Does anyone else get upset over celebrity BC deaths?
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Hello Ladies: THANK YOU for posting shared feelings here. My initial, gut feeling is "oh, she would have unlimited resources to fight and it still took her life" and that starts me off into a bit of a tailspin. Can I fight? Will I have resources? Having been laid off recently makes it even more frightening - with six month testing coming up on August 11th. Loving thoughts to each of you, and to Ms Preston's family and friends. - Love, Belle xo
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Thanks for this thread. The news hit me in the gut and I thought I would see companions in shock here. I have an appt with my surgeon on Thursday to biopsy a new development. I'm thinking it's finally time to let these scarred girls go for peace of mind at the very least. Prayers to all fighting this fight. Rest in peace beautiful Kelly Preston.
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Sad for anyone who passes, especially young. RIP. She's with her son now.
I don't think about my mortality. It will be what it will be.
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Quite a shock this morning to hear about Kelly Preston's death. I agree with an earlier comment in that while I wish the family had provided more details, I respect their right to privacy.
Given how quiet John and Kelly have always been about health issues, it could well be that Kelly was initially diagnosed with breast cancer years ago but was only diagnosed with mets 2 years ago. Or perhaps she was diagnosed with Stage IV de novo 2 years ago. From the standpoint of educating the public about breast cancer, I wish that the family would say more, but what's more important is that they deal with this in whatever way makes them most comfortable, as they grieve. My thoughts are with Kelly Preston's family and friends.
Edited to Add: I just saw the family picture that Kelly Preston posted on Father's Day. She's clearly wearing a wig, and she looks wan and less full faced. It looks to me as though she was putting on a brave face and making the effort to have one nice final family picture. Knowing what we know now, it's both lovely and sad. -
When I hear of celebrity deaths from breast cancer, I always wonder if they were members here. Surely celebrities have posted on this board and nobody knew who they were. They are doing research and dealing with the shock of it just like the rest of us. Where else are they going to go? The internet is probably the best place to get support anonymously.
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I had a lazy morning and when I finally looked at the Today Show FB page for news, I was shocked to learn of of Kelly Preston's death! My first thoughts were, “Now that's not true! Why would they joke about something like that?" It was too out of the blue. I had to go on another news site for confirmation before I believed it.
Beesie, I agree with everything you said about the photo Kelly posted on Father's Day.
Kelly's death makes me very sad. She was only 57. Tho we didn't personally know her, she was a likable star, gorgeous, had her share of heartache, wasn't involved in scandal, had a good, long marriage. Like others have said, maybe there was some alternative treatment going on in addition to conventional. We'll probably never know. Celebrity breast cancer information is notoriously sketchy with vague, generalized details.
There are no guarantees in life, we see that even in the lives of the rich and famous. Think of Kobe Bryant. And Naya Rivera. I was a Gleek (fan of Glee) and read her autobiography, too young to be gone. And Lisa Marie Pressley just lost her son to suicide.
I've been living over 9 years with mbc and try to follow these guideline: Try not to live life in fear and instead, live a meaningful life, with the emphasis on meaning and full. And stay in the present.
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Regarding wanting more details: Ladies, do not try to read the tea leaves of someone else’s story to find out what yours will be. It does not work that way.
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Shetland, thank you for your post. I was thinking exactly that when I was reading some of the posts in this thread, but I didn't know how to say it. You said it perfectly. We each have our own story.
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Thank you so much for starting this thread. When I heard the news about Kelly Preston passing from breast cancer I immediately came to BCO. I do hope the family will be able to release some more information about her diagnosis and treatment, but I certainly understand their need for privacy. It just hits close to home for me because I was diagnosed two years ago and I am 57 as well. None of us know where this journey will take us and that makes it so hard. Godspeed Kelly.
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I have to admit I was curious about details and whether or not she went alternative.
John Travolta thanked the staff at MD Anderson on his Instagram so she did have at least some conventional treatment.
As an aside I noticed some of my ownfamily had “liked" the post but no one has mentioned her death to me yet.
I would not have known what to be curious about before I had the disease. Someone fighting cancer for two years and then passing...I would have thought that was just how cancer is.
But now I wonder about hormone status, treatments, etc etc. and I feel a little shock that it has taken her so quickly.
Of course, I don't expect details to be disclosed to the public, but I think once you are in this “club" you think about the disease this way
Grateful to be past the two year mark in this journey, when I started I had my doubts.
RIP Kelly, you certainly are gone too soon. Praying for strength and comfort for those who loved her.
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Thank you for this post and to those responding as well. The news of Kelly’s passing was literally the first sentence from my husband this morning. Not only upsetting news to me, but while unspoken, also upsetting to him. I agree with so many of the previous posts; and am also struck that someone with seemingly so many resources could be taken so quickly. Like others, I agree we’ll probably never know the details of her BC, but that was her journey. RIP Kelly Preston.
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As I am 56 and was dx with stage 4 last November , the news last night about Kelly Preston is so sad for her family and loved ones and but also for those of us That have breast cancer. I struggle with the lack of knowledge about how long I have left and it’s a harsh reminder that it might not be much (although I am responding very well to my current treatment ). I understand why her family kept it private but since I’m “in the club “ I also wonder what her specifics were and when she started tx. Heavy stuff .
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I try to remember that breast cancer is many diseases and that it’s impossible to compare. Even so every breast cancer death hits very close to home. I think when I see celebrities, it’s tough because they seem to have all of the resources, connections and access to the very best and it still is not enough. It’s so heartbreaking.
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Yes when Kelly Preston died my first (selfish?) thoughts were she died from BC at 57, I’ll be 57 in August. 🥺 I feel badly for her family and friends but my first thoughts were about me. I just finished radiation in May.
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No I don’t actually. While I’m saddened by a death, it does upset me a great deal more when a sister from BCO gets her wings. I’ve been here a long time, and have met quite a few in real life. And some of them are gone.
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Spookiesmom, I agree. When I see news of a celebrity passing away from breast cancer, I think it's sad that she was one of the unlucky ones who didn't survive her diagnosis. I don't ever relate her death to me or my situation, even if we are the same age. In Kelly Preston's case, it's particularly sad that she died so young, but I would feel sad about that no matter her cause of death.
I've been here a long time, and as you said and MelissaDallas said earlier, what's a lot more upsetting to me is when someone from our community passes away. Women I have met in real life are gone. Women I have exchanged PMs with over many years are gone. Too many women diagnosed way back when I was diagnosed are gone. Those deaths are heartbreaking.
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I agree with some others that I don't get particularly startled by celebrity deaths from breast cancer. It is very sad for their families and loved ones, though, and I know it can jar us about our own mortality, too. But I don't take it personally.
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I also have been here for a long time so when I loose a B.C. sister from this site it hits me very hard.
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