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The Lord is waiting to talk to you. Are you waiting to talk to Him? Why wait?
Have a good weekend dear sisters.
Love,
Nancy
Jeremiah 29:13 New International Version (NIV)
13 You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
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Hi ladies,
It was 101 here yesterday with 6% humidity. (SOOO glad for working AC!) James and I have been trying to walk a mile 6 days a week with Sundays off. We go just before the sun rises and it's a beautiful time. Had to skip it the last 2 days though as we weren't feeling well one day (gastro & headaches - hmm!) and yesterday the wind really whipped up the dust (looks like heavy fog) and we figured it wouldn't do us any good to be out breathing heavily in that. Hopefully tomorrow we can get back to it.
We now have 8 local virus cases and everybody is back to masks. We are so ready to be done with this stuff, aren't you? I am SO thankful there is no violence here!
I ran out of Curcumin a week ago - I usually take it everyday. I have noticed that my bones really hurt now, especially my spine where I have arthritis. I will have to order more soon. Point being - if you have achy bones this really does work like an anti-inflammatory. I didn't realize how well it was working until now.
James has really suffered with migraines more lately. He is talking to a VA psych doctor once a week regarding depression and the guy just doesn't understand CHRONIC pain. It's just kind of a "think happy thoughts" thing with him! I don't listen in on their virtual sessions, but James is always worse feeling after them. Still, his depression relating to the migraines is a part of his disability claim (STILL waiting!) so he should stick with the sessions at least until that is settled.
Nancy did your VA thing get results yet for your mom? Your new AC scrubber is good?
Below is a recent sunset from the porch. God blesses us with eyes that see color and creates these scenes because He loves us. He is so good!
Praying for all of you with love,
Ade
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Ade, beautiful sunset. This big dust cloud coming from Africa is supposed to hit our area soon and they say it will make for fiery sunsets. Seems like TX always has fiery and beautiful sunsets.
Cammie and I both have had some GI upset the last few days. I had two cortisone shots in my knees on Monday (totally not expecting that) and ended up with a horrible cortisone flare and couldn't walk several hours after the shot. My Covid 19 test was negative but I am still wondering if I had it in March - April and still not fully recovered.
I read in our paper that the Feds have cut funding for testing in Illinois so I really doubt if I will ever know without an antibody test.
My prayers for a long time for James is that the doctors could find something to treat his migraines. It just doesn't sound like that is happening yet. I am sure that is very hard for James to deal with on a regular basis. That would make anyone depressed for sure. I have not heard anything from the VA but I had high hopes that I would hear something about now according to their last request for another form. It sounded like they wanted to get this rapped up in 30 days but that would be now.
I take Tumeric which also has Curcumin listed on the bottle too. It is THE only supplement I have ever been able to tolerate which is a miracle. I started taking it in March. Sometimes I forget to take it and by afternoon I can tell I missed it. It does work well on my knee pain. I hope you can get some more soon as it really does help as you know.
I am ready to go see my Mom IF and WHEN the forecast is better than it is now for the near future. Hot, humid and rain is the order of the day for her area. I have to feel better and so does Cammie before I leave. I am only staying for a very short visit since it will only be able to see her through her patio door and I know that is not going to be very ideal with her hearing loss.
Our family has been struggling with some personal issues which have affected us greatly so this has been a challenging time. I think I am more upset with the racial tension in the world more so than I ever was with the pandemic. Our country needs prayer for sure and all of our leaders as well.
Ade, praying for good VA results for both of us and for James to feel better. I am glad you are walking. I am walking as I feel up to it but it really bothers me why it has been so difficult walking for me. Swimming (which I can't do now) is so much easier for me but I have to walk but it is not the same effect at least so far. I know this too shall pass eventually.
Take care dear sisters. Praying you all have a good upcoming weekend.
Love,
Nancy
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Psalm 143:8 New International Version (NIV)
8 Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love,
for I have put my trust in you.
