thread for middle age to older Christian women.

Nancy,

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I can still hear the phone call from mom............do you have the TV on......no mom......turn on the TV now...the Trade Center has been hit by a plane.

I didn't lose a loved one during 9-11.

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Okay to put us on the back burner while you and sister focus on care for mom.

You and Cammie have a safe trip!!

My Mom ended up in the ER again tonight. She had really bad diarrhea on Thursday when my sister was there. They had to give her three showers. Tonight the nurse called my sister and said my Mom's diarrhea was really bad. My sister went to get some liquids and some Imodium but my Mom got very shaky and they called an ambulance. My sister texted me from the hospital and said they were giving her an IV which I was glad to hear as I was so worried wondering if she had this diarrhea ever since Thursday.

I would really appreciate your prayers for my Mom.

Love

Nancy

Thanks Teka and everyone for your prayers for my Mom. My sister and I texted to the early hours in the morning and I got the last text at 3 am saying she had dropped my Mom back to her facility and was heading home.

Neither one of us got much sleep so I am not leaving today as planned as I just don't have enough energy and I am afraid of falling asleep on the road. I will hopefully leave tomorrow. I have heard nothing on how my Mom is doing today. I am waiting to see what my sister says.

Thank you all for your concern.

Love

Nancy

Thank you Ade, for that beautiful banner and truth. Thank you for your prayers. I got some rest this afternoon which I really needed and my Mom is apparently doing much better with no diarrhea. This is the second time I have heard someone say on two different days she was in good spirits. They stopped the appetite stimulant some time ago and I will be VERY curious to see if she seems improved when I see her because this is what I was thinking all along that the side effects were making her mind worse. Hopefully I will get good sleep tonight and power up for the trip.

Love,

Nancy

Hi Faith, how are YOU doing? Praying with the meds and therapy you are seeing some improvement. Hopefully the cooler weather is possibly allow you to take some walks outside.

My Mom ended up in the ER today again. She fell. This time my sister was out of town and somehow my Mom's doctor got a call and intervened and had my Mom sent to his office first. Her blood pressure was too low they removed one of her meds. They did admit her as an outpatient and gave her another IV. My sister was texting me saying she kept saying are we going home now. The hospital took forever. My sister finally took my Mom back and a few hours later they called my sister and my Mom had fallen again but was okay. Needless to say it is a stressful time not knowing for sure what to do. This facility is not a memory care unit but they take people with dementia as long as they aren't a danger to themselves or others. I am praying that this is going to be a simple fix and with the blood pressure under control that her falling will stop. I have a feeling she may be blacking out. She does not push her alert button around her neck when this has happened.

I just got good news on my thyroid ultrasound. I don't have to have another US for 3-5 years so that is great to hear. One of the nodules actually shrunk. Unfortunately not the large one that is the one of concern.

I didn't get in to my Mom's house until late and too late to see her as they only have certain hours to visit residents.

I was able to reschedule the VA phone interview which will give me more time to get all of these documents scanned and sent to her before my apt. She said I could do a video conference and just show her the documents. I declined that offer. So much of this is the very same thing I did just a couple of months ago. It is a different department but even so it just is so cumbersome. I am grateful that we have gotten this far. Now it is a matter of getting the retroactive pay and many hoops to jump through if I am named fiduciary. Oh Lord help me now!!!!!

Have a good night dear sisters

Love,

Nancy

Ade, so sorry to hear you are still battling with the VA for James. I keep waiting for this mountain to be moved for you!

Nancy, praying for solutions for your mom and peace for you.

Nancy,

I'm so sorry your mom continues to fall, but blessed if no broken hip!

I pray she's able to get in the facility near your sister's house.

Try to get some rest.

Nancy, so sorry your mom and you are going through this. It must be so difficult. May God hold your mom close and take away her pain and suffering.

Nancy, we are all lifting you and your mom & sis up to the Lord. My dad AND my grandfather went Home JUST before they would have to be put into nursing home care and neither even knew that was next on the agenda. God was so merciful in that and perhaps it may be that way for your mom regarding a new facility. If not, the more intensive care facility will be able to give closer guidance for her and most likely lessen if not eliminate those awful falls for her. These times are so hard when you have to be a parent for your parent and make such important decisions for them. I'm glad you got the hot water heater situation taken for quickly (what BAD timing!) and that you got to be with your mom in person. I pray that our Lord will work out EVERY detail according to His perfect will for your mom and that He will grant you and your sister the peace and strength you surely need right now. We know that His love and power are mighty and that He hears our prayers - and Jesus Himself is interceeding at the right hand of the Father. (It doesn't get any better than that!)

