing with this again. You know you have all the support here, please let us know what we can do for you. For now, we thought this article could be of interest:

    Six Tips for Caregivers From People Living With Metastatic Breast Cancer

    Hope this helps! Please come back soon and let us know how you both are doing.

    Warmly,

    The Mods

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  • Tiffany214
    Tiffany214 Member Posts: 7
    edited September 2021

    My beautiful daughter was diagnosed in June of this year with stage 4 Metastatic Breast Cancer, ER/PR+HER2+. She is 34 years old, married with 2 beautiful children, ages 14 and 8. As a mother, I am completely devastated. The day we found out I felt as though my life was sucked out of me, it was an intense physical feeling, as well as emotional. The shock is still there, I cannot believe that my daughter is going through this. The reality of the situation is too much to handle at times, and I have to find ways to cope and not allow my thoughts to overwhelm me. I have to be her strength through it all. I have to be her hope on those days she is going to want to give up. And I have to be there for my grandchildren as we start this journey. But every day, when I come home from taking care of her and those kids, I sob like a baby. I hold it in, I won't break down in front of her. I wait until I am alone to let myself feel the fear, grief, anger, and deep deep sadness. My daughter, my beautiful spirited, opinionated, loud, funny and wonderful daughter. How did this happen? How can this be our reality?

    As mothers, nobody can ever understand the hurt we feel over this unless they have been through the same. I am sending love and prayers to you and your daughter.


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  • Birchbark26
    Birchbark26 Member Posts: 26
    edited September 2021

    I’m so sorry you and your family are going through this

    Prayers and love being sent for you all I’m here if you need to private message me and want to vent. There aren’t a lot of parents on here with children that have stage IV cancer so it can be isolating

    Our lives will never be the same, the pain and hopelessness is unbearable at times as a mother we expect to be able to shelter our children and now we have no power to do anything. It’s out of our hands

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