Show me the way I should go,
for to you I entrust my life. -
Excellent verse, Nancy! I LOVE the song, "Give Me Jesus". James surprised me with a sign that reads, "In the morning when I rise give me Jesus" and I love that. Your verse reminds me of it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFJGsBApIuk
Yesterday morning there was no internet. We tried all the "tricks" that usually start it up again but nothing worked. I had orders to get shipped promptly. I called the provider and they gave me a "ticket" number and said a repairman would be calling "sometime before the end of the day". (Could be the next day - or so...) We pray for whatever the Lord brings to mind and thank Him for our meal at each meal. It was my turn so I asked the Lord if He would restore the internet that I needed to work. Right after we said, "Amen" the internet came on! Without any delay! They called us and said it was on their end and was fixed. Even "little things" are big things and the Lord graciously answered that little prayer. He is so good. I pray He will bring healing, comfort and hope to each of you sisters.
Blessings upon your weekend,
Ade
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Ade, I thought I had responded to your post but either it went poof or I am losing my mind. Probably the latter. The youtube video was beautiful. I love the verse that James made for you. Praise, your internet came on. For most of us it is an annoyance but for your business obviously essential.
Have a wonderful weekend. I can't imagine the heat you all are having. I could take the less humidity!
Love,
Nancy
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Ellen introduced me to this song and now it is one of my most favorite songs. It will touch your heart.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FkRiYsTN7KY
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- Nancy I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who finds the violence more disturbing than the covid.
- Ade I too have tried to solve issues on my own and as soon as I pray something happens.
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I am slowly learning the lesson that without Jesus I can do NOTHING!
My favorite verse lately is in the 3rd chapter of James I believe it is verse 13 the end of it, mercy triumphs over judgment.
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Hi Jean, it is good to hear from you. There is no question that our country is in a world of hurt in so many ways. We need Jesus more than ever to help us find our way through this time. We need to seek God's wisdom in all of our choices. This may seem very over simplified but if we act always out of love that God has put in our hearts that is a first step in helping to unify our country. We need to pray for our leaders whether we agree with them or not. We have realized how important our local leaders are especially as they have been calling the shots in each state during this shelter at home time. It is the Lord who will eventually get us through this time and no political party will be able to do that. Many believe we are in a tremendous spiritual battle. I don't know what we are in but I know WHO will get us out of this. Give me Jesus as Ade's video link calls us to do.
Love,
Nancy
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Here are some pics I took today and one from May.
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Beautiful pictures! I love coming here to this forum to read encouraging notes and verses from you all. You are in my prayers!
Wheatfields
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Hi Wheatfields! WELCOME HERE!!!
Nancy those are AMAZING pix! I LOVE them!!!
We just now put an offer on several acres in Ohio right down the road from James' twin bro and near to our son and James' sister too. It's a beautiful lot they all know and say BUY IT and is at an amazing price. If this goes through and this TX house sells quickly we will build our third house. The first was a piece of cake and the second was a nightmare. Your prayers are truly appreciated! May GOD'S will be done and make straight our path. This is a BIG BIG deal for us!
Thank you!
Ade
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Nancy, I really like your picture of the goldfinch. There are not many around our garden and yard, or maybe I'm only seeing them after their feathers become less vibrant. Either way, I miss seeing them flit around from tree to tree and sunflower to sunflower.
Ade, I pray your offer is accepted and your current home sells in a jiffy. The lot's location sounds ideal, and interest rates are so low right now. Here's hoping everything falls into place for your and James' new home.
Welcome Wheatfields! It's great to "meet" you!
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OH Ade, this land sounds amazing. I will definitely be praying that THIS is the time and the place the Lord wants you to move. Praying your house will sell quickly and that everything will smoothly fall into place. I can feel your excitement through your words.
Thanks Ade and Hershey. The goldfinches were a definite gift of God as it was my first and last opportunity to get any pics in for the June competition. Yes, I am still doing that whole photo competition thing in the forest preserves. I went to hopefully get a good shot of a particular wildflower I had seen earlier when walking. When I got to the lake the mower had mowed all of those wildflowers down. So I was about to give up after taking some lousy shots of some water birds and then I discovered all the goldfinches in this field of flowers. I don't know what those flowers are but they are pretty. The birds get seeds no doubt.
