A Question About Scarves to Wear Post-Chemo
I want to send a gift to someone who, following a recurrence, recently completed chemo. I saw her earlier this week (when she told me of her recurrence, treatment and current NED status) and she is now wearing scarves as her hair grows back. Since I didn't have chemo, I have no experience with this subject and am hoping that some of you can tell me what size and fabric you preferred for the scarves you wore. I don't know the recipient well enough to ask her friends or family for advice but she was so kind and helpful when I was diagnosed that I want to do something special for her. Thanks in advance.
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I ordered scarves from a well-known site and didn't end up wearing any of them. I hated them all. I also received several as gifts and they were mostly awful, too. While these comments are probably not helpful (!!) my suggestion is to either ask her directly -- "you've been so kind and helpful to me, and I'd like to do something for you. I noticed you're wearing scarves now and wondered if you have a favorite size or style..." OR allow her the pleasure of picking something out for herself with a gift card.
Good luck. This is very thoughtful of you.
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I couldn't stand scarves either, but I loved 'Buffs'. I had cotton for summer and wool for winter. You can tie a knot in the back or not, and I'm still using mine 5 years after my hair grew back. I found several of mine at REI or Academy.
https://buffusa.com/shop-buff/sale.html
But I do like the idea of a gift card so she can pick what she wants.
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Personal taste but I agree with MountainMia, the scarves that are marketed as chemo headwear are hideous and scream "I have cancer!". I was gifted several and wouldn't wear any of them. She makes a good point about asking your friend what she prefers because it depends on her taste and style. My personal preference - around the house (or hiking and camping) I wore comfortable beanies, some lightweight cotton and some heavier knitted ones when it was cold. But for going out in public I wanted lots of pretty scarves that coordinated with whatever I was wearing so I frequented places like Target to buy every pretty chiffon and silky-type oblong scarf I could find (at around $15 each I could justify buying as many as I wanted). An oblong let me tie it any way I wanted, but I usually prefer to leave the tail long. After I tied it once I could leave it tied and just slip it onto my head the next time I wore it, only needing to tighten it up once in a while after several wearings. I always received compliments on my scarves.
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Thanks, ladies, for the thoughtful answers. I agree that traditional chemo scarves are not always attractive! (I was thinking about getting a scarf that she could use in other ways if it wasn't something she wanted to wear on her head.) I'm sure if I were to ask her preference she would be very gracious but ask me not to get her anything but I really liked the way you framed the question, Mia. I'm not always comfortable giving gift cards, unless it's to kids or people I know are on strict budgets. It just feels like I'm not willing to put the time in to find the perfect gift (I know that's silly but I guess we all have our idiosyncrasies!). The gift is for someone who can afford pretty much anything she wants; I am just trying to tell her I'm keeping her in my thoughts. Oh, well, I'm retired so I have a tendency to spend too much time thinking about things like this! Now to obsess about what to say in the note to go with the gift ... LOL
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Lots of chemo scarves are ugly, but one thing they are is large. Takes alot to cover top and back of head. That's why the oblong scarf mentioned worked well. If you get a square, make sure it is big, not bulky. Extra length lets it trail or wrap over the head for a top knot. If you are still confused, watch a couple of videos and you'll get a better idea. Such a thoughtful idea!
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Thanks, nopink, that is exactly the kind of information I was looking for. I like your suggestion about watching some videos; I am going to do that now! This site and the generous people who populate it - are such a great source of information ... on so many subjects.
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I hated the chemo scarves and hats. I found a youtube site that showed how to use a t-shirt for a head wrap. You cut the t-shirt under the arms. Just search youtube for it. I bought t-shirts for under $3 and a These wraps stay secure, are super easy,
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Sorry - I submitted too soon - I bought bandanas for a $1 to wrap the scarf. Anything with "chemo" attached is very expensive. These were so cheap and you can find colors to match any outfit.
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I have a box full of beanies and scarfs of all colors and fabrics. I ordered from small websites and from amazon. These were my favorite, not fancy but they were very comfortable
https://www.amazon.com/Headcovers-Unlimited-Scarf-Cancer-Charcoal/dp/B01BWP7G62/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=chemo+headwear+for+women&qid=1579226628&sprefix=chemo&sr=8-3
I never looked near as perky or full of color as the model though.
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My favorite hats ended up being cycling beanies. I had one with Harley Davidson logo on it, fun to wear, but the ones for road bikers are good too, very colorful.
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JKL, I think your plan to make a scarf for a gift is lovely. I think handmade gifts are very special. Headcovers Unlimited web site (headcovers dot com) has lots of ideas and tells the dimensions of the scarves.
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I was never completely bald but enough so to need headwear. I never wore a scarf. Just my sun hat or fleece beanie. I thought about a Russian ushanka but it looked ridiculous on me.
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i wore a lot of scarves! Some regular ones, some chemo ones. My favorites were the pre-tied ones, like Legomaster showed. Some of the people at the treatment center called me the scarf lady because I had so many. Gave away all the pre-tied ones, kept the regular ones to wear as scarves. BTW, my head was cold, so scarves helped, especally at night, when I wore knit fabric ones.
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I used Buff, they can be neck gaiters, or a variey of ways to wear as a hat. I preferred hats to scarfs. Someone gave me some scarves, and I really did not like them as much as the Buffs. In the winter I also liked Smartwool hats. They are thin and keep you very warm.
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