Sister just diagnosed...scared

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sydbug
sydbug Member Posts: 4
edited June 2014 in Caring for Someone with Breast cancer
Hi. I'm new here. My sister was just diagnosed with BC. She is only 43. We went to the U of Michigan today to discuss her treatment and she is scared. Being her younger sister, I was finding it hard to be strong for her. Another problem, our mom had BC also (8 years ago) and she is now battling brain cancer. I went today to support my sister and to have some of my questions answered as to my risk. She is starting Chemo in a couple of weeks. Tumor is invasive and 2.5 cm. She is scheduled for a lymph node dissection soon. She is HER2 positive also. Can anyone give me feedback. The docs sounded optimistic but well, it is still cancer and I am so scared. Thanks for any feedback you can give.

Julie
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  • nlk
    nlk Member Posts: 31
    edited February 2007

    Julie, You have come to the right place. It is amazing how far cancer research has come. I'm sure your sister will be fine. Your love and support will make a tremendous difference in her treatment and recovery. NLK

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  • csp
    csp Member Posts: 2,765
    edited February 2007
    Hi Julie,
    I am so glad you found us ,and So sorry that your sister has been dx'd. I understand your fear and you are at the scariest time now before treatment begins and not really understanding what it all means , My sister was dx'd
    IDC 3.7 cm mass w/ vascular invasion, no nodes. She was
    her2 - . She was 46 at the time of dx. She is back to work and had No evidence of disese now.

    I strongly suggest you have the Braca gene test with both your sister and Mother being dx'd There are some things you can do to be proactive.

    Each and everyone is different Julie and just because Mom is dealing with METS, does not mean your sister will have the same experience . I am so sorry Mom is dealing with this too !!

    The good thing about being HER2 + is there is treatment for it she will most likely be taking herceptin as part of her treatment . Read the boards they are full of information and ask
    what you don't understand. We are here to help support you .

    Hugs,
    Carrie
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  • BMD
    BMD Member Posts: 1,492
    edited February 2007
    Hi Julie,

    Welcome to the place you least likely want to be but will be glad you came. Sorry to hear about your sister. Don't feel bad about your feelings though. They are yours to have.

    When I was dx last July at 45 my 43 year old sister cried for hours. She is in the medical field so she talked to everyone she could about bc. She flew 3000 miles to come to my first visit with the oncologist with me. That is when I cried for hours.

    Just know that she loves you for supporting her. Everything you learn during her journey will help you decide what you should or shouldn't do for yourself.
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  • sydbug
    sydbug Member Posts: 4
    edited February 2007
    Thanks for all of your kind words. I just hate being on the verge of tears all day long. I am trying to stay positive. I feel she is strong and she will get thru this, but I just hope I am strong enough to help her because I never had to before. I'll be in touch as the treatment goes on.

    Julie
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  • nancy75
    nancy75 Member Posts: 26
    edited March 2007

    sydbug, you remind me of me....I found out that my older sister (just 34) was diagnosed. I was in the room with her when she found out. I swear that it took all I had from inside to hold back my tears. We go tomorrow for her appt. with the doc to discuss what happens next...She really likes me being there with her....I think my support helps her out alot too. I also have my breast exam appt tomorrw with my doc....I'm scared about tomorrow, terribly scared..

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