I came today to post this verse and found Ade's good news. This verse I find very comforting.
Deuteronomy 33:12 New International Version (NIV)
12 About Benjamin he said:
"Let the beloved of the Lord rest secure in him,
for he shields him all day long,
and the one the Lord loves rests between his shoulders." -
Wheatfields, I posted a thank you to you last night and now it is GONE. I will try to remember what I said. I am glad you find encouragement when coming here. I do remember you posting once in the past regarding my Mom's facility. I hope you are doing well and thank you for your prayers as well.
Love,
Nancy
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Well...thank you, ladies...but it was not meant to be. As we were about to e-sign the contract we discovered that the realtor misspelled our last name. As she was correcting it they allowed another person to make an offer (seems unfair to me since we agreed upon the full price - first). We were then told that the realtor forgot to tell us that you cannot build without it passing a soil test - which is $400 and the seller hadn't done it, plus we were now bidding against the other offer. We said that our new higher offer was now contingent upon it passing the soil test. (Why would you buy land not knowing if you are allowed to build on it!) The seller who had just accepted our higher bid then said, 'nope' and accepted the other lower bid where he was NOT required to have a soil test. Sounds like the Lord was watching out for us, and has another plan. Anyway thank you for praying.
Ade
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Ade, I know this must be a big disappointment but if it was in God's will it would have worked out so I hope you can have confidence in that as I am sure many prayed for this situation including me. I know when God says no or wait or not now we have to trust there are better things in store for both of you. I never heard of a soil test but then I have never had a house built either. Maybe it is in a flood zone and the Lord was protecting you. Trusting the Lord. Sometimes easy and sometimes not. I am sorry it didn't though.
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Thanks, Nancy. It used to be called a "perk test". It was to determine if the soil would drain properly to install a septic tank. Now it's a "soil test" - whatever that is. The first realtor fella (we talked to FOUR today on this!) called back a while ago and said that now is not the time to build anyway as they have REALLY raised the costs. That is good to know. I just feel we don't have it in us to get a fixer upper unless we were able to hire the work done. Our first home was a dilapidated abandoned farm house that we gutted and did all the work ourselves. This house we're in now was a nightmare to build. We trusted a "Christian" builder who went to our church and he did a bait and switch and stole our money. We were left with only a shell of a house and no money. NOTHING inside! When we had to move in this house (because our son got married and there was no longer room in his house for his bride and 2 little girls) there were studs for walls, the tin roof baked us with no ceilings, no kitchen, only a bathtub and toilet, no hot water, a 2-burner hotplate to cook on in the bathroom, I did dishes on my knees in a pan at the bathtub, no AC or heat, and plywood floors to sleep on. That was 7 years ago and it has been a very long haul with neither of us being well or strong the last 4 years of it. James and I maxed out 4 credit cards to just be able to live in it and we have been doing all of the work ourselves all these years. We are too old and tired to do that again. But God has a reason for everything. He has brought us SO much deeper in the faith through it all. (James' first heart attack was 3 years ago today, with quadruple bypass then a stent a month later with the 2nd heart attack.) Had this all not happened we would not be the people of faith we are now. He has a plan for ALL of us and it all happens for a reason that we may not understand this side of heaven, but He loves us and will never forsake us. We praise Him in the storm, right? God is good ALL the time and greatly to be praised!
Love and prayers for you all,
Ade
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Hi Ade,
Yes, God DOES have a plan for you and James and He hasn't brought you this far to stop now. When in these times not knowing what God is doing in our lives it can be so difficult but as you have mentioned He has molded you into the people you are today through the difficulties you have had. We all would wish for a better way for God to perfect us but I have heard in the past that God is more concerned with our character than our comfort. That is a hard thing to absorb but I do believe it is true. Our destination will be problem free, challenge free and certainly cancer free but until we get to heaven we are only passing through this life and it was never intended to be our permanent home. We live in a fallen world where people can use us and scam us as you both have experienced. God will reign in this and as you stay faithful to Him He will be the God of justice with this man and I believe will bring beauty from ashes.
