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kstiles Member Posts: 2
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer
Hi my name is karen and I just found this web site . My mom just had a double mastectomy 9 days ago and well I just am on the brink. I truley feel like I am living in a fog and cannot beleive what is going on???!!! Is this normal to feel this way? I have to be strong for My Dad and Mom and Daughter but I feel so tired and just don't know, yet i feel guilty for even writing those words. This is sooo scary seeing my mom so helpless and in pain and depressed. She keeps crying saying that she is no longer a woman , she also has had a full hysterectomy and now this, I tell her that she is more of a women than any one I know. Is that right or is there something else I can say??? Thanks for letting me share image
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  • ramonajane
    ramonajane Member Posts: 54
    edited March 2007
    Hi Karen:
    I have a sister named Karen. I'm glad you found us, and sorry for the pain and struggle.

    I think reassuring your mom is helpful, as is just letting her talk, and being a person she can safely express her fears to.

    Is your mom "plugged in" - in other words, can you direct her to this site to connect with some of the women here? This bunch of survivors is great at peeling newly-diagnosed women off the ceiling and helping them to move slowly forward.

    We're here for you, your mom, your dad, and whatever other folks in your life are affected by your mom's diagnosis. Keep coming back!
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  • nancy75
    nancy75 Member Posts: 26
    edited March 2007
    Hello, Karen!
    I too am new here, I believe I found this site yesterday. I have been browsing through the net so much trying to find answers to all my unanswered questions. I just recently found out that my sister was diagnosed and tell me, just like you I have been going through this emotional rollar coaster of emotions. I don't know how to feel but yet there all sorts of feelings running through my body. just too many different things at the same time.
    This site has actually (in the short time) really been helpful. Eventhough I may cry while I type, it is helping express feelings that I would otherwise not show. I wish you and your entire family the very best....and just like Bob Marley says in one of his songs, "Every little thing, is gonna be alright!"
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  • LiveForToday
    LiveForToday Member Posts: 311
    edited March 2007
    Hi Karen, did your mom opt for no reconstruction or is she just healing first and then considering recon? I am 58 and have had a complete hysterectomy two years ago (not from cancer) and had a bilateral in Sept of 2006 with reconstruction. I now have had my exchange with implants and am beginning to live again.

    So sorry she is suffering with pain and depression but family is so important right now and the roller coaster of emotion is very common. She will get thru this...just keep telling her that. Would she consider coming to this site and talking with us? We might could reassure her that all her emotions are normal and we have all been there.

    Come anytime and visit with us, we are here for you...

    huggs, Sherry

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    I will stand my ground.....and I won't back down!
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