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auntpondie
auntpondie Member Posts: 14
edited July 2020 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

please someone tell me it is okay to be so angry. I find myself on edge and I just want to sit in silence where no one is asking questions or telling me to make a decision. Everything gets on my nerves it seems. Am I alone in this thought

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  • moth
    moth Member Posts: 4,800
    edited May 2020

    I've been angry for months

    Imo, totally normal

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2020

    It's OK. It's normal and expected. You are definitely not alone. I still have moments of anger. I have to remind myself to take deep breaths.


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  • mitziandbubba
    mitziandbubba Member Posts: 177
    edited May 2020

    Oh I was SO angry. Very normal and absolutely okay.

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  • Anonymous
    Anonymous Member Posts: 1,376
    edited May 2020

    It is also OK to tell people to stop their questions. I just did that with my mother this week.

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  • nopink2019
    nopink2019 Member Posts: 329
    edited May 2020

    aunt - I noticed you are new to these forums, so I'm assuming you have a new diagnosis. I found reading (scanning) some of the topics that relate to my situation helped. Also you probably have a million unknowns at this time, but those not in our situation don't understand that initial diagnosis doesn't mean tx is standard and starts immediately. There are many variables. Even when tx starts, side effects derail the best of plans sometimes. You don't have to be the expert if you don't want to be, learn as much as makes you calm and accepting. You may have to repeat to friends "I don't know yet" many times. They mean well. At least most of them, just stop answering the phone from the know-it-alls. The rest of the world sees COVID as the worst thing happening, we've got another to deal with also. Best wishes.

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  • auntpondie
    auntpondie Member Posts: 14
    edited May 2020

    thank you guys. i am feeling a little better today. It does help to hear that it is okay to be all these emotions

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  • DebJenx2
    DebJenx2 Member Posts: 6
    edited June 2020

    nopink2019 thank you for these words. Trolling around these boards and this was just what I needed to hear before meeting my new surgeon.

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  • Seilien
    Seilien Member Posts: 72
    edited July 2020

    I am so so mad!

    I'm tired of dealing with irresponsible comments or selfish concerns from people i know! I'm tired of the noncommittal advice that many drs have given me!

    Yes, being mad seems perfectly logical in this situation.

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  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited July 2020

    I never told ANYONE about my diagnosis OR treatment all along the way. Only my ex husband and my grown son - since the latter had to be my ride to surgery. I didn't want to deal with people's comments - good, bad or ugly. I didn't want their advice. I didn't want people bringing food I didn't want. I didn't want people asking questions all the time. It's not for everyone, but it sure worked well for me.

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  • cake8icing
    cake8icing Member Posts: 58
    edited July 2020

    My anger comes and goes. Today I was angry because of the divot just under my armpit. Like, okay, I get it, I chose a mastectomy with no reconstruction and I expected the flat chest. But this empty space on the side of my body, where my rib sticks out...it just looks so weird. I know it is a ridiculous and small thing to be upset about, but that is BC and emotions. The weirdest things will come to you and bother you at random times.

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