Love,
Nancy
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Nancy, I love your goldfinch pictures, I hope you win the contest again. You deserve it. I hope you're feeling better and have been able to make plans to visit your mom. Although, now that there seems to be a rise in these virus cases, it might not be a good time. The weather doesn't help either. It would be awful to have to visit while sitting outside her room in this heat and it doesn't look as if it will end anytime soon. Praying that you find the right time and feel well.
Ade, I was so happy to hear you had found a place to build on, only to be disappointed that it wasn't meant to be. I can only believe that God was protecting you and James from a bad deal. With your faithfulness, I believe the right place will be here when you are ready. I can certainly understand you not wanting to buy a fixer-upper. Even building a new house is a lot of work. I will pray God helps you to find the perfect place.
I also find this violence most disturbing and along with the pandemic, just awful. I worry so much for this world, what will it be like for our children and grandchildren? I know God must have a plan because no one else seems to. We have to trust in Him and believe that all will be well. AND, we have to pray for our leaders that they will think and do what is best for this country and not just for themselves to get re-elected. We are living in very scary times. Ade's song “Give me Jesus “ is so appropriate for now and always.
Love and prayers for everyone,
Faith (in the future).
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Faith, thank you. I have been praying for you and your DH and hoping things have improved. How is he doing? How are you doing? Yes, this weather is just awful. Tonight on the news they said a heat wave is coming. I about laughed out loud. I am thinking well what do you call what we are in NOW.
At the beginning of this week I had prayed what I should do regarding going to visit my Mom. I felt I should stay in place at least for this week. Then when I see the forecast for next week I just want to cry. I have actually been walking in this weather and tonight when I was getting ready to walk my neighbor came over with this thing that goes around your neck and it has two fans almost like ear phones except they blow in your face. They even have lights for walking at night. It did help but it is still so hot and humid I was soaked when I got home.
I am still having GI issues and still worried about my cat so I know I made the right decision to stay put for a while. If I ordered one of these fans for my face that might help when i visit my Mom. I just fear that she might pass away before I get to see her and then I would feel awful.
Yes, this violence going on in the world is pretty hard to believe that in 2020 we don't seem to have improved situations and if feels like going back to the riots of the 60's.
I just hope that as Illinois opens up a little more that we don't end up in the same boat as some of the other states that seem to be going backwards in the fight with Covid 19. It is very disturbing but God is still in control even though it seems like the whole country is spinning out of control.
Stay inside and stay safe and cool.
Love,
Nancy
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Nancy, your pictures are outstanding...again! I love the mastery of God our creator revealed in the white stripes in the black goldfinch feathers. They remind me of the detailed care of God. I continue to pray you can see your mom soon. I'm struggling a bit but am reminded God cares for the little things--even the side effects of our much larger problems. God is good!
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Chris, it is so good to hear from you. Thank you. I appreciate your nice comments. I love goldfinches. I saw one the other day drinking out of the ant moat on top of my hummingbird feeder. It made me smile. God's creation is so completely amazing. As I see on some nature shows how much of God's beauty goes unseen as some is under water so deep that man has not yet explored and some in areas not traveled by man deep in forests. I find this fascinating. God created all of this beauty for His enjoyment and then obviously for the things we can see and enjoy for ours as well. I think it give Him much pleasure when we appreciate what He has provided for us. I know my photography has "opened" my eyes to see things very differently than I used to.
I pray for you daily and pray that your new treatment will become more tolerable. I wish I could waive my magic wand and have all of this go away for you but God will see you through this I feel certain. He doesn't do anything by accident even though when we are in the midst of suffering it is very easy to take our eyes off of Him and think why is this happening. God filters everything that we experience knowing that good will come out of it in the end. I pray that God will diminish these side effects quickly. Hang in there. Know we all love you and are praying for you.
Love,
Nancy
Deuteronomy 33:27 New International Version (NIV)
27 The eternal God is your refuge,
and underneath are the everlasting arms.