Thank you Chris for thinking of us. James is in bed with a migraine today...again. (

Sending you ALL a cyber hug and lifting you up in prayer with love,

Ade

I just lost a really long post and I am too exhausted to write much.

My Mom is in the hospital now. 3hrs in the ER and an hour getting her settled in her room. My sister will meet with the doctor tomorrow at 6:30 am. My Mom will have a battery of tests and if she is cleared hopefully this nursing home will take her. The facility she is at now just cannot handle her needs right now and the falls would probably continue.

I am totally wiped out. I have had two instances of exhaustion interfering and I came so close to causing a very bad accident but was able to swerve quickly and avoid it. Tonight I accidentally took my thyroid meds instead of this night med which could end up making my heart race and making me hyper. I take that med in the morning only. Praying my exhaustion will allow me to sleep.

My Mom is scared the poor thing. She had a rough time waiting for three hours in the ER before finally going up to her room in the hospital. This is all because of Covid 19 testing.

If she goes into the nursing home she will be quarantined for 14 days and I am doubtful we will be able to see her. We have lots of questions.

Thank you Teka, Hershey, Chris, Ade and Faith for your posts. Your encouragement and prayers means everything to me.

Ade, sorry to hear about James and another migraine. I am praying it is short lived. So frustrating for both of you I know.

Take care dear sisters.

Love,

Nancy

Happy 1st Day of Fall............

Hi dear sisters,

Thank you all for your prayers and your posts of encouragement. Today was moving day for my Mom. I have to say that God truly worked miracles for us in this journey that feels like it has gone on forever but she has only been in the hospital since Friday night.

We didn't know if the nursing home we wanted so badly could take her not knowing her needs as they do not have a locked down unit. Then only by accident something came up in a conversation about my Mom's hospital status. She went into the hospital I assumed as an inpatient patient. I later found out that sometime yesterday her status changed to observation only which is a nasty little trick that Medicare has come up with to deny patients thousands of dollars. My Mom needed to be an inpatient patient for three complete days not counting her discharge day. Then Medicare will cover as much as 100 days (with her particular coverage) in a skilled nursing facility which is literally thousands and thousands of dollars. Also Medicare Part A does not cover this observation status at all so again we were going to have lots of money in copays. God Bless her doctor. He must have had fit that the hospital overrode his preference and I also rattled the cages with as many people as I could talk today. We did think yesterday that the nursing home had finally given the green light but I wasn't totally sure until today. So the GREAT news is the hospital REVERSED it's decision and kept her status as inpatient and that satisfied Medicare's three day rule in hospital to satisfy a Skilled Nursing Facility for 20 days completely and 100 days partial but thanks to my Mom's supplemental it will cover 100 days ONLY if she improves as she is treated like they do for rehab patients. Just an FYI if this ever happens to you or a family member. Ask what is your status as soon as you are admitting to the hospital.

Okay, we won that battle, we got the nursing home of our choice and then the brutal reality that my Mom had to go into quarantine for 14 days knowing she would be so scared and think we abandoned her. Today I had to fly across town from the hospital and sign a ton of papers with the admissions director from the nursing home all outside. It was a very pleasant day. In our talking she said this person's first name will be your Mom's roommate for the quarantine. I said what is her last name. YOU ARE NOT GOING TO BELIEVE THIS ONE. This lady is one of my Mom's friends from church and they used to be in a widow's group that would go out to lunch once a month. I just about jumped up and did a happy dance right there. This admissions lady said I love when God does something like this. That gave me a clue that maybe she is also a Christian. She was a sweetheart I know that. So all in all God has taken a very difficult situation and has blessed us knowing He has made a way where there seems to be no way. It doesn't take away my broken heart knowing my Mom is still going to be scared and will probably ask where is my daughter referring to both my sister and me but she is in His hands and I have to trust in that otherwise I could make myself sick with worry.

So before I lose this post I am going to sign off. I haven't given myself permission to have a good cry yet. I still have to get up very early for a plumber to come to the house. The water heater installation caused some damage to the kitchen sink faucet so my time here is getting more expensive by the day. I have to foot the bill on this one too because that is not covered in our contract for the water heater.

Thank you so much for your prayers. God is good and always sees the big picture. My poor Mom still needs your prayers. She has had a miserable several days in the hospital and I know she just wants to rest. SO DO I.

