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marinochka
marinochka Member Posts: 140
edited September 2020 in Mental Health: Because Cancer Doesn't Just Affect Your Breasts

Hello dear ladies

My weekends are mostly difficult...I can not make myself to do anything today. I did some cooking yesterday...but even get up in the morning is a challenge(on weekend). Mornings are most difficult times when i wake up early...but still can not make myself to get up and instead negative thoughts keep coming to mind...

I take lexapro now, and I think I am a little better in terms of anxiety ...but i used to be so energetic and wanting to do things ...not these days.

Yesterday i have made myself to go to the gym...i am proud of it, today -i did not go anywhere, just sitting here and can not even focus on watching a movie.

I have to be honest : i despise myself for being this way...not strong, not a fighter...

I am sure I am not the first one to deal with that....please share your ideas....

I would like this topic to be evolving ...I will be also writing here.

Thank you for reading and thank you in advance for sharing.

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  • DorothyB
    DorothyB Member Posts: 305
    edited November 2019

    I have a few of the same issues. Are you on Tamoxifen?

    I have to get up in the mornings to let dogs out and feed horses & chickens. I struggle more in the afternoons.

    Can you join LiveStrong at the Y or some other exercise class that will give you a time that you need to be there? That helps me. Exercise in general is supposed to help also and you are doing some of that.

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  • Malinda815
    Malinda815 Member Posts: 30
    edited November 2019

    Hi Marinochka, I am sorry you have to deal without this. I am struggling too. Am not from the US , but I am living here now. My parents and my sister are visiting me right now while I am going through this shit, but they are leaving tomorrow. Be honest, while they are here, I wasn’t very happy because it’s so difficult every day for me. But today, I realized that at least they keep distracting me. Now after tomorrow, it will be myself. I will be lone and bored every day

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  • Spookiesmom
    Spookiesmom Member Posts: 9,568
    edited November 2019

    Do you have an interest in taking a class in something? Knitting or painting or a sport? Have/get a pet? Even a fish? Somewhere to volunteer? Soup kitchen, school, pet shelters? Any of that could be a reason to get out.

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  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited December 2019

    Marinochka - there are some good ideas above.

    In the mean time, can you consolidate your threads? I really helps if you continue posting on just ONE thread instead of starting new ones. I don't remember where you are in the diagnosis/testing/treatment cycle, and that would help us give you better recommendations.


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  • marinochka
    marinochka Member Posts: 140
    edited December 2019

    thank you guys for advice and sharing.

    MinusTwo, i am sorry i started this thread, because i thought it is a different issue.

    how to concolidate -i am not sure. thank you

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  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited December 2019

    No worries. It just make it easier for us to answer your questions. Since you've already started 6, just pick the one that already has the most 'traffic' (that people are having a good discussion) and keep using that same one.


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  • marinochka
    marinochka Member Posts: 140
    edited December 2019

    thank you MinusTwo

    I went for a walk and it was a right thing to do...it is very difficult to push yourself ...but when i manage to do that, it feels better, and i feel accomplished.

    the same plan for tomorrow....


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  • MinusTwo
    MinusTwo Member Posts: 16,634
    edited December 2019

    Yes - walking is a great thing to do. When I was quitting smoking, every time I got depressed or wanted a cigarette I pushed out the door and walked for a LOT of blocks. It worked.

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  • Daylightdancer666
    Daylightdancer666 Member Posts: 50
    edited December 2019

    I too used go for walks when head was all over well pushed myself too. I too suffer from depression and anxiety my anti depressants have got up firstly after diagnosis and second time when my mum got diagnosed month ago my mscmillan nurse has referred me therepy because msy seem all happy outside but the reality of me having cancer don't think hit me yet I've got breast csncer spread to the bones and mind condition xcc

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  • marinochka
    marinochka Member Posts: 140
    edited December 2019

    My mornings are the worst time of the day. All negative thoughts rush thru my head...i am trying to to talk to myself and to breath ...

    pray also. The important thing to do (which i don't always do right away at 5a.m.) to get up and start doing something...

    And evenings are usually when i feel better, less anxious.

    Does anyone can relate to those changes during the day?


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  • Mwbirren
    Mwbirren Member Posts: 3
    edited January 2020

    Hi, I am a husband of a wife with recently diagnosed Stage-4 (Dec '18, 18 years after stage-2 mastectomy) and she has the same feelings you described. She wakes at 5am and it is as if the anxiety/depression kicks in immediately with stomach ache, nervousness, irritability, chills, etc.. And it is not until ~6pm that she begins to feel some relief (still not close to normal though). But goes to bed around 9 pm and the cycle begins again.

    She has been prescribed several different Anxiety/depression meds, but it seems to make it worse. Still searching for the right combo (sigh).

    So, you are not alone. Praying for you.

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  • marinochka
    marinochka Member Posts: 140
    edited January 2020

    thank you, Mwbirren, also praying for your wife!

    it is tough...i feel a little better...Lexapro helps me : 10mg a day in the morning. but it takes time till it kicks in(2 weeks usually).

    did you wife try that? the max dose is 20mg....but i think i am ok with 10mg for now.

    depends on what is coming next, waiting for pathology report now after the surgery, and it is worse of course...but not as bad as it was when i started this topic.

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  • LoveLau
    LoveLau Member Posts: 105
    edited September 2020

    me too exactly did you get help

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