He will drive out your enemies before you,
saying, 'Destroy them!' -
PS. I about forgot to share my good news. My sister texted me today and said she helped my Mom with her shower and washed her hair. They are really bending the rules for my sister to get inside and do this but I am so thankful. My Mom had been refusing her assisted showers. My sister apparently has been visiting today for a long time so I called to see if my Mom would answer. She probably wouldn't have if my sister hadn't been there. So I did get to talk to her briefly. She is still having some trouble hearing. I told her I would visit her very soon. I am hoping possibly to leave on Sunday. I am tired of looking at the forecast and maybe will just go and pray everything will work out. Last night my neighbor came over and wanted me to try this neck fan. I have been walking for exercise so I had this contraption around my neck and it has two mini fans that blow on your face. I ordered one last night and is supposed to come tomorrow so I will have that to help with the high heat and humidity when having to visit with me outside in the grass while my Mom is inside. I was so excited to talk to her and I wanted to share that good news.
Have a great holiday weekend everyone and stay safe.
Love,
Nancy
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Nancy,
I pray able to leave on Sunday! Mom will be so happy to see you. Sister will enjoy your visit. Probably you're going to rest up on the 4th of July for the trip.
We're staying home on the 4th of July. Husband serving up our usual Saturday breakfast sausage patties, eggs, hash browns and coffee. I'll then recline and finish reading a cozy murder mystery novel.
Have a fun and safe 4th of July weekend one and all. In my prayers.
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Cammie,
Teka! ;o))
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Nancy, I’m so glad to hear you finally were able to talk to your mom, that has to make you feel a little better. I’m hoping that you can get there to see her soon but this weather is so hot, I wonder if it’s a good idea to go now. Maybe it will be a little cooler there then here, who knows. It’s all in God’s hands isn’t it? Prayers that all goes well whatever you decide to do. Thanks for asking, DH is improving after his prostate procedure, although he still has a stent in which will come out in about 10 days. I’m praying that things go well with that and he has no more problems. I’m still not feeling great, lots of GI issues also. Don’t you wonder if these are related to Covid although I’m glad you tested negative. I talked to my Dr. yesterday and he gave me a new drug to try and told me to stop a couple of other things, so we’ll see what happens. I’m still doing PT for my back and leg and that is improving slowly.
Chris, I’m so sorry to hear that your new meds are giving you more side effects. I’ll pray that these get better with time as your body gets used to them. I know that happened with me with Ibrance and also somewhat with the Letrozole, although that still causes problems. A small price to pay if it keeps the cancer at bay..
Teka, your Fourth of July sounds like a nice way to spend the day. Sure wish my DH cooked but after almost 60 years he’s not about to learn now. I’ll still keep him around -). He’s a good guy who fixes all my broken stuff.
Hope everyone has a safe and Happy Fourth of July weekend.
Love and prayers,
Faith
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Teka, I love that cat on the computer. My cat is SOOOOO smart but I haven't taught her to type yet. LOL
Poor Cammie has been sick so she was part of my delay in going to my Moms. She is doing fine now so we are leaving on Sunday. It is going to be hotter than blazes downstate. Their humidity is off the charts while I am there. I did buy this neck fan and walked tonight with it. It will help some. I am actually going to see the fireworks with a couple of friends tomorrow night. I haven't seen them since Feb. They go to my church. I really needed to see people as the lonliness of the pandemic has taken it's toll on me. I love that your husband fixes breakfast. Sound delicious.
Faith, I am glad to hear that your DH is improving. I hope your new drug plan will be just what you need. I know you have struggled for a long time.
Drum roll please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I got my mail very late tonight and my Mom's VA application was FINALLY approved. Of course nothing with the government is ever easy. More hoops to jump through but she will start getting some money in Aug. Also they said she qualifies for another program which could be retroactive back to June of 2019. I have no idea how much she would get but it all hinges on who will look after her money. They don't know my sister and I have power of attorney so that will have to be made known. The VA assumes POA during this whole process so I went ahead and let them.
So I am praising God tonight for sure. A huge answer to many prayers.
Have a great holiday weekend dear sisters.
Love,
Nancy
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