Love,

Nancy

Thank you Faith. Today I didn't have time to be down in the dumps as I had an early morning plumber come in to finally get some hot water in the kitchen sink. Then I realized the dehumidifier was not working in the basement as it should. Another chunk of money that more than likely will be spent soon. My VA lady that I needed to have the phone interview with pressed me to do it now. I had my needed documents at my house but she seemed to think we could still move forward. I think God allowed this to happen the day after moving my Mom to this nursing home knowing it would be difficult. I had to cram some preparation in knowing she was going to call at a certain time. I was greatly relieved that some of the things I was stressing about I don't even need to do so that was such a tremendous relief. I have lost so much sleep this past week and I really hope that I can get a good night's sleep tonight with hopefully no pressure to be anyplace. My sister and I still need to clean out my Mom's apartment and we have not even started talking about that yet. I need to get back home and then will come back after my Mom is out of quarantine and hopefully will be able to celebrate her 95 birthday coming in October.

How is every one doing? Ade how is James doing? And you? Chris how is the remote learning going with Bria? How are you doing with your treatments?

Faith, how you feeling? Do you think the interventions are helping you with the meds and the therapy sessions. I sure hope they are.

How's our NY ladies with Teka and Jean? I hope you are both doing well. I know before you know it it will be covered with many inches and possibly feet of snow. I don't know where this spring and summer went. Oh yeah, we were all trying to find toilet paper that wasn't $100 a roll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hershey, I bet you are sure glad you don't have to be in that toxic work situation for now. That has to be a huge blessing.

How's our ladies doing in treatment?

Oh I forgot to tell you my sister found one of my Mom's hearing aides. It was in it's box. My sister thinks someone found it and put it in there but she doesn't know who. I keep thinking we may find one in her Lazy Boy chair. We'll see as she is totally deaf without them.

Have a good night dear sisters. Thank you so much for your prayers.

Love,

Nancy

Wow, Nancy - what you have been through! But God had it all in HIs hand all along and seems to be blessing the situation with a room mate your mom knows! And your VA phone visit went better than you had hoped too! I am sorry you have to deal with the house repairs on top of all of this. At least there are no snakes!!! May the Lord grant you rest and sleep that you need and most of all His peace throughout all of this. May He grant your mom peace and freedom from any fear or anguish. I hope Miss Cammie is doing ok with your having to be gone a lot too. We will certainly keep you and this ordeal lifted up to the Lord.

James has had SEVEN migraines this month. He ALWAYS has a headache and it never lets up. Please pray they will give him something to prevent this. His tests are all ok so far so we don't know why he has had to live with years (decades) of pain. But God is our Divine Healer and we petition Him for relief.

Thank you for that notice about being admitted for observation. I had some heart problems a while back and though I was admitted for observation my part F did cover what part A didn't! I think they are doing away with part F but if anyone CAN get it - it is worth it. They pay the 20% Medicare doesn't and that can be a LOT!

Blessings upon your day, Ladies,

Ade

Ade, I will continue to pray for James. Please Lord let there be a solution for these headaches for James and comfort for both of them as this is so hard to watch and to deal with for them.

I have killed one snake early on when I got to my Mom's house. That problem has never been solved and we have reached out to numerous people who we thought could help and just no answer. The dehumidifier has stopped working and it is causing me to cough a lot. We still have to move my Mom's belongings out of her apt. and my sister has been very busy with other things she has committed to so I just don't know what is going to happen. I can't lift much because of my back problems so we need a plan and fast.

Chris, your situation sounds so difficult. With so many trying to access the internet in one household is tough. I remember when my Mom and I both were on our computers at her house it just wouldn't work. I pray that God will give you the strength and patience to deal with all of this complication and with Bria's natural tendency to want to see what her parents are up to.

I can't lift the dehumidifier myself so I need prayers for something to happen. I bought this last one and couldn't lift it downstairs. With the one not working the house is really not good with the dampness of her basement.

I know God will work this out. I just need to trust and be patient as time is running out on my Mom's rent at her old facility and we need to get her belonging out soon.

Cammie is doing fine. We had a little mishap when she first got here but she has settled in. I accidentally stepped on her doing my back exercises today and now she is a little scared of me. In general she has been doing very well and I cannot take that for granted and am very grateful for that. I did get a good night's sleep and that will help tremendously.

Have a good day dear sisters.

Love,

Nancy